Even Bull Dykes Get the Blues - Surviving Breast Cancer as a Butch Lesbian

If you look like a man, expect people to think you're a man and call you Sir. Get over it. Butches aren't too bright. They are always surprised when someone mistakes them for a man. Secondly, most women are feminine and most women who get breast cancer are straight, feminine women. Get over it. Thirdly, feminine women like pink. Get over it. What an annoying hairy twat.

Do feminine women like pink though? Seems like a cultural thing to associate a color with feminity or masculinity.

Are all lesbians always so extreme like you R1? I have found that to be the case. Even the lipstick lesbians have a brittleness to them that outs them

[quote] worst of all, the Texas receptionist at the cancer clinic called her “Sir”

I was wondering what had happened to Marcy!

There’s nothing Lens Dunham won’t do for attention.

She looks like DL fave Peggy Cass.

She kinda has a point though. Men do get and die from breast cancer, too - I knew one who did.

Snowflake @ R2

Wow, like so she looks a tad butch, but with ample breasts like those pre surgery, how could the receptionist call her Sir. Fuck those bitchy prissy counter cunts!

R2, I love pink. Some men like pink too. It's a beautiful color. It's butch lesbians who are always at war with pink. They get triggered by it. I'm not extreme, just tired of butches complaining about being called Sir and hating pink. I've been hearing them complain about those two things for years.

What? Did she want the Dr. to pick out her new boobs?

If she doesn't want pink (too feminine-assuming!), or receptionists calling her "Sir" (too masculine-assuming!), she needs to get the hell out of Texas.

I'm waiting for Lea DeLaria to weigh in.

On the controversy. Not on a scale.

Geez, with a diagnosis of breast cancer, this is much ado about very little. Sure, we can meet inconsiderate assholes anywhere, including in a doctor's office. Report the witches to the office manager or practice owner.

There are three of us in my circle of gay friends who have been diagnosed with breast cancer. Granted, we're not in Texas, but the cancer treatment specialists and staff tend to be extremely considerate and compassionate. Same with the online support groups. There are plenty of lesbians in the Reddit and Facebook breast cancer subgroups.

This gal had a wide range of options, from lumpectomy +/ - reconstruction and/ or reduction, nipple sparing masectomy, unilateral or bilateral, with a range of reconstruction options including reduction, or full masectomy, unilateral or bilateral, again with options for reconstruction or asthetic flat closure. Interesting than as gender nonconforming she actually chose to retain her breasts after a lumpectomy and reduction, rather than the equivalent of "top surgery". Her choice, of course.

Pink is an issue, as well? Sorry, but this is really petty. Pink is not my favorite color either, but I could care less what the ribbon symbol for breast cancer looks like, or what color is linked to it . The breast cancer foundations are a source of incredible support and information, plus funding for low-income women. These groups have laid the foundation for much of the current treatment and research, so I am going to wear pink whatever, if it can help someone else.

* Makes an effort to look like a man * * Gets addressed with "Sir" * * Is offended *

God. Don't we have actual problems? Breast cancer sucks though; I wish her good health.

I don't go to doctors or nurses because I feel they have biases against LGBTQ+ people. At best, they just don't care whether we live or die. At worst they may try to deliberately harm us.

Question for the feminine gay men here: Are you triggered by the color blue? Would you be offended if you were diagnosed with prostate cancer and were surrounded by blue ribbons?

The front-desk hussies at the oncologist's office need a furious bitch-slapping. What is it about receptionists at doctors' offices? So many are ghastly bitches. There's something to that, but I'm not sure what.

As far as Gina of the article goes, she might not realize that many of us never-married, childless women get treated like outsiders in health care, generally. Sometimes it's overt, and sometimes subtle, but the implicit assumption that I'm weird because I'm independent is always there. And the older you are, the worse it gets.

At least Gina has a girlfriend to drive her home from surgery. I have to hire a medical-ride service at significant expense. That is, if the front-desk bitches at the hospital allow it!

I guess I made this all about me.

[quote]What is it about receptionists at doctors' offices? So many are ghastly bitches. There's something to that, but I'm not sure what.

Without wishing to go off topic... This is something I've noticed too! My theory, and this isn't very nice, is that doctors are among the best-educated and most highly-respected members of a given community and that this might breed insecurity in their comparatively unskilled employees. The receptionists take this out on the doctors' patients by acting as officious gatekeepers between the doctor and the patient.

As a job in healthcare, there may be stresses (this is what a doctor told me when I took a receptionist to task for being bad at her job but this was a family doctor on the same street as a major hospital, so I don't think they can have seen many emergencies) but I believe my earlier theory to be a better explanation.