I’m 59 Years Old And I’m Not Interested In Someone 50+. I Would Prefer Someone Mid To Late 40’s

Strange that gay men prefer younger partners and lesbians prefer older

Nothing wrong with that OP. I'm 72 and if I even had the chance at this stage of life I wouldn't touch any man over 55 (well, unless he was exceptionally well preserved).

Nothing wrong as long as you are willing to pay the difference and support him. I mean life is about trade offs, what's he getting out of it? You are way past the "hot daddy" phase. Most men your age are grandfathers.

Honestly, it depends on how rich or attractive you are

The rule is your age divide by 2 then add 7. You should go no younger than 36.

If gay men truly prefer younger partners, then just who exactly are these older men getting off with? Surely that late-40s guy is busy with someone in his 20s??

Oh. Maybe it's all bullshit... Some guys like 'em older. Some like 'em younger. And some don't care about age at all -it just depends on the man.

You know -like gays were real people!

R2- Thanks - exactly.

R3- You don’t know what I look like so you can’t say what phase I might be in. I was on a trip to Canada last year and we were touring around in the woods where the Bears hang out. We had our little gay group but we were in a larger group of straight people from Europe. A Tall slim guy about 44 years old kept staring at me the whole time we were Bear 🐻 watching.He was attractive too but alas I said nothing.

I'm 66 and look it. My husband is 68 and looks 52. And acts younger than that. I trust him in everything he does- which is a big deal because he's a lawyer.

Gratitude.

Do I thank god? No. Too agnostic. I thank my husband. And he thanks me.

OP types like a histrionic but autistic twat. RUN AWAY.

In spite of what I said- I was on a gay cruise to Brazil in the winter of 2014. One day I was at the courtesy desk and this older guy about 71 years old came up to me and patted me on the shoulder and we chit chatted briefly. I was attracted to him . I liked his energy so you never know. I’m open anyone but they must have a positive outlook and be energized- at least for their age.

Lift up your caftan, OP, and see what stumbles into your ard.

*yard

R11- I can think of one gay character from a movie that was wearing a caftan. Sleeper (1973) Woody stumbles into the home of a gay couple and one of them wore a lovely brightly colored caftan.

Oppiste here, 52 and I am more attracted to men +10 years to me. I mean sure they have to have a nice body and be attractive but damn the sex is hot.

I'm mid 45 and would only date someone 55 and up.

So, I think it's totally in the realm of possibility.

R15- You are obviously a person with wisdom and good taste 😉

I myself would prefer Ryan Philippe circa 1999, but good luck with me getting that.

R17- How old are you?

It doesn't make someone good or bad if you're interested in dating someone older than you or much younger.

What happens in 2 years if you marry a 48 year old? You have a dumb outlook with such strict boundaries.

I think this is just dumb. Date within your reasonable age range unless you have a lot of money, a lot of power, or exceptional looks to offer. Otherwise, you're in your own age group.

R20- I am not talking about someone in their 20's or 30's. I am talking about guys who are about 44 to 49.

OP, what are your reasons for not wanting to date in your age group if you're 59? Why do you want someone 10-15 years younger? Are you more immature or less accomplished than the typical person in your group? Are they all paired up?

R4 speaks truth. Gay heartbreak comes from thinking you’re equal to the guy you lust over when you’re not.

"I think this is just dumb. Date within your reasonable age range unless you have a lot of money, a lot of power, or exceptional looks to offer. Otherwise, you're in your own age group."

So the person's age is the most important factor in choosing a partner? How sad. It should be the person and the connection you feel. That should be more important than looks, money, or age.

Should be, R24, but in reality is it?

Ultimately, date who you want. However, if you date someone too young or too old, the relationship is always going to have a gap that someone is going to have to work overtime trying to make up for. I've had friends at 45 date guys in their early 20s. Either the guys in their 20s had to overcompensate by acting like they understand a bunch of GenX shit or the 45 year old had to act like a 20 year old - which is just sad.

Two people dating don't have to have all the same life experiences or references, but it doesn't hurt to have some things beyond fucking that connect you.

R1? Are you a lesbian?

Inquiring minds want to know.

