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Tell us about losing your gay virginity

Who? When? Where? How?

by Anonymousreply 41May 27, 2024 1:34 AM

Define loss. For me, things happened in stages. Do you mean up the butt, Bob?

by Anonymousreply 1September 2, 2023 4:15 PM

R1 I guess there are stages. 1st hands or mouths, then ass (giving or taking). Maybe just 1st time being sexual with another male.

by Anonymousreply 2September 2, 2023 4:17 PM

Let's just cut to the chase and say where this thread is headed regardless of the interest and merits in discussing our coming-of-age experiences: stealth pedo thread.

by Anonymousreply 3September 2, 2023 4:52 PM


by Anonymousreply 4September 2, 2023 4:53 PM

Stealth pedo thread

by Anonymousreply 5September 2, 2023 4:55 PM

I don’t remember. That’s how much of a natural born slut I was.

by Anonymousreply 6September 2, 2023 5:01 PM

FF the Fraus and gays with daddy issues at R3 R5

by Anonymousreply 7September 2, 2023 5:01 PM

Freshman in college, 1980, hot guy across the hall in our dorm at a major university. I used to stare at him in Calculus class. It was Spring Break, with everyone gone. No roomates. We went at it for hours, 69-ing with The Police album playing. And Joan Arbitrating. He was experienced and I was not. He said he was "Bi" lol. After that, we'd meet in a shower stall, which was the only place for privacy. Didn't have enough in common or the maturity to forge an emotional relationship, and both moved on. He insisted that he was also into pussy, which turned me off. After that, I decided that I was gay and ended up sucking every openly gay cock on campus.

Strangely, we ended up living in the same city. 20 or 30 years ago, he was in front of me in line at a grocery store, put one of those dividers on the conveyor belt so that the guy behind him (me) could add his items, and I said "Thanks. And thanks for taking away my virginity!". He did a double take, then remembered. The checker and everyone in line were suddenly being entertained. We've had a quirky friendship ever since. I consider him as kind of a close, extended family member, and would give him a kidney if he needed one. His husband is one of my favorite people on the planet.

Not sure what the gay rules are for losing one's virginity, but I lost my ass virginity a few years later with an older, ex-Mormon man. We dated for maybe half a year. He was psycho, but absolutely wonderful in bed. I Google stalked him last year, only to find his obituary, onto which I left a brief comment. One of his daughters responded with gratitude and said that he had spoken about me, apparently in a positive way. We might have been together for a year or more. My memory is very shitty these days.

by Anonymousreply 8September 2, 2023 6:23 PM

I don't want to be judged by you puritanical queens.

by Anonymousreply 9September 2, 2023 6:34 PM

Yes, R9, you obviously do. So don't be a skanky ho past tease.

by Anonymousreply 10September 2, 2023 6:43 PM

My first time at a gay bathhouse when I was 20. I was sitting the the cave-like steam room with one other person. All of a sudden, he got up, walked over to me, grabbed my dick, and began playing with it. I did the same to him until he started to suck me. I came almost immediately, but did reciprocate and was rewarded with my first taste of cum. So began my journey toward slutdom.

by Anonymousreply 11September 2, 2023 7:18 PM

I was 15-16 and couldn’t stop staring at this neighbourhood baddie. He was Puerto Rican 17-18. One night he caught my gaze and led down an ally way near a factory. He nor I knew what to do really. He tried to fuck me but he got and inch in and it hurt but he came. I was confused because I wanted him but that was it. He avoided me from then on but didn’t let anyone pick on me. I still remember see him on a the same bus years later and feeling his eyes my way.

by Anonymousreply 12September 2, 2023 7:42 PM

My dad's friend. His name was Norm. A neck downer. Great body, great dick, but was a typical 45 yearold in the face and hairline. Didn't care.

by Anonymousreply 13September 2, 2023 8:22 PM

I was 14, he was 17. Neighbors

Started out with hand jobs, then progressed to blow jobs but didn’t swallow, then fucking and cum inside. He was top then my turn. Then blow jobs swallowing. Eventually deep kissing. It was a glorious 2 years.

by Anonymousreply 14September 2, 2023 8:42 PM

R13 what’s a neck downer? How did this interaction initiate?

by Anonymousreply 15September 2, 2023 10:47 PM

I was 14. He was a soldier. Gutted when he died at Gettysburg.

by Anonymousreply 16September 2, 2023 11:18 PM

[quote]Joan Arbitrating

One of the funniest "Oh, DEAR"s ever. And great story, R8!

by Anonymousreply 17September 2, 2023 11:31 PM

By the way what constitutes loosing your virginity in the gay world. For straights is it still penetrative sex? Is it the same for us? Does top vs. being a bottom matter?

by Anonymousreply 18September 2, 2023 11:31 PM

It was a dark and stormy night, the lights went out , from a ear shattering burst of cracking lighting , i saw it, Gleaming in the light, it was Huge and attached was a very tall man . I ran to him shouting "oh take me , Take me now. After our slender in the storm we both smoked cigarettes, long and slow. It was the best night of my life.

by Anonymousreply 19September 2, 2023 11:34 PM

R18 technically either way anal, but since we have a lot to overcome even oral or jo might be considered in some fashion

by Anonymousreply 20September 2, 2023 11:36 PM

[quote] Joan Arbitrating

Joan Armatrading, dear.

