Men of Datalounge, do women flirt with you?

It's the biological clock ticking.

This is the same phenomenon we talked about in the did you ever have sex with a woman thread, there is a fetishists/homophobe who keeps wanting to "advertise" the opposite sex/vagina in front of gay men. Now it's about women flirting with gay men. Take your ass back to the discord server asshole.

R2, I have no idea WTF you're on about. I've been on DL for decades, not years.

Yes, and I'm 69. Women from 60 on at this point, but they always used to. I wanted to run.

Women from 60 on?

I can still turn a head!

R3, Same been here since 95, I'm talking about thread posts that are attempting to establish romatnic/sexual relationships with the opposite sex as some sort of conversion tactic for gay men.

R7, I aim to convert no one, unless it's straight/bi/confused men to gay.

"romantic/sexual"

Why, I've been told that members of the fairer sex see me as practically one of their own!

Yes when they see my car.

Some frau coworkers have.

It hasn't happened for awhile but in my forties, they did.

Yes, especially women of color.

Yes. I have amazing style and take good care of my body. I get compliments all day long. Both men and women want to fuck me. It's human nature to be attracted to esthetically pleasing people. They key is to act detached. People always want what they can't have. I'm not available to everyone, and that's part of the attraction.

Yep. Women really like me now. I grew out my hair and now walk around like I don't give a shit.

I'm 44 and dark skinned Mexican with a huge bulge. *

R17, are you in NYC?

It's interesting because I think for gay men, your 20s thru early 30s is typically considered your "gay prime." Little interest from women during this era.

Fast forward to late 30s, 40 and it flips. Interesting.

No, because I look really ugly lately. They did pretty often like 2 years ago.

My BFF says women can tell when a man is gay so they don't bother to flirt with one who is.

Men who are not repugnant enter the most desirable age at 50. Their value goes up as they age as long as they don’t shit their pants. They want someone with their own apartment and some form of income.

I was at a club with a girlfriend and this gorgeous barman was flirting with her. She just wasn't interested. I asked her why not? He's gorgeous. She said because he is a barman.

Men get hotter in their forties and fifties. I understand why these women are hitting on you guys.

Worse than a backup dancer or an Armani salesbottom!

R21, a lot of women have terrible gaydar.

Some women know a man is gay and flirt anyway.

In answer to Op’s question yes, even when they know i am gay.

They also did in my 20s and 30s, and here i agree with r25, some women have no gaydar. I had to have quite some embarrassing conversations…

^meantr26

[quote] My BFF says women can tell when a man is gay so they don't bother to flirt with one who is.

I think for some women, the opposite is true. They love to flirt, but don't want it to lead to anything. They just enjoy it for its own sake. Makes them feel young, attractive, saucy. I think this is especially true for older women, and could explain why OP is getting more flirtation from women as he gets older (I'm presuming that they are older, too).

Not that I know of. Maybe thy are and I havent noticed

R21- BULLSHIT.

Straight women unknowingly marry gay men all the time.

This happened to me about 8 months ago. I’m in my 50s and she’s in her 30s. Knew I was gay. I think this is the only time a woman has ever flirted with me…ever.

I’m balding, so no.

Some women might be like straight men are re lesbians, they see you gay, but think that it is just because you haven't met the right girl yet. Right girl being her.

I used to get women blatantly hitting on me when I was young and cute, but it has happened a few times recently. I’m 58! Fuck off!

R2 = angry dyke. With, I realize, is redundant.

Who cares about women.

Men Of Datalounge- Do MEN still flirt with you?

I was on a bear watching safari in Canada last month. Most of the people on the tour that day were from Europe. This tall slim bearded guy about 44 years old gave me a couple of stares- not flirting per say but he was checking me out. At my age 58 years old- it's nice to still be checked out.

How were the Canadian bears R38?

R39- They looked a bit emaciated for bears.

Don't let them turn you into a pussyfucker, OP! It's all a conspiracy. Resist! Resist!

Women viciously face-slap me

No one flirts with me anymore at my age.

R43- How old are you?

and

Did anyone flirt with you when you were of a younger age?

A better question would be why are women such hot in the ass hoes these days. We lost something when women decided not to be ladies.

Occasionally, when I'm travelling for work. I smile obliviously and remain polite but formal. There are countries where young women will flirt with any older male Western tourist; I don't flatter myself into thinking they are genuinely attracted. A cheerful but firm "darling, you're barking up the wrong tree" would maybe work (though I've never had to try it out).

They don’t flirt with me, but they are comfortable with me, since they sense that I will have no sexual aggression against them.

Women flirt with me just about everyday. Especially in the early 40-50s age bracket.

Insincere cunts! They just wan't to know were I get my kaftans.

[quote] I’m balding, so no.

My sister has always liked bald or balding men.

flirting can be....taken the wrong way.

How Do Women Flirt: 8 Flirting Signs From a Woman

All the time. Daily. And I probably read "gay" from outer space. But I have all my own hair, I'm relatively slim and fit and in the males 60+ category where pickings are slim, that makes me a catch, gay or not. Meanwhile I could run directly into gay men in their 30s ,40s, or 50s walking on the street, and they would turn to each other and say, "Did you just feel a stiff breeze?"

