How to stop being fat when your partner is fucking incredible at cooking?

If your partner is really from France, he knows proper portion sizes. Have him serve/plate your meals, and don't go back for seconds -ever. The food itself is healthy, you just need to eat less of it at a time. You can have as much of his uncut dick as you want -seconds, thirds, whatever. That's dessert.

Look for your French partner's verbal and non-verbal cues about when to stop eating and obey him. If he's a true French gay, he should be sending all kinds of messages about your American gluttony.

The boyfriend is a stealth feeder.

You’re gonna hafta keep eating if you wanna hold onto that foxy frog.

It's about portion control, isn't it? So make sure that your portions are controlled. Eat all of these great meals but make sure that the portion is right and don't go over it. Easier said than done but that's pretty much the issue.

Don’t skip breakfast but breakfast and lunch should be as low calorie as possible while being nutrient rich and filling. Oatmeal with fruit, plain yogurt with fruit. Try a fiber supplement to help you feel full. Lunch could be a huge green salad with plain grilled chicken or a can of tuna. Lemon juice for dressing or bottled low calorie low carb dressing. High fiber low carb wraps for sandwiches, mustard instead of mayo and no cheese.

It should be very easy to do knowing you’re going to have a delicious dinner every evening. And put your fork down when your food is gone, don’t go back for seconds. A walk after dinner is a great habit to get into.

Your boyfriend being French is no excuse, French people are notoriously thin.

Caution OP! You must resist when your chéri tempts you with a waffel thin mint!

The French don't snack, ever.

France probably has the same rising obesity rates as everybody else.

France became the first European Union country to state that childhood obesity rates have started to level off while drastic increase in childhood obesity rates continue in most European countries.

My ex was an incredible cook, and he was a feeder. Three course meals every night, and all of exceptional quality. How could I refuse? I put on so much weight I looked like someone had taken a foot pump to me. It took a long time to shift the weight.

That's the other thing: the French mix up lighter meals, like apéro dinatoires, with heavier ones to balance things out, and skip dessert often. They also have a very small breakfast like last night's baguette with some butter to go with coffee. They also know when to knock it off for a while when the weight starts coming on.

OP, your post is obvious fiction. I'm half-French and we don't eat like that. Don't try to blame your obesity on an invented partner.

[QUOTE] How could I refuse?

Easily. If he’s feeding you three course dinners then eat lightly for breakfast and/or lunch with no snacking. Intermittent fasting: have a couple days where you don’t eat anything before dinner. It’s simple enough.

I eat pretty much twice a day: lunch and dinner, and not a bite after 8pm. I never eat breakfast. Works great for me.

Did it occur to you that your partner might be a so-called "feeder" who gets sexual gratification from making his partner fat?

While I'm only semi-kidding, the best answer is portion control. However, you need to pay more attention to what you eat between meals and have better self-control at other meal times. Also, if it's really a huge problem, eat an apple 30-45 min before dinner.

Unless you're gorging yourself to the point that one thin mint will cause you to explode, taking the edge off hunger before having a meal will also help. Finally, don't skip meals in anticipation of future calorie intake. It will simply make you eat more later and become a self-fulfilling prophesy.

You need to eat smaller portions, more frequently and get religious about working out. Cardio and strength training. Food is fuel, it's allowed to be good but you've got to keep moving to afford for it.

if you live that long you'll probably get reflux or stomach problems as you get a little older, from all the spices--and have to switch to a bland diet, eventually. Problem solved!

Portion control, no snacking (or fruit/nuts if you do) and exercise.

My bf is a great cook. He also cooks healthy for the most part. We try to eat vegetarian twice a week, a fair amount of fish as a main course, and for dessert we normally have a piece or two of quality dark chocolate. Of course, on occasions we indulge and have heavy meals and rich desserts. But pretty much everything he makes is delicious. We also exercise 4-5 days a week; we're lucky that we enjoy it (tennis, hiking, skiing) and we go to the gym a couple days a week for muscle tone). We've been about the same weight for 30 years, 145 lbs +/- 5 lbs.

You simply have to tell your partner that his cooking is fabulous but it's making you fat, and if he doesn't want to end up fucking a walrus he'd better start preparing more low calorie meals

R18 Nobody wants to hear how self-disciplined at eating and consicientious at exercising you are.

Curries and paellas aren't French classics. I'll give you the tagines, but not the others.

