Not Without My Daughter (1991)

Hey! I always liked it.

So there.

Love this movie! I’m gonna watch it again.

Tell us how campy it was, OP. The title alone put me off.

And that kid in the poster is almost as big as Sally, it's about time she learned to walk.

R1 no shame. It’s a fabulous movie. It’s just campy.

I’m surprised it hasnt been canceled

From this movie always intrigued to me because when I was 7 we lived in an apartment building on the second floor of a two story building. The unit next to us so it's a mother and her two sons and I overheard my mom talking to somebody about her situation. It turned out she had made an irony and he was the father of her two boys and she kept very strict eye on them because he was worried about him kidnapped them and taking them out of the country. As a result we rarely ever saw them outside of their apartment they certainly weren't allowed to play with any of the other kids and there were four of us that were all about the same age. As far as the movie my favorite scene is when she tries to appeal to the hearts of the female family members and they all start screeching at her like wild monkeys.

TRailer

I preferred Terrance and Phillip in Not Without My Anus.

It inspired the TV-movie on "Schitt's Creek" that Moira Rose once starred in alongside Joyce DeWitt: "Not Without My Cousin."

MOIRA (after watching a re-run of it on cable): "I have to hand it to DeWitt. She had a real breakthrough during the denouement. I believed [italic]she[/italic] believed we were cousins."

I told you guys many, years ago when I was a little kid and this movie came out I would wrap a towel or pillowcase around my cat's head, and run her through the house screaming NOT WITHOUT MY DAUGHTER!!!! So I guess I was Sally Field.

My cat's name was Snuggles.

Snuggles Mahmoody.

R10, I bet your parents had no idea you were a homosexual.

Was it a rescue cat?

[quote] It turned out she had made an irony

?

I went to school with a girl who escaped from Iran, and even her family laughed at how OTT the movie is.

It’s a classic of the genre though.

This movie reminded me again that abortion is important.

This movie always pissed me off. What the hell did she think would happen traveling to Iran after the hostage crisis and knowing how women were treated? No sympathy.

R12 I think he meant "She met an Iranian" . If you read it that way, that babble makes sense - The Iranian father was going to kidnap the kids and take them to Iran.

At least, that's what I understood.

R16 yes that's exactly what I meant sorry about that.

Sally always loved the movies where she turned out to be the hero. An inferiority complex ? Hummmmmm...

This movie TERRIFIED me as a gayling.

In an apparent homage Chrissy Metz is titling her forthcoming memoir “Not Without My Snack Purse.”

Was Alfred Molina an all-purpose ethnic?

I’ve heard of but never seen and much watch this. I wonder if Sally’s character spoke with a Southern U.S. accent in this film? Her characters always seem to, in all her films. Because she always appears to be playing the same Sally Field in each of them, actually.

[quote] Was Alfred Molina an all-purpose ethnic?

Yes.

One of the most beloved ESTs of all time on Datalounge was called "Not Without My Daughter." It involved a gay father who had an overweight daughter whom he suspected had stolen a can of frosting from him.

It’s being remade. “Not Without My Non-Binary Offspring” will star Tori Spelling as a woke mother of one who rescues them from her husband’s nightmarish MAGAT hometown in Southern Louisiana.

I thought it was "Not without my frosting," R24.

Sally's Eye for an Eye is better.

Lies! (Part I)

Sally was too old, it should have been "Not Without My Granddaughter"

R27 that movie is tawdry

R29 she was 44 when the movie was made.

Well 44 is pretty old, at least middle age.

Sally should’ve packed her Sister Bertrille outfit to fly out of Iran with the daughter

Sally looked young for her age for a long time.

Not saying this to be mean. I genuinely wish him well, but Bash doesn't look right. I wonder if he's on drugs, or perhaps he has mental health issues?

Not Without My Pillows!

Isn’t this the movie about how Trump has an orgasm?

Not Without My Ephebophile, r35!

R36, did you wander into the wrong thread?

Mother May I Sleep with Jihad?

R31 - I'm guessing R29 is from West Virginia, where most 44 year olds are grandparents.

Author of Not Without My Daughter Betty Mahmoody

[quote]I thought it was "Not without my frosting," [R24].

Nope.

