Do you allow your husband or boyfriend to go through your phone??

Yes

Why would he want to?

I’ll leave if you let go!

[QUOTE] Why would he want to?

Trust issues that lead to controlling and abusive behavior.

No, nor me want to see his. We are (reasonably) well-adjusted adults.

Why not? What do I have to hide? I would wonder if he would not let me look through his phone. Because of our acceptance to allow each other full access to each of our phones there has never been a time I felt the need to snoop. That is trust.

If our sex life is still hot and he has a golden dick, yes.

If he demands to look through your phone, he's got something to hide (which he has already deleted from his own phone). Beware.

If by ¨to go through my phone¨ you mean hand over my phone for Daddy to search for signs of sexual, financial, social misdoings, then fuck no, I´m not a child and neither is my partner. We don´t require careful monitoring and snooping.

But if you mean do we have access to each other´s phones, then yes. We know each other´s passwords. I can return a message a call or message from his phone, or check to see if an email or alert arrived, etc. if there´s some need to do. He can do the same on mine. Neither of us has any curiosity to look for hidden photo files or hidden apps or call or message history, etc. Trust isn´t built upon a foundation of a lack of trust.

"allow?" Is your husband subservient? a pet?

He's utterly disinterested. There isn't much there I don't show him anyway, like photos from our travels.

I look at his only to clean it up from the dozen apps he leaves open. OCD...

Why would I care? He can go for it. I've sent nudes, dirty jokes, fuck plans - but my bf knows all about it. 90% of my texts are either with family, or include him anyway. He knows I've got lots of porn, random dick pics, etc.

I would hate being in a relationship where we weren't open, or where I thought I had to hide something.

HELL NO!!!

You can lock/hide threads now in WhatsApp.

Useful for more obscene communications.

My phone is personal not for your eyes

Do you see how the responses at r1 and r2 are connected

You both can live quite well if you get rid of these infernal devices.

Stop being a slave to your cell phones.

Both of them can go through my phone.

R17 are you 100 yrs old?

42. Why?

Your response says otherwise

To be honest, R21, I do think R17 has a point, and I often fantasise about getting an extremely stupid phone (one that you can only call with, basically).

But then.. there's Google Maps, Card payments with my watch, etc. All conveniences that make my comings and goings 100% traceable, of course.....

Yes but not my diary.

I’ve got a lover back in Japan

Big deal, I've got a China Girl

Cheap Chinese shoes. Tight on my feet.