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Do you know any straight men who never married?

I know an inordinate number of straight women who never married—most of them educated with great jobs (which may, sadly, be part of the reason).

I don’t know any straight men over about 35, however, who never married.

Do you?

by Anonymousreply 94June 5, 2023 4:18 AM

Yes, ones who had girlfriends. But never married.

by Anonymousreply 1May 15, 2023 2:26 AM

In my hometown, the majority of straight men usually didn’t marry until over 40–and that was usually to someone half their age. It’s a college town where females outnumber males. This was true while I was growing up and whenI went back for my 30 year hs reunion it was still true. A bunch of 48 year old men just starting families with their young wives.

by Anonymousreply 2May 15, 2023 2:27 AM

I don’t know any unmarried straight men and of the few married straight men I know, the wives appear to be running the show in all but one case. In that one case the two parties seem to be happily joined at the hip. Either there’s a lot more male passivity out there than we hear about or my sample is skewed.

by Anonymousreply 3May 15, 2023 2:36 AM

How old are the supposed to be when they "never" married? 35? 40? 45? Older?

by Anonymousreply 4May 15, 2023 2:39 AM

[quote] Do you know any straight men who never married?

Yes, exactly one

by Anonymousreply 5May 15, 2023 2:39 AM

New York radio host, Mark Simone who's in his 60's never married. Claims he never met a woman that interested him enough to tie the knot.

by Anonymousreply 6May 15, 2023 3:16 AM

High school friend

Terminal sad sack

by Anonymousreply 7May 15, 2023 3:44 AM

Yes, I have known never married men who are straight, perennial bachelors who played the field to others for whom sex didn't seem a big part of their lives (but how would I know if they don't mention it, and why would they they mention it?)

by Anonymousreply 8May 15, 2023 3:46 AM

What about guys who got married, got divorced after a couple of years and never remarried?

by Anonymousreply 9May 15, 2023 3:48 AM

Yes. I know plenty of straight men who never married.

by Anonymousreply 10May 15, 2023 3:49 AM

R9, that wasn't the question, moron.

by Anonymousreply 11May 15, 2023 3:50 AM


by Anonymousreply 12May 15, 2023 6:24 AM

They don't call us "confirmed bachelors" for nothing 😏

Nope, don't know a single straight guy who never married

by Anonymousreply 13May 15, 2023 7:54 AM

Yes, my brother. Turns 50 this year. Never married and no kids.

by Anonymousreply 14May 15, 2023 8:26 AM

Define "straight" in the 21st century...

by Anonymousreply 15May 15, 2023 10:51 AM

There are man straight men who are not married. They have several baby mamas and kids all over the place but never married

Op what's your point?

by Anonymousreply 16May 15, 2023 11:11 AM

I have a cousin who is an incel. He's 40, has never been in a serious relationship and went from living in his mother's basement to his sister's basement. He has a good job, but he repels women. I'm pretty sure he's never had sex. I know he frequents strip clubs. His sister is worried he's going to go off the deep end one day.

by Anonymousreply 17May 15, 2023 12:59 PM

My uncle. He worked as a jr high/high school counselor for 30 something years. Figured that turned him off from wanting kids. Not sure why he never married. He was dating a much younger foreign woman before my dad passed. I remember my dad warning him she was no good.

by Anonymousreply 18May 15, 2023 1:06 PM

I've known some. Occasionally there was something exotic in their background, like a lost love they never got over, but more often they had severe depression and/or problems with addiction. Or their refusal to have kids busted up their most serious relationships.

by Anonymousreply 19May 15, 2023 1:10 PM

I have a couple of cousins in their mid-40s who didn’t marry, but have been shacked up with a women for years, so I don’t think they count as single. There’s an attorney coworker of about 43 who has never married and I’ve never heard about him dating someone. He’s really LGBT friendly so I think he’d be out if he was gay. Lives in a very nice house by himself.

by Anonymousreply 20May 15, 2023 1:29 PM

R17, he sounds autistic

by Anonymousreply 21May 15, 2023 1:44 PM

R19 same here. I've known several with long term girlfriends and the guys just wouldn't take the marriage step, and didn't have kids. I guess the gals were ok with that because they stuck around.

And I've known some who went from girlfriend to girlfriend until they just aged out and were suddenly alone. They probably thought of themselves as viable, being good looking, but they reached an age where with a limited inventory of possible female partners in a small town, what was left for them they either couldn't get (usually due to age) or didn't want. Or the women knew their history and wouldn't have them.

