Weird behavior from a guy I work with.

Perhaps he has avoidant personality disorder.

Or, maybe he's "on the spectrum."

You blew him once and don't remember, OP. Try to get a glimpse of his cock at the urinal and hope it jogs a memory.

Why don't you ask him?

Make a funny comment to him. He's just shy/uncomfortable. Once you speak once I bet thibgs will be fine

OP you want us to say that he has a crush on you and is too shy and awkward around you. In reality, you’re probably just a cunt and you don’t know it.

Just yell at him “Take a picture - it will last longer!”

It doesn’t apply, but it’s a snappy line.

Did he possibly show up to a remote gay bar, see your naked ass on the pool table after midnight taking all cummers, and leave without you seeing him, hmmmmm?

We have someone like that at my law firm. We pass each other he stares at the floor. Fine by me, I don’t need to interact with him to get my job done.

He’s on to you.

He doesn’t like you. Either thinks you’re an idiot or he’s just a homophobe.

Don’t assist him with anything.

I don’t do anything to him, we don’t even speak. I don’t think I remember doing anything with or to him because I would have remembered his face. He’s the only one in the building that acts like this towards me. Also, no I don’t want him to like me. I don’t get any gay vibes from him. Hmm, but I do wonder tho…

R5. Actually we don’t even interact much. I’m a very nice person, but idk what his deal is lol.

He think that you think that you’re too good for him.

[quote] or he’d make this frowning face and stick his head up.

I'm trying to picture this and I can't. What do you mean?

Ma’am, this is a Wendy’s.

Fuck off, R15.

So just ignore him. Don't look at him, don't smile at him, make an effort to not run into him or be near him or anything.

Clearly you rub him the wrong way for some reason. And he's trying to avoid you. So just make it easier for him. And for yourself. Just pretend he doesn't exist unless your work demands it for whatever reason, then be brief, cordial, business-like, and then go back to ignoring/avoiding him afterwards.

Not everyone is going to like you. No reason to try to waste your time and his forcing the issue.

Do you have resting bitch face? Maybe that’s why.

The colleague is repulsed by your obsequious, approval-seeking character not to mention the first times you crossed in the halls you obviously checked out his crotch AND ass.

He obviously knows you're talking about him on Datalounge and doesn't like it.

Compliment his shoes with some mild feigned sincerity. Don’t press for where he purchased or the cost. A simple compliment will do.

Another manipulative trick is to ask if you may borrow a pen. Give it back promptly and thank him.

He knows you 're just a big ole nellie MARY! and feels deeply uncomfortable.

He notices you glaring at him with your “Well?!!” face every time you pass.

Just say hi in a breezy way. He’s probably shy. It takes less effort to break the ice than think about what his deal is.

Valentine's Day is coming up. Now's your chance to give him a little box of SweetHearts candy as a conversation starter.

You're the weird one OP

[quote] Compliment his shoes with some mild feigned sincerity. Don’t press for where he purchased or the cost. A simple compliment will do.

Something along the lines of:

“Hi, you.

I really like those shoes. They’re so polished.

Do you think maybe I could borrow them sometime?”

He voted for Bernie in 2016 and blames himself for Hillary’s loss. He knows you don’t forgive him and wants to avoid a messy scene.

frowning and tilting your head up is actually a form of greeting for straight men, it's ghetto/white trash coded but a real thing.

It's not you, it's him. Don't give it another thought and ignore him.

Offer to take him bowling.

I guarantee you, by the eighth frame, you’ll have him eating out of your ass.

[quote] Fuck off, [R15].

Would you like a Frosty with that?

Is he fairly young?

I've noticed younger workers are incredibly socially awkward. They spend their lives with their noses buried in their phones and don't have a clue about how to interact with human beings.

[quote] frowning and tilting your head up is actually a form of greeting for straight men

R29 Yes. The ‘sup

I used to do this with the guy I had a big crush on in High School

[quote]I've noticed younger workers are incredibly socially awkward. They spend their lives with their noses buried in their phones and don't have a clue about how to interact with human beings.

