Giving a gift to an estranged sibling

Why? Don't bother

Gift cards are very simple.

But a book is more personalized if you spend some time finding a book the person would like.

Huh? Unless it’s meant as an olive branch why would you give a gift if you are estranged?

Only if it’s a passive aggressive book that you’re giving. Maybe something about improving their personality; or if they’re fat, a book on dieting.

I’m thinking about buying all the Trumpers in my family bitcoin. That way, if it fails I can laugh and if it’s a success they will be grateful to me.

Give the sibling Moby Dick. The endless chapters on pictures of whales, whale anatomy, whaling techniques and blubber thickness will have you in each others arms before you know it.

I've literally never exchanged gifts with my siblings, and we get along fine.

Give them Faulkner’s The Sound and the Fury—about one of the most fucked-u families in literature. Plus there’s that Caddie-Quentin unconsummated incest thing to creep out your sibling.

Send her a small saucer with a note: "I thought you'd appreciate something shallow."

Fascinating thoughts, OP.

“Cooking for a friend from school I don’t really talk to anymore.

A meal seems more fitting than none. I was thinking scrambled eggs.”

A book works for me! And the idea of it for you! Where are you from? Probably there is a town historical society or elsewhere selling titles on your home town. No matter your present estrangement, a book on where you grew up would be anice.

That's not a gift, that's a reminder of the estrangement by way of the passive-aggressive sibling as the "gift" giver.

The gift I would give to my now dead sibling is a box of dog shit. I am sorry I never gave her this gift while she was abusing me my entire chlldhood.

I donated to the care and upkeep of a goat for a year in my mom’s name. I don’t recall her thanking me for it.

^^Thanks for the penetrating analysis, Captain Obvious.

E7 Literally ? Are you positive it is literally ?

Self-help book suggestion: "I Thought We'd Never Speak Again," by Laura Davis.

I'd send a used copy, if that.

Give a weekend-getaway for two (you and sibling) where you can patch up your estrangement. Promise not to leave until everything has been aired out and you two are 'friends' again.

R4, that was my thought. I was thinking “brothers karamazov”

R8, i do like that

i got "sound and the fury" she's "love" it

A gift certificate for a Datalounge subscription is always a welcome gift.

Estranged = no contact.

Gay porn DVD, if he's straight.

[quote]Estranged = no contact.

but for a book

People who are estranged do not give or receive gifts.

Since you love to virtue signal, OP, why don't you make a donation to The Human Fund in their name?

R27, what a beautiful thought in this, the season for generosity. After all, it's money for people.

I'd shit in a box and tell them it was made with them in mind.

Anthrax.

Is it a vocabulary issue for OP?

So, OPs sibling is the one who said, “Fuck off.”

OP, this counts as menacing, stalking behavior.

A person chopped you out. Stay out.

Oh, and don’t send people to smooth things out. Estranged means we know longer think of you.

Blow jobs

I’m cutting her off. Just don’t like thinking of her. But giving her a gift - simple one - at least means I’m not thoughtless. I’m donating to an emigrant hostel in the area in the name of my nephew.

Why do "emigrants" need a hostel? They are leaving. Thank you for confirming my suspicion above that you have a unique grasp on vocabulary. I wonder what word you wanted instead of estranged?

Underwear laced with itching powder

R34/OP....that makes zero sense

Agree with R37.

You either cut her off.....or you don't.

There is no in between. Sending a gift is not cutting them off.

Don't.

One of my siblings cut me off for reasons that they themselves admitted they couldn't explain. Actually, they cut the entire family off.

For a couple years afterwards, they sent me gifts for birthday and Christmas.

Fucking inutterably passive-aggressive. Fuck that noise. The gifts went in the garbage unopened as soon as they arrived. Eventually they stopped coming.

In short: If you're trying to be a passive-aggressive, cutesy cunt, then yes, go ahead and give a gift. If you're not, leave that person alone. Either you don't want to talk to them -- in which case, if you won't give them the time of day, why give them a gift? -- or they don't want to talk to you, in which case your gift will be received as an unwelcome missive from someone you've already told to fuck off.

send a single flower

Clearly there's something you still want to say to them or you wouldn't even consider contact.

You don't excommunicate someone (as you claim you did) unless they did something unforgivable/have characteristics that make them to be around, or, you're some kind of psycho that does this to people regularly as a way of feeling superior or maintaining some sort of perceived control.

just got for my MAGAT conspiracy brother

"that make them [Bold]insufferable[/Bold] to be around".

I always gift my staff a pot of homemade jam. It is the highlight of their holidays.

R45 is Meghan Markle. Your staff hates you cunt!

In order to get you to the right help, please reveal (succinctly) the nature of the inciting incident.

[quote]Send her a small saucer with a note: "I thought you'd appreciate something shallow."

MARRY ME, R9!!!!