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I have been invited to DelMonico's restaurant

On a date. Far downtown. I cannot afford it.

by Anonymousreply 123July 11, 2025 2:17 AM

Be honest, and tell him.

If he judges you, then fuck him.

If he suggests somewhere more affordable and tries to accommodate you, then it's worth going on the date.

by Anonymousreply 1July 9, 2025 11:25 PM

Never pretend to be something you're not.

Especially on a first date.

If the person ends up being someone you really like, lying about yourself could really turn him off.

Just be honest. About EVERYTHING.

by Anonymousreply 2July 9, 2025 11:29 PM

God, in Flyoverstan City you hardly even meet anyone who can afford a good restaurant. And they’d love it because they’re all mostly OBESE.

by Anonymousreply 3July 9, 2025 11:30 PM

Do you have elegance?

I hope you have elegance.

If you ain't got elegance,

You can never, ever carry it off.

by Anonymousreply 4July 9, 2025 11:31 PM

r4 - um

by Anonymousreply 5July 9, 2025 11:31 PM

Money can't buy you class.

Elegance is learned, my friend.

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by Anonymousreply 6July 9, 2025 11:39 PM

I am considering going but I need to pay in cash.

by Anonymousreply 7July 9, 2025 11:40 PM

R1 and R2 give good advice. Tell him. You have nothing to lose because if he dumps you over it you just saved yourself a ton of drama and negativity.

by Anonymousreply 8July 9, 2025 11:49 PM

If he invited you on the date, why are you paying for anything?

by Anonymousreply 9July 9, 2025 11:55 PM

Or just say: Can we do something simpler?

by Anonymousreply 10July 10, 2025 12:10 AM

Not a New Yorker, but looking at the menu it does seem somewhat high end for a date of someone (who it sounds like) you don't know well.

Even if he were paying I don't know how great I'd feel about being taken out to a $150-$200 meal (assuming you drink) for a run of the mill date.

R1 & R10 are right. Suggest somewhere more low key.

by Anonymousreply 11July 10, 2025 12:21 AM

Have you considered using nature's credit card?

by Anonymousreply 12July 10, 2025 12:22 AM

#9 is right: if you're invited to dinner then the inviter pays. Unless it's established up front that you're 'going dutch'. If confused, it is acceptable to ask, "Your treat?".

by Anonymousreply 13July 10, 2025 12:44 AM

Why not suggest something more in your budget like Golden Corral?

by Anonymousreply 14July 10, 2025 12:48 AM

I suggested Semma.

by Anonymousreply 15July 10, 2025 12:58 AM

R14 Or Wendy's.

by Anonymousreply 16July 10, 2025 1:13 AM

Can't you leave an hour earlier and turn a couple of tricks on the way to your date?

by Anonymousreply 17July 10, 2025 1:22 AM

Not these days r9 and r13.

Delmonicos for a first date should ring alarm bells. He’s being a show off. I would suggest someplace else or don’t go.

by Anonymousreply 18July 10, 2025 1:31 AM

I would go if the date is paying.

by Anonymousreply 19July 10, 2025 2:12 AM

When did gays start dating?

by Anonymousreply 20July 10, 2025 2:22 AM

OP, bottoms don’t pay.

by Anonymousreply 21July 10, 2025 2:22 AM

That sounds like an asshole’s first date. Is he a CEO? Most people wouldn’t waste the money on a first date that might go poorly.

by Anonymousreply 22July 10, 2025 2:23 AM

Even if he’s paying, it’s a bizarre choice for a first date.

by Anonymousreply 23July 10, 2025 2:24 AM

Yeah, he should have chosen White Castle.

by Anonymousreply 24July 10, 2025 2:25 AM

Tell him that the choice is out of reach for you. He could be a dine and dash asshole

by Anonymousreply 25July 10, 2025 2:30 AM

[quote] I would go if the date is paying.

Even if I got asked out on a date with someone offering to pay for everything, I would still feel bad.