But what you pointed out is true. Looking beneath the surface, they all have had issues with alcohol or other addictions.

by Anonymousreply 22May 15, 2023 1:46 PM

My uncle. He always had women in his life, but he would always say (his words, not mine) "no bitch is gonna get half of my money."

by Anonymousreply 23May 15, 2023 1:46 PM

David Lee Roth

by Anonymousreply 24May 15, 2023 2:10 PM

None that don't have mental illness, rage issues, an arrest record, or aren't "confirmed bachelors".

by Anonymousreply 25May 15, 2023 2:13 PM

I know several, including my basement dwelling brother in law, who is in his early sixties. The common denominator for the ones I know is alcoholism.

by Anonymousreply 26May 15, 2023 2:49 PM

My uncle, who is 70. He has a daughter (and now a grandson) and has remained friends with his daughter's mother. If he dates or dated in the past he keeps it to himself. I just think he likes to live alone and have his freedom.

by Anonymousreply 27May 15, 2023 3:21 PM

I’m one at 50

by Anonymousreply 28May 15, 2023 5:00 PM

R11 You must be popular.

by Anonymousreply 29May 15, 2023 5:13 PM

I know two straight men who never married. Both don't have children.

One guy has lived with an older woman for many years (but I think he sees other women). I'm guessing she doesn't charge him rent.

My conclusion: these two guys never wanted to have kids and never wanted to end up paying alimony or dealing with "community property."

by Anonymousreply 30May 15, 2023 5:21 PM

Almost every one I know who identifies as straight and lives with a woman has had some evidence of being bi.

There is also my second cousin who claims to be straight and he may be straight, he's late 40s. He lives with his aunt and her grandson.

By the way, just want to point out - a lot of you talking about someone living with some relative - if the person is single, they may just prefer to have da coy-to-day mpanionship at home, rather than living completely ALONE. After all, they're NOT married. So maybe they've found a way to not be totally alone. Is that bad?

by Anonymousreply 31May 15, 2023 5:30 PM

I know one but I suspect he may secretly have some pedo tendencies with teen boys. He has a good friend who is a convicted sex offender with teen boys, and they both have a history of being involved with non profit camping organizations. This man has expressed that his friend was "misunderstood" so I tend to think he's the same, just didn't get caught.

by Anonymousreply 32May 15, 2023 5:30 PM

"day-to-day companionship at home"

by Anonymousreply 33May 15, 2023 5:31 PM

I have a high school friend who became a priest. Don't know if he's straight or not.

by Anonymousreply 34May 15, 2023 5:32 PM

Richard Simmons

by Anonymousreply 35May 15, 2023 8:41 PM

One of my golfing buddies. He's in his 50s. Always asks if anyone knows nice girls they can set him up with. I finally told him it sounds creepy and he needs to get on an online dating site but he won't.

I have a nephew in his a 30s who's definitely straight but has never had a girlfriend. I doubt he will ever get married. He is good looking and has no trouble getting laid which I guess is all he's looking for.

A lot of friends and coworkers who got divorced after shortish marriages and never remarried. And on the flip side, which I find horrifying, two of my closest straight friends, divorced after long marriages, have grown children and have married women in their early 30s, so chances are they're going to have to do the second family thing now that they're in their 50s. Ew.

by Anonymousreply 36May 15, 2023 9:08 PM

[quote] He's in his 50s. Always asks if anyone knows nice girls they can set him up with. I finally told him it sounds creepy and he needs to get on an online dating site but he won't.

A guy in his 50s looking for "girls"? Are you sure he's straight?

by Anonymousreply 37May 15, 2023 9:12 PM

@r35, "Richard Simmons "

He's just waiting on James Brolin to kick so that he can make his move on Babs

by Anonymousreply 38May 15, 2023 10:31 PM

Yes, I know three straight men who never married although they have decent careers. One is high-level law enforcement. He's a lothario and has no problem finding female companionship.

Another is 63. He had girlfriends when young but never settled down. He is interested in much younger women.

The other is a lower-40's IT guy who is depressed and smokes a lot of pot. Ok-looking but not confident around women. Seems content with porn.

by Anonymousreply 39May 15, 2023 10:43 PM

So most unmarried straight guys are suffering from depression?

by Anonymousreply 40May 15, 2023 10:55 PM

I've known several straight men who never married. The incredibly sexy brother of a close friend of mine was such a horn dog he said he would never consider marrying someone and be left with one pussy to fuck for the rest of his life (if he kept his vows). I once went to lunch with him and his brother and as we were leaving the restaurant he saw this hot chick and went over to talk to her. We stood there 20' away and watched. His brother said to me "watch, he's going to pick her up". After about 10 minutes he came back and said "we're going to hook up and fuck tomorrow".

by Anonymousreply 41May 15, 2023 11:08 PM

I'm in NYC and know two. They both married and divorced in their mid-20s, got vasectomies, and now bang pussy at will.

