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Anyone here ever lived in Hawaii?

Old friend of mine lives there. He says it's gorgeous but generally unfriendly, which I found surprising. I'm still jealous of course.

by Anonymousreply 99June 3, 2023 1:05 PM

No one has ever lived in Hawaii not even native Hawaiians.

by Anonymousreply 1May 19, 2023 11:02 PM

It's unfriendly toward the whities.

by Anonymousreply 2May 19, 2023 11:05 PM

It's expensive and you better love Spam in everything.

by Anonymousreply 3May 19, 2023 11:10 PM

Your friend is right OP. The only way to fit in is to marry a local.

by Anonymousreply 4May 19, 2023 11:12 PM

[quote]It's unfriendly toward the whities.

Are they POC?

by Anonymousreply 5May 19, 2023 11:12 PM

If you were constantly having to deal with asshole tourists, you'd be pretty unfriendly also. Ask the New Yorkers whose hostility is on display daily.

by Anonymousreply 6May 20, 2023 1:29 AM

Is there a meth problem there? Or are there other drugs?

by Anonymousreply 7May 20, 2023 1:31 AM

yes big meth problems

by Anonymousreply 8May 20, 2023 1:46 AM

[quote]Is there a meth problem there?

Hawaii or New York?

by Anonymousreply 9May 20, 2023 2:58 AM


by Anonymousreply 10May 20, 2023 3:24 AM

"Is there a meth problem there? Or are there other drugs?"

I went to the Big Island last October, and as I got off the plane, saw a local newspaper on display in the food-and-magazines kiosk. In great big letters, the top headline mentioned the "FENTANYL EPIDEMIC".

That said, nobody gave me so much as a dirty look the whole time I was there, and I'm a pasty blond Haole. Perhaps that was because the Big Island seems to have more space for Locals than some of the other islands, perhaps I behaved myself, perhaps nobody noticed me.

by Anonymousreply 11May 20, 2023 3:31 AM

[quote]Ask the New Yorkers whose hostility is on display daily.

I was just there a few weeks ago. New Yorkers couldn't have been more friendly.

by Anonymousreply 12May 20, 2023 3:42 AM

I witnessed a guard at a state park being extremely rude to a white tourist who was asking a simple question. They despise white people there.

by Anonymousreply 13May 20, 2023 3:55 AM

I think they say native Hawaiians are a pretty small percentage, probably like 5%, of the population there.

by Anonymousreply 14May 20, 2023 3:58 AM


by Anonymousreply 15May 20, 2023 4:31 AM

R13, considering white people invaded their islands and engineered a coup to overthrow their monarchy in the name of controlling the sugar plantations, I'd say Hawaiians are justified in hating whites, especially Americans.

by Anonymousreply 16May 20, 2023 4:39 AM

Too far from the mainland. I will miss In N Out burger too much

by Anonymousreply 17May 20, 2023 5:07 AM

Lived? I can barely afford to visit!

by Anonymousreply 18May 20, 2023 5:23 AM

You sound grossly obese R17.

by Anonymousreply 19May 20, 2023 5:33 AM

Book ‘em, Danno.

by Anonymousreply 20May 20, 2023 5:34 AM

Bugs. No, like BUGS. Isolation. Expensive.

Fantastic vacation spot. Living full time. Meh.

by Anonymousreply 21May 20, 2023 5:35 AM

Where did you see all the BUGS, R21?

Because I went to the Big Island last year, and there were very few bugs, none notable. But when I walked through the rain forest at night, there were tiny invisible frogs peeping all around me. That was awesome!

by Anonymousreply 22May 20, 2023 6:01 AM

R16: If you believe in collective blame and collective punishment for crimes committed by white people, or any other group, then you have to accept the consequences, which is that it must also be. applied to you, by others, as they see fit. If that's the kind of society you are advocating for, you will pay for it dearly. Although most ignorant Americans are obsessed with race, especially when it benefits them personally, there are many other factors at play with inequality and injustice, chief among them class. I'm sure you'll be fine with accounting for your own role in that system, right?

by Anonymousreply 23May 20, 2023 6:05 AM

I've been to Hawaii several times, and was racially abused once; told in very threatening terms that I didn't belong there, wasn't wanted and should leave. I provoked this by walking down the street. I wasn't even looking in the wrong direction and wasn't aware the person was there until the diatribe started.