Personally, I would feel obligated to at least drop the tip or something.

I could never - and I mean never - go out with someone and make them pay for everything.

I wouldn't even do that with friends, much less with someone I don't even know.

It's just tacky.

by Anonymousreply 26July 10, 2025 2:42 AM

Is Groupon still a going concern? Check there.

by Anonymousreply 27July 10, 2025 2:46 AM

Another alternative is to go, tell your date that you had an enormous lunch, and order the smallest and cheapest thing on the menu - an appetizer and a glass of house wine, for instance, or a cup of soup. The trick to this is to eat a little something at home before you go out. Otherwise you're going to feel bitter that you've just spent $40 and are utterly ravenous.

by Anonymousreply 28July 10, 2025 2:48 AM

He sounds gross, OP.

by Anonymousreply 29July 10, 2025 2:58 AM

Totally disagree r28. That is the most awkward thing to have dinner with someone who barely orders anything. I would be pissed if someone pulled that if we had plans to go out for a nice dinner together. I would much rather they tell me they didn’t want to go there and suggest something else.

by Anonymousreply 30July 10, 2025 3:00 AM

Delmonico’s is for business lunches paid on expense accounts.

by Anonymousreply 31July 10, 2025 3:01 AM

Maybe, r30, but isn't it also awkward to invite someone you hardly know to a very high-end restaurant without consulting them as to their preference. I think normally that date invitation would go, "I'd love to have dinner with you. Do you have a favorite cuisine, or a favorite restaurant?"

Or, "I'd love to take you to my favorite restaurant, Delmonico's. You'd be my guest, of course".

by Anonymousreply 32July 10, 2025 3:04 AM

As long as the lady is paying, why not take the vicuña?

by Anonymousreply 33July 10, 2025 3:20 AM

You know what you can do with your vicuña ...

by Anonymousreply 34July 10, 2025 3:26 AM

This is a Big Red Flag. He's clueless and presumptuous. A high-end place for a first date is absurd.

Note: I once actually did go on a first date with someone I'd texted with for several weeks who turned out to be a CEO of a major tech company. He "invited" me to dinner at a high-end, but not ultra high-end restaurant that happened to be one of my favorites (Restaurant LuLu in SF, sadly it closed). He spent the 30 minutes talking about his power and implied wealth until it became clear that I wasn't going to fuck him right after. He was also physically unattractive. He suddenly asked the waiter to split the check, paid his half, and left. I got to polish off 2/3 of the bottle of wine as I enjoyed the rest of my meal. The cute waiter was a scream -- he figured out it was a failed blind date and bought me dessert and a double espresso. It was one of the best evenings in a long time. He helped me download Scruff on my phone, among others. I was newly single after 26 years and these phone apps were fairly new technology at the time.

I wonder if OKCupid even exists anymore?

Keep trying, OP! Had some adventures for a few years. Dating became a full time job until I got bored. And then I hooked up with a guy randomly on a beach In Mexico. We've been married for 6 years. An unpretentious guy, more my speed.

by Anonymousreply 35July 10, 2025 3:26 AM

What if the date sucks, op?

I'll tell you what. There is nothing worse than shelling out BIG BUCKS for an evening that you would like to be over very quickly.

It would suck to waste all that money on a dinner with a person that you might never see again.

First dates should be casual and quick.

If you hit it off, then you can arrange something longer and better.

If you don't, then you can both get out of there and not waste each others' time, and more importantly... MONEY.

by Anonymousreply 36July 10, 2025 3:28 AM

OP, this could be your one chance, do you have anything you can pawn?

by Anonymousreply 37July 10, 2025 3:28 AM

I took Aaron Carter to Ma Maison and he stole my wallet..

by Anonymousreply 38July 10, 2025 3:35 AM

Do they have a drive-through?

by Anonymousreply 39July 10, 2025 3:50 AM

You have to go to see the shows and close the town in a whirl!

by Anonymousreply 40July 10, 2025 4:24 AM

R35 To paraphrase an old saying, “Why pay for the bull when you can get the semen for free?” If that date wanted sex, he could have hooked-up using an app. Maybe he needed to puff himself up to get it up.

by Anonymousreply 41July 10, 2025 4:59 AM

R33 wins.

by Anonymousreply 42July 10, 2025 5:40 AM

OP, do you have any idea what in the world made this ridiculous flosser think you wanted to go to Delmonico's?

by Anonymousreply 43July 10, 2025 5:48 AM

He invites, he pays.

