Gay male reaches out on social media looking for guidance on how to take care of his adopted baby's hair

Sounds like a GREAT conversation for DL to handle. /s

It reminds her of slavery. Not that she has any knowledge of or experience with it.

Longer video of him and the baby

There are a million videos on how to care for black children’s hair. Has Miss Mama Nellie Mae heard of YouTube?

“It reminds me of slavery.”

More straight-up African American homophobia, disguised as a bunch of other things.

Says the woman with the weave of Indian hair.

The gay dad does seem pretty dim.

Beautiful baby.

Btw it's a baby. It's hair is short. Who cares?

Looks like he needs some advice about his own hair. Horrors!

Newsflash: the baby has more brain cells that either of these two dimwits.

I can understand the black woman's anger.

My guess is that the social work department has already told him about those sort of issues but he's a narcissist who wants to go viral.

…and also where can they get the baby some bling-ed up nails?

Are we sure that's not a doll? He's brushing the hair awfully hard.

I know I thought it was a doll at first too!

Oooohh, what a BEAUTIFUL baby girl!

And fuck the haters; I have ALWAYS wondered why nonwhite adoptive parents of Black children DON'T seek advice on caring for Black hair/skin. I've seen so many Black kids whose heads look straight crazy, and immediately clock them as having all-white parents, neighborhoods, friends, schools, churches. I'm like, "It's really not that hard to find a Black barbershop or beauty shop."

Most egregious celebrity case: Angelina Jolie's daughter. That poor child's hair was just criminal--either messy hair all over her head, or way too-tight braids causing obvious traction alopecia. Thankfully she's now attending an HBCU, so the hair situation should correct itself.

I love my people, but too many of us will point and speak derisively about the hair of Black kids reared by white parents, only to then criticize those white parents/grandparents who DO reach out to Black people for tonsorial advice.

Black people (I'm biracial) need to cut some of the constant, confused, mis-prioritized bullshit aimed at everyone else and look at themselves. All it comes down to is in-group excuses, habitual blaming and refusal to take responsibility for what can be taken responsibility for.

I KNOW the hair deal. But this foo-foo doesn't need high-handed crap from some woman who doesn't seem to get that whites are adopting black babies BECAUSE BLACK PEOPLE AIN'T DOING IT. At least my 34-year-old black friend who had her seventh child this month isn't dumping him on an adoption agency. But of course those six kids plus the new one are NOT growing up with a stable, secure home. But, yeah, their hair is perfectly acceptable to the black community and social media mouths.

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If only there was a place where others have shared solutions gained through similar experience!

It certainly doesn’t help that celebrities are insistently silent on the subject.

At least he didn't take the baby onto Today With Richard Bey....

Assuming he is being authentic, I don’t have a problem with it. At least he is asking for help.

Yes—he wanted kudos for adopting a Black baby and yes—there are plenty of other ways for finding out about hair care than asking for help on social media, but that woman was way out of line bringing up slavery and suggesting he was an unfit father.

[quote]Assuming he is being authentic, I don’t have a problem with it. At least he is asking for help.

He wasn't asking for help. He was humble bragging about adopting a black baby - or virtue signaling. It's a tough call what's going through a narcissists head sometimes.

How much hair care can a baby require? Keep it clean. The end.

[quote] Beautiful baby.

Now that we’ve gotten the virtue signaling out of the way…

What happened to doing independent research? Why does one need to go to the TikTok mob? I think people honestly just want attention nowadays. The solution is quite easy when you desire the opposite.

Is there a word for virtue signal kamikazes?

I think those three words do quite nicely.

Someone can't even ask for help with something without it turning fucking nasty and race-related. If people want to stop racism, they have to stop acting like EVERY MOTHER FUCKING THING is about race. It 'reminds her of slavery'. Jesus FUCKING CHRIST. I'd love to slap her.

Attention seeking? Yes.

But all the comments saying white people shouldn’t adopt black babies?! Christ. So you’d rather children spent their lives passed around foster care? Because I’ll tell you it ain’t pretty & certainly no-one will be asking how to do the kids hair.

Imagine the outcry (quite rightly) if anyone suggested black people couldn’t adopt white children. Sad truth is hundreds of thousands of children need fostering/adopting each year across the world. At least that little girl will have a loving, warm home & food to eat.

I stopped watching when sentence two was "Weeeee adopted a BLACK baby"....Another Social Media prop baby.

R31 I do believe that black people rarely adopt white kids

If I cared about ugly white people adopting black babies I would be following Chasten on IG.

This bitch complaining about slavery of which she knows only throught TV shows should be slapped, but the Mamo is also irritating. He is so full of himself, a literal white savior

He had no ill intent in asking a simple question. I would hope those in the community would have embraced it/him and provided guidance.

I'm disappointed how this was turned into something...

**BEARKING** On the way to a Grindr hookup he left the baby on the train. Problem solved.

Asking advice on the internet for anything is never a good idea, but let's not pretend that 99% of the pushback isn't based in homophobia.

"Shar'Keishiah Has Two Daddies"

There's no one to root for in this situation. The guy is using the video for social media attention and is annoying. The people complaining about interracial adoption are also annoying. It's one of those everyone sucks type situations.

I think I’ll name you Dizzy!

Apparently it was a blind adoption. He had no idea of the baby’s background beforehand.

He's just asking for help, or maybe more precisely, advice. There's nothing wrong with that. It's a harmless request--and it has nothing to do with slavery!

Why didn't they buy a white baby?

He didn't kill the kid. He asked about her hair.

[quote]But all the comments saying white people shouldn’t adopt black babies?!

[quote]Imagine the outcry (quite rightly) if anyone suggested black people couldn’t adopt white children.

If you really want to see people's head's explode, have a white person announce that white people shouldn't adopt black babies, so they won't do it and will wait for a white baby.

Two words.

Baby wig!

“This is my black child….”

I'm glad he's asking for help. Look what my white mom did to me!

Dumb and dumber

Simple...

is she hiding food yet?

[quote]R30 It 'reminds her of slavery'. Jesus FUCKING CHRIST. I'd love to slap her.

Did you watch the video? She makes a valid point.

[quote]At least my 34-year-old black friend who had her seventh child this month isn't dumping him on an adoption agency

Christ.

Tik tok is truly the worst.

The fact that this MARY just hops on social media, holding his adopted daughter like a rag doll, and says he needs to get “black tik tok” to help him figure out her hair - instead of watching one of the hundreds of YouTube videos on the topic or god forbid, knowing an actual real life black woman and asking her for advice, is depressing as fuck.

And then his idiot video is commented on by another tik tok video and that video starts talking about slavery…. it all feels like a dystopian nightmare.

R55 I fucking HATE her and her generation. Where's that asteroid?

He could never win whatever he did.

If he hadn't sought advice he'd get: "Selfish gay, adopted a black baby and didn't try to learn how to look after her hair".

He did seek advice and, well, we've seen the response.

I was reading some gender critical people having a fit over gay men and surrogacy/adoption and -- while they were at pains to say they weren't homophobic -- several of them agreed that gay men nearly always want sons; citing gay men's misogny as the obvious reason.

He did not have to seek advice by putting up a video and asking “Black Tik-Tok.”

I love the Elton John shirt. Can he stand up and show us his assless chaps too?