Take from that what you will. I'm aware from what I've read online that this is not uncommon. Whether it's more common than other places I can't objectively say.

by Anonymousreply 24May 20, 2023 6:16 AM

Native Hawaiians have a strong presence in United Nations human rights fora. There's a strong separatist movement and the Hawaiian language is experiencing a big resurgence. Not surprised you had that experience, OP.

by Anonymousreply 25May 20, 2023 6:31 AM

^^ r24 rather

by Anonymousreply 26May 20, 2023 6:34 AM

I live here (on Maui), and I love it.

My husband and I used to vacation here every year. After we both retired, we started staying for longer periods of time.

Finally, we decided to leave the emerald state of Texas and move here full-time. As our (good) luck would have it, we closed on our house in early March 2020...about a week before the national covid shutdown.

We knew what we were getting into, and we love it. We have many friends, gay and straight. Particularly on Maui, people are casual, laid-back, friendly. We go to the beach every night and watch the sunset. Invariably, our friends (and their dogs!) show up, too.

Every place (I've looking at you, Ohio) has its drawbacks. But on balance, there's not another place in the U.S. where I would rather live out my last 2-3 decades.

by Anonymousreply 27May 20, 2023 6:58 AM

Where are you all experiencing this anti-White stuff on Hawaii?

I go here every year and I'm extremely white-passing (no one ever knows my full background).... and I never experienced that. I mostly stay on Oahu/Honolulu.

by Anonymousreply 28May 20, 2023 7:21 AM

R28: The experience I had mentioned at R24 was Koa Ave, Honolulu, at night., probably after 11ish.

by Anonymousreply 29May 20, 2023 7:57 AM

Lots of ethnic Japanese and Filipinos pretend they are indigenous Hawaiian (who are very few in number). Then they give the Whites, who without, Hawaii would revert to a cannibal shit-hole, a contemptuous attitude.

by Anonymousreply 30May 20, 2023 8:10 AM

I'm not sure how anyone Japanese would ever pass for Hawaiin but nice story.

by Anonymousreply 31May 20, 2023 8:55 AM

True. And Hawaii became inhabited initially by peoples from other parts of Polynesia. They're Austronesians. There are nearly 110 million Austronesians in the Philippines so I think I'll trust how people self identify in Hawaii before I give r30 any consideration.

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by Anonymousreply 32May 20, 2023 9:24 AM

Lots of hookers around that area at night R29, especially around 11PM. Waikiki is a strange place. I don't doubt you were talked down. I think it's a good thing to avoid the back streets of Waikiki as much as possible. Lots of whack jobs, drunks, druggies and crazies. Waikiki isn't Hawaii. Waikiki is a freak show of sorts.

I grew up here (here being Oahu). I'm a haole (caucasian) and a very obvious one with blond hair and blue eyes. I had some issues with locals in high school mostly. There is a huge resurgence of pride in being, and having, Hawaiian blood. That's cool. I don't get involved in the (sometimes radical) native issues. It's none of my business. I have great friends that are local, part Hawaiian, etc. It's not all crazy and bad here with race relations being sketchy or ugly. Most here are just good people trying to get through the day and be happy and content with their lives. It's a laid back culture here. I'm older now so I've seen a lot since statehood back in 1959.

I believe many residents have become angry and frustrated about real estate prices, cost of living, food and groceries, rent, gasoline, utilities, just in general. What they aren't realizing maybe is that this is going on all over the USA, not just in Hawaii. Most EVERYONE would love to live in Hawaii, and that is mainly why it is expensive. Most things must also be shipped or flown in. That comes at a cost. I have another home in California I go back and forth to. I think the cost of living here in Hawaii is fairly comparable to Southern California.

Some of the locals that are really angry about white people can be shit-scary at times. This is the same type of anger you'd see from other males where ever you happen to live. They are angry at the world. It's often 18 t0 30 year old male bullies with too much testosterone. There is however a basic anger about how Hawaii was taken, thereby destroying the monarchy, way back in olden times. It actually WAS a very shitty thing, and there is reason for holding on to this anger.