However, just in case you want to be prepared to go dutch:

Looking at the current menu, you could get the campanelle pasta ($36) and add a salad if you want to go crazy ($26). Skip a drink or get a Coke. Or you could add a glass of wine or a cocktail for around $25. (Ridiculous, but it is what it is.) You can order a perfectly respectable combination + tip for about $75-$100.

It's a lot for a first date, but it's not cutting off a testicle. It's an historic restaurant, and if it's not someplace you would go by yourself, why not look at it as a chance to treat yourself and live a little. Can you cut back on takeout or other junk spending to finance it?

by Anonymousreply 44July 10, 2025 6:03 AM

Relevant questions:

1) How old and/or broke ARE you?

2) How cute is this guy?

by Anonymousreply 45July 10, 2025 6:04 AM

You people talking about ordering conservatively to keep down the bill - I dont understand. The check will be picked up by the invitee, or if not, the check will be SPLIT. Do you really go on a date and start adding up and bickering about who ate what? Then refuse the invitation. Sheesh. Cheap miserable bastards.

by Anonymousreply 46July 10, 2025 6:18 AM

The check doesn't have to be split.

Bring cash to pay for your portion.

If that doesn't work for them, too bad! That's all you have. And there's your answer: No second date.

Refuse the invitation, refuse an opportunity. DL has too many people sitting at home already.

by Anonymousreply 47July 10, 2025 6:24 AM

[quot]This is a Big Red Flag. He's clueless and presumptuous. A high-end place for a first date is absurd.

WOW, some of you bitches are low class trash and talk like you have never been on a real date before. You know, if OP was a woman instead of a gay man, everyone would basically expect her to not only go, but they would trash the date for being cheep if he suggested some tacky low budget restaurant. They would be celebrating finding a good man with a good job not screaming about red flags.

That said, just asking someone to go out to dinner is not necessarily an invite to a free meal. That's very, very old school. The geriatric crowd are the only ones who still think like that.

Unless they phrase it like R23 said above. "I'd love to take you to my favorite restaurant, Delmonico's. You'd be my guest, of course". Or "I would to take you to ______ restaurant, my treat."

If he did not make it sound that way and you want to still go out but cant afford that. You could say "you know I really want to check that place out some time, but right now my budge is kind of tight, I know a great place not too far from here and the prices are more moderate, would you be up for doing that instead?"

by Anonymousreply 48July 10, 2025 6:36 AM

Ok dear. and be sure to calculate your portion of the 14% tip (be sure to low ball it) based on your portion of the check. Ride the subway to the date. When he suggests sharing a cab uptown, tell him you prefer to walk or take the subway.

by Anonymousreply 49July 10, 2025 6:42 AM

I’m with R12, OP. Just get out the hairy checkbook.

by Anonymousreply 50July 10, 2025 6:43 AM

This thread is like watching a bunch of blind people try to coach a baseball team.

by Anonymousreply 51July 10, 2025 6:45 AM

Does he work down in the financial district? That might be the main reason he suggested it. Iv been there, not much around except tall office buildings and very few residential ones. The food was really good if you decide to go. Very old school but it's just reopened / remolded last year. It's the oldest steak house in America. Started by Italians, even though it's not an Italian restaurant. A lot of history of famous patrons. They also invented the Delmonico Cut, which is basically a Rib Eye steak.

by Anonymousreply 52July 10, 2025 6:53 AM

He could be a grifter and as the meal winds down he excuses himself to go to the men's room and does a dine and dash out the door leaving you with the bill.

by Anonymousreply 53July 10, 2025 6:56 AM

Easy way to fist that R53, meet at his place first. Make sure he lives there.

by Anonymousreply 54July 10, 2025 6:58 AM

Now we’re on pre dinner fisting r54!

by Anonymousreply 55July 10, 2025 7:39 AM

I have questions:

Is this a blind date? Or, have you already met before? Is he aware you're not on equal terms when it comes to finances?

