Have you ever had to quit a job because you HATED your boss?

I quit. Problem solved.

I did. I hated my boss so much that I had to change my dog's name. It went ok, I got a job at a place where I had worked previously and enjoyed but it was a different department and awful. I got fired on day 89 and my next job (my current one of 4.5 years) is fantastic.

You appear to have had a lot of drama in your life ..jeez.

Yes and I got him fired when I left by spilling the beans about his awful, homophobic behavior when I was doing my exit interview.

Yes, but there were other things at play. My rent had gone significantly, so I was looking to move, as well. (The real estate market had suddenly changed.) I also found another job that required me to move to a new town. My new job paid more, but I liked my old location (city where I lived) better.

The boss refused to can a guy making everyone’s lives hell. Due to this and several other things on the horizon, I quit after nearly 30 years.

The new job pays better and I’m not micromanaged. Same city, though, so I’ll still see that drip around.

You live in Smallville?

No, I quit because my boss was using client money to cover payroll and if the Feds found out about it there would be some unfortunate problems (I'm talking like 6 digits kind of money from publicly-traded companies).

R7 - When I was living in London I would randomly run into people I knew, that kind of thing hardly only happens in small towns.

Ok , Harry.

So, there's the story about Sir Thomas Beecham in Fortnum's & Mason (or wherever), and this grandly-dressed lady comes rushing up to him, and starts talking to him like they've known each other for years. And he's thinking, 'Who the fuck is this?', and she's going on about what's on in town, and her brother is sooo busy because of that. And that's his opportunity to try to figure out who she is, so he says 'so, what is you brother doing nowadays?' And she looks at him strangely and says, "well, he's still king'.

Yes. She was evil, and I'm not using a metaphor. The entire staff applied to transfer to another school. All but four were granted and our team was dispersed throughout the district. Then, only a few weeks into the following term, the evil one was promoted to central office.

Several, but I am unstable- or was in my prime working years. Now in my 50s, I just go along with whatever the boss wants. I just don’t care about the job very much.

Yeah it’s easier not to fight the boss.

I should have, but the pay and benefits were good, as were my colleagues at my level, so I kept telling myself it would get better. It never did.

You can also outlast shitty bosses. It can be a carousel of varying dumb-assery.

I've had so many shitty bosses over the years yet I'm still here 30 plus years thriving. They are out there selling apples on the street corners peddling their "changes and transformation" and cuntery. Fuck them and their fancy titles.

I learned that the biggest assholes are on LinkedIn promoting their management styles and all the WONDERFUL things they do. “It’s pizza day!”

Fuck LinkedIn.

R12, I wouldn’t believe you, except I am a public school teacher.

Yep. And it was very difficult, followed by a trying time of readjusting, restarting and growing up more. But, oh, it was so worth it eventually and led me to the much happier professional and personal circumstances in which I find myself in my life now.

I had a really horrible boss 7 years ago. The guy was the biggest egomaniac ever. I almost quit a few times but I'm glad I stuck it out because he was soon "bought out" by the other two partners and he was gone. The guys who took over were much better and I've been with the company 8 years now.

I left a job I loved because of a boss I hated. He micromanaged, withheld information I needed to do even the bare minimum, never had my back about anything, and blew off my requests for help with a ridiculous workload. The entire C-suite was a clown show and ignored complaints about this person so I knew it wasn’t going to get any better. Never been sorry a day that I quit.

Sure!

I hated my boss so bad I viciously face-slapped him

Yep. I retired early because I had two horrible bosses.

The first one outed me and spread false rumors about me. I went to HR, then they reassigned me to report directly to the department head, who was also a cunt who resented me going to HR, because it made her look like an ineffective leader.

So she tolerated me as best she could, but she did all sorts of passive aggressive things to me. For instance, I once had an office with a window. When our department moved to another floor, she put me in an office far at the end of the floor, away from her, in a dark corner with no window. Then a year later, she reassigned me to report to a manager who I had actually trained when she came on board.

That was it for me. I was done. So I announced my retirement. Then the head cunt acted like she was so sorry to see me go and wanted to have a party for me. I told her not to bother.

Come close a few times at one particular job but in each case the boss was fired before I had the chance.

My current boss hates me, which caused me to hate her. I didn't start out hating her, I just thought she was unqualified.

Anyway, she set up a "secret" survey where we could put our ideas on how to improve the office. Silly me, I actually put down some ideas. It's a pretty small office and I think she figured out who was the author (me) of these great ideas, which involved cutting down "team" meeting times to an "as-needed" basis.

I won't quit the job, but every Saturday, I do a quick job search.

Looking back I left positions in part due to a boss I did not like. But I never left a position solely due to a lousy boss.

Yes. It was hell until I got a new job and quit. It ended up working out for the best in all areas. Look for something else.

I had a job where a director I did not report to make my life a living hell. He would tell me to do things for him outside of my job, and monitor my every move. Once I got a call from a recruiter asking me if I was interested in this job. He described it and it sounded just like my job so I asked him the company name and he told me. Then I asked if it was the Director who posted it and he said yes. I quit that week with no notice. He was so mad. He told me in front of everyone I would never work for this company again and I said thank god, because if someone as incompetent as you can be a director I don't want to work her. You make everyone's life hell. Have you ever wondered why you are a director with no direct reports? I got about 20 calls on the way home from people telling me how brilliant that was.

OP = JD Vance

R6 here. After 2 months I can say this ain’t gonna work out. But at least I have a paycheck and time to apply around. Plus, people ditch the office on Fridays (I work from home) so it’s usually a throw away day. It’s the most inefficient thing I’ve ever seen, almost entertainingly so.

I was let go before it happened, thank gawd.

I have problems with almost every boss I've ever had. 2 were excellent. Both men. I've have 7 female bosses (my last job i reported to 6 different people in 5 years). I hate female bosses. They micromanage, worry way to much, operate from a place of fear and are super passive aggressive. Women in the corporate world are nuts and even they know it.

Agree completely, R34.

Several times, but you always get another job first. Otherwise you're just grandstanding. It is notoriously more difficult to get another job if you're unemployed in between, and you won't get a great reference from the boss you hate, so (unless it's an issue so urgent that HR should be hiring an investigator to look into it) why would you do that to yourself?

I share R34's bad experiences with women managers, and I'm a woman. I think the problem is that when they start out they think they're much smarter and better educated than much of the male deadwood in jobs above them, and often they're right about that. But they don't value management skills. Particularly people skills, and that's what makes people hate them, but also plain common sense skills like organising your day well (using your PA effectively if you have one), having an at-least year-long strategy for what your team should accomplish, understanding the financials and how to record and monitor your end of them so you keep your spend as even as possible throughout the year--all that stuff. If those things are in place your team always know where everything's up to, or know how to find out easily if you're suddenly ill or something.

They micromanage because none of this stuff is in place, they have no overview, and they haven't set milestone dates for work (so they have to look over your shoulder all the time); and also because they are so much better than you in their own eyes that they must have to do everyone's job. Same women who do their kid's homework when they get home. What they focus on instead at work is where their next promotion is coming from. At lot of them are spectacularly overpromoted, not in terms of intelligence but in terms of both work and life experience.

Bad male managers tend to be just hopeless at their jobs, and there are a ton of them around, but most of them won't get in your way or lash out at you for trying to do yours well.