Not all of us power tops are complete jerks. Although being a power top often comes with the expectations that you are all thrust and no gentleman, that isn't entirely the truth. Many of us drilling tops are very considerate of our willing bottoms, and sometimes there are things that we don't want to tell you because we don't want to hurt your feelings or close your hole. We are sure there are things you don't tell us for fear of our stopping, so let's do a little swap, shall we? In this edition of All About Gay Sex, we are gonna share some things that tops are afraid to tell you. In the next edition, you tell us what bottoms are afraid to tell us. Deal?
Chatty Cathy
There are many bottoms out there who think they need to play the part of the submissive and put in a lot of high-pitched moans, groans, and squeals. While this might work in many porn scenes, in real life in can sometimes be jarring or way over the top. If your screams are setting off car alarms, we are going to think it isn't for real, and sometimes all that noise just takes us out of our thrusting and can give us the giggles. This also goes for way over the top dirty talk. We love verbal bottoms, don't get that wrong. But ridiculous phrases or calling us "daddy" over and over again doesn't always work. Hey, if we are matching your vocals, then go for it. If we pause a bit, and just continue to grunt, chances are all that vocal energy should be spent arching your back.
Match Our Energy
While some tops out there want their bottoms totally submissive, the majority of us don't want a rag doll in bed. We want someone to match our energy. If we are putting in the effort by lifting you up and slamming you against a wall and drilling you till we drop our load, we want you to give some energy back. Grab our back, grab our arms, thrust back on our dick, kiss our neck passionately, give us praise and attention. Trust is, it will take the fucking up a level.
We Know
When you tell us that you are cleaned out and didn't have Chipotle for lunch, we are going to believe you. But if you have lied about it, we are going to know right away. Most of us won't say anything if it isn't a huge issue, but body stuff happens, and we know right away if things don't feel right or if there is some added texture to the proceedings. Know your body, and know that it is ok to pause the fucking and do a little maintenance in the bathroom. We know it isn't easy being the bottom and having to be the ones to do all the prep work.
Deeper
While it can be hot to yell "deeper, deeper!" while taking our dicks, when you keep doing it, it actually makes us feel like we aren't hitting the spot or aren't big enough. Now, if we aren't hitting your spot, you need to communicate that so we can adjust the position or angle to make sure you are getting hit in your pleasure spot. Just like you opened your hole, open your mouth to let us know what makes you feel good. On that note, we also know when you're just going through the motions. If you are faking it, we know about it. So let's just all tell each other what's going on so everyone has a good time.
Top Expectations
Being the power top comes with so many expectations. Just because we are giving you dom energy in the bedroom doesn't always mean we want to be the dom in every aspect of the relationship. We don't want to be the only ones who plan a date, we don't want to be the only ones to initiate sex, we don't want to always pick the position, we don't want to always have to drive, we don't want to be the only ones to make all the decisions. It's a two-person relationship, even if we are drilling your face into the pillow every night.