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Not Without My Daughter (1991)

An unintentional horror movie and total campy Frau fest. The based-on-a true story film depicts the escape of American citizen Betty Mahmoody (Sally Field) and her daughter from her abusive husband (Alfred Molina) in Iran, after he tricks her into visiting his family and takes her passport.

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by Anonymousreply 80July 8, 2024 3:00 AM

Hey! I always liked it.

So there.

by Anonymousreply 1February 20, 2024 1:16 AM

Love this movie! I’m gonna watch it again.

by Anonymousreply 2February 20, 2024 1:18 AM

Tell us how campy it was, OP. The title alone put me off.

And that kid in the poster is almost as big as Sally, it's about time she learned to walk.

by Anonymousreply 3February 20, 2024 1:19 AM

R1 no shame. It’s a fabulous movie. It’s just campy.

by Anonymousreply 4February 20, 2024 1:20 AM

I’m surprised it hasnt been canceled

by Anonymousreply 5February 20, 2024 1:21 AM

From this movie always intrigued to me because when I was 7 we lived in an apartment building on the second floor of a two story building. The unit next to us so it's a mother and her two sons and I overheard my mom talking to somebody about her situation. It turned out she had made an irony and he was the father of her two boys and she kept very strict eye on them because he was worried about him kidnapped them and taking them out of the country. As a result we rarely ever saw them outside of their apartment they certainly weren't allowed to play with any of the other kids and there were four of us that were all about the same age. As far as the movie my favorite scene is when she tries to appeal to the hearts of the female family members and they all start screeching at her like wild monkeys.

by Anonymousreply 6February 20, 2024 1:21 AM


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by Anonymousreply 7February 20, 2024 1:22 AM

I preferred Terrance and Phillip in Not Without My Anus.

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by Anonymousreply 8February 20, 2024 1:24 AM

It inspired the TV-movie on "Schitt's Creek" that Moira Rose once starred in alongside Joyce DeWitt: "Not Without My Cousin."

MOIRA (after watching a re-run of it on cable): "I have to hand it to DeWitt. She had a real breakthrough during the denouement. I believed [italic]she[/italic] believed we were cousins."

by Anonymousreply 9February 20, 2024 1:26 AM

I told you guys many, years ago when I was a little kid and this movie came out I would wrap a towel or pillowcase around my cat's head, and run her through the house screaming NOT WITHOUT MY DAUGHTER!!!! So I guess I was Sally Field.

My cat's name was Snuggles.

Snuggles Mahmoody.

by Anonymousreply 10February 20, 2024 1:27 AM

R10, I bet your parents had no idea you were a homosexual.

Was it a rescue cat?

by Anonymousreply 11February 20, 2024 1:31 AM

[quote] It turned out she had made an irony


by Anonymousreply 12February 20, 2024 1:32 AM

I went to school with a girl who escaped from Iran, and even her family laughed at how OTT the movie is.

It’s a classic of the genre though.

by Anonymousreply 13February 20, 2024 1:38 AM

This movie reminded me again that abortion is important.

by Anonymousreply 14February 20, 2024 1:42 AM

This movie always pissed me off. What the hell did she think would happen traveling to Iran after the hostage crisis and knowing how women were treated? No sympathy.

by Anonymousreply 15February 20, 2024 1:44 AM

R12 I think he meant "She met an Iranian" . If you read it that way, that babble makes sense - The Iranian father was going to kidnap the kids and take them to Iran.

At least, that's what I understood.

by Anonymousreply 16February 20, 2024 1:52 AM

R16 yes that's exactly what I meant sorry about that.

by Anonymousreply 17February 20, 2024 1:54 AM

Sally always loved the movies where she turned out to be the hero. An inferiority complex ? Hummmmmm...

by Anonymousreply 18February 20, 2024 2:02 AM

This movie TERRIFIED me as a gayling.

by Anonymousreply 19February 20, 2024 2:06 AM

In an apparent homage Chrissy Metz is titling her forthcoming memoir “Not Without My Snack Purse.”

by Anonymousreply 20February 20, 2024 2:13 AM

Was Alfred Molina an all-purpose ethnic?

by Anonymousreply 21February 20, 2024 2:20 AM

I’ve heard of but never seen and much watch this. I wonder if Sally’s character spoke with a Southern U.S. accent in this film? Her characters always seem to, in all her films. Because she always appears to be playing the same Sally Field in each of them, actually.

by Anonymousreply 22February 20, 2024 2:25 AM

[quote] Was Alfred Molina an all-purpose ethnic?


