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I Have Cancer

Just found out today. I've been waiting a couple of weeks for biopsy results -was told they'd call me either way but assumed no news was good news. I gave in and called the office this morning, to be told by an assistant that both came back positive, and that surgery would be scheduled as soon as the insurance approval came in. For now I'm in limbo. Fuck.

Sorry -just had to tell somebody what was going on. Couldn't tell anyone at work after the call, so you guys are the first to know. No one else to tell, really.

by Anonymousreply 52September 16, 2023 11:54 PM

OP - I'm sorry to hear that. I can't believe an ASSISTANT would be allowed to tell you that - that seems very unprofessional.

Do you mind sharing what kind of cancer?

by Anonymousreply 1September 15, 2023 5:55 AM

Sorry to hear that. What kind of cancer is it and what stage?

by Anonymousreply 2September 15, 2023 5:55 AM

I sorry you got this news, it must be a lot to deal with. That said, the idea you could just call in and get a cancer diagnosis from the "assistant" seems super weird. Where do you live?

by Anonymousreply 3September 15, 2023 5:59 AM

So sorry to hear that, OP. Sending love and best wishes.

by Anonymousreply 4September 15, 2023 6:21 AM

Take care OP. Hope the surgery is scheduled ASAP and it goes well.

by Anonymousreply 5September 15, 2023 6:27 AM

[quote]I can't believe an ASSISTANT would be allowed to tell you that - that seems very unprofessional

I’m guessing it’s not a Kaiser provider because the assistant actually called instead of sending a message through the app.

by Anonymousreply 6September 15, 2023 6:31 AM

Surely an MRI would be scheduled first? Either way best of luck bb that’s bad luck. Hope you get a good treatment plan and prognosis is good x.

by Anonymousreply 7September 15, 2023 6:32 AM

Rosie warned you not to lie.

by Anonymousreply 8September 15, 2023 6:35 AM


So sorry, OP.

by Anonymousreply 9September 15, 2023 7:06 AM

I've had prostate cancer for 23 years. I've been close to the "drain" a time or two. I was fortunate in receiving a nuclear series of treatments at UCLA. Now at 81 my cancer is coming back. I'm not worried, I've been very fortunate.

by Anonymousreply 10September 15, 2023 7:19 AM

Listen to your doctors at every turn. Praying for you, and the old line - catching it early, sounds like you are strong and will beat it.

by Anonymousreply 11September 15, 2023 7:45 AM

I had a guy who was not the actual doctor just blurt it out at me like that too. "You got cancer, I am on the other line, is there anything else?" FUCKERS! Anyways, I am alive, monitoring this, had to realize it's not going to kill me that day or that week. Take a breath and give yourself some time to figure out your next step. Acknowledge that you are in shock and probably sad. Don't focus on the idiots that just blurt that shit out, waste of time and you are not going to change anything by getting mad at them. People are not always thinking about other's feelings in those jobs because they get so jaded about saying the same thing to people day in and day out.

On another note, my brother-in-law had that nuclear prostate thing done. For him it seems to working like a charm. Still has his prostate. I think that was 5 years ago, he's still around no problems.

by Anonymousreply 12September 15, 2023 7:59 AM

Big hugs OP. We're here if you need to drop some comps safely that nobody else needs to know about.

by Anonymousreply 13September 15, 2023 8:13 AM

Full and perfect health - may that be your prognosis, OP. Keep positive thoughts and gratitude in all you do.

by Anonymousreply 14September 15, 2023 8:36 AM

You're going to be ok, OP. The treatments for cancer now are so much better than even 10 years ago. Even IF you have to have chemo, chemo isn't like it's portrayed in film. They have drugs now to help with nausea and the other effects.