If this is a first time meeting, then it's a solid NO.

If he's aware you're poorer than he is, and you know for a fact he's the real deal (a dude with money/a good job) then it's a maybe as long as he's definitely paying.

If in doubt, then don't.

by Anonymousreply 56July 10, 2025 7:47 AM

[quote]If he's aware you're poorer than he is, and you know for a fact he's the real deal (a dude with money/a good job)

Then work that pussy for all it's worth.

Rich guys in NYC don't grow on trees — and they won't be interested in your broke ass for too much longer.

by Anonymousreply 57July 10, 2025 8:05 AM

OP, may I suggest....

To start, order the Kumamoto Oysters + Osetra Caviar. (28 + 40)

Also order the Seafood Plateau to share with him. (69 + 50)

Then I'd suggest the Wedge Salad and the Maine Crab Cake. (28 + 37)

For your entree, order the Risotto (43), the Wagyu Côte de Boeuf (255), and the Lobster Newberg (at Market Price, of course (approx. 65)).

Be sure to get a side of Sautéed Wild Mushrooms and the Pommes Purée. (18 + 15)

Don't forget the Delmonico’s Martini (25). Three of those (for you) should suffice.

And to finish your meal, order the Delmonico’s Original Baked Alaska. (24)

Before tax, your meal should come out to about $750. With tax, that's about $815. A 25% gratuity will be about $205.

Bringing your grand total (your share only) to approximately $1020.

The most important part is to BE SURE to put the bill on that big mouth CUNT R48's credit card.

She's SOOOOO high and mighty, and can naturally afford to pay for you. Hopefully, that will make her SHUT HER FAT TRAP, and never speak again.

We should be so lucky.

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by Anonymousreply 58July 10, 2025 8:32 AM

If this was a movie the audience wid be on your side...And if he understands ur predicament theyd love him too. Dont be ashamed. U can say it with humour.

by Anonymousreply 59July 10, 2025 8:43 AM

This why we need to back to strict tops and bottoms. Since most of us (if we're being honest) are one or the other.

It was so much easier.

Tops pay, are older and not as hot. Bottoms don't pay, are younger and cuter.

It's the way nature intended.

by Anonymousreply 60July 10, 2025 8:48 AM

[quote]R47 Refuse the invitation, refuse an opportunity. DL has too many people sitting at home already.

I would tell him I resent his manipulations to guilt me into sex on a first date. He is obviously hoping to have to pick up the check out of necessity - in exchange for which you will be ravished in his car in the underground parking garage. Don’t fall for it!

Your date is a sick, sick man and you don’t have to put up with his obvious, and sordid, games.

by Anonymousreply 61July 10, 2025 9:13 AM

My Dad taught me to never eat out with anyone unless I could afford to pay for the meal and to leave a generous tip: he was a Union man. I'm grateful to him, since I've been stuck paying for my date's meal before.

by Anonymousreply 62July 10, 2025 10:11 AM

[quote]they would trash the date for being cheep

What a bird-brain!

by Anonymousreply 63July 10, 2025 10:25 AM

Just say you’d prefer another restaurant. It can’t be that hard.

by Anonymousreply 64July 10, 2025 10:30 AM

I went to Delmonico's for one of those restaurant week meals. But it turned out it was not available that day. I was with friends and we made the best of it ordering only drinks and appetizers. We survived. The drinks were excellent,

by Anonymousreply 65July 10, 2025 10:32 AM

[quote] If he judges you, then fuck him

Fuck him RIGHT in the Delmonico’s!

by Anonymousreply 66July 10, 2025 11:59 AM

You call the guy and say, in your charming way, "I'm sorry, I hope you don't mind but could we maybe go someplace other than Delmonico's?"