[quote]But I have all my own hair,

As opposed to someone else having part of it?

Women don't flirt with me, and men don't, either. I've been told I'm good-looking, but I think I'm missing some "it" factor that is charismatic. On the flip side, there's some downright unattractive men who seem to attract all the ladies through some hard-to-define charm.

I thought being old would help.

It's worse now than ever.

Yes. When I was young, older women. One was shameless. Now, not so much but when they flirt you know they’re looking for a sugar daddy. And not finding one.

Nobody flirts with me. But this afternoon I was having lunch with a friend. A guy walked in the restaurant, smiled at my friend, beckoning him over. My friend went over, they shook hands, introduced themselves, exchanged numbers. All in the space of thirty seconds. The guy left. Texted my friend almost immediately. Happens to him all the time.

R58- That would REALLY annoy me.

Does it annoy you?

When I dress and make up like them, yes.

R53- I have all my own hair- that doesn't mean anything necessarily.

I was just watching I've Got A Secret September 27, 1965. One of the panelists was Bill Cullen. He had plenty of hair but he had ZERO sex appeal. He had no curb appeal what so ever.

I used to have woman flirt with me once in a while but nowadays not at all. I was at Costco one day. This was about 2012 I was 46 years old. I was leaving the store and she YELLED after me. I thought she was an employee and something had dropped out of my wagon or I had left something behind. She was just another customer and when she caught up to me she just wanted to ask me about my storage bins ( quite a banal thing to shout after like that). Another time at Costco a woman was asking me some inane question about my six gallons of Poland Spring in a carton I was buying ( what an interesting purchase worthy of a conversation).

R62: Just curious. Do you need to buy bottled water where you live? Is the tap water of poor quality? You could use a filter instead and save a lot of money.

R63- I agree. It's not good for the environment to constantly buy those gallon jugs of water- which I still do. I live just north of NYC. I drink my tap water at home to at times-especially at night or in the morning when I get up.

Thanks, R64. I know, buying bottled water can simply become a habit sometimes.

I don't understand people buying bottled water. It's expensive (vs. a Brita filter, etc.) and it's fuckin heavy to carry from your car to your house, etc.

Not in recent years (I'm eldergay adjacent now) but for some reason in my 20s the black women I worked with were all about me and were always flirty.

I'm German and Scotch/Irish (yes, DNA has been tested and verified) but some of them thought I was a light skinned black guy because I had curly hair and a somewhat large nose.

R45 MARY!

R67- DUH!

If they thought you were some type of black guy these black gurls also thought you had the BBC so they were all over you.

R59, I see why you’d be annoyed. But it honestly doesn’t bother me. We’re super close friends. Nothing sexual between us. And he’s the type who attracts attention. No, not at all by his behavior. He’s soft spoken, unassuming. But he’s very tall, very handsome, built, movie-star looks.

Maybe if it had been a quiet meal in a nice place my attitude would be different. And he wouldn’t have gotten up from the table mid-meal.

But it was just a casual joint and he was on a quick lunch break from work.

I had stuff like that happen to me many years ago. Not anymore. But I’m happy for him to have fun.

R67, have you had a DNA test? Maybe you are black.

I'm 44, and I noticed the same thing, especially since I've gotten into shape again.

Yes, all the time. I’m a good looking fit guy with a wedding ring. I’m catnip baby

Why are you wearing a wedding ring?

R70- Not because I thought you might be attracted to him but because you’re invisible to people and he gets noticed all of the time.

Sometimes, yes. And it’s really embarrassing.

Sometimes. When I was young it was just stupid, talks-too-loudly bar fly types, usually about10 or so years older. Accustomed to offering up the least hint of interest and being flooded with attention in return, when that didn't go to plan they sometimes couldn't believe they had no gaydar (nor talent for guessing ages.). Some were charming about it, others pushy and affronted.

From 30s to 60s, it changes. Very few bad guessers, or, if they are, they are very good sports; sometimes it's simply a calculated chance and a gracious equivalent to an 'oh, well then...' Sometimes it's just someone who you learn is perennially flirty; gay, straight...doesn't matter, they are just naturally flirtatious with men. And in his 60s, a man who isn't too hard to look at, who has all of his hair, who isn't a fat leering lout, who dresses reasonably well, who is polite and a good listener, and who possesses some quiet self-confidence and easiness finds that there are a surprising number of people who like exactly that sort of thing. Being foreign doesn't hurt either.

R77 sounds hot.

Let’s just face it. We’re wanted.

Is this the same piece of shit that's always posting about twat, dude we're fucking gay. You need to take your goddamn conversion fetish the fuck outta here.

Do women flirt with you? Did you ever visit Labialand? You're a pitiful HOMOPHOBIC conversion minded troll, FUCK YOU!

R59, yes, I do generally feel invisible. But I’m much older than this friend. It just feels normal to me. It makes me happy to see him getting this kind of attention.

Then again, I happen to be away on vacation, as of today, and for whatever random reason, I’m getting attention. Old as I am.

The world can be mysterious.