This character type is going to become more and more common.

The irony is that they're both smart, hardworking guys and would make good dads. They just don't want to be.

by Anonymousreply 42May 16, 2023 1:54 AM

"They both married and divorced in their mid-20s, got vasectomies, and now bang pussy at will."

OP was asking for straight guys who never married, not for divorced guys

by Anonymousreply 43May 16, 2023 2:58 AM

Most of the ones I've known tend to be losers or incels rather than womanizing playboy types. Or guys who have a live-in gf that they never felt the need to marry

by Anonymousreply 44May 16, 2023 3:03 AM

[quote] After about 10 minutes he came back and said "we're going to hook up and fuck tomorrow".

I wonder if the hot chick knew that, yet.

by Anonymousreply 45May 16, 2023 4:26 AM

I do know one guy in his 40's. Fit and Very good looking--JFK type. I think he's just used to getting whatever women he wanted--usually in bars

He's beginning to lose his hair as he ages. I doubt he'll get whatever woman he wants soon enough

by Anonymousreply 46May 17, 2023 3:28 PM

"After about 10 minutes he came back and said "we're going to hook up and fuck tomorrow".

This is how he got back in touch...

Offsite Link
by Anonymousreply 47May 17, 2023 7:27 PM

My best friend; he spent his 20’s chasing women all over the place, as far as Australia, and he’s from Pittsburgh. He finally landed a long term relationship with a woman who didn’t want to be married; it lasted 11 years. The first 9 years were great but the last two were not; it ended about 8 years ago. He’s now 52 and still chasing women, but he’s desperate and terrified, drinks a lot and still wants a slim chick with a nice rack. He’s not a bad person, just lost. I’ve explained to him numerous times that women in our age group who are single are not looking for a boyfriend or husband even. But he doesn’t sleep around; it has to be a relationship. After the 3rd date, if he hasn’t made a move, and he doesn’t, they dump him. Queue another spiral, I’m a troll, nobody wants me….sigh

by Anonymousreply 48May 18, 2023 9:58 PM

A new friend. He's in his mid 50s, claims he doesn't want to get married. He fucks everything it seems, he doesn't have a type. he's been fucking white chicks, black chicks, young, older and his latest one is....get this 75 years old! He's fucking a woman 20 years older!!! he's not ugly but there must be something wrong with him, his mom died 3 year ago and mothers' day was just the other day...

by Anonymousreply 49May 23, 2023 4:03 AM

They're everywhere, but in order to get regular sex they have to be sexy with big dicks. Otherwise: Incel.

by Anonymousreply 50May 23, 2023 4:08 AM

One. He’s dated a ton of women. He’s a recovering addict and really fucked up.

by Anonymousreply 51May 23, 2023 4:12 AM

My 50 year old cousin, he was always good looking. He claimed American women didn't appreciate men and wanted to get a foreign bride but I think it was an excuse. He lives with his parents and they get along very well, do everything together including trips so he seems to be happy. I actually don't think he is gay.

by Anonymousreply 52May 23, 2023 4:16 AM

continuing from r52. My cousin has never held a real job, he putts around with computers. He lives with his parents for free so I think another reason he doesn't get married is laziness.

by Anonymousreply 53May 23, 2023 4:22 AM

I had a guy I worked with years ago who married an asian woman, a buy a bride thing. She moved her family here and spent all his money and they ended up divorced. When my cousin would drone on about how bad American woman are I kind of hoped something like that would happen to him.

by Anonymousreply 54May 23, 2023 4:25 AM

I have a straight cousin who's close to 80 and never married. In some ways he's a nice guy and he had a decent career, but my uncle was truly crazy and really did a number on all his kids and their relationships. The English poet Philip Larkin, who wrote "They fuck you up, your mum and dad," was straight and never married.

by Anonymousreply 55May 23, 2023 4:39 AM

I have tons of friends who never married. But most of them were also young Dads.

by Anonymousreply 56May 23, 2023 4:57 AM

Lindsay Graham!

by Anonymousreply 57May 23, 2023 4:59 AM

"My cousin has never held a real job, he putts around with computers. He lives with his parents for free so I think another reason he doesn't get married is laziness."