You WILL survive this. I did.

by Anonymousreply 15September 15, 2023 8:56 AM

Sending you my well wishes.

by Anonymousreply 16September 15, 2023 9:01 AM

You got any good stuff?

by Anonymousreply 17September 15, 2023 9:01 AM

I just can't figure out why the medical profession has not yet learned that if you give someone a diagnosis that they are going to perceive as catastrophic (whether it really turns out to be or not) you have to provide support at the same time. You have to ask them whether they have someone at home they can lean on, and if not you have to book them in to see a psychologist or grief counsellor or something in the next few days. Why is that hard to understand? And why is it left up to individual doctors instead of there being State rulings about it and support for it?

by Anonymousreply 18September 15, 2023 9:30 AM

The care in the US is good. Choreography of care? Not good.

by Anonymousreply 19September 15, 2023 9:33 AM

[quote] Listen to your doctors at every turn.

Yes, but . . .

Yes, your doctors have years of education, experience, and knowledge to guide their decisions and recommendations about your care the best choices for your treatment. Their advice is based on that expertise and should be followed. Otherwise, what are they there for.

But, you are also your own best advocate in matters having to do with your health and your body. You know your body better than anyone else. You should carefully follow the advice of your physicians, but you should also feel free to question recommendations that somehow don’t seem right to you or for you. The practice of medicine is both an art and a science. It’s not a one-size-fits-all situation.

Hope that everything goes extremely well.

by Anonymousreply 20September 15, 2023 3:48 PM

Being molested is MUCH worse, OP.

by Anonymousreply 21September 15, 2023 4:02 PM

Lies - assistants can’t disclose that information.

by Anonymousreply 22September 15, 2023 4:13 PM

You should probably get MAID, bitch.

by Anonymousreply 23September 15, 2023 4:14 PM

My partner had to discover his diagnosis on the patient portal instead of from the doctor. Next time we saw him, I tore him a new one for his lack of compassion. AFTER we'd gotten a new doctor at MSK.

by Anonymousreply 24September 15, 2023 4:20 PM

^And I bet it went like this did.

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by Anonymousreply 25September 15, 2023 4:22 PM

EST? OP has not reported back. I hope cancer is not being used for trolling.

by Anonymousreply 26September 15, 2023 4:24 PM

I wish you well, OP, and please do check in with any news.

by Anonymousreply 27September 15, 2023 5:14 PM

I’m sorry to hear that OP. Hopefully everything will work out for the best.

by Anonymousreply 28September 15, 2023 5:31 PM

Sorry to hear this, OP. Sending you strength and positive vibes.

by Anonymousreply 29September 15, 2023 5:34 PM

OP, I know this is shocking news but try to stay positive - medical science improves constantly. And hopefully, it was found early enough that you have an easy-ish time of it, both physically and emotionally. Sending good thoughts, strength, and positive energy to you.

by Anonymousreply 30September 15, 2023 6:16 PM

Can I have your stuff, OP?

by Anonymousreply 31September 15, 2023 6:20 PM


by Anonymousreply 32September 15, 2023 6:37 PM

I’m so sorry. Sending good vibes!

by Anonymousreply 33September 15, 2023 6:38 PM

R33 I’m so sorry to hear that. My best friend was just diagnosed as well. Don’t despair. Treatments are much better than they were. I’m sending you strength and healing thoughts. WTF giving you the dx over the phone? I’m glad you came here and shared. I know I care and so do others.

by Anonymousreply 34September 15, 2023 6:42 PM

I'm sorry. Best of luck to you on your treatment and hopeful recovery.

by Anonymousreply 35September 15, 2023 7:29 PM

[quote]Lies - assistants can’t disclose that information.

People break rules all the time dumb-ass. Telling you that's what happened in my case. It was a medical assistant type person. Most of then haven't had more than 2 years of college for that job.

by Anonymousreply 36September 15, 2023 10:11 PM

I feel you, OP. I'm so sorry and even though I don't know who you are you're like a little DL sibling and I wish I could give you a hug so you wouldn't feel so alone tonight. One day I may be in your place. So I send you an anonymous hug through here. I hope everything turns out alright and you're back in a few without the anxiety and the fear.

by Anonymousreply 37September 15, 2023 10:44 PM

The first time I found out I had cancer, I had just come out of a colonoscopy. My doctor came in, said they had found something suspicious and were going to biopsy it, and he would let me know the results. He left and I was waiting for my friend to pick me up, still coming out of the anesthesia, and the nurse handed me a copy of the report. I started reading it, came to a part where it said, in no uncertain terms, malignancy. I grabbed the nurse, said- the doctor said they needed to test it. Why does this say malignancy?

