May-December Gay Male Relationships
A friend of my brother is 42 and gay. His now fiance is 31. They live in Hollywood, work in the film industry (nothing too big). They moved there a few years ago. They’ve lived together for 10 years and decided to get engaged after 7, during the pandemic. Does this relationship stand a chance? I mean, once you throw marriage into the mix? They’re not really scene queens - well, my brother’s friend isn’t (the 41 year old). They’re not rich. They haven’t set a date to be married yet. They live in a little apartment. When they met, the younger one was only 21. How much dating experience had he had at that point? They’re very nice people but it got me wondering. I know, it’s not my life, not really my business, but I’m curious all the same. What do you guys think. They’re supposedly monogamist. The whole gay marriage thing is still pretty new. I’d wonder the same about a heterosexual couple who were those ages - although “gay monogamy” in Hollywood…? Do they stand a chance? Can an age gap of 11 years work when the person is 31 and the other is 42? When the older one turns 50, the younger one will be 39. That’s pretty big.
I think I could wrap my head around it more if my brother’s friend was in the sugar daddy range, like a 50-something with a 29 year old. But 30 and 40 isn’t that old. I was definitely a different person in my 30s than from my 40s.
Give me your take. Do you know anyone gay (male) around these ages that got married successfully?
| by Anonymous | reply 15 | November 20, 2023 1:01 PM
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Are there any French bulldogs in the story OP? Two. That would be a nice touch.
| by Anonymous | reply 1 | November 20, 2023 8:18 AM
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It will NEVER work. 11 years???? Eleven years?? What do they even TALK about? It's like they're from different planets. One was born in the early 80s. The other in the early 90s. TWO DIFFERENT DECADES!
I mean, does the younger even know what The Cosby Show was? And does the older run even get Barney? The older one was prolly all into Nirvana, Whitney Houston and flannel and being angsty and the younger one was more like late stage Radiohead, Beyonce and Pokemon. It's just a bridge too far. Just way too far.
The whole thing is basically a sin.
| by Anonymous | reply 2 | November 20, 2023 9:39 AM
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"I know, it’s not my life, not really my business, but..."
That's the national anthem for Basement Bottom Nation.
| by Anonymous | reply 3 | November 20, 2023 9:50 AM
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It’s wrong. Shockingly wrong!
| by Anonymous | reply 4 | November 20, 2023 10:01 AM
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11 years is not an meaningful age gap. I think you have to be over 20 years apart for it to even register, and even more for it to be considered “May December.”
| by Anonymous | reply 5 | November 20, 2023 10:17 AM
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May / December is a 30-year-old with a 70-year-old.
Eleven years is significant, but certainly not insurmountable. And they've already lived together ten years, so beingx won't be incredibly different.
| by Anonymous | reply 6 | November 20, 2023 10:32 AM
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OP is a fucking idiot. I realize we all know this but I wanted to say it anyway.
| by Anonymous | reply 7 | November 20, 2023 11:01 AM
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If they've been together for 11 years, something is working. MYOB.
| by Anonymous | reply 8 | November 20, 2023 11:04 AM
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I never understand the ugly old grandpas with the young Asians. I seem to see that all the time.
| by Anonymous | reply 9 | November 20, 2023 11:17 AM
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More li ke a July September relatonship.
| by Anonymous | reply 10 | November 20, 2023 11:38 AM
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It’s a sham. You know it. I know it. The whole world knows it. Many people have tried this and failed. They always tell me “Gee, I wish I never did it. I wish I was smart like you!”
| by Anonymous | reply 11 | November 20, 2023 11:55 AM
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Oh, PLEASE, they're already in an open relationship. They're both having side pieces, and that's okay. It can work out if they keep allowing each other to hook up with others.
| by Anonymous | reply 12 | November 20, 2023 12:37 PM
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When I was 50, a 35-year-old told me I was "too young" for a relationship with him. Today he's 62, married to a guy (83) for ten years.
| by Anonymous | reply 13 | November 20, 2023 12:52 PM
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Gurl that's not anywhere near "May-December" !!!!! An 11 year difference is sustainable for a relationship I would categorize this as "May-Aug" romance.
| by Anonymous | reply 14 | November 20, 2023 12:55 PM
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Some people are whores, some people get comfortable and don’t like changes.
I’m sure you’ll find someone someday, OP.
| by Anonymous | reply 15 | November 20, 2023 1:01 PM
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