I love it here. I am home when I am here. I love it, I love the people, and I love the energy here. It is the best place on earth ... and I've been to a lot of places on this earth.

by Anonymousreply 33May 20, 2023 9:27 AM

R33: Thanks for sharing your experience. As I said, that incident was one time out of several visits, but obviously when you are on vacation trying to escape the sad and ugly things in life, an encounter like that leaves a poisonous stain. It leaves you wondering how widespread it is. I was there in that spot because I was coming out of Wang Chung's, otherwise I wouldn't have been loitering in a backstreet. I recognised that the guy who said these things was young and angry and full of testosterone, and historical resentment was his excuse for channeling that at me. I've seen a million white guys with that same energy. No doubt he'd been out too that night and didn't get what he was looking for and that set him off. I am very aware of the history of Hawaii and the injustice of it all and I've read some activists saying tourists should not come at all because they put pressure on the locals. It does make me wonder if I'm right to come again, to one of my favourite places. I also don't want to be unwelcome. If something like that happened again, I 100% would not come back.

by Anonymousreply 34May 20, 2023 10:13 AM

"Most EVERYONE would love to live in Hawaii" lol NO! I gave it 5 chances and hated it more every time. Never again. Boring, small, provincial and full of fat losers with huge chips on their fat shoulders against happy successful White visitors from cold places. Fuck Hawaii. There are countless places on earth more beautiful and interesting than than festering little scrap of volcano shit.

by Anonymousreply 35May 20, 2023 11:33 AM

Hawaii is nice but it’s more than just the tourist places. Check out that movie with George Clooney that takes place in Hawaii. It doesn’t look so pretty everywhere

by Anonymousreply 36May 20, 2023 11:55 AM

Partner's family is from Hawaii, they are the most unfriendly people I have ever known, but weren't that bad when they lived in California. They all eventually moved back to Hawaii where they had lived as kids, and now claim to be "real Hawaiians" when they're not. Their grandparents all immigrated there from other countries in the late 1940s and early 1950s. Partner's half-siblings' mother was white (European Spanish and New Zealander, though not Maori) but claimed to be "native Hawaiian" because she was born on the big island, so the kids do, too, and they'll talk about how the "white people stole their land" without realizing that their grandparents WERE those white people. If you read their Facebooks they have a lot of white friends who do the same.

by Anonymousreply 37May 20, 2023 12:36 PM

You only have to travel by road straight from the airport to the hotels in Waikiki to see that not all of Hawaii is nice. This is not a shock or a revelation. People actually live there and have to make ends meet. A lot of them do it in poverty. I'm told some of the small towns off the beaten track are drenched in meth, but to be honest I've mainly stayed in nice resorts, stuck to the natural beauty spots and not gone looking for trouble in places I might not be wanted.

by Anonymousreply 38May 20, 2023 12:39 PM

[quote] There is a huge resurgence of pride in being, and having, Hawaiian blood.

Just to be clear. The same thing, if done by white people, is called "white supremacy". It's despicable in *both* cases.

by Anonymousreply 39May 20, 2023 12:48 PM

[quote]The same thing, if done by white people, is called "white supremacy".

It is not and get a different hobby, for fuck's sake. Spending a Saturday morning trying to start a troll war with racebait is pathetic.

by Anonymousreply 40May 20, 2023 12:49 PM

Too isolated unless I have to be stuck on an island then yes. Otherwise I love mainland USA

by Anonymousreply 41May 20, 2023 5:06 PM

[quote] obviously when you are on vacation trying to escape the sad and ugly things in life

I think you have to be aware of your surroundings, no matter where you go. Hawaii is not a paradise you can step into and drop your guard. As stated, there are issues of poverty, drugs, etc., just like anywhere else.

by Anonymousreply 42May 20, 2023 5:16 PM

Several years ago I had sex with a native Hawaiian. He was the sweetest guy but he had fairly tinymeat and cut dick. Two huge strikes and I dumped him really fast though he was an ideal boyfriend.

by Anonymousreply 43May 20, 2023 5:24 PM

^ Unquestionably a win for him, though.

by Anonymousreply 44May 20, 2023 6:10 PM

[quote] I'm not sure how anyone Japanese would ever pass for Hawaiin but nice story.

Oh, sweetie, anything left of California is considered oriental.

by Anonymousreply 45May 20, 2023 6:16 PM

[quote] I was there in that spot because I was coming out of Wang Chung's, otherwise I wouldn't have been loitering in a backstreet. I

How many years ago was this? Because that's right off Kuhio Ave right? A few years ago that area had several gay bars and lots of prostitutes, but now it's all been cleaned up. I went to Wang Chung's last year and that area is no longer sketchy

by Anonymousreply 46May 20, 2023 6:30 PM

For my dime, you take back what you bring to the table. If you bring anger an a superior attitude then you're likely to get a smack of reality when that shit comes flying back at you R35. You tried 5 times? What does that say? that's a lot of times, dude. You must have wanted things to work out for doing that many tries.

