Have you ever been in a relationship with a big age gap?

I’m currently dating someone 18 years older than me. So far it’s been good but I could see issues in the future with us having different goals and being in different places in life.

I dated an 18 year old when I was 22. While we were only four years apart, the difference in maturity and life experience was massive. It was a pretty miserable time in my life.

I dated a 28 year old when I was 53. We were together for 3 years and madly in love. We still keep in touch. We came from completely different worlds, too.

Yes, in my thirties I had a long-term (four years or so) FB who was 31 years my senior. Most of my relationships (such that they are) involved men at least fourteen years older than me.

I've always been into daddies!

The love of my life was 13 years older than met. We met when I was 17, started dating when I was 19 and stayed together until I was 26.

The second love of my life was 14 years older than I was.

I also dated someone 25 years older than me. He was great. Had sex with guys probably forty years older than me once or twice.

Does it have to be a romantic relationship? I have a friend relationships with people ten years and more older.

When I was in my early twenties I had a relationship with a guy who was 22 years older than me. We never lived together, thankfully. Because I was so inexperienced it took me a while to realise how insanely controlling he was. He became violent and very threatening. I felt like I couldn’t breathe.

He checked up on me all the time, demanding to know where I was and who I was with. He was very suspicious, accusing me of having affairs( I wasn’t). The last straw was when he turned up at my place of work and had a meltdown because I hadn’t answered the phone that morning as I had already left for work. That was when I decided I had to get out. It was a cloak and dagger situation, and it took some careful secret planning. I got a job hundreds of miles away and never saw him again. He bothered my family for a while, but they gave nothing away. Visiting my parents was very stressful, but they eventually moved to another area. I have no idea where he is now. He may be dead, but I have no intention of checking.

Always dated people around my age until I met my now husband, who’s fourteen years older. We’ve been together eleven years and haven’t looked back. He’s the best person I’ve ever met.

[quote]Does it have to be a romantic relationship? I have a friend relationships with people ten years and more older.

That seems a different animal in that, to me, your friends should have a mix of ages and backgrounds.

I always had much older friends, maybe 60% of the closer ones gay men and lesbians, and the rest professional friends and neighbors, mostly. I have a handful of good friends that I've known from college, but I had few other friends more or less my age until I was middle aged -- by which time a shift started to losing older friends to time and circumstance and having younger and much younger friends for the first time.

I never understand why some people only want friends of the same age, background, economic strata, etc., etc. -- as if the mirroring of shared experience was the goal. My friends cone from more than a dozen different countries and yet we find plenty to talk about without ever going down the memory lane of pop music from our school or college years.

What might have been? Ummmmm…. he passed away. You would have gotten his stuff.

I know a guy who’s 11 years old than his partner. A tad weird as one was in his early 20s and he was in his 30s. I guess it’s working for them but he’s a bit off and the former twinky husband seems like he wants protection. I think it’s really going to go South the minute one hits 50 and the other one isn’t even 40 yet. But age gaps do eventually matter. I don’t care what anyone says.

I am eleven years older than my ex and we were together for 21 years. A few year ago, when I experienced a serious health crisis (since completely recovered), he headed out. Now he wants to reconcile. Yeah, no.

R10 Good one. In all seriousness I meant what might have been had he not passed away.

20 years difference. We met 10 years ago, in our mid-30s and mid-50s. We are very different in many ways (from different countries, with different first languages, and with very different personalities, for example), but with so many things seemingly at odds we could see immediately where we were compatible and complementary, and so it is still.

My second partner was 12 years older than me.

I'm 7 1/2 years older than my husband.

Does that count?

We've been together 31 years.

I dated a guy who was 22 when I was 33. The sex was fantastic but his ideas were immature to me at the time.

It only lasted a month.

I don’t understand the question, and I won’t respond to it.

My husband and I are twelve years apart, and though both Gen X, 47/59, we had different childhoods

When I was 22 I dated a lawyer who was 48 (a bit of a mess, but the hottest fuck I ever had.....6 ft 7 and proportionate, sigh) and went from THAT 3 month relationship into one with a 61 year old guy - who (honestly) looked about 15 years younger, had a wonderful hairy body and....did I mention he was in the Mafia?

That was quite a year.

My marriage has a huge age gap that gets larger as time goes by. He keeps getting older whereas I’m always 29.

When I was in my 20s I had a work friend of a man in his 60s. He retired from work and I used to visit him. He ended up in a hospice as he had AIDS and died. Then I wrote a play about him!