The forced frown i.e. disgusted look on his face makes it seem like he just doesn’t like OP.

Again. Probably a homophobe.

[quote]frowning and tilting your head up is actually a form of greeting for straight men

There is no frowning involved.

OP, avoid him at all costs. His strange behavior sound like a serial killer and his frowns are the voices in his head arguing about how to kill you.

He's not that into you.

OP, might it be your uncontrollable flatulence? Or maybe it was the office memo warning young men to avoid eye contact with you.

I hate to make eye contact with people. I'll check my watch or cell phone.

He's uncomfortable because you're looking at him. If you weren't looking at him you'd wouldn't notice the fact he's avoiding acknowledging you.

Also, are you openly gay? That's another nail in the coffin as far as being polite with him.

He's just not into you, Florabelle.

Maybe he knows that you see him 5 minutes a day and yet obsess about him constantly.

Dudes can smell that shit from a mile away

This ^^^^^.

I'm guessing the guy that has OP set to ignore, is younger, good looking and straight.

If he was some old dude, OP would not be so butt hurt and posting on here.

This sounds like the textbook troll nutbag

+ 1 with r17

Then, in about 20 years, he’ll be posting on a DL thread about the one that got away because he was too shy to interact with you.

But, really, the times in my life when I couldn’t get somebody’s attention, I now realize it wasn’t about them. It was about me.

“Never chase” were the wise words passed along to me by a beloved relative.

I pass them along to you.

He's lucky he didn't turn into a Friendsickle during the playoffs.

It’s just a coworker. Don’t even waste your energy trying to figure out some rude weirdo at work.

If he doesn’t want to look at you or say hi - fine.

One less person to deal with at the job.

Only two real options here:

1) wait until he goes into the lunch room, then you join the table of the cool, young hot girls. Briefly look over at him, swing your head back and then laugh uproariously with your new besties.

2) Nod and say "good morning" the next time you cross paths.

I've had people in the workplace with whom I never interacted, but for whatever reason, I could tell I rubbed them the wrong way.

They were work people, though, so I didn't care. In fact, the less interaction with people, the better.

It’s because you smell and no one likes you.

You need to organize an awkward work party is his honor and insist he be your best friend.

OP, we need more details. How old is he? Is he good looking? How old are you? Are you out?

This reminds me of The Golden Girls episode where Rose couldn't accept her co-worker just didn't care for her?

OP, maybe you need to dial it down a bit?

Is your gayness that obvious? Maybe he’s homophobic.

But guys how would he know that I am gay though? I don’t give any outward signs that I am gay(at least I do not think I do).

R33, no. He is a “light skinned” guy. He looks older and younger at the same time, if that makes sense? My guess probably 34-40. He’s not as young as me.

R45. No I’m not obsessing. Call it what you want but I noticed him doing it and I was just curious. No butthurt here.

R58 would you like to ride his cock?

There was this guy I'd routinely see at the at the gym but didn't ever have a conversation with. On several occasions—at the store or at (apparently) our mutual workplace—I ran into him and would give a little nod and smile of acknowledgment, and he'd invariably look away with a little frown, almost a grimace. I have no idea why, but whatever.

"would you like to ride his cock?"

It's the only reason I keep saying hello to him!

^ I actually don’t say hello to him because of how he acts, troll.

Not everyone is going to like you OP, learn to deal with it. In this case it sounds like you dodged a bullet, better this than him liking you.

We can tell you're gay from SPACE, Mary.

I think the guy has a crush on you and feels that you have somehow signaled a lack of interest so now he’s putting up a big show of not caring.

For some reason, you intimidate him. It's a good position for you to be in - keep doing what you're doing.

[quote] “Never chase” were the wise words passed along to me by a beloved relative.

Oh honey, no, you misheard me. It was never chaste.

[quote] This reminds me of The Golden Girls episode where Rose couldn't accept her co-worker just didn't care for her?

