Phrases You Hate

"Let's circle back to..."

I used to hate "To be sure, ...." but I've found I've used that myself.

In undergrad an instructor would use that phrase when lecturing and it grated on my ears. I've since found, however, it's convenient and understand why it's a verbal and writing crutch.

Just sayin’.

It makes me want to commit murder. Smarmy cunts.

I ain't gonna lie.....

It's such an idiotic term. Does that mean you normally lie but this time you're going to be honest?

Fair enough, OP.

At the end of the day.........

Like.....................

"Reach out" and all other forms of business speak.

[quote]Like.....................

So, I take it you don't watch Chris Hayes.

Beginning sentences with “So” makes people sound unconfident and as though they need time to choose their words. It also means they follow every trend like sheep.

What's a better phrase for 'reaching out'?

R10, how about "call" or "write" or "talk"?

E.g.:

"Thanks for calling."

"Thanks for writing."

"I'll let you know if I have questions."

Fuck outta here.

"God didn't make Adam and Steve."

As it were....

Pretentious shit.

What a shock to learn that a Datalounger hates the phrase "to be fair..."!

It's not a phrase, but people who use the word "literally" when it's not necessary.

"I was literally at that same CVS yesterday!"

People who say "I'm like..."

[quote] What's a better phrase for 'reaching out'?

Intersecting

"We're a team!!!!"

If one more co-worker sends me an email telling me we're a team, I'm going to quit my job and live at a fucking bus stop.

Bitch I know we're a team. That's why I cover your ass whenever you decide to call out sick or WFH because of a headache.

The phrase, "It is what it is," always annoys me although truthfully I have used it too. There's a ring of condescension to it while at the same time coming off as mindless word salad,

That'll do, pig

And the mangled phrases:

Get off scotch free.

Mute point.

R19 - Relatedly, at my office (a law firm) the Partners often say we're a family. To which I think, "Yes, like the Medici"

R20, agree. It's as if the speaker or writer has just thrown in the towel on any attempt at critical thinking.

But I've also been guilty of using it. Sometimes, you just want a candy bar for dinner.

“Yeah, No”

People who write/say that sound like idiots.

I’m sick of the contempt for urban speech. It’s a fucking microaggression. And yes microaggressions are dehumanizing and racist to the soul.

R23, you made me laugh. Maybe this team-family shitspeak is more prevalent in law. It seems to go along with perpetuating a slave-sweatshop environment.

fkin

r26 I rarely see contempt for urban speech. I see contempt for stupid. There's a different between urban speech, and plain stupidity. I'm guessing you're teafake, or one of her derivatives. I'm fascinated by trends in language, etc. but am repulsed by blatant stupidity and willful ignorance.

Making memories. Especially in the context of very young children who will likely never remember the memory.

Word salad

r26 tryna b dope

R30 It should be the title of a raucous porno 😝

Not a phrase specifically, but the sentiment behind it…

When at the airport and the airline worker is always apologizing for things that are really out of its control: the weather, ATC, etc. But when something happens that IS preventable they obfuscate the delay and don’t apologize.

Maddening!

r34 Irrelevant

Is R26 a phrase you hate?

Clap back

Shut up and suck my pussy

Let me tell ya a coupla tree tings...

Earrings! Caftans!

It’s all good.

[quote] how about "call" or "write" or "talk"?

That wouldn't capture the broader meaning of reaching out though. When I say reach out I typically mean to 'either call, write or talk as long as you get input in any way'. So I just say 'reach out'. I think reaching out is the better phrase in certain scenarios.

[quote]people who use the word "literally" when it's not necessary.

Or worse when it's completely misplaced, as in the frequently seen on Instagram, "I just got tickets to see Taylor Swift and literally died!!!"

"Can you speak to that?", "In this space..." , "Say it with your chest",

Trump 2024

"Y'all" in any context.

To your point.

R26 Proper English is best. Urban speak holds people back. I'd never hire anyone who can't speak or write clear and correct English. It can be someone's second language. But I don't want sloppy slang becoming normalized by my teams.

“As everyone knows, I…” [like mushrooms, vote Trump, whatever]. It shows absolute egotism from the speaker who assumes their tastes , views, and whatever are well known by others. (slightly excusable among family and friends but not celebrities being interviewed).

"Reach out" is for the stupid people.

“I mean…” used at the beginning of a sentence. I’ve seen this in commercials, interviews, and all over social media.

Reporter: “So…when did you decide to become an actor?” Actor: “I mean…literally, when I saw the Olsen twins in New York Minute! I was like, they’re literally lesbians!” Reporter: “I think you mean thespians.” Actor: “OK, like, thespians. Jus’ sayin’…"

How about "contact" instead of "reach out"?

And some of the (tend to be younger than Xers) folks on TV say "like" so many times that I want to bet them $50 they couldn't talk for two minutes without saying it.

I could make some serious money.

"today years old"

Between he and I

I should have went

Bill and myself are going to the game

R42, R11 here. In the context you're describing, you're right that "reach out" makes good, logical sense.

What irritates me is, for example, if I email someone, and he refers to my email as reaching out. As in, "So glad you reached out to me." No, you pretentious shit, I did not reach out. I emailed you.

But what you're describing is logical and fine.

In the synergy of our core competencies, We leverage paradigms to optimize efficiencies. With a robust framework and a value-added approach, We circle back, ensuring we coach.

Let’s take this offline, align our KPIs, While we think outside the box and strategize. In the fast lane of innovation, we’ll pivot and scale, Driving engagement, we’ll never derail.

We’re all about the low-hanging fruit, Maximizing bandwidth, our goals resolute. As we streamline workflows and synergize teams, Let’s harness our vision and realize our dreams.

In this ecosystem, we’ll elevate and thrive, Together, we’ll ensure our mission’s alive!

Let me be clear

We don’t have to make love to have an orgasam.

r55 I'm with you on that. I didn't reach out to you with an olive branch. I just informed you. Good point.

I think some are a bit overly sensitive about certain phrases because they are used in situations in which the poster doesn't feel comfortable. Case in point is the corporate speech. I find most of the corporate phrases I read upthread quite usable and precise for certain scenarios. But I can see why some people feels excluded when they read or hear it. I guess in a way corporate speech is just another slang that works well in its confined settings but is otherwise useless or even counterproductive.

I don't feel excluded when I hear Corporate Speak. I feel repulsed and saddened by what seems to me the willful derangement of the English language, an expressive and beautiful language that deserves to be used clearly and honestly, not with the desperate and phony obfuscations of Corporate Speak.

Corporate speak, such as "headwinds and tailwinds", and also my all time unfavorite "what is the ask?". THE ASK????? Ask is a verb, but corporate America has made it a noun. How about "what is the request", "what is the question".

R55 But isn’t email a form of reaching out. You sound exhausting.

[bold]whatnot[/bold]

I have an aversion to lazy, nervous public speakers who keep asking for extra applause, especially when they repeatedly say “give it up again for”. I’m also not so fond of “shout out to”.

“It’s all good”

[quote]The phrase, "It is what it is," always annoys me although truthfully I have used it too. There's a ring of condescension to it while at the same time coming off as mindless word salad,

r20 I would add it's also code for "I can't be bothered to do anything about it'

Literally when it's definitely not literal.

"I literally died laughing!" No, you didn't. 'I was literally shitting bricks!' You should see a doctor

To R23, Hey, I've used that phrase 'like the Medici family"

My favorite phrase in meeting with the Board of Directors was always when they say "We're all Family here& of course I say " You people make the Medici family look like the Brady Bunch"

[quote] “give it up again for”

That's my personal pet peeve too. I praise when I feel it, not when you tell me to do it.