He'll then possibly say something like, "You don't like DelMonico's?" And you can say, no, it's all right, but I was thinking about this little place I think you'd like..."

He might even say, "Don't worry about it, I'm paying." Then you can protest and he can insist. One of you will get your way on that one.

Or, he might just say, "Sure, where would you rather go?"

OP, I think you're too worried about this. He's not in charge,just because he asked you out. You need to speak up. Just do it nicely and it shouldn't be a problem, unless he's an unreasonable person, in which case it's good to know that before you go any further. But most people aren't.

by Anonymousreply 67July 10, 2025 1:13 PM

Are you a fucking Frau, op?

No, then sack up. Say the last time you ate there you were unwell after though it was a fabulous place.

If he presses for detail say you had EXPLOSIVE shits for hours after. That should solve your date dilemma.

by Anonymousreply 68July 10, 2025 1:30 PM

R68 Why lie?

Besides, his date will know he's lying, and that's not a great way to start out.

by Anonymousreply 69July 10, 2025 2:14 PM

Anyone telling OP to lie, use a credit card, or order a tiny meal and then nickel and dime him over the bill is not giving good advice.

If OP potentially wants a future with this guy, and it sounds like he might otherwise he wouldn't care so much, he should just be honest about his situation and let the guy show his true character up front.

by Anonymousreply 70July 10, 2025 2:26 PM

Can you pivot this to just meeting for a drink at the bar there? You could tell him you’d be more comfortable with that.

by Anonymousreply 71July 10, 2025 2:26 PM

Have we even established that the date is somehow dead set on going to Delmonico's? (The M isn't capitalized, btw, I just looked it up.)

OP, we're on 71 replies, what have you decided to do?

by Anonymousreply 72July 10, 2025 2:33 PM

Why not just meet at a bar for drinks and appetizers?

Wouldn't that be cheaper and faster (in case you want to bail from the date)?

Having an expensive, two hour meal with a stranger you may or may not be into, seems ridiculous.

by Anonymousreply 73July 10, 2025 2:37 PM

Isn't it kind of shitty when someone has asked you out to dinner, to say you want to meet at the bar for a drink?

by Anonymousreply 74July 10, 2025 2:44 PM

If it’s a first date, you definitely don’t want to be stuck with a long meal.

(Back when I dated, I could often tell within the first few minutes if it was a bad match.)

by Anonymousreply 75July 10, 2025 2:47 PM

OP- Delmonico's?

Are you posting from 1904?

by Anonymousreply 76July 10, 2025 2:48 PM

R75 Yeah, that's exactly what it sounds like--I only want to meet for a drink, because I might want to bail.

We don't even know how well OP knows this person.

OP seems to have left the chat, btw.

by Anonymousreply 77July 10, 2025 2:52 PM

OP, is this guy HOT?

Can you take him behind the dumpster& just blow him? Make sure you swallow too (if he's good looking).

by Anonymousreply 78July 10, 2025 2:59 PM

He screwed up royally by inviting you to this restaurant without knowing you and revealed himself to be out of common sense. OP, your discomfort is entirely reasonable. Now you'd be a fool to go along with it considering how you feel. At this point I'd tell him, "Hey, I was thinking about our plans and I think I'd rather start with coffee or a drink if that's OK with you" and have a favorite place of yours in mind to suggest to him. See how he responds. If he's anything but totally easy about it, run.

by Anonymousreply 79July 10, 2025 3:20 PM

OP went on the date and was never heard from again.

by Anonymousreply 80July 10, 2025 3:43 PM

[quote]R73 Why not just meet at a bar for drinks and appetizers?

