What’s the deal with men who date trans women?

Baby Reindeer explained it well. The guy was bisexual, had had abusive and destructive experiences with men and sought out trans women. Nava Mau was cast perfectly because "she" is obviously male, even Helen Keller could tell this is someone who is male, but someone who is so stereotypically effeminate it allowed the guy to be with a "man" who didn't pose a threat.

And some guys just like chicks with dicks.

You can actually fall in love with someone. I had a trans coworker, full transitioned. She was married for many years to her husband. They ended up getting divorced over the same basic things most couples get divorced over - financial issues.

They love cock

They love dick and tits, OP. It’s a fetish.

There’s a pot for every cover OP.

R4 yes and I know a couple of straight men who would never let a man anywhere near their asshole unless the man was doing a health exam and they love to have sex with truly stunning looking MtF trans and they enjoy getting the trannies dick up their ass.

It’s a kink it’s a preference it’s a fetish

I have seen a few so stunningly beautiful that it was very difficult to believe they were people with a penis. My info on the stunning lady-man’s penis is all 2nd hand info.

In so many cultures it seems men think as long as they receive and not give then they arent "gay" . I long ago quit worrying about labels . Its your thing,do what you wanna do !

They're attracted to men and in denial. Like your friend who calls herself vegetarian and you caught her one day biting into a McRibs with lust.

Nope, unless you are speaking from your own personal first hand experience . I know them I totally believe them the only dick other than their own they care about are those attached to model like stunning trannies. And they pay a shit load for the opportunity.. Their red lights are blue in color.

They are all homos, Rose.

Ask Eddie Murphy

I could get 3 titties grafted to my chest I'd still be a man. If these 'straight' men are picking between partners and choosing the option with a dick I got news for you. They ain't straight.

You like what you like. Not my bread, not my circus.

R12 And following your logic if someone likes men who wear women’s sexy nightwear and bra they are not really totally gay men. At least a secret Bi.

And don’t get me started on men who are saying they are going to fuck their little boy. You know what these men will be doing in no time?

But it’s possible it’s just kinK

So I guess post-op transexuals aren't a thing anymore? They all have huge throbbing cocks?

Yes, man made vaginas on males are TOTALLY like female vaginas and straight men can never tell the difference when they're slipping in.

I think there is a difference between dating and just having sex, especially in this scenario.

When a trans lady has bottom surgery does that make anal sex dangerous? If the dude goes at it hammer and tongs might it break through to the new front hole?

Trolldar OP

That’s not the point r16. I am just pointing out that everyone has been saying men date trans for their cocks when there are men dating and marrying post-op trans as well - even if feels nothing like a vagina.

So what would be the reason for that?

[quote]So what would be the reason for that?

Different people are into different things, r20. *That* is the reason. But you're going to keep asking "why", aren't you?

YOU KEEP MY WIFE'S NAME

OUTA YO FUCKING MOUF!

It seems like the trend is away from bottom surgery. Is that correct?

R21, I am just going along with the theme of the thread. The entire thread is a, “why?” Yes people are into different things but the question is WHY are straight men into trans women.

I already know the answer. I was just surprised with everyone who associated trans women’s appeal to having a cock, when that is not always the case. That’s what I popped in to clear up.

I don't think they 'date' them: just fuck buddies. He'd never take Jadin out to a restaurant, or introduce them to his family or colleagues.

I have a controversial theory that everyone starts out gay and has to be conditioned by society to turn straight. Little boys loathe anything girly or sissy. Homophobia helps them get on the straight 'n narrow.

R25 - I agree.

I'd have to think trans are easier to get. The guys get a girlfriend experience, get to fuck an ass, no worries about pregnancy - and many trans are DTF. So no long courtships, drama, where is this relationship going?, etc.

They're like a straight man's cheat code. You want free sex with a hot chick and fuck her in the ass? The only downside is the dick - but for some, that can be a plus or not a big deal.