You’re being too rough.

I like "word salad" and "fuck outta here."

The corporate speak stuff, I used to hate it, but I now just use it to my advantage.

With all due respect

R63, concision and precision are hallmarks of good writing. "Reach out" is uselessly broad, trite, and bland.

And the phrase, "You sound exhausting," is equally trite and has become, in the slovenly parlance of social media, a hallmark of someone who wants to dismiss another person but can't think keenly enough to think of a better reason.

In short, you sound dumb and lazy.

“Look Bitch”, is always a good way to set the proper tone

People who use the filler word “like” in every sentence. I listen to quite a few podcasts and there are several where people will use the word 3 or 4 times IN EVERY SENTENCE. It makes me want to scream.

I also hate “At the end of the day…” and “with that being said…”

You can throw in “Y’all” as well.

"(He's/she's/it's) Amazing!"

Oy.

I wish someone would push others in front of Ebikes and Ubers once in a while rather than always throwing them under the bus.

Awesome! Unless you're talking about your trip to Machu Picchu or the birth of your child and not a refill of your iced tea.

One of my coworkers has a really LOUD voice and uses as filler: "UHHHHHHHHHH." It's his way of holding the floor, I think.

R73 Have I TeaCake been read to filth. Horror.

When I hear reach, I think and feel wretch. When I hear, "reach across the aisle" I think about the person giving a reach- around hand job, and it's never pleasant.

Something that will make me throw my TV remote across the room is when politicians and pundits begin every other response with “Look …”.

"If you like" and "at the end of the day" are the two I hate the most.

And when people start off answering a question with "So,......". I want to slap them.

"fluid" unless applying to transmissions

Holding space

Pick-me

Trauma-dumping

What difference does it make.

Overused and often a big difference.

R54, I love you. In 1985, my gay high school English teacher, who was the best teacher I've ever had, pointedly explained the grammatical hazards of "myself." He taught his students well, and I never say "myself" without thinking fondly of him. And his ties were fabulous!

He's still alive and well, thank goodness.

“Per my last email…”

“I hope this email finds you well.”

make america great again

Make America Hell 🔥On Earth Again

I just wanted say I hate these threads.

Carry on.

If you’re so bent out of shape over ‘reach out’, try reach way up and way in!

"It's me, TeaCake"

"Only God knows why things happen..." or "God has a plan for everything..."

"Hi, my name is (blank) and my pronouns are (blank)"

“Gift” used as a verb.

“Invite” used as a noun.

The latest one I've seen often and found annoying is "If you know, you know." It's more sentence filler garbage.

“Our policy is…”

I'm not sure about British-English, but American-English has a neck for being quite imprecise. American just don't seem to care about accurate language. When I read about grass-fed burgers I cringe. I'm thinking that this lax approach is one reason why people get so easily misinformed. People take exaggerations for real without questioning.

Grass fed what???? Go fuck yourself.

"Congrats."

[quote] American-English has a neck for being quite imprecise.

Huh?

“Philosophically…”

r104 Is that a phrase?

When people say/write, "Well, personally, I think..."

Why add the word "personally?" YOU'RE the one speaking - we know it's your opinion.

"Long Story Short...."

It NEVER is short!

R105 No. But I’ve heard managers begin sentences with that word to describe mundane issues. It’s like they are trying to be deep.

[quote] "Long Story Short...."

I had a long-winded coworkers who would say that after a long, mind-numbing story. One day, after she said "long story short," I said: "Too late!"

“Standing on business” is the current phrase du jour of the Yassss Kweens.

“You GOT this!”

“____ is goals.”

“____ is the GOAT.”

“Same."

[quote]“I hope this email finds you well.”

R89, that's a modern version of an old phrase. It used to be "I hope this letter finds you well." The purpose was and is to provide a brief, polite opening before getting right to business. It's useful in situations when you're writing to someone you haven't spoken to in a long time but don't know well enough to start with something more informal or personal. It's an empty pleasantry, but then so is "how are you?" These are the little niceties that make communication warmer and friendlier.

R82, I thought I was the only one who noticed people starting off with the word "Look"😄... drives me nuts!

“Such and such was before it’s time” I do not find it inherently annoying it’s just that Gen Z misuses it. They use it for any art that is somewhat above average or even excellent but very much of its era. That’s not what before its time means. They are fucking idiots.

"...the reality is: "

I hate this phrase so much and the attitude it expresses.

Flames, flames on the side of my face

R101 is one of those I don’t give a fuck what’s in it as long as it’s cheap kind of shopper

Trump National Golf Club STRONG ?

"America's Mayor" (though, I trust, that misnomer has been put to rest, finally).

WHET Rudy?

This may be a regional thing but the one that gets me every time is "Alls I know."

"You got this" as a hollow message of support.

R118 Terms like that really brought us together as a country. Now we’re all so divided. I hope Kamala can bring us back together. And I don’t care if I’m called a Mary, I mean it.

I’m watching the Emmys which Is taped and am reminded how much I loathe “speak my truth” or “hear my truth.” Greg Berlanti used it in his acceptance speech. 🤮

“If you look at…”

“Tell me you’re […] without telling me you’re […].”

Anyway….

Macaroni and Cheese 🧀 is

COMFORT food

R120 especially when someone announces cancer or some other disease

R100-Americans don’t need lessons in accuracy from people who drive on the wrong side of the road.

“Cohort” - overused by every right wing podcaster

'You know what I mean?' gets an automatic 'No, explain it better.' from me.

I think that one originated with Oprah, R122

I’m getting sick of “chef’s kiss.”

Okay I will ask...OP, what is the "Chef's kiss"?

Does the Long Island Pizza chef slip his tongue down my throat b4 he takes me HARD on top of the flour bags in the storeroom?

Not that I wouldn't mind it, but I need more dark roast coffee with espresso shots.

Yes, you nailed it

It's an ICONIC brand

"Chef's kiss" is SO over-used and annoying. And I hated it the first time I heard somebody use it.

"Show runner" sounds pretentious to me. I also think the use of "drops" (as in a new product of any kind coming out) sounds odd.

[quote] I’m watching the Emmys which Is taped and am reminded how much I loathe “speak my truth” or “hear my truth.”

Good one! My bitchy little (actually she has a huge diameter) niece uses variations of this to preface verbal abuse of her mother - my long-suffering sister. ALTERNATIVE FACTS is what I call it.

“No worries” makes me want to claw my face off. I am not worried so stop saying that. What ever happened to a simple “no problem”?

And any type of cloying overly and unnecessarily courteous service needs to stop. Can’t we just talk like normal people anymore. I blame Starbucks for starting this stupid trend.

I’m sorry you feel that way.

A shark just bit your leg off

Make America great again

"Got any hot goss?"

For you, R139. No problem.

It could be worse

[quote] And any type of cloying overly and unnecessarily courteous service needs to stop.

What about the use of the word "cloying." That's enough, already. Also, I'm sick of hearing people bitch about "just the right amount" of courtesy a service person is supposed to be showing the customer. Get a life. Be thankful someone's trying to fill your order.

[quote]"Say it with your chest",

Never heard this one; no idea what it's trying to convey.

Whatever the case may be

Case to case basis

I ain’t do nothin

Swear to God

What had happened was …

"Nothing could be further from the truth." Somehow this one gets to me, because it is always so fraudulent and overstated. Oh fuck off, plenty of things are further from the truth, and you know you mean it's basically true but some details are different.