by Anonymousreply 23February 20, 2024 2:29 AM

One of the most beloved ESTs of all time on Datalounge was called "Not Without My Daughter." It involved a gay father who had an overweight daughter whom he suspected had stolen a can of frosting from him.

by Anonymousreply 24February 20, 2024 2:31 AM

It’s being remade. “Not Without My Non-Binary Offspring” will star Tori Spelling as a woke mother of one who rescues them from her husband’s nightmarish MAGAT hometown in Southern Louisiana.

by Anonymousreply 25February 20, 2024 2:31 AM

I thought it was "Not without my frosting," R24.

by Anonymousreply 26February 20, 2024 2:38 AM

Sally's Eye for an Eye is better.

by Anonymousreply 27February 20, 2024 2:43 AM

Lies! (Part I)

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by Anonymousreply 28February 20, 2024 2:44 AM

Sally was too old, it should have been "Not Without My Granddaughter"

by Anonymousreply 29February 20, 2024 2:47 AM

R27 that movie is tawdry

by Anonymousreply 30February 20, 2024 2:56 AM

R29 she was 44 when the movie was made.

by Anonymousreply 31February 20, 2024 2:57 AM

Well 44 is pretty old, at least middle age.

by Anonymousreply 32February 20, 2024 2:59 AM

Sally should’ve packed her Sister Bertrille outfit to fly out of Iran with the daughter

by Anonymousreply 33February 20, 2024 3:01 AM

Sally looked young for her age for a long time.

by Anonymousreply 34February 20, 2024 3:09 AM

Not saying this to be mean. I genuinely wish him well, but Bash doesn't look right. I wonder if he's on drugs, or perhaps he has mental health issues?

by Anonymousreply 35February 20, 2024 3:10 AM

Not Without My Pillows!

by Anonymousreply 36February 20, 2024 3:12 AM

Isn’t this the movie about how Trump has an orgasm?

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by Anonymousreply 37February 20, 2024 3:17 AM

Not Without My Ephebophile, r35!

by Anonymousreply 38February 20, 2024 3:28 AM

R36, did you wander into the wrong thread?

by Anonymousreply 39February 20, 2024 3:29 AM

Mother May I Sleep with Jihad?

by Anonymousreply 40February 20, 2024 3:31 AM

R31 - I'm guessing R29 is from West Virginia, where most 44 year olds are grandparents.

by Anonymousreply 41February 20, 2024 3:45 AM

Author of Not Without My Daughter Betty Mahmoody

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by Anonymousreply 42February 20, 2024 3:51 AM

[quote]I thought it was "Not without my frosting," [R24].


by Anonymousreply 43February 20, 2024 3:58 AM

Sally Field is at her best when she’s delivering a manic breakdown. M’lynn at the funeral, Norma Rae getting stuffed into a police cruiser, Abby’s mom getting handcuffed to a hospital bed on ER, Miranda realizing that Mrs. Doubtfire is actually her ex-husband. It’s the same exact performance every time, but it’s always compelling.

by Anonymousreply 44February 20, 2024 3:58 AM

What am I saying? Of course you're right! It WAS called "Not Without My Frosting"!

Sorry, r46--you were right, and I was wrong not just once, but twice!

by Anonymousreply 45February 20, 2024 4:01 AM

I agree with Pauline Kael's assessment that Sally is a one-emotion-at-a-time dramatic actress. She's better at comedy.

by Anonymousreply 46February 20, 2024 9:15 AM

OTT yes but it doesn't rise to the level of camp

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by Anonymousreply 47February 21, 2024 12:04 AM

I agree with R27, Eye For an Eye is good — reminded me of the Sally Struthers nail biter, A Gun In the House.

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by Anonymousreply 48February 21, 2024 1:34 AM

Did Mop Top ever see her father again after they escaped Iran and made it back to the states?

Eye For An Eye is high camp and incredibly hilarious! The Macarena scene, the villain pouring hot coffee on a stray dog just to prove how evil he truly was, etc...

by Anonymousreply 49February 21, 2024 1:40 AM

R49 never saw him again. Honestly I don’t blame her.

by Anonymousreply 50February 21, 2024 2:26 AM

Betty & Mop Top today...

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by Anonymousreply 51February 21, 2024 2:48 AM

Is this movie the biopic about John and Mackenzie Phillips?

by Anonymousreply 52February 21, 2024 3:12 AM


by Anonymousreply 53April 19, 2024 1:53 AM

I prefer the South Park remake.

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by Anonymousreply 54April 19, 2024 12:14 PM

R48, Sally Struthers kicking ass — doesn’t get much better!

