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Giving a gift to an estranged sibling

A gift seems more fitting than none. I was thinking a book

by Anonymousreply 48December 19, 2024 5:28 PM

Why? Don't bother

by Anonymousreply 1November 27, 2024 7:54 PM

Gift cards are very simple.

But a book is more personalized if you spend some time finding a book the person would like.

by Anonymousreply 2November 27, 2024 8:00 PM

Huh? Unless it’s meant as an olive branch why would you give a gift if you are estranged?

by Anonymousreply 3November 27, 2024 8:00 PM

Only if it’s a passive aggressive book that you’re giving. Maybe something about improving their personality; or if they’re fat, a book on dieting.

by Anonymousreply 4November 27, 2024 8:03 PM

I’m thinking about buying all the Trumpers in my family bitcoin. That way, if it fails I can laugh and if it’s a success they will be grateful to me.

by Anonymousreply 5November 27, 2024 8:07 PM

Give the sibling Moby Dick. The endless chapters on pictures of whales, whale anatomy, whaling techniques and blubber thickness will have you in each others arms before you know it.

by Anonymousreply 6November 27, 2024 8:50 PM

I've literally never exchanged gifts with my siblings, and we get along fine.

by Anonymousreply 7November 27, 2024 8:58 PM

Give them Faulkner’s The Sound and the Fury—about one of the most fucked-u families in literature. Plus there’s that Caddie-Quentin unconsummated incest thing to creep out your sibling.

by Anonymousreply 8November 28, 2024 12:16 AM

Send her a small saucer with a note: "I thought you'd appreciate something shallow."

by Anonymousreply 9November 28, 2024 12:23 AM

Fascinating thoughts, OP.

“Cooking for a friend from school I don’t really talk to anymore.

A meal seems more fitting than none. I was thinking scrambled eggs.”

by Anonymousreply 10November 28, 2024 12:27 AM

A book works for me! And the idea of it for you! Where are you from? Probably there is a town historical society or elsewhere selling titles on your home town. No matter your present estrangement, a book on where you grew up would be anice.

by Anonymousreply 11November 28, 2024 12:52 AM

That's not a gift, that's a reminder of the estrangement by way of the passive-aggressive sibling as the "gift" giver.

by Anonymousreply 12November 28, 2024 1:09 AM

The gift I would give to my now dead sibling is a box of dog shit. I am sorry I never gave her this gift while she was abusing me my entire chlldhood.

by Anonymousreply 13November 28, 2024 1:12 AM

I donated to the care and upkeep of a goat for a year in my mom’s name. I don’t recall her thanking me for it.

by Anonymousreply 14November 28, 2024 1:16 AM

^^Thanks for the penetrating analysis, Captain Obvious.

by Anonymousreply 15November 28, 2024 1:35 AM

E7 Literally ? Are you positive it is literally ?

by Anonymousreply 16November 28, 2024 1:35 AM

Self-help book suggestion: "I Thought We'd Never Speak Again," by Laura Davis.

I'd send a used copy, if that.

by Anonymousreply 17November 28, 2024 1:46 AM

Give a weekend-getaway for two (you and sibling) where you can patch up your estrangement. Promise not to leave until everything has been aired out and you two are 'friends' again.

by Anonymousreply 18November 28, 2024 12:44 PM

R4, that was my thought. I was thinking “brothers karamazov”

by Anonymousreply 19November 28, 2024 2:03 PM

R8, i do like that

by Anonymousreply 20November 28, 2024 2:04 PM

i got "sound and the fury" she's "love" it

by Anonymousreply 21December 18, 2024 6:40 PM

A gift certificate for a Datalounge subscription is always a welcome gift.

by Anonymousreply 22December 18, 2024 7:53 PM

Estranged = no contact.

by Anonymousreply 23December 18, 2024 8:17 PM

Gay porn DVD, if he's straight.

by Anonymousreply 24December 18, 2024 9:40 PM

[quote]Estranged = no contact.