Riz......

There's a lot to unpack in this thread.

R68, Have you heard of end punctuation?

"from mild to wild!"

The phrase used by someone leading a conference call to reign in a talkative rambler not adding any content value to the matter at hand.

" In the interest of time let's move on "

You really want to say "shut the hell up try taking your ADD meds later in the day"

A more direct and professional response would be

"Not seeing the relevance to the issues we are discussing, but I would be happy to discuss this one-on-one with you with some other time."

Of course special rules apply if the individual involved is in a protected class or perceives them self to be in a protected class. Handle with care if you're a white older hetrosexual male leading the call.

“I’m 4 inches.”

Best Practices and Value-added services. Corporate bs speak.

Doesn’t particularly fit in this thread, but on a play date with my 4.5 year old great-nephew yesterday he kept using his father’s weed blower on me. Later, in the presence of his mother, my niece, he kept whispering something to me, while sporting a big smile. When I finally understood what he was saying - that he “blew me” - I cautioned him that that could be misinterpreted.

Oh boo hoo R157.

Anything that's described as a "journey". Shut up!

Colorway

"He/she isn't wrong."

R124 Tell me you’re a cunt without telling me you’re a cunt.

R160 What? Nephew McNastyyyyyyy

R160- Great nephew?

You must be quite old.

This is the way.

I hate "phrases you hate"

R267 not necessarily. If you have siblings that are grandparents then you become a great uncle. The OP could be forty something with older siblings. Or even 60, that’s not old. I think you are think along likes if great grand parents. Sarah and Todd Palin if they have siblings are great aunts and uncles.

The New York Times and their "takeaways."

r60 are you sure he is only 4½? Seems strange that he seemed to know what he was talking about at that age.

I hope that poor child isn’t being sexually abused.

R94 I’ve been trying to be a good Christian lately but you trying me. Make that the last time you speak on my name.

Most servant leaders are neither.

"Humbling." People don't even know what the word means. Usually, it's some type of brag.

Humbling is when you strutted around like you were hot shit, not knowing you had five sheets of toilet paper hanging from the back of your pants.

Tons of cars outside her house

“Spill the tea”

Trigger!!!

(not a phrase, I know)

Gen Z randomly disliking certain words like “moist” or “demure.”

[quote]My lady poosie is tight, pristine, gorgeous, and smells like lilacs.

Shut up, Miss Lindzebelle.

What generation starting saying and misusing "per se" (sometimes spelling it "per say"). I think it was elder Millennials.

“I seen…”

How are so many people stupid?

Unless you are from Australia don’t say “ no worries “.

If I hear one more Gen Zer say somebody understood the assignment for something mildly entertaining, Imma body slam em’.

You might be a few decades late r182. But it wasn't as widespread as now.

"It goes without saying..."

Well then why say it? STFU

[quote] What ever happened to a simple “no problem”?

But that carries the same issue as "no worries". Who said their was a problem. How about we just stick with "You're welcome" or "It's my pleasure"

Whenever I heard "At the end of the day," I immediately think "Is night."

"Six of one or half a dozen of the other."

Fuck you, I'm not doing the math.

[quote] How about we just stick with "You're welcome" or "It's my pleasure"

"It's my pleasure" seems pretty arbitrary and BS, IMO.

I’m bored

A variation of It's my pleasure is It gives me great pleasure. I once heard someone say this and I was laughing for hours afterwards.

R191 - How is it arbitrary of it's said after performing a service or being of assistance?

R193 - You must live a fast food / strip mall kind of life.

The misuse of "out of pocket."

Smash burger, smash cake.

Melty.

"Eating" or "ate" to indicate some sort of personal triumph.

[quote] [R191] - How is it arbitrary of it's said after performing a service or being of assistance?

Was it really a pleasure for some service worker to bring you your food, drink or whatever? It's a job, not an orgasm in the making.

I LOVE "not for nothing."

This is off topic but it is something I

HATE and am totally SICK of seeing all of the time.

I am now a show on Netflix set in Sweden and this girl is wearing a sweat shirt that says NYC on it or when I've seen some character living in Adelaide is wearing an FDNY cap- if you're not in NYC or with the FDNY don't wearing any FUCKIN clothing with that written on it.

Imma

“To be honest.”

Do you object to "frankly" and "to tell you the truth" as well, R201?

I mean....y'all are really scraping the bottom of the barrel with most of these. To make a long story short, you should Just kill yourselves.

I’d like to retire the phrase “I love me some…”

R197 - I don't think arbitrary means what you think it means. And yes, it is possible to feel pleasure (not sexual) in helping or serving someone in the sense of a job well done or if you like that person.

{quote] "Eating" or "ate" to indicate some sort of personal triumph.

Bullshit. Eating my tricks was always a personal triumph.

" innit."

Well, not for nothing, OP but what are you really adding to the conversation? To be fair, you’ve just made a statement of hate that’s neither here nor there. Let’s circle back on this by end of play today and see if we can tease this out a little further, let it marinate a bit and do some joined up thinking on this.

Also. in any interview: “That is a great question.”

Is it?

"Go BIG, or go HOME!"

"I was BORN ready!"

"Living my best life!”

“What’s YOUR excuse?!”

“How’s that GOIN’ for ya?"

“I give 110% !”

NEWSFLASH: Even if you could reach even 90% of your endurance you’d be passed out on a stretcher unable to breath. So yeah, 110% - not a thing.

[quote] Also. in any interview: “That is a great question.” Is it?

YES! Anything is a great question that isn't about that 14 year old I knocked up and forced to get an 8th month abortion in Mexico.

R211 You sound exhausting. Pun intended.

Mac n Cheese

It's Macaroni AND Cheese

Making memories gives me shingles-grade hives

People who refer to pets as "Fur Babies" need professional help.

What about "kitty cats"?

Somehow, "puppy dogs" doesn't bother me as much as "kitty cats."

R217 - Be honest, it's just the mere mention of pussy that bothers you.

"People come up to me, with tears in their eyes, saying, sir...sir..."

“Litigate” in anything other than a legal context.

"I'd like to pick your brain."

I hate it when someone inserts their own name into a name drop. In other words, if you're name was Matt, and you met Bill Clinton, you might say, "I remember when when Bill Clinton said to me, Matt, I couldn't agree more."

"Sir"

"Sir, this is a Wendy's"

R219 Oh, how I hate that. Nobody would have ever called him sir unless he became POTUS. It boggles my mind that it actually happened and he's in the race again. The universe must be having fun with us.

The expression — something is “giving” X or Y. Like for ex, when some fluff piece says some actress's voice is “giving” Greta Gerwig or something.

It’s a fairly recent usage but already overused, and so vague as to be meaningless. Can't wait till it’s gone.

Why does it mean exactly & what industry did this usage slither out of, that everyone has picked it up from?

As a side note, the phrase "If it bleeds, it leads" actually originated from the polite custom of opening a door for a lady.

“Hope is not a strategy”. This sits in the canon of bullshit burped up by leadership coaches and people like that.

R228 - Why is that bullshit? It's true.

Hate is not a strategy

It is what it is. At the end of the day. I'm more annoyed by upspeak and vocal fry thanks to you bitches bringing it to my attention.

Spot on

"On" line --

Who the fuck stands "on" a line?!

One stands "in" a line, as in, "in a row."

Dumbass Yankees.

They originated "reach out" too.

[quote] "On" line -- Who the fuck stands "on" a line?!