I wish Sally was more of a DL icon. She’s so deserving, in my opinion.

by Anonymousreply 55April 19, 2024 4:16 PM

53 replies too much to read, r54?

by Anonymousreply 56April 19, 2024 5:42 PM

When it came out, I was friendly with an older, very New Yawk man who was hard of hearing who kept calling it NOT WITH MY DAUGHTER.

by Anonymousreply 57April 19, 2024 5:47 PM

R56 - Yes, but apparently not for you dear. If only I had so much free time to myself too.

by Anonymousreply 58April 19, 2024 9:39 PM

I first watched this when I was really high and found it terrifying.

by Anonymousreply 59April 19, 2024 9:50 PM

I remember once in high school watching The Texas Chainsaw Massacre on a big screen TV just inches from my face. I was a good 20 minutes in before remembering it was a movie and not a documentary. LOL. Freaked me the fuck out, even though I'd seen it before.

by Anonymousreply 60April 19, 2024 9:53 PM

I always called it “Not Without My Oscar.”

by Anonymousreply 61April 19, 2024 11:44 PM

Correction R61 Not Without My Oscars

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by Anonymousreply 62April 23, 2024 12:47 AM

WHET Betty Mahmoody?

by Anonymousreply 63June 23, 2024 1:48 AM

So fucking weird.

Snuggles Mahmoody is my dead cat!

by Anonymousreply 64June 23, 2024 1:53 AM

R64, are you r10?

by Anonymousreply 65June 23, 2024 1:57 AM

R65- That's me!!! DL is my Saturday Night treat should I drink a little......

I just started a maudlin thread about life's unsolved mysteries.

And I also began the Stevie Nicks Cuntbone thread circa 2009.

Guilty as charged, sir. Please forgive me!!!

by Anonymousreply 66June 23, 2024 2:10 AM

R63, she is the President and co-founder of One World: For Children, an organization that promotes understanding between cultures and strives to offer security and protection to children of bi-cultural marriages.

by Anonymousreply 67June 23, 2024 2:10 AM

I ran from Iran.

by Anonymousreply 68June 23, 2024 2:44 AM

I had sex with an Iranian guy in college because he looked like Cat Steven’s. His name was Sinai and the sec was woefully lacking.

by Anonymousreply 69June 23, 2024 6:26 AM

r25 hahahaaa that made me laugh

by Anonymousreply 70June 23, 2024 7:16 AM

[quote]I’ve heard of but never seen and much watch this. I wonder if Sally’s character spoke with a Southern U.S. accent in this film? Her characters always seem to, in all her films. Because she always appears to be playing the same Sally Field in each of them, actually.

Sally Field was born and raised in Los Angeles, California.

Her mother was an actress and her stepfather was a stuntman.

by Anonymousreply 71June 23, 2024 7:46 AM

R57, that made me laugh. I can see/hear it!

by Anonymousreply 72June 23, 2024 10:00 AM

The remake will be called, "Not Without My Intersectional, Non-Binary, Neurodivergent Child"

by Anonymousreply 73June 23, 2024 2:20 PM

I think it's more high melodrama than camp.

by Anonymousreply 74June 23, 2024 2:34 PM

I prefer the Lifetime remake, "Not With My Daughter: The Patsy Ramsey Story" starring Meredith Baxter

by Anonymousreply 75July 7, 2024 2:01 AM

Sadly, the daughter chose not to title her own book "Not Without My Mama."

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by Anonymousreply 76July 7, 2024 2:23 AM

I read the book on which the film is based, and I was always shocked at Betty Mahmoody's stupidity. Her husband was paranoid, controlling, abusive and unwilling to get a job so, while their marriage was collapsing and he'd become almost psychotic after she threatened to divorce him, she decided that travelling with him to a fundamentalist Islamic theocracy where women have few rights, was the right way to repair their relationship. And then, she was shocked when he turned around and decided to kidnap her and use their daughter as a means to control her.

He was a piece of shit, but she is an utter and complete idiot. As for Alfred Molina, he hasn't really played that many so-called "ethnic" roles. If you have a look at his filmography, he's mostly played white English characters throughout his career.

by Anonymousreply 77July 7, 2024 2:35 AM

I don't know what ethnicity Rahad Jackson was in "Boogie Nights," but Molina deserved an Oscar.

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by Anonymousreply 78July 7, 2024 2:39 AM

Alfred Molina received Oscar buzz and a BAFTA nod for playing Mexican Diego Rivera in Julie Taymor's FRIDA (2002) which garnered Salma Hayek an Oscar nomination.

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by Anonymousreply 79July 7, 2024 7:02 AM

I want to see the Ab Fab version "Not without my bitch daughter"!

by Anonymousreply 80July 8, 2024 3:00 AM
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