Or in a men’s room somewhere?

by Anonymousreply 81July 10, 2025 3:48 PM

I can tell you that whatever sync there was in the beginning, the other guy has already broken.

by Anonymousreply 82July 10, 2025 3:51 PM

Hi, op?

This is X.

I'm sorry, but I'm going to have to cancel our date at Delmonico's.

Something suddenly came up.

I'll be in touch.

by Anonymousreply 83July 10, 2025 3:54 PM

OP went on the date, felt pressured to go back to the guys place since he picked up the check, and is now in the guys freezer. I do hope OP ordered more than a salad.

by Anonymousreply 84July 10, 2025 3:54 PM

I'm the OP and haven't gone on the date yet. It's tomorrow. And yes he works down there and we met once at a friend's party (seems nice), this is our first actual date. He suggested it offhandedly, I don't think trying to be snobby, but looking at the menu, it's way out of my price range. I haven't said anything yet and no, I am not chopped up in anyone's freezer.

by Anonymousreply 85July 10, 2025 4:14 PM

Actually, OP has inherited over 1 million from dead relatives and can afford it. OP just can't decide which caftan to wear.

by Anonymousreply 86July 10, 2025 4:14 PM

R85 So...have we given you any ideas? Have you come closer to a decision?

by Anonymousreply 87July 10, 2025 4:17 PM

r86, this isn't the White Lotus thread.

by Anonymousreply 88July 10, 2025 4:17 PM

Just make a joke of it and say you’d like to go somewhere a bit more casual

by Anonymousreply 89July 10, 2025 4:34 PM

"Hey, do you mind if we go somewhere a bit more casual?"

Sounds perfect to me, R89.

by Anonymousreply 90July 10, 2025 5:39 PM

iTs NoT rOcKeT sCiEnCe, Op

by Anonymousreply 91July 10, 2025 5:46 PM

Thanks, all. We're going someplace more casual. Anyone been to Txikito, in Chelsea?

by Anonymousreply 92July 10, 2025 5:48 PM

R92 You don't share much, do you?

by Anonymousreply 93July 10, 2025 5:49 PM

R52 it’s really just called lower Manhattan. And there is plenty of residential in the immediate area. And the restaurant is for boors—it’s not very good.

by Anonymousreply 94July 10, 2025 5:55 PM

Bring a cockroach and sneak it into the salad. Works every time.

by Anonymousreply 95July 10, 2025 6:00 PM

[quote]Fuck him RIGHT in the Delmonico’s!

If people are paying those kinds of prices, they're all getting fucked in the Delmonico's.

by Anonymousreply 96July 10, 2025 6:22 PM

r93, huh?

by Anonymousreply 97July 10, 2025 6:27 PM

R97 After all these people replied, many giving you advice, this was the entire response.

[quote] Thanks, all. We're going someplace more casual. Anyone been to Txikito, in Chelsea?

No story of what happened, why/how he changed his mind. Why he wanted to go to Delmonico's in the first place, etc.

Why even make a thread, it doesn't sound as if it was needed.

by Anonymousreply 98July 10, 2025 6:33 PM

Thanks for wasting our time, OP.

I hope you have a lovely casual Mexican meal and shit all over his sheets.

by Anonymousreply 99July 10, 2025 6:47 PM

How unfortunate. We were so looking forward to OP's Presentation of the Coupons (all for other restaurants, and expired)

by Anonymousreply 100July 10, 2025 7:08 PM

And that's it, apparently.

by Anonymousreply 101July 10, 2025 7:32 PM

[quote] Thanks, all. We're going someplace more casual. Anyone been to Txikito, in Chelsea?

Sorry, op.

I heard they were closed down due to a rat infestation.

You'll have to contact him and arrange to meet somewhere else.

by Anonymousreply 102July 10, 2025 7:45 PM

The date has yet to happen. What more detail do you want?!?

by Anonymousreply 103July 10, 2025 8:42 PM

R103 You started a thread having a problem. Presumably, you wanted advice. Advice was given. You then basically posted, "problem solved" and never said how you got him to change his mind, whether you had to admit you were too poor to go to Delmonicos, nothing. And you still don't get it.