Those of us from New York and North Jersey. I understand it started at Ellis Island (located in both New York and New Jersey), where immigrants were actually asked to stand [italic]on[/italic] different lines painted on the floor, according to the disposition of their immigration status.

The math isn't mathing

[quote] I'm more annoyed by upspeak and vocal fry thanks to you bitches bringing it to my attention.

It's so noticeable, IMO, it brings attention to itself.

‘Wait, what?’

I hate that. It’s so prevalent in tv shows and movies these days. Drives me nuts.

African champagne

“Read for filth” and “serving cunt”.

Oh, and while I’m here - not a phrase but “vibing”.

"Read for filth" is an old saying that I don't mind. People now say "read to filth," which I don't like. I also don't like "could care less." It's supposed to be "couldn't care less."

‘Thread Closed.’

Rarely is a reply worthy of actually closing a thread. I find this annoying.

Close to the chest. No, idiot, it's close to the vest. No class these days, I swear. Oh, another one, walah! It's voila!

R242 I once saw some know-it-all queen on the DL quoting Absolutely Fabulous with “La Kwah, sweetie, La Kwah!” And who subsequently got into a right old snit when multiple people replied with the correct spelling of “Lacroix”.

Mind you I once flinched on one of my first flights in the USA when the United FA offered me “Saint Croy” when I asked for a sparkling mineral water, so, what do I know?

Gender diverse and gender expansive. There are males, there are females, and then there are males and females who have overactive imaginations.

"Journey". It automatically turns every block of text into a meaningless blurb. Today, I saw an ad for a box with a LED light you can grow shrooms in. (The light is for effect.) Voice-over:

[quote] " Elevate your self-development journey with our high-tech mushrooms growing device. From Forbes to the Denver Science Conference, truly is taking ..."

It continues to incorporate every single phrase of techno babble known to man. It's everything I hate - and it's spectacular. The clip must have given many tech bros a hard-on.

mushroom 🍄 grower is kind of a piece of ass

FASCINATING

Bajour

"Switch out"

"Switch up"

"Swap out"

"Separate out"

“Again, a fat person stopped by.”

"Hug it out”

“Game changer”

“…be like…”.

We're playing checkers and he's playing chess.

It is what it is.

I was sat/stood there.

I was being demure. No you were being a cunt.

R245 Yes, journey. If someone isn't walking five hundred miles than shut up.

'But it has good bones,' the word bones always slightly empasized to impart a hint of insider knowledge of architecture or design by people who know nothing of either.

'It's a nothing burger!' which sounds like some Midwestern US term taken up by fat frau TV show hosts Rachel Ray/Rosie O'Donnell/etc, a booming, blowsy, 'who want's snacks?' soccer mom phrase that seems to survive only on Datalounge.

The phrases that I most hate (and are detailed above) started out as clever and catchy and then were flogged to death by every wannabe/hipster/commentator/influencer/public figure seeking credibility so that I very quickly started hating them.

Nouns not phrases invented by pseudo-straight gym bros to cover up the fact that they are perving on other pseudo-straight gym bros. E.g. “thicc”, “masc” and “mirin’”.

Thicc was not invented by "gym brows"

"No Problem" - "Back in the Day" - "At the end of the day"

"Thicc" and "masc" are adjectives, not nouns, dear r259. And "mirin" is what, rice wine?

Your call is important to us. Please continue to hold.

To R231, "at the end of the day" is my most overused phrase at work.

I told the client last Sunday "at the end of the day, you have the majority share" so why do you fucking care what your children think? Stop fucking around& let's get this shit motherfucking done!

"It is what it is" What I tell associates after their affairs fall apart& the nastiness starts!

"Don't let it affect your work, never fuck a co-worker" It's not the 80s& 90s anymore, there are new rules.

It happened& it is what it is, now deal with it. My replacement is much better at speaking to associates.

To be fair….

Shut up and suck my pussy!

When someone says "Back in the day," I reply "What exact day was it?" They never know.

Thanks for the correction “Dear” R262 - as a grammar nazi I’ll “oh dear” my error.

“Mirin” in this case, is pronounced as a derivative of “admirin’”, as in “I’m mirin your quads, brah”.

Oh thats what you call it

Hi, Irlene’s ass

Winner winner chicken dinner

Bed rotting

“But among undecideds”

They are fucking cunts at this point and should be referred to as such.

I’ve been waiting to see your cock all of my life!

"Willing to do the work"

"Ready to show up"

Barf

Delulu

“Her and…”.

“Bikini body”, “ample assets”and “peachy posterior”.

To R275-That was 1986 to 1995 for me working on Wall Street!!!

"Soooooo many cocks& soooo little time" I was misunderstood!!

I did a thing

Two sleeps til vaycay!

Hoco for Homecoming. I never heard it referred to as Hoco until this year. I must've been not paying attention.

"So this just happened...".

Any phrase - usually on social media - involving the words "kiddos", "doggo", "Hubs", "hubster" and "the wife".

Not a phrase, but I've noticed so many young people overusing the word, "honestly." They use it irrespective of its meaning, almost as a filler, in the same way they say "literally."

Examples:

Honestly, that dog is so cute!

That song is honestly so awesome!

He was honestly my best friend for years.

PUKE. 🤢

^^^ I'll add "basically" to that R286

I hate to tell you this but ...

No you want to tell me.

Filler words seem to be everywhere. It’s very annoying.

R288 right. Often used when somebody tryna tell me somebody was talking bout me. Thankfully the older I get, I cut off drama filled friends like that. Bitch, don’t tell me someone was trying to talk about me. Well did you try to defend me? I don’t want to hear that shit unless it’s my parents or something.

I mean…

"Step foot" (wrong) as opposed to "set foot" (right).

Any phrase including the non-word "tryna".

“TO BE CLEAR…,”

Stop. Thanks in advance.

One of my coworkers texts and emails in upspeak. Question mark at the end of sentences that don't need a question mark. The weird thing is that, when she actually talks, she doesn't use either upspeak or vocal fry, thank God.

Grow our business

Grow our family

"Right now,” as in “Are you kidding me RIGHT NOW?”

“Are you joking me RIGHT NOW?”

“Are you serious RIGHT NOW?"

R297 I use right now a lot. You’d hate me.

To R297, you forgot, " Please Die right now"!!

“I could care less”. Which means the opposite of what you are trying to say.

At CVS to pick up your prescription-

Date of birth?

It’s none of your business when I was born and it seems very big brother to have to give out this information EVERY time I go to the doctor or pick up my prescription.

Hot water heater.

It’s a “water heater.” The “hot” is not required for clarity.

"Jeepers"

And its derivative, "Jeepers creepers."

"Let me make this perfectly clear!"

R297 (“right now”) is an intensifier. I kinda like it, but would never utter it myself.

r300 “I could care less” is an idiomatic variant. Imagine Judy Holliday saying it in Born Yesterday. It has an implied shrug in it.

R292 (“step foot in”). Incorrect and annoying. Came here to post what you did. Noticeably wrong but not a capital offense, I guess.

[quote]“I could care less” is an idiomatic variant.

Fixed: “I could care less” is an idiotic variant.

“Cool beans!”

“Shut the front door!,” instead of “Shut the fuck up!”

“Oh, my goodness!,” instead place of “Oh, my god!”

They all seem so dainty, overly precious, and performative.

“Shut the front door!,” instead of “Shut the fuck up!”

I've never heard this one.

My frauiest gay male friend says it all the time, r310. He works around a lot of women, so the fraufluence is huge in his case.

R311 - Your frauiest gay male friend says "shut the front door" because he's all about using the back door.