Well, that might explain why women weren't lining up to marry him and bear his children.

by Anonymousreply 58May 23, 2023 6:04 AM

I knew a straight man (I'm pretty sure he was straight - he was a porn addict who constantly talked to me about women) who lived with his parents and 'putted around with computers' too. He at least didn't disparage women but he just never wanted to do anything. He just wanted women to come to him and be his mommy, do all the cooking and cleaning that his parents did for him. Unsurprisingly even though he was moderately good looking, nothing happened, so he ended up killing himself at 26-years-old.

by Anonymousreply 59May 23, 2023 12:57 PM

I've known a few. They were all men with varying degrees of attractiveness but what they all had in common was they would only date white women. Obviously there are only so many to go around so they ended up alone, for now anyway.

This is a common American phenomenon I've noticed. White women are willing to date outside their race but white guys rarely are. Coupled with even the non- white guys who only want white women and you have a very limited pool of desirable women.

by Anonymousreply 60May 23, 2023 8:42 PM

'I want to be remembered as the Queen of Rock 'n' Roll - a woman who showed it's OK to strive for success on your own terms': Tina Turner's final interview six weeks before she died at her $80M Lake Zurich estate

by Anonymousreply 61May 24, 2023 9:41 PM

Sure, me. I'm 53, never married.

by Anonymousreply 62May 24, 2023 9:43 PM

OP, level with us. You’re looking for straight men, over 35, to fuck you.

by Anonymousreply 63May 24, 2023 10:38 PM

General Jim Mattis was a 'confirmed bachelor' but then married a couple years ago at age 71. Maybe it was a rebound from being enchanted by Elizabeth Holmes.

by Anonymousreply 64May 24, 2023 11:36 PM

yes, I know a few. they are workaholics, no time for relationships

by Anonymousreply 65June 4, 2023 5:43 AM

My cousin who's 54 has never married. He was a prodigy in school, multiple degrees, moved to NYC after college and lived with a gay couple for a few years when he first got there. His dad died recently and he quit his job and moved back to our mid sized town and lives with his mom. I always suspected he might be gay but he's been seeing a girl recently, or so he says.

by Anonymousreply 66June 4, 2023 6:11 AM

Hugh O’Brian did not marry until age 81.

by Anonymousreply 67June 4, 2023 6:14 AM

My brother. Three children but never walked down the aisle. Ne’er do well xxxx infinity. My 68 year old second cousin. He is borderline autistic. His younger brother never married either, although he became a dad at 45.

by Anonymousreply 68June 4, 2023 6:21 AM

Al Pacino never married, just had his 3rd kid.

Is straight so far as I know... but what do I know.

by Anonymousreply 69June 4, 2023 2:12 PM

Both of my BIL's brothers are in their 60s and neither of them ever married. And no, they are not closet cases. They are 100% straight and give off not even a whiff of gayness.

Same way with my 48 year old nephew. Never married, hasn't dated in decades, gives off no gay vibes and seems quite content sharing his own home with 2 rescue dogs.

by Anonymousreply 70June 4, 2023 2:19 PM

If a man knows he never wants to sire children, then really what's the point of a legal marriage when you can just shack up?

by Anonymousreply 71June 4, 2023 2:23 PM

It's true, if a person doesn't want kids and makes a decent income, most of the rational reasons to marry go out the window.

I actually overheard a conversation at work, with two women telling a man exactly that, they were all fortyish and the man was about to get married for the 3rd time. The women were making rational anti-marriage arguments, and the man, who was not the brightest bult present, kept saying "But ya gotta be married! Everyone's gotta be married!".

by Anonymousreply 72June 4, 2023 2:34 PM

Do you know any gay men who never married?

by Anonymousreply 73June 4, 2023 2:34 PM

Two high school friends are in their 50s and never married. They've dated women and off, but relationships never seemed a priority for them. They're both very successful and are married to their careers, I guess.

by Anonymousreply 74June 4, 2023 2:45 PM

R72, are you hot? I find straight guys in their 50's to be very handsome.

by Anonymousreply 75June 4, 2023 2:46 PM

Oops, I meant R62.


by Anonymousreply 76June 4, 2023 2:46 PM

Yes. One in particular who would seek the company of prostitutes between very short-term relationships with women. He was charming, very attractive, well educated, a talented musician, had a BEAUTIFUL body, and he was funny. In other words, he didn’t have to pay for it. When he found himself falling for a woman he would quickly find fault with her and run like hell. He had BIG mommy issues. Fantasized about having sex with her. At one point he thought that he might be gay but also talked about wanting to be a woman. Hot mess doesn’t BEGIN to describe this guy. Oh, and he self-described as being a psychopath. NO. His name wasn’t Norman or Buffalo Bill. 👀 😳

by Anonymousreply 77June 4, 2023 3:09 PM

Why would he think he was gay?

by Anonymousreply 78June 4, 2023 3:20 PM

My brother is one. 45, never married. Our parents were alcoholics and our mom had (still has) some pretty bad mental health issues on top of the drinking, so I assume it has something to do with our childhood and all of that shit.