Did you Love It When He Called You Names?

by Anonymousreply 21September 2, 2023 11:36 PM

BJ virginity in HS - in one week I blew both a friend at school (meh) and a mechanic at a auto repair place in my small town (very nice - he was in his overalls and everything. Big load. Loved it.)

Ass virginity at 21, with a beautiful, long haired guy from Iran. He looked a lot like a young Cat Stevens (who is not Persian, but anyway, you get the idea). He was truly the perfect guy for that experience - nothing was too big or small, he was older but not so much older that it was weird, he was sweet when he needed to be but fucked hard enough to make it exciting.

by Anonymousreply 22September 2, 2023 11:40 PM

Relevant to the topic..

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by Anonymousreply 23September 2, 2023 11:49 PM

Surprise anal.

by Anonymousreply 24September 3, 2023 2:00 AM

When I was seventeen it was a very good year.

But I got fucked for the first time by a an adult two years before, by a ex-married bartender with kids who got me drunk. He was huge and I dissociated to get through it. I had to go to my father's company's annual picnic the next day, and could barely walk.

Before that, just after my 14th birthday, I was sent to work on a farm by my father because he thought I needed toughening up. I slept in a double bed with the 15-year-old farm boy, the son of the farmer. He looked 18 to me, built like a god, and a complete jerk. He was so horny he'd knock me down and wrestle me under him while he thrusted. His mother would say, "Stop your roughhousing. You're just showing off." It took four days before I let him discover what I was figuring out. He came fast, twice a night and sometimes during the day in the hay barn or a work shed. Spit. I introduced him to hand lotion. He still treated me like shit when anyone was around at first, but I let him have it one day and he changed after that. One night he started kissing me as he came, and after that he was crazy about kissing while we fucked. We tried every position we could think of. It made me giddy. With him I just enjoyed it and didn't think much more about it.

by Anonymousreply 25September 3, 2023 3:10 AM

Oopsie - bad habit. My first lover/fuckbud was pre-law. We always called her Joan Arbitrating and it stuck. The album was "Walk Under Ladders," or at least that was the song that got the most radio airplay. It was a wonderful album.

by Anonymousreply 26September 3, 2023 9:04 AM

Not sure if it'd even be classed as losing my virginity, but my first time doing anything sexual with a guy was a mutual masturbation session. We were both 18/19 and it was during the summer when we were home after doing our first year at university.

We'd been 'dating' for a couple of months and, even though we'd kissed for what felt like a combined total of several hours, we took a while before doing anything sexual. Like I say, it was just mutual wanking while we kissed. I thought it was hot at the time (probably because it was my first experience) but looking back it was kind of awkward.

He went a bit weird afterwards. I sent him a few texts and he'd always reply, but his responses were brief. I took the hint and stopped texting him and, as I predicted, he never contacted me again. He was quite far back in the closet and I wondered if our encounter had freaked him out. It upset me at the time because it was my first relationship. I looked him up years later on Facebook and found he was head of some LGBT organisation in his local area, with lots of posts about how wonderful he was.

I'm sure he's a nice guy now, but I always thought his behaviour was a bit shitty, but that's closeted men for you!

by Anonymousreply 27September 3, 2023 10:50 AM

Mine involved this guy who was a few years older and kept bragging about how big he was. Needless to say when I whipped mine out, it was the same size. It was at that moment I knew I’d be fine.

by Anonymousreply 28September 3, 2023 10:53 AM

Very interesting stories

by Anonymousreply 29September 23, 2023 3:00 PM

It hurt.

by Anonymousreply 30September 23, 2023 3:21 PM

Highschool. I was a sophomore he was a senior. We were both in geometry together. He was kind of a loser and didn't have a lot of friends but he was on the wrestling team. I played basketball and one day getting ready for practice I see him in the locker room. His body is ripped and he has a huge hanging cock. He looks at me and just goes "whats up?" We got friendly in class and soon he would be using the locker right next to me since our practices ran parallel. I know he walked home every day after practice and I had a car so this particular day I offered him a ride home. We get to his house and he asked me if I wanted to come in and hang out. His mom worked second shift and would not be home till after midnight. We are hanging out in his basement and he asked me if I want to smoke a bowl. Sure!. We get high and he wants to watch a porno he has. Sure! About five minutes into it he has a massive boner in his shorts. High, I go "Jesus your dick is big," just sort of blurting it out. He yanks his sorts down and out springs, no lie nine inches of scary big dick. I look over and he just has a goofy grin and he is looking at me. So I slowly reach over and grab it. It is thick my hand just fits around it. Next thing I know I am stroking it and just going "it's really big." I look back and his head is laid back down and his eyes are closed. So I lean in and lick the head and he doesn't jerk away or stop me. I let er rip and start sucking his dick.