She said- we've done enough of these that we know what it looks like. Honestly, even I could see it from the photos, and I had no idea what I was looking at. And when my doctor called with the biopsy results later that week, of course there were no surprises.

OP, what type of cancer?

by Anonymousreply 38September 15, 2023 11:01 PM


by Anonymousreply 39September 16, 2023 2:45 AM

Hi! I'm Kelt!

by Anonymousreply 40September 16, 2023 2:45 AM

[quote] Listen to your doctors at every turn.

Fuck that! Do your OWN research! It’s how I treated my COVID with Ivermectin.

Sure I spent 8 weeks on a ventilator in ICU, but that probably would have been 10 had I not taken that horse de-wormer!

by Anonymousreply 41September 16, 2023 3:30 AM

OP here again. Tbank you (almost all) for the good wishes and concern. I really do appreciate them. I was so blown away by the news yesterday that I really was in shock. I still am, but at least today I'm coping better. I know that a cancer diagnosis isn't necessarily terminal, but when it happens to you it really is like a slap in the face. I honestly was expecting someone to tell me they didn't have the results yet, or that everything was negative and they'd simply forgotten to call.

For those who asked, it is cancer of the sinus cavity. I've never heard of that before. It is rare, but most commonly occurs in white men over 55. I'm 60 and they don't come any whiter. The survival rate is pretty good as cancers go, but I'm told I will need some facial reconstruction surgery afterward. I will likely do both radiation and chemo as well.

Sorry, R26, I didn't realize I was on a timeline for posting... I won't have anything new to report until I hear back from my insurance company that they have authorized the surgery. I hope that meets with your approval?

by Anonymousreply 42September 16, 2023 5:32 AM


by Anonymousreply 43September 16, 2023 5:38 AM

OP/R42, if I might make a suggestion about discussing this situation on here... Ignore the snark and don't take the bait. It doesn't do you any good and it just encourages others. If you keep responding, then it will keep happening. This is a thread for you to get support right now. I know the DL is Snark Central, but it's also a place that does offer a sympathetic ear and encouragement and support when we need it for something like this. We are here for you.

by Anonymousreply 44September 16, 2023 4:02 PM

OP will fail cisplatin and we will arrange its funeral

by Anonymousreply 45September 16, 2023 9:31 PM

OP, I'm so sorry about the diagnosis, the way that you found out, the abject lack of consideration and support your doctor has afforded you, and that some on here have trolled you.

I wish you all the best.

I know someone who has managed to stay alive decades after a grim bowel cancer diagnosis. He has taken part in trials for drugs treating his cancer and other types thanks to a helpful, open-minded doctor, and keeps close to some kind of naturopath who works to enhance his health without counteracting what his doctor prescribes.

You have a lot ahead of you, I just hope the medical staff treating you look after you better than they have so far.

by Anonymousreply 46September 16, 2023 10:37 PM

No OP is fake n doomed n I’m happy

by Anonymousreply 47September 16, 2023 10:40 PM

My neighbor got a call from some chick who said really fast “your test says you’ve got cancer” then hung up. My neighbor told me she never even tested for cancer,.

by Anonymousreply 48September 16, 2023 11:08 PM

[quote] cisplatin

what ARE you talking about?

[quote] No OP is fake n doomed n I’m happy

There's a grease fire SCREAMING for you. Find it and leap in.

by Anonymousreply 49September 16, 2023 11:28 PM

OP- All I can do is send you good thoughts. We all are all one, baby. And ultimately a speck of sand in the grand scheme. I wish you whole, happy, and free. I am 44 and what will I live, 20, 30 more years? It's a massive conveyer belt. I am with you. XOXOXO

by Anonymousreply 50September 16, 2023 11:30 PM

Cancer....that's hiLARious!

by Anonymousreply 51September 16, 2023 11:41 PM

OP/R42, you're going to be just fine.

As you noted, sinus cancer has a very high survival rate.

by Anonymousreply 52September 16, 2023 11:54 PM
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