Sure relationships can happen - but I'm not thinking it's that common. They're being used as sex toys - that's my take on it.

I don't think men who date/fuck trans women are necessarily gay, but rather somewhere in the middle. I am basing this only on the fact that I, a 100%, Kinsey 6 gay, have zero sexual interest in trans women because they register as feminine, even when they have a dick. I'm attracted to masculinity, end of story. A biological male presenting as a woman is a turn-off to me. I would guess that the guys who are into "intact" trans women are somewhere near quintessential bisexuality, where they can get off to both the feminine presentation AND the cock in the same person. Some of them claim to be straight and have a "cock fetish", which I don't fully understand.

A guy I know is a stereotypical scrawny, autistic, nerdy incel. I truly believe he isn't able to score a relationship with a cis woman. His new girlfriend is trans and doesn't even come close to passing. Tall and muscular, in fact. They're the most bizarre couple I've ever seen.

Weird

Beats us.

I saw a couple the other day at Publix of all places and the guy was lumberjack hot and the tranny was obviously a guy,but soft and pretty . Im in N Fla so that gives you an indication of why they stood out. The lumberjack had his hand in her back pocket of her cut offs the entire way into the store . He absolutely looked like someone you did not want to fuck with . She was soft looking,pretty,longish hair,a tad pudgy but still a man . I wont lie,I was seething with envy of her ! He was so fucking hot .

R20 Then why don’t you fuck trans women if it’s so gay?

Men are attracted and obsessed with penis.

Go into any gas station or public bathroom and there are penises drawn everywhere.

Straight porn has blowjobs and penetration which means men enjoy watching penises fuck.

So a chick with a dick being a thing for non-gay men isn’t that far fetched.

Masculinity is a box most men don’t fit in. Straight men can enjoy pegging, prostate play, or watching penetration in porn without being gay—but they’re told otherwise, because anything that challenges dominance is seen as “unmanly.”

Meanwhile, women have more freedom to explore their sexuality without their identity being questioned. Even gay men are judged by how masculine they are. Masculinity isn’t just a label—it’s a performance, and most men fall short of its impossible standards.

The truth is, a lot of men don’t emotionally, physically, or sexually align with the myths of radical masculinity. And until that’s accepted, men will keep repressing what they actually like… just to be seen as “real men.”

Everyone used to casually use the term "Tra**y chasers", but now you can't.

As stated above, a friend of mine is trans. She fully transitioned in her early twenties in the 90s. She’s been a trans woman longer than she was a boy/man. Very pretty,. She was married for eleven years, now divorced. Trans women aren’t just fuck-toys. They do get married. They do have real relationships.

But having gone out with her to bars and clubs, straight guys are attracted to her like bees to honey. Straight guys love trans women. A lot of the guys are uber masculine, hot and like someone who wants them/needs them to be the Man because it validates their femininity. Trans women are usually ultra femme, and really play the female role. And if you are turned on by women you’re gonna be turned of my this exaggerated presentation.

I guess trans women let men live out their “being a man” fantasy.

R32 Why don't you forgive your Papa for transitioning an leave Gay men the fuck alone?

Seeing all the Hunter Schafer photos at the Met Gala, a lot of straight men would fuck him regardless of the cock and balls. Whether a lot of men would fuck him without the hours of make up and styling is another question.

R23 If a boy is given puberty blockers it will result in an undeveloped penis and there will not be enough tissue to invert into an adult sized vagina. I believe this is what happened to Jazz Jennings.

I read OP’s title in Jerry Seinfeld’s voice.

R39 I don’t understand that since they manage to create full size vagina for intersex infants.

Are they R41 ? Nothing is "full size" when you're a baby. Correcting a physical birth defect of the genitals isn't the same as a biological male undergoing a vaginoplasty which requires a penis to be inverted. If an infant is intersex there might not be a penis, so that is probably a different type of surgery.

I would not be surprised to see some level of buyers remorse after having one’s healthy penis removed by choice.