Proper time for condolences to an old acquaintance

Maybe wait until the evening to call the family or visit if they are in the same area as you.

If you weren’t still friends, wait one week.

I’ve since learned the death was about a week ago, so it’s certainly not too soon.

Text them and ask if you can have his stuff.

Has he been buried? What time frame does the obit give?

I would wait a week after the burial.

Who did he vote for?

You weren't friends with him and it was a week ago. She's hardly waiting for your call.

No such thing as proper time. Reach out when you feel like it’s right.

Just post an online condolence on whatever site the obituary is displayed.

Call in the early afternoon today OP and either have a brief chat or, more likely, you will get the answering machine - think through what you want to say before you call so you can leave a nice but succinct message.

I’d do it today - you don’t want to be to close to Christmas, which will undoubtedly be difficult for her. Or you can send a condolence card with a nice personal message written in it ,

Mail a sympathy card.

How old is she if she was your late mother's friend? She probably doesn't even remember you.

R12 has poor reading comprehension skills

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If it's been a week, that's enough time. Reach out to his mom.

I did reach out by text. That’s basically how I communicate today. A phone call seemed too intrusive and sending a card seems anachronistic.

[quote] I’d do it today - you don’t want to be to close to Christmas, which will undoubtedly be difficult for her.

Not Christian.

R16 has bothered the DL with an issue that was obviously past tense r16. What a weenie!

I have no idea what you could possibly mean, r18.

Fuck off troll r19

[quote] I did reach out by text. That’s basically how I communicate today. A phone call seemed too intrusive and sending a card seems anachronistic.

If it's the older generation, sending a card is not anachronistic. You're saying that texting is "how I communicate today." That is how *you* communicate, but not necessarily how someone a generation older communicates.

Leave a Swiss Colony beef log and a bottle of Riunite on their doorstep, ring the doorbell and run.

I can’t imagine the medium by which an expression of sympathy is communicated is terribly important to the recipient.

If the funeral has already happened, I'd send a sympathy card with a short personal note

What is a beef log? Ew.

How do you have the cell phone number of some person you haven't seen since childhood??

You caught me, r26. I had no way to obtain her phone number even though I was in contact with someone whom she had just informed of her son’s death, so I just sent the message to a random number.

Your assumption is flawed. I have seen the mother many times since childhood since she and my mother were good friends, though not since my mother died.