Sofia Vergara on divorce: "I didn't want to be an old mom"

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[quote] "When my son becomes a dad, let him bring the baby to me for a while and then I’ll give it back to him and go on with my life; that’s what I have to do."

Oh, honey good luck with that.

Manolo is not straight.

So unless he has a boyfriend or he's going to have a kid through surrogate, I'm sad to tell you that being a grandmother is OUT.

So Manganiello married a 44-year-old wanting to start a family with her? He's a moron, if true - but I suspect it's bullshit.

They’re married 9 years. Her being 42 at the time, and him, 38. You mean to tell me they didn’t discuss the subject of having children, before they married? Stupid asses.

Manolo is so gorgeous.

With his genes passed down from Sofia, he would have beautiful children.

She's trying to indicate that she is still menstruating, which she hasn't done in 10 years.

That's why men need to marry women in their 20's and not those going through menopause.

I would be happy to try to have a baby with Joe. Try and try and try and try every night.

Manolo is too busy lounging by the pool, to have kids.

I don't think he even has a job. He just lives off his mother's money.

shes rational. good for her.

[quote]Vergara, who shares son Manolo with ex-husband Joe Gonzalez, continued: "I had a son at 19, who is now 32, and I’m ready to be a grandmother, not a mother."

She doesn't know that Manolo is gay as a goose?

R6 She's likely still menstruating at 51. Average age of menopause is almost 53. She definitely would not be fertile at this point though. In populations that don't use birth control, last successful pregnancies are typically 10 years before last menstrual period. Sofia had frozen some embryos while in a previous relationship that ended up in a legal battle (previous partner wanted to have the embryos implanted in a surrogate). Perhaps she froze some eggs or additional embryos with Joe Manganiello. Don't blame her for not wanting to start over in her 50's.

Manolo is NOT gay, R11.

r12 I just turned 55 and stopped menstruating at 48 (although i did have a period here and there maybe four times since then). It's usually a gradual withdrawal. I know other women in my age range that stopped at 48 as well. I even know one that stopped at 43 completely. 51 is a very high estimate, in my opinion. Yes, it happens, but it's very irregular at that age to be having a period and not common, barring any help with hormones.

Why is she talking like Joe is so much younger than her? It's only a few years. Even if they had a kid, they'd probably divorce anyway.

R14 Age at menopause is variable. My mom's last spontaneous menstrual period (before starting HRT) was 3 months before her 53rd birthday. The oldest person I personally know that was still menstruating, without taking hormones, finally stopped at 59. That late is very unusual, but her mom also had very late menopause. It's not rare for a 51 year old not to have completed menopause. As I said before, that does not mean a woman is still fertile. Viable pregnancy is rare in women by mid-40s even if they are regular as clockwork. When I hear of a 48 year old woman giving birth, I always suspect egg donation or frozen eggs.

r16 it's likely your mom's last period was not a "regular" period...it was probably very sporadic before that for however long, much like mine was. Again, my post was meant to say that women *can* have periods later on (and sometimes I can feel an occasional egg releasing every 6 months or so, it's an unmistakable pain/feeling and just happened 3 weeks ago after at least a year of the last time i felt that feeling).

Yes, agree with you that viable pregnancy after mid-40s is rare. However, a friend became pregnant thinking that it was not really a possibility/without even trying at 44. That was approximately 3 years before beginning menopause. So, again, it's pretty variable.

Manolo looks a lot like his dad.

And he also has two younger brothers from his dad's second marriage.

The tall younger brother has good bone structure.

He looks more like his father and half-brothers than his mom.

If we're being honest, she wasn't that interested in being a young mother, either.

I can't fault her for that. Getting pregnant at that age can be quite dangerous, especially for the baby. No woman should be raising an elementary school child when she's in her late 50s. And no child should be saddled with a parent old enough to be their papaw or mamaw they have to visit in a nursing home before they graduate college.

R7, it’s not fair to the kid for old men to become fathers with their old defective sperm.

R24 Old man sperm has been linked to things like autism, but things between men and women are not equal when it comes to making a baby in old age. Old eggs are FAR more of a risk when it comes to genetic defects. This is especially true for aneuploidies such as Downs syndrome (trisomy 21). Every oocyte a woman will ever have is formed during fetal development and arrested in prophase I until recruited during a cycle after puberty or lost to atresia. Men produce sperm their whole lives although quantity and quality do diminish. Women also have the physical burden of gestation which becomes much more of a risk in older age.

He always struck me as an autist. Or at least personality impaired. Anyone who carries around a Chihuahua everywhere they go is off side. They always seemed ill matched to me.