Here is something to ponder... and you can depend on this happening every day of the week, all over these islands... if and when you arrive to a new place with the attitude that you are better and smarter, don't be surprised when you get your ass handed to you real quick. No one likes a smart ass, especially one that puts down and then tries to change the way things have been done here for many moons. I expect you are one of those guys. I'm not surprised. I don't know why you are.

by Anonymousreply 47May 20, 2023 9:16 PM

R46: Just before Covid.

by Anonymousreply 48May 20, 2023 11:39 PM

To the poster on Maui, cate to share which part of the island you’re on? Do you own a house or condo? What has been the best part and the worst part? I’m just super curious.

by Anonymousreply 49May 21, 2023 4:23 AM

^^^ Hi! It's me, Maui resident. I live in south Kihei near the Kihei/Wailea border. Husband and I own a house; we added a pool and some other stuff after moving here.

I am sure Maui is not for everyone, but we really love it here. "The world" (well, the south Maui world) shows up for sunset; it's always a laid-back good time. We are literally 700 steps from the beach, so being outdoors (walking, swimming in the ocean and/or our pool) is a daily occurrence. It's so easy to stay active, eat well, sleep soundly (it's so quiet here you can leave the windows open and hear the waves crashing).

As an eldergay who's not getting any younger, I have to say the worst part, for me, is health care access. I have good insurance (thanks to my husband, who was a university professor for years), but some types of doctors are just not readily available. But my main health concerns (primary care, mental health, dermatology, and dentistry) are adequately met here. And the specialists are a short flight to Honolulu.

On balance, it's been totally worth it. I wish we had moved here sooner.

by Anonymousreply 50May 21, 2023 6:05 AM

The spam sushi there is so fresh it's as if it's straight from the can

by Anonymousreply 51May 21, 2023 6:41 AM

R42: I was aware of my surroundings. It was a well lit street, not scary at all, with a bunch of other very normal people around. And seeing the abuser directly before he started shouting abuse from across the street would not have prevented it from happening.

by Anonymousreply 52May 21, 2023 10:23 AM

[quote]I'm not sure how anyone Japanese would ever pass for Hawaiin but nice story.

I didn't say they passed, I said they claimed to be native Hawaiian. I can assure you that many people don't buy it, to the point that when one of them recently said publicly that he was a local, a bunch of people dunked on him, even though he was born in Honolulu and lived there until he was 10, and moved back in 2002. If they didn't accept that he was a local, they sure as hell won't accept that he's a native Hawaiian islander.

by Anonymousreply 53May 21, 2023 11:01 AM

My sister moved to Honolulu, just because, and loved it. This was in 2012 and she found a furnished studio in a high rise for $1200 a month. We lived in the SF bay area where she was paying 1500 for a studio in an ugly part of Mountain View so this was quite an improvement. She said people were really nice (she's blonde hair, blue eyes), found the good beaches, all was mahalo. Then she met a guy who was about to leave for a job...back in the bay area. He loved Honolulu too but this job paid so much he took it and she came back with him and regretted it. He hated living in siiicon valley and moved back to Honolulu to work remotely.

by Anonymousreply 54May 21, 2023 12:24 PM

Never been, but I like to imagine the day I go, i'll see magnum p.i. tom selleck clones with hairy built bodies in speedos/bikini's all over the beaches! laugh!....

by Anonymousreply 55May 21, 2023 12:45 PM

R27 & R50 I'm happy for you. You have the discovered the ideal lifestyle on Maui. I'm the contributor living on Oahu. We are on the North Shore, away from all the insanity of Waikiki. Each island has a different appeal, different vibe. There is a reason why Maui is the favored isle for people to visit and relocate to.

One reason why our Maui guy is living his best life is because he is retired. There is no pressure of dealing with work, fighting traffic, and if you are in the hospitality arena, dealing with tourists and tourism. Our economy is (unfortunately) built on tourism. Lots of people here spend their lives catering to tourists, and that can be kind of a drag. Low wages too. If you are well off without money worries you're in a great place to live, with excellent weather and beautiful beaches. The people here are nice (yes, 95% of them really are) and it's just a great lifestyle.