He puts his hand on the back of my head and I instinctively put mine on his bare chest. Then I feel his hand on my hand. It start thinking this is more than an awkward blowjob. So I pull off his dick and look at him. His eyes are open and looking at me. I figured I went this far might as well try for gold and I lean in to kiss him. To my surprise he leans in and boom tongue. We are full on making out, his big dick in my hand. He does not stop either. We must have made out for 10 minutes straight. I got down on the floor and went back to sucking his cock, and licked his big balls and swiped his taint. He pulled me back up and kissed me again. Longer and deeper too. Next thing I know we are on his floor, clothes are off and he is dry humping me. He is still making out with me, not that I minded. He cums all over my stomach, like a fucking gusher. We are laying there, and he is kissing my neck and stroking my chest. His dick is getting hard again and we go another round. He wants to fuck me but I am too scared to try...yet. After that I drove him home from practice every day and we got right to it every day, eventually me taking his full dick. He was graduating and If figured that was that but he was not planning to go to college. He got a job as a mechanic at a local dealership and moved out. Got his own place. I saw him all through my highschool and college. People thought we were just best friends but we were boyfriends we just never said it.

by Anonymousreply 31May 5, 2024 3:37 PM

His name was Palo. We were both in the Legislative Youth Program. He was a few years older than I: very cute, dark curly hair, dreamy eyes.

by Anonymousreply 32May 5, 2024 3:46 PM

I've told this story before here on DL. I was 18 years old and 6 weeks into my freshman year at a liberal university during the free-wheeling 70s. My art history professor was this tall, very handsome nordic-looking man in his late 30s. A girl I had befriended and I were in a coffee shop one day and he was there. He started chatting us up and I figured he was hitting on her. The three of us chatted for a while and he offered to give us a ride home. After he dropped her off at her dorm, he asked if I wanted to go for drive. He drove outside of town and stopped in a wooded area where he started kissing me. I was close to passing out from excitement. We ended up back at his place and it was there I officially lost my virginity. Numerous times. We hooked up every few days until the end of that semester before he moved on to the next virginal conquest. In hindsight it was a very romantic deflowering and I will always have fond memories of it and him.

by Anonymousreply 33May 5, 2024 4:31 PM

My next-door neighbor in the dorms (this is the early '90s) was of Spanish descent, sweet guy. Hairy chest and big, hairy, uncut cock. I'm smooth and average. We had this energy between us for several months. One night, we all got high and crashed in someone's room. I woke up in the middle of the night feeling him staring at me. We inched closer together and started making out. My first gay kiss.

A few days later we started getting naked, showing each other our dicks - there were these "typing rooms" in the dorms that sat between the long hallways on either side of our floor. We'd go in there and drop trou. Eventually we did tons of oral but oddly, never anal. That was with a future guy.

by Anonymousreply 34May 5, 2024 6:02 PM

When I was 16 a 15 year old boy unknown to me cruised me at a Public library. Not the town I lived in, but a few suburbs over. I was supposed to be researching material not at my hometown’s library.

Anyway, he offered to blow me in the bathroom but chickened out when we got into the stall. We kissed and then took over and blew him until he ahot in my mouth. I swallowed every drop. Never saw him again.

Lost my butt sex virginity my freshman year in college from a guy who graduated the year before but was visiting the local gay bar. The pain I experienced and the resultingcase of crabs made it not as much fun.

by Anonymousreply 35May 5, 2024 6:12 PM

I was 24, he kept bragging about well how hung he was. Lo behold, whips it out and we’re the same size. We’ll even a novice made him look dumb

by Anonymousreply 36May 5, 2024 6:51 PM

We'll meet again

Don't know where

Don't know when

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by Anonymousreply 37May 5, 2024 6:52 PM

any more stories?

by Anonymousreply 38May 26, 2024 11:44 PM

I didn’t know I liked guys until college. Spring semester senior year, stuck at Cornell one final semester. there were a lot of straight porn mags in the house and I realized I liked the shoots with both men and women best, and I was frustrated they only occasionally showed a flaccid dick. I started going down the slope to Ithaca gas stations to buy gay porn. I was terrified someone would find it. Lost my virginity later that year on the Long Island Expressway. Met a good looking older guy in a rest stop. We fooled around and I sat on his dick. I guess I really wanted it. He fucked me good and I still remember biting my green mardi gras bead necklace why my head slammed against the burgundy upholstery. I then fucked him back. It was a bit awkward but very hot. Set me on my way to exploring my sexuality.

by Anonymousreply 39May 27, 2024 12:10 AM

Sounds romantic as hell.

by Anonymousreply 40May 27, 2024 1:18 AM

In a gay porn theatre. It was great, exciting and a huge gusher. Loved it.

by Anonymousreply 41May 27, 2024 1:34 AM
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