but for a book

by Anonymousreply 25December 19, 2024 12:26 AM

People who are estranged do not give or receive gifts.

by Anonymousreply 26December 19, 2024 12:37 AM

Since you love to virtue signal, OP, why don't you make a donation to The Human Fund in their name?

by Anonymousreply 27December 19, 2024 1:12 AM

R27, what a beautiful thought in this, the season for generosity. After all, it's money for people.

by Anonymousreply 28December 19, 2024 1:27 AM

I'd shit in a box and tell them it was made with them in mind.

by Anonymousreply 29December 19, 2024 1:30 AM

Anthrax.

by Anonymousreply 30December 19, 2024 1:33 AM

Is it a vocabulary issue for OP?

by Anonymousreply 31December 19, 2024 1:36 AM

So, OPs sibling is the one who said, “Fuck off.”

OP, this counts as menacing, stalking behavior.

A person chopped you out. Stay out.

Oh, and don’t send people to smooth things out. Estranged means we know longer think of you.

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by Anonymousreply 32December 19, 2024 2:17 AM

Blow jobs

by Anonymousreply 33December 19, 2024 2:35 AM

I’m cutting her off. Just don’t like thinking of her. But giving her a gift - simple one - at least means I’m not thoughtless. I’m donating to an emigrant hostel in the area in the name of my nephew.

by Anonymousreply 34December 19, 2024 3:31 AM

Why do "emigrants" need a hostel? They are leaving. Thank you for confirming my suspicion above that you have a unique grasp on vocabulary. I wonder what word you wanted instead of estranged?

by Anonymousreply 35December 19, 2024 6:07 AM

Underwear laced with itching powder

by Anonymousreply 36December 19, 2024 9:17 AM

R34/OP....that makes zero sense

by Anonymousreply 37December 19, 2024 10:43 AM

Agree with R37.

You either cut her off.....or you don't.

There is no in between. Sending a gift is not cutting them off.

by Anonymousreply 38December 19, 2024 2:40 PM

Don't.

by Anonymousreply 39December 19, 2024 2:43 PM

One of my siblings cut me off for reasons that they themselves admitted they couldn't explain. Actually, they cut the entire family off.

For a couple years afterwards, they sent me gifts for birthday and Christmas.

Fucking inutterably passive-aggressive. Fuck that noise. The gifts went in the garbage unopened as soon as they arrived. Eventually they stopped coming.

In short: If you're trying to be a passive-aggressive, cutesy cunt, then yes, go ahead and give a gift. If you're not, leave that person alone. Either you don't want to talk to them -- in which case, if you won't give them the time of day, why give them a gift? -- or they don't want to talk to you, in which case your gift will be received as an unwelcome missive from someone you've already told to fuck off.

by Anonymousreply 40December 19, 2024 3:32 PM

send a single flower

by Anonymousreply 41December 19, 2024 3:36 PM

Clearly there's something you still want to say to them or you wouldn't even consider contact.

You don't excommunicate someone (as you claim you did) unless they did something unforgivable/have characteristics that make them to be around, or, you're some kind of psycho that does this to people regularly as a way of feeling superior or maintaining some sort of perceived control.

by Anonymousreply 42December 19, 2024 3:52 PM

just got for my MAGAT conspiracy brother

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by Anonymousreply 43December 19, 2024 3:52 PM

"that make them [Bold]insufferable[/Bold] to be around".

by Anonymousreply 44December 19, 2024 3:53 PM

I always gift my staff a pot of homemade jam. It is the highlight of their holidays.

by Anonymousreply 45December 19, 2024 4:39 PM

R45 is Meghan Markle. Your staff hates you cunt!

by Anonymousreply 46December 19, 2024 4:53 PM

In order to get you to the right help, please reveal (succinctly) the nature of the inciting incident.

by Anonymousreply 47December 19, 2024 5:19 PM

[quote]Send her a small saucer with a note: "I thought you'd appreciate something shallow."

MARRY ME, R9!!!!

by Anonymousreply 48December 19, 2024 5:28 PM
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