Have a blessed day.

“I’m not crying, YOU’RE crying!”

Shut up. You just want to let me know you’re crying FOR ATTENTION. Even more attention-seeking: idiots who post pictures and videos of themselves crying on social media.

"We're pregnant."

I don't like "freaking" and "freakin" in place of "fucking."

E.g., : "so freaking cute!" Ugh.

"Pretty lady!!" and "hot mama!" chimed in by all her pals on Insta when some heffer posts a thirst trap of herself having had her glamour shot taken.

All she did was wash her hair, slap some eye shadow on, do the "chin-resting-on-hand-to-cover-the-wattle" pose and apply maximum filters.

‘Living my best life!’

As a response when you ask someone how they are

Understood the assignment

Won the internet

That's how we roll.

"Goals" as in "they are couples goals", "squad goals" etc

Low key as a synonym for sort of, as in:

"I was low-key angry," or "I find him low-key amusing."

Almost no other trendy phrase exasperates me as much as this.

"Think ______"

Always annoying and condescending.

"Do better."

Low key is mayve the newer way of saying “kind of.” “Kind of” was probably irritating to older people when it first came into use.

“I was stood”, “he was sat”, “I am sat on the train right now”.

In reply: “Understand” - then proceed to respond by demonstrating that the speaker either doesn’t understand or wasn’t listening.

R327, that sounds so weird to me too. But I think it’s British, not American.

It is British R329 (and not all of Britain - started in northern England but seems to have spread).

It’s now popping up here in Australia as we have a lot of English expats here. I’m doing my best to stamp it out amongst the locals.

It makes my ears bleed when I hear it in an Australian accent.

[quote]R50 "Reach out" is for the stupid people.

Well, I’d say the good thing about it is it’s up to the listener to decide the best way to do this: calling, texting, an email, dropping by…. So, it’s kind of graciously flexible.

^^ I mean if it’s given as a directive: “Someone needs to reach out to that elderly charwoman we used to gangbang; there’s another bachelor party coming up.”

What’s wrong with “contact”? It covers all communication types and is one word not two, for the stupid.

"I might add"

[quote]R106 When people say/write, "Well, personally, I think..." Why add the word "personally?" YOU'RE the one speaking - we know it's your opinion.

I’m confused by “personal friend,” as in, “He is a personal friend of mine.”

Does one have impersonal friends? Aren’t those called acquaintances?

I had to laugh when I worked on the phones at Ticketmaster and an operator would tell a customer to go to a ticket seller for their tickets to make their personal choice.

[quote] I’m confused by “personal friend,” as in, “He is a personal friend of mine.”

Maybe in contrast to someone who you're on friendly terms with at work. (You might grab lunch together every so often, but if either were to quit the job, there would be no further contact.)

"It's all good" appropos of nothing, just to fill a conversational void.

[quote]R336 I had to laugh when I worked on the phones at Ticketmaster and an operator would tell a customer to go to a ticket seller for their tickets to make their personal choice.

“Personal Choice” does sound a bit like it’s an abortion[bold] : ) [/bold]

“I’m here for my personal choice. It should be down for 11:00.”

My "personal choice" would be "Tuna salad on toasted whole wheat with cheddar cheese"

with a Cherry coke& BBQ potato chips.

“I’m feeling some kinda way.” (Well, that just clears it right up!)

“Adult beverage”

[quote]R340 My "personal choice" would be "Tuna salad on toasted whole wheat with cheddar cheese.” With a Cherry coke & BBQ potato chips.

I can see you embrace life.

To R342-Living my best life. Thank You 4 understanding!!

Divine femininity or divine masculine

“Personal Choice” does sound a bit like it’s an abortion : )

It was because when we sold tickets on the phone we gave customers what the computer said was next available. However you could override that and choose seating if it was a seated event. I did that once when a celebrity called and once I realized it was someone I liked, I gave them better seats. Another time someone rang back the day after the event to thank for me getting them front seats to a concert.

I can't even

Adulting

I can't adult today

Pop of color.

Unpack the knapsack.

I HATE the expression

Comfort Food

“Am I missing something??!”

“We have two on the aisle for Back To The Future The Musical!”

[quote]R349 I HATE the expression Comfort Food

Why? It’s a specific thing. Plates of asparagus, aspic, anything cold, really (aside from ice cream) are not comfort foods.

Comfort foods remind one of childhood and are easy to eat: bowls of macaroni and cheese, tomato soup, pot roast, mashed potatoes… they are immediately soothing and remind you of simpler times.

[quote] ‘Living my best life!’

Ha! And all this time I thought Oprah was saying "live your best lie"

Asparagus, Hollandaise sauce, and bread could be comforting.

^^ okay, fat whore!

R347, thank you for reminding me of the horror that is "pop of color." Every frau decorating/fashion/recipe blog has used it at least once per post since 2004, and if I ever again hear or see it deployed without a smirk of irony, I will pop a blood vessel. 😱

Don’t forget to include the hand movement, R356 - start with a fist then splay the fingers as you say “pop!”.

Also in the home decor field: "whimsical."

"Greeting. You are hereby ordered to report for induction . . . "

As we’re talking home decor I’ll throw in “scattered cushions” and “a neutral palette”.

I LOVE "American eclectic"

"Love Wins."

Appears a lot in official Pete-Chasten photos with the camera-ready kids.

"Here's the thing."

“Protect children”

This is almost always code for shitting on gays or some other unpopular group of people.

Keeping with well-gone-dry HGTV shows... "accent wall". All I care about is if it's a load-bearing wall. What you're talking about is finishing off a half-empty can of red paint.

Victim-blaming

[quote] What you're talking about is finishing off a half-empty can of red paint.

😝😆😂

"I love that for you" sounds condescending and rude, but it's treated as a great compliment.

^ Hmmm, I'm not so sure it's meant as a compliment. It's very similar to the longer-established, "Good for you!" You'd have to be pretty obtuse to not realize the sarcasm and slight.

Motherfucking assholes, son of a bitch cock-sucking bastards, SHIT!

regarding the ABC TV layoffs, the CEO says that the company needs to be “sustainable, efficient and future-forward.”...

tf does *that* mean?🤔

I don´t mind so much that mindless 'now with a hint of substance, but not, really' corporate jibberish. It's what corporations do: try to day the most with the least words when selling something, and try to say the least with the most words when they would prefer not to say anything.

But how I do judge people who work in these places start bandying about these hollow randomly generated words when the boss isn´t there to appreciate the apple-polishing, or worse when they take it home with them and apply it to the non-business realm. It´s unforgiveable to try to spread office jargon to the greater world or when someone isn´t paying you to do. Keep the virus under control.

This was GIFTED to me.

How I despise that one, R373.

I have a friend who works with big donors for a non-profit and, while I can understand how it has crept into her vocabulary, hearing her use it outside the context of work sets my teeth on edge.

Wait for it….

“Gas lighting “

Why?.. just why.

We not lighting stoves are we..

r376 If you aren't just joking and really don't know: It's a reference to what happens in the 1944 film [italic]Gaslight[/italic].

Gimme a SIDE of SLAW

It's not slaw. It's called Cole Slaw.

No one thinks you're going to make a meal out of Cole Slaw. You don't have to preface it with SIDE.

Yummers!

"Fuck me!"

No thank you, I am sufficient.

. It´s unforgiveable to try to spread office jargon to the greater world

I had a similar experience with a friend who did a psychology degree and after that she spoke like a textbook.

My truth

Price point.