Many people come here and then leave within a year. Why?

*The #1 reason is that they don't have the backup resources to be able to stay if things don't work out job or money-wise. It's important to have about 6 months of 'what if' funds on hand in case you can't find work, or if the cost of living begins to be too much.

*The #2 reason is they come with the attitude that they are going to fix what is wrong with the way things are done here. It's not going to happen and worse, people will resent you for thinking you're better and smarter than they are. Maybe you are smarter but you still might go home angry about your time here.

As you said, 'Every place has its drawbacks' and Hawaii does have some. There is a meth problem, the cost of living is ridiculous, a shitty house in Kailua costs a million bucks, the traffic is often terrible (on Oahu anyways), not only is traffic awful the drivers are often awful, gas costs $5+ a gallon ... I could go on and on but you get the picture. However, if you're here, retired with a decent income, it's a great place to live out your final years on this crazy mudball called earth.

by Anonymousreply 56May 21, 2023 10:33 PM

I have spent some time on the big island. The place is incredible. The geography the ocean the Natural environment, Amazing. But the culture, don't go for the culture. I prefer Mexico for culture any day.. Island fever sets in and after two months it is time to go. Even many of the local kids move to L.A. Locals are both kind and generous but some are aweful nasty and violent and cracked out. It's your fault they are poor and pissed off. I'd go back for the place though. Helps allot to have a heap of cash to blow. Its hot as hell on the desert side during the day.There are Millipedes the size of a large sausage running around at night. Most terrifying insect i have ever seen.

by Anonymousreply 57May 21, 2023 11:03 PM

Thank you for your kind words, R56. Your words are spot-on, and I completely agree that it's a different world to be working here (multiple jobs, side hustle, etc) and dealing with tourists all the time.

I do my best to avoid the tourists (it helps to live at least few blocks from any sort of vacation rental, condo, etc). I run my errands early in the day; my husband and I have what we call "linner"--which is both a very late lunch or a very early dinner. We avoid crowds that way, and manage to go out several times a month.

My husband misses the "hustle and bustle" of a city, so we fly over to Honolulu every 4-6 weeks. We stay for a few days, and that is enough for him, and more than enough for me.

We package our mainland (I now call it "lameland") trips so that we get a lot of stuff out of the way on one visit (relatives, friends, cities we miss, primarily New Orleans), as it feels like such a hike to fly all that way. I flew way too much during my career, and travel has changed so much in recent years, I honestly just prefer to stay home.

by Anonymousreply 58May 21, 2023 11:18 PM

Hawaiians need to thank all the tourists that they even have a job and can eat.

by Anonymousreply 59May 22, 2023 12:55 AM

Just like how all homeless peeps need to be grateful that they are homeless. What a fucking goof.

by Anonymousreply 60May 22, 2023 1:10 AM


by Anonymousreply 61May 22, 2023 1:22 AM

What’s the cheapest that a simple but updated three bedroom home cost? Does cost vary by island?

To the poster who watches sunsets with neighbors, are you in a house? May I ask roughly what you paid? Don’t worry, I can’t move there, I’m just incredibly curious.

by Anonymousreply 62May 22, 2023 5:59 AM

I've never heard of Japanese or any other east Asian person pretending to be native Hawaiian. The phenotype is very different. There are lots of mixed-race people in a place like Hawaii. So, it's possible that these Japanese-appearing people are, actually, mixed-race (with Hawaiian in the mix).

by Anonymousreply 63May 22, 2023 3:43 PM

[quote]What’s the cheapest that a simple but updated three bedroom home cost? Does cost vary by island? To the poster who watches sunsets with neighbors, are you in a house? May I ask roughly what you paid? Don’t worry, I can’t move there, I’m just incredibly curious.

Houses here are quite expensive...the median price of a single-family home (on Oahu and Maui) hovers at about the $1 million mark. The Big Island is cheaper $600-700K is about the median for a single-family home. The nice guy from Oahu who has posted here can correct me if I'm wrong.

Prices increased markedly during covid (many buyers thought, if I can work from home, why don't I move someplace I like?) but have moderated (down 10-20%) in the past year or so. Still high.

Husband's and my house was a relative bargain for Maui...we paid just over $1.3 million for a freestanding, four-bedroom, four-bath house less than half a mile from the beach. It has views of the Pacific and of Haleakala. Over our first two years here, we undertook many renovations and added a pool (combined cost for all that was close to $1 million more).