If you have money you can "date" as young as you like

Well, they don’t want anyone older than 35. So good luck with that sunshine.

OP are you a top?

Yes, that usually matters with age gap relationships.

R30- I am a top. A well hung top.

Hopefully your boners can keep up with someone younger. Or your wallet can. Ha HA.

Is OP the DL new fave, The Boo Radley Bathouse Troll (BRBT)?

R32- Going out with a 45 year old is not going out with a 25 year old.

I can only imagine what you datalounge bitches would be saying if I said I preferred guys 18-23 only.

Many years ago I saw an ad in a gay magazine from someone who was 60 years old or so and only was interested in boys 18-23 years old.

Love it, R31.

Let's go on a date.

Read between the lines, R35. OP does not date. Has never had a boyfriend or a lover, either.

Depends on what you look like and how much money you have - not to be a sugar daddy, but a mid-40s guy isn't looking to date a much older partner and pay for the pleasure of doing so, let alone support him financially.

Also, depends on your lifestyle. Are you generally healthy? If you're active and engage in athletic activities vs. eating dinner at 4pm so you can be asleep by 8pm, you have a greater chance. I'm not saying go out and party all weekend long and go to clubs. But, do you live like a old person or someone in the age group you seek to date?

I think a 49 year old is within range, ten years not really being a huge difference.

R37- I walk about 21 miles a week for exercise. I lift weights twice a week. Two weeks ago Sunday I was on a fairly grueling 8 mile hike. It required going up some steep hills up a mountain at times . I am quite active.

R15 is me twenty years ago. Still true, although my husband is now in his mid-eighties.

You can do whatever you are most comfortable with, or desire. You may not get what you want for many reasons but that’s another matter. All sorts of partnerships are possible and even lasting. Frankly I don’t really know what’s different between late 40s and early 50s. And why do you care what others think?

OP, age doesn't have a lot to do with it. When you look at your likes and dislikes you're mainly picturing fitness, not age. I dare say if you found a man well over 50 who is very fit and sexually attractive you'd likely put your age desires aside. Unfortunately most men over 50 are not in exceptionally fit shape. At best their bodies have become average to below average, so it just seems that you prefer younger men. Trust me, seek and ye shall find men over 50 who are hot as blazes.

R42- I agree with what you are saying. I am certainly open to meeting someone 50+ or even older than me but they must be in good shape and not act OLD.

I was on a gay cruise in 2018 and I was sitting at a table for lunch during a tour. All of the other guys at the table were in their 50's and they all seemed so fat and old. Old- they spoke and acted. Not everyone is like this but I wanted nothing to do with people like that. There is someone in the building where I work- he's a custodian not an office worker. I found out a few months ago he's 73 years old and he has sucha a youthful air about him. I never would have guessed he was that old. You compare him to Marty's mother and Aunt in the 1955 movie MARTY. They acted like two little old ladies and they were only in their 50's.

Pathetic OP

One of my best friends is 62 and I am slightly younger. He only has relationships with men in their thirties and seems completely bewildered each time when it does not work out. I encouraged him to set a minimum age threshold of 45 and possibly 50 and although he says I’m right he keeps going for youngsters in a completely different phase of life

R45- That reminds me of Ted Schmidt in Queer As Folk who would go to the bars and clubs and be constantly rejected. Then he met a mature average looking guy and dated him for a while then ultimately rejected him and went back to the bars and clubs to be rejected by the young hot guys- I thought that episode was one of the few realistic QAF episodes.

I thoght that the Ted character was FAKE unattractive. He was actually good looking/cute. Even on MTM show Rhoda was FAKE fat and unattractive.

If I like the guy and attracted to him,age doesnt matter . When I was in my early 20s I slept with a guy who was in his early 70s. It wasnt about his looks as much as his confidence . he turned out to be a fantastic lay but I wasnt looking to be somones nurse in a decade . Now Id be fine with it since Im going on 65 !

[quote]So the person's age is the most important factor in choosing a partner? How sad. It should be the person and the connection you feel. That should be more important than looks, money, or age.

Agreed, R34. DL always brings out all sorts of rules about dating within your age group, within the same socioeconomic background, educational attainment, income/assets level, height range to within the quarter-inch, relative quotient of attractiveness, astrologic sign, hobbies, shared cultural references, etc.