Forget it, never mind.

by Anonymousreply 104July 10, 2025 8:46 PM

Hmm, Txikito was closed. We went to Guy Fieri's Flavortown. Anyone heard of it?

by Anonymousreply 105July 10, 2025 8:59 PM

R104. Just block the OP troll. Then you can see all of the awful, rambling, mind-numbing nonsense it also posts. Its like the mind of a schizophrenic.

by Anonymousreply 106July 10, 2025 8:59 PM

R105 Like OP could afford Flavortown.

by Anonymousreply 107July 10, 2025 9:02 PM

R106 Oh, God, you're right. Blah-de-blah-de-blah.

by Anonymousreply 108July 10, 2025 9:08 PM

Isn't Flavortown Fugo Fieri's version of Chik-fil-A meets Burger King?

I suppose if the conversation drifts you can always watch something on the TV.

by Anonymousreply 109July 10, 2025 9:15 PM

Yes, they put on Wheel of Fortune for us. I got a Banana Pudding Shake for dessert.

by Anonymousreply 110July 10, 2025 10:01 PM

R99 it’s Basque tapas, not Mexican. Txikito is a fantastic place for a date. The food is excellent. A perennial top 50 in NYC dining ( I’m a regular ).

by Anonymousreply 111July 10, 2025 10:12 PM

R110. Sad...

by Anonymousreply 112July 10, 2025 10:15 PM

So, will there be a second date?

by Anonymousreply 113July 10, 2025 10:22 PM

European rules.

If someone invites you to some thing, it means he is acting as host. It's his treat.

If he *invited* you to dinner, his treat. (You could always invite him to drinks after dinner.)

If, however, this was some mutual agreement to share a dinner, you're shit out of luck. Explain that you're not big on steaks and suggest something more modest

[Delmonico's menu from April, 1899}

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by Anonymousreply 114July 10, 2025 11:47 PM

[quote] So, will there be a second date?

The op's date blocked his phone number.

He doesn't do POOR.

by Anonymousreply 115July 10, 2025 11:50 PM

[quote]I have been invited to DelMonico's restaurant

Is OP posting from the Gilded Age?

by Anonymousreply 116July 10, 2025 11:56 PM

sounds delicious r58.

Exorbitantly expensive, of course.

But some high end restaurants sell bottles of wine that cost hundreds and thousands!

by Anonymousreply 117July 11, 2025 12:02 AM

R114 American rules in 2025, dates split checks unless the inviter says it is on them. And for a first date that is a red flag .

by Anonymousreply 118July 11, 2025 1:31 AM

if a bill comes up to 700 dollars per person, I got it. It would hurt me to get it but I got it for a one time thing. 7 grand? 15 k?

Nope.

Don't got it.

by Anonymousreply 119July 11, 2025 1:49 AM

As R53 said, I got dined and dashed on a date, in 2012 or so.

by Anonymousreply 120July 11, 2025 2:05 AM

I could cover up to 700 USD in an emergency but if a grifter ordered a 6 thousand dollar bottle of wine and dashed, I would be fucked.

Some high end restaurants dont even price their expensive wines, "if ya hafta ask"

by Anonymousreply 121July 11, 2025 2:10 AM

Be careful, OP. For all you know, he could be an EST.

by Anonymousreply 122July 11, 2025 2:16 AM

R114 I love old menus.

I wonder how they had so many items in stock, though. Just the birds: chicken, squab, reed birds, plover, red head duck, mallard duck, snipe, ruddy duck, canvasback duck...and the fish of all kinds. They didn't even have refrigeration, did they? (But also, who provided all these birds, and the types of fish, regularly?) And the varieties of fruits and vegetables and meats.

by Anonymousreply 123July 11, 2025 2:17 AM
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