Judge others too much? I know I do.
What would cause others to judge you harshly (if they knew)? Me (an abbreviated list):
1) I grew up around constant, awful criticism from my dad and hated it. I especially hated the way he constantly criticized my mother. I do the same thing to my husband over really stupid stuff. It upsets him and I hate myself for doing it, but have a difficult time restraining myself.
2) I grew up thoroughly middle class. Had a lot of unmet wants, but never went without anything I truly needed. As an adult, I have been fortunate and have made enough money to enjoy what many would consider luxuries. I spend way too much time worrying about whether I have enough money, even though I will likely never be without the things anyone actually needs. Worries are more about stupid stuff like can we keep flying business class for vacations.
3) Even though I worry about economic inequality, I give more to political candidates and causes than I do to charities that directly work on the issue. As a general matter I don’t give away as much as I should, except to friends and family, with whom I am generous.
4) Way too much time and energy spent watching porn, even though I should, by any rational yardstick, be done with sex.
When I was young, I really tried hard to be a good person. Evidently I have given that up.
What about you?