I no longer feel part of the Gay Community and I am fine with that

Quit yer bitchin

Find a community you want to be part of

Get a blog

What exactly WOULD represent you? You have literally provided zero actually information apart from your age.

Again I am not doing a thread to change minds .I just wanted to let others know , who like me think WTF that they are not alone.

[quote] I know a lot of you will piss all over me

Some of us might be into urophilia. Not me but to each his own, live and let live, etc

OP, do you have anything positive to say?

Is it the weekend already?

I have my own identity.

I’ve got news for you. The gay community is not a monolith. It’s not all about drag brunches and Grindr hookups. Potentially step out into the world and meet others who share your interests, whatever they may be. For instance, my husband and I are headed to our Grange meeting tonight. We’re preparing for a community event to raise money for our local fire department. Even in small town America, you will find other gay people. You sound like you’ve given up. Join a community theater. Join a Meetup group and go for a hike. Turning 50 doesn’t mean you’re dead.

Is this your roundabout way of saying you're now on the right or leaning that way?

No r9

Maybe it’s a bisexual or asexual community you need. I don’t feel at home in the big tent either, if it’s any consolation.

Are you going to find a nice Christian girl and raise a family now, OP?

Most of us get that way OP once we reach the age of gay invisibility.

I agree OP. Maybe it’s a GenX where we just don’t feel as relevant anymore. Then again, there’s no actual “gay community” anymore. You either toe the line and embrace the new doctrine and hoist the new “pride flag”, or you’re evil and no longer part of the club. And we all know what the cause of that is/was.

You say you're happy but the tone of your post is a bit aggressive and bitter.

Well, OP, if you're not part of the gay community, you shouldn't be posting here.

You are still relevant to me….

OP, serious question: why did you post this? Datalounge is a website for gay people so you had to know this would cause backlash.

OP, nothing personal but if you present yourself as this needy in person – there is a reason you are not fitting in

OP here. I am not needy at all. I love being by myself tbh. I have been posting here since 2000. But I was thinking a few days ago it had been awhile since I had even thought about Datalounge and I wondered why. Well I know why and frankly as I said I don’t give a flying fuck what you think about me. I am perfectly happy, have great friends and love my life . But I felt that one of the things that I saw decline in Datalounge was tolerance. It became toxic and so I left.

Curiosity got the better of me and I thought maybe I could let others like me know. We are not alone. Yes this place has changed. But that is ok. Many of us feel the same way..That is all I wanted to say. Fuck me off all I care, but for those still here who think WTF happened. You are not alone. That is all.

r20 "That is all"

[quote] as I said I don’t give a flying fuck what you think about me. I am perfectly happy, have great friends and love my life .

If this was true, you would not have created this post. This is not the post of a happy person.

Frankly, you sound insane

[quote]I love being by myself tbh.

Maybe that's why you have a problem with community?

I am tired of people talking about the "gay community" There is no gay community. There are people who are gay and liberal, people who are gay and conservative, people who are gay and sweet, people who are gay and mean. Etc. OP are you blond? Maybe you should join the blond community. Or maybe you're short? You could join the short community.

I suspect you're another one of these rightwing trolls just trying to denigrate being gay by targeting as big a canvas as you can.

Go your hardest I don’t care. I just hope one person sees through the bullshit and says thanks I thought it was me. It is not you . I am happily Gay, happily alone and I will fuck off.But again I say,I am not the only one who feels this way.

r25 This thread has given you the much-needed attention you so desperately crave. I hope things improve, seriously.

So much drama. Have a happy life, Op. Bon Voyage!

I am so sorry we've failed you.

We'll try harder next time.

You haven't given a solid reason OP. That's why people speculate it's all internal.

I suspect a reason that you are fearful of expressing.

I'm still struggling to understand just exactly what your grievance is, OP.

The gay community is not a monolith. We come in all different shapes, sizes, ages, ethnicity and socio-economic backgrounds - but we unite in the commonality of being gay, marginalized and abused by society. It sounds like you do actually care and would like to be included. I'm not going to P-town T-dance, that's not for me anymore, and I'm not interested in gay bars, but my town does have a nice full time Pride office that sponsors many year round events, and there are varied groups with different interests - film, books, music....depending on where you live, you might have to look a little harder - but we are there.

Availability heuristic. You think the entire gay community is like Datalounge when DL is an extremely small sample size with qualitative differences.