Yeah eh

R383 I couldn’t even use it in a sentence

"Plant-based"

"Lived experience"

"[insert buzzword here] the narrative"

Flip the script. Just, ugh.

R385 that's on you

I hope you’re not picking up any lowly price points by cruelly insulting me

Well, I see where I’m not wanted! I will just pick myself up, dust myself off and proudly walk off with the few price points I have been rewarded.

"So yeah" starting every sentence of millennial-speak.

i have a lot on my plate

^ Uh-oh. I use the plate one a lot. Might not anymore.

I never realized how many phrases I hate until this thread. Just reading is pissing me off more and more.

[quote] that's on you

I hate this one.

I like "flipped the script."

White Privilege, when said by some non-white person with an Ivy League education and a salary a few hundred thousand above mine.

"You got this"

"So yeah, there sure a lot of phrases to hate in this thread. Thanks, DL."

R377, right, and when used to mean “similar to what happened to Ingrid Bergman in the movie Gaslight”, it’s a useful addition to the English idiom. Unfortunately, it has become frau-speak and social media-speak and therapist-speak for plain old lying, which is stupid and pointless and should be stamped out.

Wife says to cheating husband: “You’re cheating on me.”

He says: “I am not, and you’re a bitch for accusing me.” That is not gaslighting.

He says: “No, dear, no. You’re imagining things. Again. Have you stopped taking your meds? I’m going to call Dr Freud tomorrow; you need to talk to him. I’m terribly worried about you, darling. These fantasies and illusions with no basis in fact have to stop. You’re headed for another breakdown.” THAT is gaslighting.

That sounds like gaslighting. If he said no I am not I have always been faithful then that’s a lie. But stepping over the line and suggesting it’s her bring a bitch that’s the problem sounds like ⛽️ 💡 ing

being*

“I don’t feel comfortable with my gender identity.”

You’re a gay men who gets a little girly sometimes. Get over it. The rest of us did.

[quote]r385 I couldn’t even use [price point] in a sentence

“Not to put too fine a price point on it, but…”

kink shaming

Poor Val

No Problem - At the End of the Day

To R405-The only time I have ever heard "kink shaming" being used was in the movie "Fire Island". When Joel Lee& Bowen were getting HIGH on a deck in the movie FI. I attended 11 of the "LGBTQRSTUVWXYZ" meetings at the DNC in Wash.DC.& I never heard kink shaming being used by the "under 35'ers" at the meetings. I heard alot shit from the other members of these meetings.

“Go for it”.

I’m irked when waiters bleat “Enjoy!”

Why, thank you! It never would have occurred to me to enjoy eating something I specifically chose off an extensive menu!

Stupidass

"Akbar, you _are_ the father."

I hate 10-year-old-boy-from-1957-mentality people who use the word “super” as an adverb, as in “it was super fun.”

"Let's Agree to Disagree"

This never solved anything. It's a gaslighting method of shoving everything under the carpet. This 80's Boomer phrase needs to go.

"I am sorry you feel that way"

Um, no you are not, you just wont admit you are wrong.

R410 , you sound like an unbearably crotchety old queen. FFS, casual pleasantries trigger you? Yikes.

Happy heavenly birthday!

"As a mother of two...."

Oh boy, here comes the parents are entitled to say what they want and everyone else must shut up because your opinion only matters if you have the same exact life situation.

My partner

Makes you sound like a vaudeville act

R419 is obviously partner-less

[quote]R419 Makes you sound like a vaudeville act

Somethin’ WRONG with strippin’?

“Bro” + any fucking thought added to a fucking sentence initiated using this fucking word.

"Diversity, equity and inclusion". 🤡 It's woke-speak for "equal opportunity"I. There is nothing with the phrase "equal opportunity".

“I love me some…

sesh

Mussy and boy pussy. 🤢

LFG!

Ass lickin good

"It's giving me..."

"Hump Day!" It's always a bitter disappointment.

R416 I agree with r410 about Enjoy! not because waitstaff say it but because "enjoy" is a transitive verb and takes a direct object (unless you grew up in Flatbush with Yiddish-speaking grandparents).

Ex: He enjoys red wine, but not the hangover. We enjoyed ourselves yesterday.

When my microwave beeps, the screen says, ENJOY YOUR MEAL (no ending punctuation). I love that. It's a Bosch.

Taco Tuesday

Fag Tax Friday

"We must protect ___ at all costs!"

I don’t like “no holds barred” … simply because people always say “no HOLES barred”

(which could be a good tee shirt, actually.)

"I was today years' old when..."

"Welp." -- Instant identifier of an idiot who is to be avoided.

The clinic says I need to call you about last weekend...

Anyways...

That album slaps.

Sick beat. It's the new Phat.

Not a phrase, but “prolly” for probably. I still can’t believe people speak this stupidly.

Someone “suicides”

Let me be clear

To be frank

Let me be clear is now being used by everybody everywhere. People love saying it.

“Let me be clear” implies that I normally produce a word salad . I hate that phrase.

“No problem” - instead of “you are welcome”. Even “mh-mhh” is better.

Unalived

When someone-- usually some neighborhood mommy cunt -- makes a request for recommendations for service people and rather than saying 'please' or 'thank you' at the end of the post, she writes '.... and GO!' As if anyone who reads it is at her beck and call. Or we're in a potato-sack race!

R449 I used to know a gay guy like that. A girlie Taiwanese little shit. He would post topics on Facebook and then say “Discuss!” as if he was so important that everyone had to engage him. He was also woke AF and a professional victim. I truly hope he becomes a hate crime victim one day.

This one is likely going to irritate some of you, but I notice when we say “people that” instead of “people who”. I thinks it’s probably grammatically acceptable, but I prefer the word “who” when we refer to humans. It sounds more refined.

^^ That’s meant to spell “I Think it’s probably grammatically acceptable “

Word salad

Talking out both sides ofnthe mouth

You cant get water from a rock or however the fuck it goes

[quote] Let me be clear is now being used by everybody everywhere. People love saying it.

It's even less clear than my "Let me make one thing perfectly clear," which I coined.

R451, I dislike "people that," too. Really brings out the DL Oh, dear! In me.

People THAT is not acceptable unless those people are not human beings. It's a pet peeve of mine too. I also get annoyed with people mixing up that and which, farther and further, passed and past, or less and fewer.

Lots of picky prisses here…

^ is a cliché-loving illiterate.

R456 OK, then let me add people who misuse the term “myself” instead of “me”. Sample: “if you have any questions or concerns, feel free to email Frederick or myself”.

Same to you r459 - PIG

“Transgender”

This isn’t a real thing. There are transsexuals who want to transition and cross dressers who want to wear the clothes of the opposite sex. That’s all there ever was.

OP why do you hate to his/her credit?

How many on here font just as you would in a corporate email or published editorial. I know I don’t.

[quote] “Let me be clear” implies that I normally produce a word salad . I hate that phrase.

"Honestly"(as a preface) implies that you lie most of the time and that you're lying, right now.

I like "word salad."

“Let me be clear” means you may not have understood what the fuck I was saying before, so let me put emphasis on it so that you get it now.

"Let me be clear" is pretty harsh, IMO. Unvarnished, it's:

[quote] Look, you dolt.

True, R468. And, as such, it has its uses.

You cant get water from a rock or however the fuck it goes

R454 Do you mean you can't get blood from a stone?

getting laid

it's so lowbrow.

I'm getting laid right now.

I'm also getting railed

I think the idiom is "blood from a turnip."

You may not be able to get blood from a stone, but you can certainly get blood using one.