R21 The fantasist OP has likely never even met a French person.

[quote]Nobody wants to hear how self-disciplined at eating and consicientious at exercising you are.

OP asked a question. I answered it.

What's your answer, wire your jaw shut?

Cunt.

R23 I work with someone like you. Every morning she tells me how she walked two miles before coming in, and only ate an orange for breakfast, and is looking forward to her walk at lunch and her kimchi and bean sprouts and how at night she allows herself three potato chips.

^^^^ whatevs

What were you eating before? What else changed?

It seems odd that high quality, home cooked meals are the problem. Can’t he just make less? And start with soup or salad?

Boulimie.

A lot of you sound like idiots. Just because OP’s bf is French doesn’t mean he can only cook Coq au Vin and Cassoulet. OP isn’t living with Julia Child.

No, fool, French people don't care for spice, so curry isn't much of a thing for them.

R28 The point is, we French don't eat like OP is claiming. OP is suggesting it's his French partner's cooking and/or eating habits that's making him fat. OP thinks French people are eating "all the classics" on a regular basis. We don't. We're more likely to have a salad and something light in the evening.

OP is a fantasist.

There are tons of immigrants from Algeria, Morocco and Tunisia in France. The proximity to the Mediterranean + the substantial North African, Middle Eastern and Spanish communities have made dishes like couscous, spiced curries and paellas staples in many French households.

Curry is not Maghreb (North African).

R31 None of those areas have anything to do with curry.

While curry isn't unheard of in France, it's not hugely popular. In the UK, for example, you'd find an Indian restaurant or takeaway pretty much everywhere you go and it's a huge part of the culture.

Well the Brits owned India, so it's understandable.

Also, the Indians do vegetarian REALLY well.

When I lived in Paris 15 years ago, the only place I could get a decent curry was on the Passage Brady. Because French people genrally don't like heat in their food, I had to practically beg them to add chilis to the dishes because they were so worried I would send it back. Things have diversified more in recent years, but it's still not core to the French palate and would be an exotic thing for them to cook at home.

JFC, some of you are so damn pedantic. You suck the life out of every thread topic.

R25 Right 👏. That poster is bitter at the world because he is overweight. .

Whatever you do don’t eat salads without any fats at all. So many of the nutrients in a salad are fat soluble and malnourishment leads to all kinds of problems. Avoid fake foods and maimed foods and focus on portion control.

Calm your tits, r36. It's still an interesting conversation if you unclench a bit.

R31 That’s what I was thinking. That OPs boyfriend mustuv immigrated from one of those countries.

OP's "partner" doesn't exist.

R37 I'm not bitter, but seriously, who wants to hear what anyone's poundage is? It's just a form of subtle bragging. Anyway, forget it, I apologize for being an asshole.

OP you are lucky your bf loves to cook. You should find some Weight Watchers recipes and ask him to make them for you, and to learn some common weight loss cooking hacks for reducing calories.

I did WW nearly 20 years ago and lost 40 lbs and have kept it off. I am extremely disciplined during the week but pretty much eat and drink whatever I want on the weekends. I have to work out though.

Don’t allow yourself to get any fatter than you already are. It’s hard to lose weight and keep it off. Use your bf’s love of cooking, and presumably you, to cook food that will help you lose weight instead of continuing to gain.

Curry is popular in France, especially milder versions adapted to French tastes. Thanks to Indian, Thai and Vietnamese influences, you’ll find curry in restaurants, supermarkets and even fusion French dishes like poulet au curry. It’s a staple in urban areas and there are lots of Indian/Pakistani restaurants.

Quit eating so fucking much and tell your partner to cut down on portion sizes.

Oink.

My friend is from Paris and she can’t handle even a hint of spice.

I went from a gymrat to a stroke victim, because hubby cooks so good. Belt size went from 35 to 43.

My solution was to by my own food, lose 100 lbs, and sneak food off his plate now and then.

Release rats and termites in your own kitchen so it can’t be used for a while.

Have your recently unemployed nephew come and visit so there's less of a share for you to eat.

He's a feeder, fatso.

Slap faces viciously

Break up with him. Fattie!

Stop smoking copious amounts of pot, silly.

More sex to work it off.

—Maybe eat like Ariana Grande, OP!!? 🤷‍♂️

Berberine, THCV, AVC, sweeten with allulose, drink Yerba mate. Things that raise GLP-1 and decrease appetite