Sally Field is at her best when she’s delivering a manic breakdown. M’lynn at the funeral, Norma Rae getting stuffed into a police cruiser, Abby’s mom getting handcuffed to a hospital bed on ER, Miranda realizing that Mrs. Doubtfire is actually her ex-husband. It’s the same exact performance every time, but it’s always compelling.

What am I saying? Of course you're right! It WAS called "Not Without My Frosting"!

Sorry, r46--you were right, and I was wrong not just once, but twice!

I agree with Pauline Kael's assessment that Sally is a one-emotion-at-a-time dramatic actress. She's better at comedy.

OTT yes but it doesn't rise to the level of camp

I agree with R27, Eye For an Eye is good — reminded me of the Sally Struthers nail biter, A Gun In the House.

Did Mop Top ever see her father again after they escaped Iran and made it back to the states?

Eye For An Eye is high camp and incredibly hilarious! The Macarena scene, the villain pouring hot coffee on a stray dog just to prove how evil he truly was, etc...

R49 never saw him again. Honestly I don’t blame her.

Betty & Mop Top today...

Is this movie the biopic about John and Mackenzie Phillips?

IRAN!!!!!!

I prefer the South Park remake.

R48, Sally Struthers kicking ass — doesn’t get much better!

I wish Sally was more of a DL icon. She’s so deserving, in my opinion.

53 replies too much to read, r54?

When it came out, I was friendly with an older, very New Yawk man who was hard of hearing who kept calling it NOT WITH MY DAUGHTER.

R56 - Yes, but apparently not for you dear. If only I had so much free time to myself too.

I first watched this when I was really high and found it terrifying.

I remember once in high school watching The Texas Chainsaw Massacre on a big screen TV just inches from my face. I was a good 20 minutes in before remembering it was a movie and not a documentary. LOL. Freaked me the fuck out, even though I'd seen it before.

I always called it “Not Without My Oscar.”

Correction R61 Not Without My Oscars

WHET Betty Mahmoody?

So fucking weird.

Snuggles Mahmoody is my dead cat!

R64, are you r10?

R65- That's me!!! DL is my Saturday Night treat should I drink a little......

I just started a maudlin thread about life's unsolved mysteries.

And I also began the Stevie Nicks Cuntbone thread circa 2009.

Guilty as charged, sir. Please forgive me!!!

R63, she is the President and co-founder of One World: For Children, an organization that promotes understanding between cultures and strives to offer security and protection to children of bi-cultural marriages.

I ran from Iran.

I had sex with an Iranian guy in college because he looked like Cat Steven’s. His name was Sinai and the sec was woefully lacking.

r25 hahahaaa that made me laugh

[quote]I’ve heard of but never seen and much watch this. I wonder if Sally’s character spoke with a Southern U.S. accent in this film? Her characters always seem to, in all her films. Because she always appears to be playing the same Sally Field in each of them, actually.

Sally Field was born and raised in Los Angeles, California.

Her mother was an actress and her stepfather was a stuntman.

R57, that made me laugh. I can see/hear it!

The remake will be called, "Not Without My Intersectional, Non-Binary, Neurodivergent Child"

I think it's more high melodrama than camp.

I prefer the Lifetime remake, "Not With My Daughter: The Patsy Ramsey Story" starring Meredith Baxter

Sadly, the daughter chose not to title her own book "Not Without My Mama."

I read the book on which the film is based, and I was always shocked at Betty Mahmoody's stupidity. Her husband was paranoid, controlling, abusive and unwilling to get a job so, while their marriage was collapsing and he'd become almost psychotic after she threatened to divorce him, she decided that travelling with him to a fundamentalist Islamic theocracy where women have few rights, was the right way to repair their relationship. And then, she was shocked when he turned around and decided to kidnap her and use their daughter as a means to control her.

He was a piece of shit, but she is an utter and complete idiot. As for Alfred Molina, he hasn't really played that many so-called "ethnic" roles. If you have a look at his filmography, he's mostly played white English characters throughout his career.

I don't know what ethnicity Rahad Jackson was in "Boogie Nights," but Molina deserved an Oscar.

Alfred Molina received Oscar buzz and a BAFTA nod for playing Mexican Diego Rivera in Julie Taymor's FRIDA (2002) which garnered Salma Hayek an Oscar nomination.

I want to see the Ab Fab version "Not without my bitch daughter"!