"goss"

What would you say instead of "it's all good"?my friend says it all the time

"Dox"

Sounds like a ridiculous hero character from an old-timey serial. Dox Reardon will save the town!

I hate when white people say it’s all good. They just don’t get the rhythm right or something. Leave that phrase alone white people.

My Fur Babbies

R479 = RACIST

Cisgender

No just because I was born male and identify as male, call myself male does not mean you get to throw your own labels on me to balance out your Trans label obsession BS. Stop trying to re-define other people just to make yourself feel better. Call yourself whatever you want, leave my label alone.

People of color

I remember when “colored” was considered offensive. But now “people of color” is okay?

^^ your label should be “mothballs”

Colon dweller

[quote]R482 Cisgender…. Call yourself whatever you want, leave my label alone.

Your label should be “granny’s mothballs”

^^^^ I agree with you^^^^R482

I had to fly to Wash DC last week because some "under 35'er" decided to include me into a "cisgender category" I explained to the man I was born MALE and will die a "DGWM with 6 children". There ain't no cisgendered or queer in labeling me.

I am a Gay White man, and yes, I have stated my boundaries, the cisgendered man no longer has a job in the DNC.

R477: "It's OK". "We're OK." "It's fine." "Don't worry about it." We managed with these phrases and many variations for a long time before "it's all good" came along. I don't especially mind "it's all good", but there are alternatives that convey the same sentiment.

This has annoyed and offended me for decades:

"And how are you guys today?" "Can I get you guys anything to drink?"

"GUYS" when speaking directly to NOT-YOUNG WOMEN.

The musical isn't called "Guys and GUYS"!

R483, The wording is part of the drive to stress "people" before "descriptor," syntactically.

"Children with autism" I think is the Ur-expression.

[quote] The musical isn't called "Guys and GUYS"!

I argued for it, but Frank and the studio said "NO!"

[quote] The wording is part of the drive to stress "people" before "descriptor," syntactically.

Thus, "collectors of garbage" and "responders of first"

Lets table this

I was born ready

R489, OK. How about "can I get you dolls anything to drink?"

No? Hmm. Perhaps if we substituted "ladies"? "Girls"? "Women"? No, no, perhaps politically OK but awkward as fuck.

You "dolls, girls, ladies, women," really need to come up with a collective form of address that you don't find offensive, the way men have been "guys" for a long, long time.

R494, Not so fast. The pronoun "you" has been correct since its inception.

"Welcome. May I get you /you two/ either of you anything to drink?"

But to your specifics: "Women" works just fine.

I personally would be tha-rilled by the clever boy who called me "doll" in a "Double Indemnity" kind of way!

In reference to "guy," it appears to have gained ground as a name for men post-Guy Fawkes. Irony Alert: My birthday is November 5, Guy Fawkes Day (and Election Day)!

The use of "my", in particular in Scruff, GrowlR or similar profiles:

"I love my rugby, and I do love my pizza and beers". "I love spooning, but I do love my nights out as well".

Under his eye.

"This never happened". "Prove it". "I've never seen this".

Just because something is not in your very limited experience, doesn't mean that it isn't in anybody else's, flyover shut-in.

"It is what it is."

Which to me always translates as "STFU, I don't care."

[quote]r497 Under his eye.

May the Lord open.

Your card has been declined

R494 - I always rather liked being called a broad, a dame, or a skirt.

Sir, if you don't put your pants back on I'm calling security

This isn't my first rodeo.

Yeah, we can tell by your bitter attitude and face to match.

I see you conveniently stopped short of cumdump, Helen

I’ve read some respected authors use “shook his/her head yes.”

I always thought you nodded your head yes and shook your head no. It grates on me when I read “shook his head yes” but I guess it’s okay!

#H8It

Maybe their shook their head all about?

R502 & R505 will you floozies put a cork in it?

Teen Chapel Roan shook her head so hard she ended up in the hospital. On Vicodin.

[quote]"And how are you guys today?" "Can I get you guys anything to drink?" This has annoyed and offended me for decades.

Then r489 may I suggest you get over it. Please. It’s been a commonly accepted general idiom for more than decades. People mean no disrespect. I suppose you also take exception to “dude” or any other idiom that doesn’t exclusively encompass your frau-dom.

Bob is your uncle- anyone who says this should be kicked in the face

It's actually "Bob's your uncle", R511.

And around here that has been updated to "Bob's your gay auntie".

"You do you"

[quote] "You do you"

I thought that was code for masturbation.

In theory- there was a stupid manager at my old job who used this term to explain the simplest stupid shit like a complaint from an irate caller and stupid call centre work jargon, and I thought it was due to her lack of education- High school degree and some college HOWEVER I heard the term used by someone who is highly educated - supremely highly educated - like law degree and all..

What the fuck does ," in theory " mean, like what the fuck??? Unless you're a philosopher- there is no reason to use this term ..

In theory- there was a stupid manager at my old job who used this term to explain the simplest stupid shit like a complaint from an irate caller and stupid call centre work jargon, and I thought it was due to her lack of education- High school degree and some college HOWEVER I heard the term used by someone who is highly educated - supremely highly educated - like law degree and all..

What the fuck does ," in theory " mean, like what the fuck??? Unless you're a philosopher- there is no reason to use this term ...

In theory, your post is good, r515.

Posting it repeatedly undermines its impact, however.

In a tutorial class one guy was pontificating about something and prefaced every statement with The Thing is. It got me and my buddy so amused that it was a relief when he said something meant to be funny and we could laugh out loud.

“Off of” when the speaker actually means “from”.

“So, -“ anything - it’s a verbal prop. Just stop it.

“like” inserted randomly into sentences. Just stop it.

I was just reading a trip report where the writer referred to his wife/fiancee/girlfriend as "my lady" so had to sprint over here before vomiting profusely.

"_____ at its finest."

Speak your truth..

“Speaking truth to power.” “Za” for the word “pizza”

“I’ll reach out to you …..” always sounds like the speaker is stupid and thinks “I’ll reach out to…” makes them sound educated and fabulous.

Someone is explaining something or recounting an event…”So, I said I thought it would be a good idea to (whatever), right?” Right? I hate that a lot and I’m hearing it a lot. “So then, right in the middle of the meeting, a giant cow crashes down from the ceiling. RIGHT?”

If you’re saying it, I assume you think what you’re saying is an accurate description of an event or a theory or a luncheon at The Olive Garden. So why are you asking me after every third sentence for corroboration? Right?

" king"

Something my husband does that I hate: he uses the diminutive form of any actor whose name can be diminutized (made up word?)

Thus Robert DeNiro is referred to as “Bobby DeNiro”; Nicholas Cage he calls “Nick Cage” and “Samuel L. Jackson” becomes “Sam”.

I’ve repressed most of names of the dear, dear friends we’ve never met but I know all “Roberts” are in danger - Bob Redford, Bob Downey, Jr and Bob’s your uncle.

Gilbert Gottfried was “Gil Gottfried”. I think part of the reason Gottfried died was because he found out some stranger was being a douche with his name.

My husband is a pretty brilliant guy who manages design for the audio video section of a media company that’s been around for 100 years. His group has won three technical Oscars and a few technical Emmys. You see the name of his company about 85% of the time when you go to a movie theatre.

We’re film nerdy enough to name our first daughter Raimi after Sam Raimi.

But the number of A or B listed actors, animators, cinematographers we’ve ever actually met, much less befriended, is zero.

I find this to be extremely cringe-inducing and embarrassing.

Please make him stop.

