Against the advice I would give young people today, I applied to only one college, the Fashion Institute of Technology (FIT) in New York City. I was accepted and moved. There, I found some of the most loving friendships that I still celebrate today.
After I earned my associate’s degree at FIT, I moved to San Francisco to escape the cold winters of New York. There, I worked in retail and lived paycheck to paycheck in a converted apartment hotel in the Tenderloin. I soon realized that I needed to go back to school and get a bachelor’s degree. I remembered how much I enjoyed the required English literature course at FIT, so I enrolled in the Creative Writing Program at San Francisco State University.
After I graduated in 1990 with my Bachelor of Arts, I worked as an au pair in Barcelona, briefly returned home, and then moved back to New York City.
The next six years in New York City were exhilarating. In addition to working, I volunteered at a community center and became more aware of social injustice.
At the community center, I helped young people build leadership skills. Some of the teenagers were homeless. Some of them were homeless because they had been kicked out of their homes when their parents learned they were gay. One 16-year-old boy I met told me that his father put a gun to his head and told him to get out of their house. His mother quietly slipped him a $100 bill for bus fare out of their small town.
I realized that I had a very supportive life compared to some. I continue to be surprised when I witness or encounter bigotry. We should all expect to be valued for our work ethic, skill sets, and contributions to our families and communities.
From my work with youth, I became more aware of oppression and how the law was often used as a tool to further bigotry and oppression. I realized that I had more to learn. I applied to law school.
Just before I was to start law school in New Mexico, my mother had a massive stroke back home in Hawaiʻi. She was left with a severe brain injury. I decided to defer law school, return home, and help her. It was a challenging year for both of us, but I have never grown more in such a short period of time.
I was 26 years old and my mother’s primary caregiver. I thought to myself, “This is what it must be like to be a single parent.” She rehabilitated to the point where she could attend day care, which gave me time to volunteer at the Hawaiʻi State Court of Appeals. There, I honed my research and writing skills in anticipation for law school.
After that transformative year, one of my brothers and his family moved into my mother’s home to care for her. I moved to Albuquerque, New Mexico and started law school.
I began to feel settled back in Hawaiʻi and became a licensed therapeutic foster parent. I thought about the homeless children in New York City and how they were abused, neglected and kicked out of their homes for just being who they were. I wanted to help young people in Hawaiʻi who were in the same situation. I provided a home, love, and support for foster kids. I attended IEP meetings, parent-teacher meetings, and extracurricular activities.
I learned that my kids and many others needed an advocate in the education system. I attended some BOE meetings and got involved in the local public schools to support my children. It didn’t take long for me to realize that the Hawaiʻi Board of Education needed some fresh perspective, innovative leadership, and someone to act as a voice for the children. This helped to inform my decision to run for Board of Education, Oʻahu-at-Large. I’ve had the honor and responsibility of serving on the Hawaiʻi State Board of Education from 2006 – 2011.
Fashion Institute of Technology, New York City, AAS 1988
San Francisco State University, CA, BA 1990
University of New Mexico School of Law, Albuquerque, JD 2000