But we know our house is worth more than what we have in it, and we own it outright. It's our only home...and our vacation home at the same time.

On the plus side, we have no electric bills to speak of (52 solar panels are a gift that keeps on giving), and our property taxes are 95% less than when we lived in Texas (we're on the hook for a grand total of about $1,200 for the full year).

In retirement, our two largest expenses each year were Texas property taxes and travel to Hawaii. We've minimized both of those, so our ongoing spend isn't so much. It turned out to be a wise financial move. We are happy to cook at home, and to enjoy the outdoors as our recreation/socializing.

Sorry for being so long-winded. I hope this helps.

by Anonymousreply 64May 23, 2023 12:53 AM

Where did you live in TX where RE taxes were the biggest expense? They are nothing compared to suburban NY. And if you have a $2 million house, I can’t imagine $20k of RE taxes was a big deal.

I love Hawaii but have learned I can’t ever move to a remote place full time - no matter how beautiful, the remoteness is isolating and socially unhealthy (for me). I prefer a city with a weekend place

by Anonymousreply 65May 23, 2023 1:32 AM

A million 5 for a 3 bedroom 2 bath house.

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by Anonymousreply 66May 23, 2023 2:03 AM

[quote]Where did you live in TX where RE taxes were the biggest expense? They are nothing compared to suburban NY. And if you have a $2 million house, I can’t imagine $20k of RE taxes was a big deal.

We lived in Houston. Property taxes on our home there (about $2 million in value) were nearly $40,000 per year, with no sign of letting up. They talk about "property tax relief" in Texas and I just laugh. They also brag about their lack of a state income tax, but they get their pound of flesh one way or another. So that's not chump change.

Also, the condo we rented on Maui before we moved here (granted, it was next to the beach, but not huge at 900 square feet and not really all that updated) rented for $1,600 per night, with no discount for a stay of multiple weeks. I am sure we could have found lodging cheaper than that, but it was our big splurge, and we had to get away from Texas for a while.

So you can see that our ongoing costs are significantly lower just living here full-time. Not to mention that we enjoy it, don't have kids, don't particularly love our nieces and nephews ("they don't call, they don't write...") so we don't need to leave a huge estate.

by Anonymousreply 67May 23, 2023 3:30 AM

$48k/mo to rent a 900sqft condo? People have lost their goddamn minds.

by Anonymousreply 68May 23, 2023 7:55 AM

It'd be an amazing place to live if you want a quiet life and are well funded. Probably a retiree. There's a reason why many young people leave. A lot of native people now live in Vegas because they can't afford to live to that standard in their own land.

by Anonymousreply 69May 23, 2023 8:13 AM

That R69, and they are already used to very warm weather. People from Hawaii are gambling addicts. Always have been. They advertise special rates, junkets and the like here in Hawaii all the time. There are hotels dedicated to the Hawaii gamblers, and believe it, those addicts fly in in droves every day. They can't get enough of Vegas. It doesn't have anything more than that to do with all the people that move to Las Vegas. Well, the cost of living is much lower and there are those all U can eat buffets everywhere. I guess many of those plus-size local people love that shit too.

by Anonymousreply 70May 25, 2023 12:56 AM

Enjoy poi!

by Anonymousreply 71May 25, 2023 1:15 AM

Living on a small, isolated island far from everything else seems like torture not paradise.

by Anonymousreply 72May 25, 2023 1:43 AM

Have known over a dozen friends and/or colleagues, a landlord, and a brother-in-law, who grew up in the Hawaiian Islands (most from Honolulu, three from The Big Island) who moved to the Mainland. The majority are of Japanese descent (some mixed with Portuguese and/or Polynesian), followed by Chinese, and Filipino, and one White chick, all of us now older (50's and 60's). I'm in the SF Bay Area. ALL of my friends who grew up there said that while they moved to the Mainland for educational and professional opportunities, it was "Island Fever" that kept them from returning there to live. "Island Fever" being a closed community, small-town mentality/ignorance, everyone in your business, not much to do, etc.. It will be interesting to see whether some will return for retirement, when career opportunities and big city excitement is less relevant.