I'm drawn to people who are significantly different from me, from a different part of the world, maybe, from different sorts of families, from a very different profession with interests I know little about, who have different tastes, who approach things in ways different from mine. To make a strong connection or find great compatibility from differences seems a greater glue than to find a mirror image. Even as a child I was fascinated by adult couples who seemed very different in every way but somehow had a remarkable compatibility.

For friends I've always been attracted to older and younger people and only fairly rarely to people my own age outside a very few university friends of 40+ years. The percentage of younger friends was once small and has now tipped larger. For dating, it was something of the reverse: mostly men 10 and 30 years older for many years until suddenly much younger men seemed interested and old enough to be interesting.

I think formulas and lists of requirements are ridiculous, rules meant to be broken, but for people solidly adult, 10 years is nothing.

OP, why are talking about it and arguing on here about it? Go out and do what you want. The far more considerable challenge is making a relationship work, not what people think about it.

You’re not some employer posting a job description, “only applicants 44 - 49 need apply.” You’ve got to get out and socialise and make the effort. Relationships don’t just happen. And from what you’ve said, you don’t even have any flirting game so, I guess you’d better get on with it.

[quote]I agree with what you are saying. I am certainly open to meeting someone 50+ or even older than me but they must be in good shape and not act OLD.

OP, this is kind of funny because you sound ANCIENT. I could see where younger guys might date and hookup with you a bit out of curiosity but how are you going to develop and maintain a long term relationship? You need to get out of your head and take action. That’s how you’ll determine what’s realistic. Up to now it’s a lot of generalisations about what you want to have happen - mostly expressed as criticism of your own peer group. Unless you’re some sugar daddy, you’re going to have to do a lot more than that, and even that’s arguable. Get busy.

If the guy is of legal age who gives a fat rat's ass how old he is.

[Quote] Strange that gay men prefer younger partners and lesbians prefer older

Yet once I hit 40 guys in their 20s and early 30s were interested in me. From personal experience there are a lot of young guys who like older men, they like daddies. Looking back when I was young, I partnered with guys really of all ages.

Laughing at the fact that so many are telling OP including himself the myth that age does not matter while in the same breath OP is specifically looking for someone a lot younger than himself. If age does not matter, why is OP even posting this? OP still has not answered another post above asking why he only wants to date younger guys.

R53- I NEVER said age for me does not matter that is why I started this thread stating the fact that I would prefer a guy in his mid to late 40's- that being said I can sometimes be attracted to someone outside of what I normally like- such as someone who's well over 50- like 70 years old or someone who's a bit husky.

So what you really mean OP is that you are a shallow bitch who wants a twink and simultaneously want to bath in the "age does not matter" comments you seem to be more than happy to embrace to cover for your vanity. You want it both ways. Accolades for wanting to date someone much younger for you as you are some magical free spirit, but also really care and focused on that person being a young age and want to be exempt from that criticism.

I think OP is a bot trained on old Sears Catalogues and mid-20th Century Readers Digests

Heh. I'm 68 and have always preferred guys over 50.

R55- I have NEVER heard of a 45 year old twink.

I have really triggered a lot of datalounge queens- as I mentioned earlier I can only imagine the venom directed towards me if I had said I was only interested in guys 20-39 years old.

I have never heard of a 60 year old as Daddy. It's all relative Gramps.

I don’t think anyone cares what you’re interested in, OP. You’re the one that started this thread, asking questions.

It doesn’t matter. What matters is who is interested in you.

R60- No, what matters first is that I am interested in him but I never have in all my life ever assumed someone I am attracted to is going to be attracted to me. I was flirted with in March when I was traveling. I mentioned it on another thread. I was writing in my journal on the plane and the steward said- Is that your memoirs? I said - No, it's a journal of my trip. When we arrived I was off the plane half way on the air bridge that leads from the plane to the building and the same steward yells after me- Good luck with you journal! He was about 48 years old- in my preferred age range.

But it's all what you look like, OP. When was the last time you had sex? If no one is interested In you, how you like 'em is of no interest to us.