Betty. That wasn't an episode.

I agree with Keanu.

And........Fred

Are you bigger than him?

R68 yes it was

I have no more idea what his deal is than you do but I tell you now: the relationship that you and he won’t have will not have to be a nightmare. Imagine having to guess at his tastes in movies, meals, and friends for the rest of your lives? He’d be making his frowny face and sticking his head up every minute!

You should thank the Almighty that through the grace of His love, you and Mr. Frowny are now and forever will remain total mysteries to one another.

No R71, he’s way taller than me. A think a good head taller. I’m 5’6.

'Good head'...

Interesting.

Last year I sat next to a young, new guy at an office lunch at a restaurant. We had never interacted or even said "hello" prior to this, just perhaps passed in the hallway on the rare occasions I'm in the office. We had a nice chat. When we were leaving, he said he enjoyed the chat and was glad we had it as he always thought I was "scary". WTF. I'm not a smiley person but I'm not mean or craggy looking either. I asked him why he thought I was "scary". He had no concrete answer for this opinion he formed of me, he just giggled like a schoolgirl and shrugged his shoulders and said "I don't know why". Also, I noticed I was the only one who engaged him during the lunch, other co-workers who are not WFH and interact with him daily were not including him in their conversations. He drove back to the office in this own car while the others headed back to the office had all carpooled. I think he's the weirdo and OP's co-worker is also the socially awkward weirdo.

r37 in my experience growing up around cholos and wiggers it absolutely is

In my experience growing up around everyone there isn’t unless they hate you.

So many people trying to gaslight the OP into getting the shit kicked out of him. Just avoid him completely.

Have you tried presenting hole, OP?

Next time, OP, frown and raise your own head in response—maybe you'll bond.

R76 How the young, new guy saw you:

I suggest you wink at him, followed by a a slow licking of your lips while you continue to stare at him.

Straight guys can’t resist that.

[quote] He is a “light skinned” guy.

OP, what does this mean? He's black with light skin? Biracial?

And why is light-skinned in quotation marks?

"And why is light-skinned in quotation marks?"

Because OP is an eldergay who is objectifying some poor office junior.

I started a new job late last year. One guy is unfriendly, won't look at me, won't acknowledge me. (He works in a different division, so we don't ever have to work together.)

So, I decided to just ignore him. (Other new coworkers have been friendly, even people I don't work directly with.)

About a month ago, snob guy began acknowledging me. Call me petty, but at this point, I'm going to keep on ignoring him.

I think you should put a fish behind one of the drawers in his office.

Enough said.

HES A CLOSET CASE AND YOU ARE A THREAT

He’s a straight bigot and thinks you want to suck his dick.

He doesn't like you & doesn't want to interact with you.

The reasons behind it are irrelevant, because you're not meant to be liked and appreciated by everyone, OP. No one is.

This thread reminds me of the Seinfeld episode where Elaine and one of her apartment building's residents would politely say "hi" to each other at the mailbox. Then one day he stopped saying "hi" and ignoring and she became obsessed with why he was no longer acknowledging her, even though she didn't know who the hell he was outside of being the guy she saw at the mailbox.

You remind him of a guy he once fucked at a music festival. He farted on the guy's dick and ruined the moment, and he still hasn't gotten over it.

Perhaps he doesn't like people who don't use commas and leave out apostrophes.

What does he look like OP? who would play him in a movie?

Maybe he doesn't like short guys. You say you're only 5' 6" ?

The fact that you post about this coworker you hardly know shows how obsessed you are with him. Maybe he sees right thru your obsession and is scared when you’re near him. Keep this up and expect a restraining order.

The weird behaviour is OP's.

This is why God made it possible for gay men to hiss.

I don't think it's weird to wonder why someone treats you weirdly

I remember an office homo writing in to Dan Savage once to ask if his behavior went beyond "having a crush."