R520, ITA and a woman using the phrase "my man" is vomit inducing too.

R525–it’s an industry thing.

“We’re monogamous.” When said by a gay couple.

You’re lying. You know it. I know it. Everyone on Grindr knows it. And yet you think everyone will believe you.

[520] and [526] - ITA with you both.

.But, [520], don’t let your hatred for the phrase “my lady” stop you from seeing “The Lonely Lady” with Pia Zadora.

One of the most jaw-dropping, hilarious, shitty movies ever made. I think the budget for the film was $59.99- you could see the cardboard used for background, swaying.

Pia Zadora, tiny trophy wife to decrepit billionaire Meshulam Riklis, stars- breaking all records for “Worst Actress Ever in the History of the World.”

“The Lonely Lady” also featured actors Jason Klassi and Shane Rimmer. I think those names were the actors’ version of “Alan Smithee”.

It’s a genuine laugh riot.

^^ I believe Ray Liotta made his film debut in that, playing a rapist (?)

“1000 percent”

[quote]r520 I was just reading a trip report where the writer referred to his wife/fiancee/girlfriend as "my lady" so had to sprint over here before vomiting profusely.

[quote]r526 a woman using the phrase "my man" is vomit inducing too.

How dare you ? !

[italic]’cause I’m your lady / And you are my man…

R529 did she go on to triumph on the stage in “The Diary of Anne Frank”?

"No."

"No."

"Last call!"

lady-in-waiting.

Why do woman still use this around wedding time, what millennium is this?

I’ve never heard any bride use that phrase, actually.

I have R538, not necessarily a bride, but people around her.

In America?

A lady-in-waiting is a woman whose job is to help a queen or princess. Aka BFF.

Well all brides are queens, princesses or bridezillas depending on what day you catch them.

R540, there is a whole "ladies in waiting" on Pricescope which is a huge forum for woman to chat about their jewelry, diamonds and wedding rings. So the term is definitely being used.

Never heard of "ladies in waiting" outside of royalty and never heard of Pricescope.

“My bad”.

Icon.

[quote] someone who is highly educated - supremely highly educated - like law degree and all..

R515, bless your heart, you sweet thang....

“Guilty pleasure”.

“I’m sorry you feel that way”

[quote]Never heard of "ladies in waiting" outside of royalty and never heard of Pricescope.

Try Google.

"Have a nice day!"

But what if I want to have a shitty day? It's my God damn right to be miserable without your candy-ass, meaningless platitudes. And while we're at it... why just a day? Are you secretly hoping my night is terrible? Do you just not care about the rest of my week? Why are you so stingy with good wishes? You know, go fuck yourself! That's my usual reply when someone says, "Have a nice day."

Girlie

“Let me ask MY MAN”

Husbear.

Yeppers.

Sweetie Darling. Oh, and La Croix.

“I’ll cut you off”

Eye-watering.

"Y'all have yourselves a knee-slappin', foot-stompin good ol' time!"

I’m watching footage of a trial taking place in Florida. The Judge, The Prosecution and the Defense are all saying “y’all.”

Uggh. As if southern accents don’t make people sound stupid enough - -

“I’ll wait” gets a vicious virtual face slap from me every time.

Is this trial by any chance taking place in Jacksonville r560?

You know what they say about North Fla ..

“Ope, you’re fine!” 🤡

“Yeah yeah yeah”. In every sentence.

Along with “nah nah” which means “no” and “nah nah nah nah nah” which means “absolutely not”.

To Each His Own

Phrases that exclude “that”, OP.

Gave you a thumbs up, r567 although in some circs, such as a short title, the absence of “that” usually doesn’t detract from clarity. I knew what OP meant.

But thrashing my way through long sentences with dependent classes, and zero commas, just to find out one of those clauses should have been introduced with “that”, so I have to go back and read the whole fucking thing over to figure out what the moron was saying., does not make me a merry reader.

I dislike most of the corporate speak: "circle back," "reach out," "team," "touch base," etc. But I've made peace with all of it.

“Tell us how you REALLY feel! Nyeh-heh-heh!”

Any time someone starts saying "The definition of insanity is..." I have to fight everything in me not to interrupt them or walk away.

At this point the definition of insanity is repeating that same tired expression expecting anything other than an exasperated side-eye.

"boots on the ground"

"hit the ground running"

Meghan Markle ruined both of those phrases for me permanently. She said both phrases constantly and then lasted five seconds and bailed.

Hello

Goodbye

How are you?

I have bad news, far worse news, and good news. The bad news is that there's no good news.

"Gotta go drop the kids off in the pool." So classy.

"make no mistake..."

Oh OK, I'll try not to make any MISTAKE

You do You.

"Hands down."

That was, hands down, the best pizza I ever ate in my life.

" on God"

"Rate"

I want to wring necks when I hear this garbage

I know what “touch base” means, but not what imagery it’s supposed to inspire.

I always imagined the base of a swimming pool… like, let’s get on solid footing in the shallower end. Let’s stop paddling around and touch the base of the pool with our feet.

(I realize this doesn’t make total sense!)

[quote]R579 "on God" "Rate"

Can you use them in a sentence?

[quote] I know what “touch base” means, but not what imagery it’s supposed to inspire.

At first, I thought: "Baseball." But I think base just means your home or your house, the place you should always go back to.

Hmmm. Interesting. Thanks : )

I See YOU

Touch base is thought to have originated in the sport of baseball, where both runner and fielders have to "touch base" in order to be safe or record an out.

r581 Not OP but "On God! The man was high off his ass trying to drink mercury out of a thermometer." - Typically used as an abbreviation of "I swear on God"

Rate is apparently some new slang the kids are using to mean they really like or do not like something or someone. "I rate Beyonce's new album, but I don't rate Sir Davis Liquor"

It must be the new thing to create slang by just not completing a common expression or sentence.

[quote]R585 Touch base is thought to have originated in the sport of baseball, where both runner and fielders have to "touch base" in order to be safe or record an out.

I’ve heard that before - but I don’t get how the meaning transfers to how we use the phrase. “I’m just checking in with you… to score a run” doesn’t really balance out.

Black Adjacent

No Italians are not black adjacent just because they tan well.

Oh em jee

What Say You?

R580, perhaps in this case "base" originally meant headquarters or home base, meaning you would both quickly meet "back at the base" to catch up.

"In my opinion"

My 1st Boss on Wall Street Harvey (wonderful Boss-he had to put up with me& other hotshots who claimed to know it all).

Every staff meeting we had; Harvey would start off by "the only opinion that matters is mine opinions are like assholes everybody has 1". Between 1985-1995, I must have started every work conversation I had with my boss& senior staff that way a billion times.

To R96, I hate the whole pronoun bullshit, never used them& never will. I got called out on it many times by several senior co-workers. However, I outranked them all.

My boss has told me several times "The client list you control, you do what you want".

R588 but 23 and me says I’m exactly 1.2% North African

23 and me is so inacurate once you get down into the 5% or less range, it's basically a guess. They even admit that, not just in those exact words. For example, almost everyone I know who took that test is suddenly 1% Ashkenaz Jew. So am I now Jewish adjacent even though I am mostly Native American and Italian?

Brace yourself.

Ancestry (3 times) and 23 and me (2 times) plus my older brother (Charles) from the same mother took the same tests.

We both have African ancestry 2.93% (Kenyan, Sudanese& Ethiopian). Chuck and I had 2 different DNA dads.

Which part is the phrase you hate, darling r597?

“That’s not our wheelhouse.”

STOP!

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