I think he has probably had relationships over the years, but he's extremely private, and I don't want to pry. Others of our sibling flock are married with kids, but he's just not into it. It's his life and he's a great person who's survived a lot. FTR, I don't think he's gay.

by Anonymousreply 79June 4, 2023 3:27 PM

Because he also fantasized about having sex with men, r78. Anal sex in particular. He never said if he wanted to pitch or catch. And I didn’t ask. He remained close to his college girlfriend but he was also jealous of her. She was an actress and dancer and was a personal assistant to a very famous director who was on his last legs. Physically, mentally, and professionally. Still, if I told you his name you would be impressed. So the ex-girlfriend’s brother happened to be gay and was also attracted to the GUY, So the brother and the GUY decided to go on a motorcycle road trip and the brother would introduce him to the joy of gay sex. Of course, the GUY chickened out. But it struck me as a monumental act of betrayal by her brother and the ex that they would even contemplate having sex. Incestual even.

by Anonymousreply 80June 4, 2023 3:48 PM

I don't know that fucking a subling's slutty, messed-up ex would be a betrayal, R80.

Getting serious about them and bringing them to family dinners might be, though.

by Anonymousreply 81June 4, 2023 4:00 PM

Maybe he should go further and fuck his sister, like Lord Byron did.

by Anonymousreply 82June 4, 2023 4:04 PM

R32 You reminded me of the son of my mother's close friend. We were ecstatic when he found his ex-GF, as the rest of his siblings were all married and settled. The relationship lasted a year, and afterward his siblings stopped associating with him. My mother says her friend told her why, but that she was sworn to secrecy. When his name is mentioned the look on her face screams PEDOPHILE, though.

by Anonymousreply 83June 4, 2023 4:28 PM

Most that I've known were likely autistic or had addiction/mental illness. I do have a friend who is tall, fit, and upper middle class income but had trouble finding a woman. He's in his early 50s and finally found someone in the last few years.

by Anonymousreply 84June 4, 2023 4:33 PM

Why is it sad, OP, that some women don’t marry because they are well-educated with great jobs?

by Anonymousreply 85June 4, 2023 4:40 PM

My older brother never married.

by Anonymousreply 86June 4, 2023 4:45 PM

R86, yes, I know someone who's in his 50s, works over 80hrs a week, drinks 24/7 and brings home different girl every week to fuck. went to visit him at his house, only 1 book in his whole house, it was a fucking cookbook LOL.

by Anonymousreply 87June 4, 2023 8:36 PM

Lindsey Graham and Tim Scott.

Maybe they should marry each other.

by Anonymousreply 88June 4, 2023 9:32 PM

R4 Married by 35-40 at the latest is best according to me.

by Anonymousreply 89June 4, 2023 10:29 PM

A great-uncle was always introduced as "the family bachelor" when they were at events together. He was a well-known artist in the area. Thy suspected he was gay, (he was), and they avoided him like the plaque.

Then he died, and it was revealed he had millions of dollars, which he gave to his lifetime partner. The family went to court, they fought each other for control of the assets. It was insane. The partner inherited every dime of it, thank God. That court case was ahead of its time.

by Anonymousreply 90June 4, 2023 10:59 PM

I have a first cousin., who is in his late forties, straight, and has never married. He's good-looking, fit, intelligent, charming, successful...an all around good catch. He's had a string of girlfriends, but he's never made the next step.

I don't understand it. I think it's some variation of the Peter Pan Complex.

by Anonymousreply 91June 5, 2023 12:17 AM

Why settle for one pussy when you can have dozens? It seems like these guys have figured it out.

by Anonymousreply 92June 5, 2023 12:38 AM

Marriage probably appeals to men who want to tie a woman down and those who want children.

by Anonymousreply 93June 5, 2023 4:05 AM

My sister got married to an older guy. They have no children. He’s not rich. I think he might be expecting her to take care of him if / when he becomes an invalid.

by Anonymousreply 94June 5, 2023 4:18 AM
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