How do you cope with a parent who has dementia? My mom was diagnosed with vascular dementia a few months ago. She's always been cantankerous and strong-willed to put it mildly, but lately she is aggressive and paranoid. She does not like the fact that I've taken more of a parental role and she is desperately grabbing for independence and power. She gets mad at me for providing help and insists she's independent but then will huff and puff if I don't instantly drop what I'm doing and help her. Lately, I can't even go to the bathroom without her being passive aggressive as she thinks I'm ignoring her if I don't instantly do her list of wants.
Unfortunately, to make this situation worse, my dad is not on the same page. He is slowly waking up to the fact that she has dementia but his goal is to make her happy instead of doing what she needs/what is best for her. I understand that somewhat as sometimes it is easier to keep the peace, but he needs to start not always deferring to her and letting her have her way especially as she progresses.
She thinks I'm trying to gain power and control and really I'm just trying to help take care of her.