I feel so lonely lately

These things too shall pass. I know how you feel. Vent away.

Do something nice for yourself today.

I've been you before. In some ways I am now. Take solace in knowing that how you're feeling right now will not last. The cliche "time heals all wounds" - there is some truth to it. There are other people in this world that DO CARE about you. Perhaps you haven't connected with them yet. This really opens up possibility for the future. I urge you to cry out to the creator - Jesus Christ who loves you and wants a relationship with you. Prayerfully ask for his guidance to help you get through this tough time and to ease the feeling of loneliness you feel. He is there for you. Reaching out to others like you've done here on the DL has touched me. I'm praying for you and am thinking of you right now. You're going to be ok, buddy.

I'm sorry you're unhappy and wish you the best. I've been there myself for long stretches. Thing can and do improve.

Pep talks ring hollow at times like this. Just know people are listening. The people that sympathize most won't have the right words, or the energy to respond, so they're just reading quietly and empathetically. There's lots of us out here. Hope you find a good distraction to take you away from this mess for a while. Sometimes that little mental vacation can really help. Best to you, OP.

Get perscriptions for drugs to stop sinking so low in mood. Stop the drinking. Loneliness is real feeling and you'll have to take actions to avoid being alone but nobody wants to be aroudn a sad sack lonely drinker who whines on about it.

Just remember that most - regardless of how ugly they are - have a stalker who is fixated upon them.

OP, some shit head you wouldn’t pee on should he ever experience immolation is thinking about you!

OP I feel for you. The only advice I will give is to say- the vodka won't help at all, and will make you feel worse. Drinking when you are low seems the most natural thing, but it is the worst thing. Sending you hugs.

Thanks for your brave and honest sharing. I’ve been feeling the same way over the last week. At least you and I are not alone in spirit.

R6 WTF

I second R7. Alcohol is a depressant, so although you might feel the vodka is helping, it's really not.

As soon as the holiday break is over and they're back at work, please see a doctor and tell him/her how you are feeling. Sadly, they hear such things all the time and they will know what to do to help you make a start that will improve things.

Meanwhile, are there any mental health support organisations/charities with hotlines, where you live? They run those things 24/7 precisely for people who are awake and sad at 3 a.m.

We don't care.

OP, it took me a long time to realize that people and friendships are overrated. Most people are shallow, self-absorbed, not very smart or interesting and can be really fucking needlessly nasty, like R11, for example. I now focus on my internal life, pursuits of hobbies and interests, having minimal expectations of people and friendships, period. I'm much happier.

OP I know you were just venting so I’m just sending support. Hope 2025 goes easier for you.

That said, R4 and R7 and R10 have advice that is well worth receiving.

Your 'happiness' appears to be hinged on whether someone wants to partner-up with you. Bad.

You're going to have to forge a life of solitary pleasures. You can't depend on people to 'complete' you.

Don't buy into the Hallmark Holiday shit. Just a bunch of fake people being fake.

Listen, you have to put distance between yourself and that ended relationship & get in training for tbe next one! And you don't want to be passed over by New Mister Right on account of smelling like a distillery.

The short days of winter get me down but I know they won't last.