He would follow his crush into the men's room and pretend to use a nearby urinal. After the crush finished and left the room, the guy would carefully collect any stray pubes the crush had left behind on the rim of the urinal. He then took them home, cleaned them, and held them between his lips while he jerked off.

Was this unhealthy, he asked.

And was it, r100?

R101 You bet your pubed-up teeth it was!

R100 how many pubes can one guy cast while taking a piss?

How would he know whose pubes he collected? They don’t clean the urinal after each use.

This is just me, ok…

I would give him a taste of his own medicine only next time you initiate a disapproving look and you stick your nose up in the air at first glance. I have ZERO respect for ANYONE who displays a better-than-thou attitude. Especially if it’s to a total stranger. It’s ugly. In this case, have fun with it.

R86 ok, I’ll call you petty. You still in middle school?

You might need him on a work project someday— so keep it professional.

Since he realized he was being a cunt, and made the first overture — why be a dick about it?

Because I feel like it.

YOU are the weird behavior, John.

Okay guys, I just got some tea from a co-worker that has been working there a while. Apparently the guy is an asshole who’s mean to everyone. And he tries to get people to quit their jobs. He apparently is mean and racist and gets reported a lot but the higher ups don’t do anything because of favoritism. So I guess it’s just a him problem

Nice try, OP. ^^^^

A percentage of people in the workplace don't acknowledge greetings or greeting gestures. I actually know one who I'm conversational with in the afternoon but who doesn't talk at all or make eye contact with anyone before (approximately) lunchtime.

There's a couple of things I think about when it comes to the workplace. You're there to do your job, you don't have to make friends. If someone doesn't acknowledge you, feel free to ignore the person. You didn't choose your coworkers. There's a good chance some won't be compatible with you. Don't make it about yourself, it's not you. It's them.

What about the "light skin"?

The next time there's a "chance encounter," have a bunch of folders with papers in them, and as he approaches, pretend like you're trying to answer your cell phone, and 'accidentally' drop the folders in his path.

If he stops to help you pick them up, this could be an icebreaker. "Hi, have we met before? .. I'm (NAME) from (DEPARTMENT) ... and yes, as you can see, I'm a total klutz."

If he doesn't stop, then at least you'll know he's a rude a-hole who isn't worth your time.

^Advice from Patty Lane of The Patty Duke Show, 1963.

You can always say "Hello" to them, and if they don't respond after a few times... write them up!

R113 OP isn't in high school

R116 OP's vexation over this makes it sound like he is.

R114 And thank you. That's exactly what I was going for.

Meanwhile, OP's coworker does not remember OP"s name, or even think about OP at all, whatsoever.

He’s on the down-low but thinks YOU know. Or he has a crush on you but fears rejection so he acts like YOU have cooties so you will never suspect that he is totally obsessed with you. Bevare. I sense a potential stalker situation in your future. 🔮 👀

What's weird?

He doesn't like you.

He never has liked you.

He never will like you.

The only thing you can do is to make a point always to speak well of him to others.

OP is either a profoundly insecure person who needs constant validation from others, or gives off MAJOR creepazoid vibes.

Perhaps a bit of both.

Either situation signals to people with healthy boundaries to stay away from OP.

R119, thanks for making me laugh.

My pleasure, r123.

OP, show up at work one day wearing cha cha heels.

Here you are.

R122, oh you’ve Deduced all of this from a single post? Can I not just be curious about someone’s behavior? I guess anonymity puts batteries in peoples backs.

I have ceased caring.

I rather suspect that OP doesn't even have a job.

We had someone like that at a job I had once. You'd encounter him in the hall and he'd look down as he passed by. That happened one day so I said, don't worry, I'm not gonna try to talk to you, and kept walking. He said something back but by then I was too far away to hear him.

So many socially awkward people in any given workplace.

I also work with a drama queen (male) who catastrophizes everything. Also, a couple of women who are just negative about any new idea. They are like black clouds and I am learning to just avoid them to the extent that i can.

I do that a lot. I really wish chin jerks were acceptable.