I am an over gifter. I over gift.

Why do you think you over gift, OP?

I am definitely an over gifter, OP, as well as an over tipper

I used to be an overgifter. I was really good at gifts for a while, though.

But I gave up on it.

I never give.

I tend to over gift to people I like. Sometimes, I have misjudged the relationship and people wonder why I give them stuff. They freak out and then ghost me.

I am a giver and a taker-versatile!!

It’s more about “This would go real well with So&So” than over or under. That meant a lack of gifts for some and many gifts for others. I imagined that I knew what’s best for everyone even if they failed to see it.

With age I’ve learned to keep my ideas to myself. I don’t know what’s best for everyone.

I do "OVER-TIP", however I have respect for anyone who can be a server& wait on the public. I was a server at the faculty lounge at college& almost killed a tenured Professor of Philosophy who wouldn't move her chair. I almost dropped a platter of soup on her fucking head, so I put the tray on the table& slid her fat fucking asses chair in so I could get by.

I did get a standing ovation from all the members of the faculty lounge weeks later.

I over gift but tip normally. I over gift because I misjudge gifting calculations made by other people. My family over gifted when I was growing up, so my gifts to others seem routine. This became clear when I left USA to live in Europe and in England, France, and Switzerland my gifts were too extravagant. It's not just about money. When I made a bouquet from my garden to gift, the bouquet is "de trop". Hostessing gifts, de trop again. It's psychological-emotional calculation not intelligent and anthropological. I do know not to bring outrageously inappropriate gifts. But I will two bottles of decent champagne. Because 1 bottle is useless. And everyone at least middle class is comfortable with champagne. I don't bring vintage. If someone says bring a salad I will bring an impeccable salad. It will be just a bit too large, or too finely composed. Also I love to shop and I will buy bargains and give an appropriate one to a friend. I have a friend who is sensitive to the sun. I see a taste big sun hat on summer sale, double mark down, I'll buy it and give it. Or a piece from a flea market or antique store I know a friend would love. I'll buy it and give it. Thats the way it was growing up in my extended family. For decades as an adult, when I visited my parents, my dad would give me cash. It pleased him to do that. Then when I came to visit with a boyfriend, my dad would give my BOYFRIEND cash. Which kind of weirded out my boyfriends and I said, listen, it's just his system, the way he thinks, he's a provided, take the cash and say thank you. Weird family.

typos. "he's a provider". That was the way my dad operated. He made money. so he would give money to people and it was meaningful to him. It was "pocket money". He grew up in a poor family. He and all his brothers and sisters lived the American dream of upward mobility. Half of my aunts and uncles remained very penny pincher for life, and the other half became very generous. I used to spend some weeks in the summer with one uncle and one aunt who had nice beach houses and they showered me with generosity.

I wasn't over gift there until this year, my immediate family members had recently started " regifting"items to me that that was obviously stuff they pulled out of the closet and thrown into a gift bag with some tissue paper. Zero thought put into it.

To elaborate I save up all of my Amazon and credit card reward points to buy Christmas gifts every year. No longer doing that I'm using those points for myself..

I think re gifting is great for a work gift or for an acquaintance. For a close friend or a family member it's kind of tacky.

I don't think I "over gift" but I often have an immediate instinct to pick up the tab.

No sure what prompts that.