Except for difficulty with healthcare access, it seems like a lovely place for retirement -- if you can afford it. I've read multiple articles about anti-Haole sentiment. If my husband and I were to retire to a small, picturesque town in Oregon, we'd probably get similar treatment as Liberal Californian Invaders. Funny thing is that Oregonians and Hawaiians alike are so laid-back and surrounded by beauty that they can't really muster up that much hate towards newcomers.

by Anonymousreply 73May 25, 2023 3:42 AM

My friends has been living on Maui for a few years now. They love it. And their pictures are gorgeous. They haven't experienced anything unwelcoming toward them and they are white. He seems pretty into respecting the local culture. Mostly he just works and gets high with his dog though.

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by Anonymousreply 75May 25, 2023 4:08 AM

My partner and I moved to Honolulu from the midwest back in 1994. We are both white and I was transferred from a major telecommunications company and he was a chef. There was absolutely no discrimination or unwelcome behavior. We did respect their culture and beliefs. I actually worked with an amazing diverse workforce and I did have some difficulty with some employees, for the most part it was an incredible experience . It just really got too expensive to stay there and we really got "rock fever" after 4 years. Moved back to the midwest.

by Anonymousreply 76May 25, 2023 4:43 AM

R63 there are plenty native Japanese people in Hawaii, since the mid 20th century. Maybe even farther back. Generations of them.

I know more Japanese Hawaiian people than indigenous Hawaiians.

by Anonymousreply 77May 25, 2023 5:04 AM

Californian here, and I’ve only visited once (Big Island). I have two brothers who lived on Maui for several years. I got some “go home” shouts from cars as I was running/walking (fitness) through commercial areas, but none of it seemed racially based. Same for my brothers. I had a Caucasian friend with a big mouth who was nearly beaten to death for running his drunken mouth after the bars closed several years ago on the Big Island. I had a great vacation, and would return, but would not stay longer than a week on any island other than Oahu (too slow). There was big news story on Maui a couple months ago when two Hawaiians were sentenced to prison time (with hate crime enhancement) after a White guy bought a house in their Hawaiian neighborhood. The two Hawaiian guys almost killed him. He sold the house and moved to Puerto Rico. Racial animus is real there.

by Anonymousreply 78May 25, 2023 5:30 AM

Maui guy here. I received my medical marijuana permit this week. I only submitted my application last Thursday; my doctor approved it online on Friday; and the Hawaii Department of Health emailed me a downloadable permit on Monday. Off to the dispensary tomorrow.

This thought occurred to me because of R74's comment about his Maui friend smoking weed here.

The environment is welcoming with respect to pot. Not at all so with tobacco smoke.

by Anonymousreply 79May 25, 2023 6:28 AM

I remember being in my teens and wishing I could pack up and leave Hawaii because too many people knew my business and reported back to my parents. "Jerry, I saw your kid doing (insert something bad or embarrassing) and it made life rough". I finally left for a few years but it wasn't due to rock fever. I think anyone living in a smallish town has that problem.

by Anonymousreply 80May 25, 2023 10:13 PM

R16 Bet you believe in "Reparations" for nothing any of us living today had any connection with.

by Anonymousreply 81May 25, 2023 10:25 PM

R81, Clearly you haven't a clue what you're talking about. The overthrow of the Hawaiian monarchy was a majorly shit move. You would be wise to discover the truth about what went down. Until you do that, keep your mouth shut around anyone with even a drop of Hawaiian blood.

by Anonymousreply 82May 25, 2023 10:41 PM

Someone named Jocelyn LeGarde was nominated for it but never did anything else again.

by Anonymousreply 83May 26, 2023 2:54 AM

I lived nearby, OP

by Anonymousreply 84May 26, 2023 2:57 AM

[quote]Except for difficulty with healthcare access, it seems like a lovely place for retirement -- if you can afford it.

My husband and I live on the Big Island (Kona) and that quote describes us perfectly. We moved from Brooklyn NY to Oahu in 2013 (Ko Olina) and lived in a nice condo for 6 years. We wanted more space and after being priced out of Oahu found a lovely house on the slopes of Mauna Loa with a pool and an acre of land. We moved in 2019. No problems with locals and sunsets here are spectacular.

by Anonymousreply 85May 26, 2023 3:40 AM

Maui guy, honest question- do you own oil in Houston? It all sounds like such a dream and amazing, and totally out of touch for me- which is fine- but please tell me you owned oil or something and its not because I eat avocado toast or something.

by Anonymousreply 86May 26, 2023 3:45 AM

Maui guy here. Sorry...I took a couple of days off from DL. Husband and I flew to Honolulu to attend Monday's lantern-floating ceremony. We're never been there in person....and because of covid, this is the first in-person ceremony they've had since 2019. We have a lantern reserved (free, but limited to 6,000 total), and we're looking forward to it.

I don't have oil or anything else like that. I graduated from law school 35 years ago when it was cheap--in my case, nearly free--so I didn't have any school debt. I worked my ass off--nearly ruined my marriage and my life, really--for 25 years. The only good thing about it was I made a lot of money that I didn't have time to spend. I retired--burned out--the month I turned 51.

My husband was a university professor and had great benefits (it took the Supreme Court ruling in 2015 for me to be permitted to join his health-care plan), but not great pay.

Husband and I have no family wealth...his parents didn't graduate from college, and while mine did, my mother was a housewife and my father was a university professor, which made for a decent living, but nothing "fancy," as we'd say in the Midwest. My folks did help pay for my undergraduate education--state school with in-state tuition--and lent me money for my modest living expense during law school, which I paid back to them within two years following graduation.

So compared to the hedge-fund billionaire and his actress-wife we see on the beach, we're not wealthy. But we held on to what we earned, we didn't make any outrageous purchases or investments over the years, and we don't need much now that we're here.

I just got approved for my social security retirement benefit today (early, at age 62, and my husband started his this years as well). Being gay men of our age, we never expected to live this long, so we're just taking a day at a time and enjoying life. Maui is conducive to that.

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by Anonymousreply 87May 28, 2023 4:18 AM

Try to get adopted by a billionaire before you move there.

by Anonymousreply 88May 28, 2023 4:48 AM

r87, you inspire me. Congratulations on social security, etc.! My partner retires next month at age 65 - also a low-paid academic. Next year I'll be 62 (yeah, I'm his boytoy Twink) and will throw in the towel, too, but have savings to live on for 3 years until drawing SS at age 65. He has a state pension with healthcare benefits that will enable me to retire and be covered until Medicare kicks in. While we could probably afford a modest condo in HI, we'll be moving to "Wine Country" in N. CA to be near a major medical center, and two hours away from a huge medical center in San Francisco, as that's what's been keeping me alive. We looked at Palm Springs but were bored by the lack of water and we don't play golf. And it's too close to LA. Hawai'i was the next choice, tropical island with snorkeling, but the major and specialized medical care issue. Also fell in love with Puerto Rico, but we're not fluent in Spanish and felt it would be too hard to make connections. And, too close to Florida.

Hope you and yours thrive on Maui!

by Anonymousreply 89May 28, 2023 5:40 AM

R66, 1.5M is about right for that neighborhood. Hawaii Kai, where that is located, is upscale for Oahu. Not necessarily wealthy, but upper middle-class. I think it's sad there is no yard, and no chance to put in a pool. Hawaii Kai can get very hot. We built many homes in that general area, but mostly in Koko Kai. Now that's a nice hood. Portlock is ok too but Koko Kai has great views of Diamond Head, the ocean, and sunsets.

If someone doesn't have the available cash to live a somewhat comfortable life in Hawaii then it may not be the place to try giving a go. It's just too expensive.

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by Anonymousreply 90June 1, 2023 8:18 AM

My aunt as a young woman went to Hawaii in the 60s which was a real exotic rare vacation back then. She then went again a few years ago and was so disappointed how so much was overbuilt and crowded. There was no longer any magic.

by Anonymousreply 91June 1, 2023 8:40 AM

^^^ No mystique!

by Anonymousreply 92June 1, 2023 9:35 AM

Not yet.

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by Anonymousreply 93June 1, 2023 7:31 PM

What are the native Hawaiian men like?

by Anonymousreply 94June 2, 2023 6:42 AM

Probably just like Native Canadians.

by Anonymousreply 95June 2, 2023 11:21 AM

"What are the native Hawaiian men like?"

Tall and hefty. The Big And Tall shops in Hawaii must do a lot of business.

by Anonymousreply 96June 2, 2023 3:16 PM

[quote] What are the native Hawaiian men like?

Bette Midler

by Anonymousreply 97June 3, 2023 12:07 PM

R16 Did that make you feel self righteous to say? That was in 1893. But keep fostering race based hate.

by Anonymousreply 98June 3, 2023 1:00 PM

I left a part of myself when I left Molokai.

Several parts, actually.

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