I got tentatively approved for an apartment!!!

I hope it works out for you, RC!! Keep us posted.

Good for you, rescue-chick.

Keep us posted.

Did you get a jolt of joy when you were notified, Rescue Chick?

o you're naughty r3! and yes, I will keep updating - all my friends are sleeping and I absolutely positively had to tell people! I am so scared happy! credit check fuck.

Sounds good, Rescue-Chick. I'm glad.

Tell us more.

[quote]have until the end of July to find an apartment in a town with less than 1 percent availability rate.

this thread would be more interesting if you said which town you live in.

Credit doesn't matter as much as proof of income, I've found.

Sorry r6, Burlington Vermont. we're in crisis.

How many dogs do you have?

just one currently r9. he's 75 pounds, 12 years old of rage.

[quote] How many dogs do you have?

Are they rescue dogs?

r11, they are the BEST rescue dogs 🐶🐕😁

You call yourself Rescue-Chick and you have only one dog? What do you rescue, exactly?

R13, she rescued a chick. Duh!

She rescues pussies, R13

haha r13, I had at least 3 dogs, sometimes more when I fostered and I ran a large rescue and still have stuff I do with other rescues.

So happy for you Rescue Chick! I told you It work out, and I'm glad it did.👍

How are your periods, RC? You were having a tough time.

Nice when life unexpectedly hands us lemon-aid instead of lemons.

I hope these dogs get rescued. Not in VT, though.

These dogs, actually.

[quote] I ran a large rescue and still have stuff I do with other rescues.

Are they rescue rescues?

lemonade

oops

r20, I have friends in SC who are trying!

crisis isn't averted (credit check) but, I am extremely charming and likable so, he may overlook it.

Send him here for references, rescue-chick!

Congrats rescue check! I own a couple of rental properties and use a management agency to deal with them. Where the hell are you that $2000 for a two bedroom is a deal? That sounds very expensive to me.

I require a credit score of at least 600 and verifiable income through paystubs. I use First Advantage to run credit. If someone doesn't have a credit score of 600 but is really close, and they have at least three times the monthly rent in verifiable income, along with positive rental history through a management company, I'll rent to them. In that situation, I would require a months rent as a refundable top deposit, meaning when they move out, they will get it back minus any damages or charges.

lol, r26, studios go for a minimum of 1500 here in good old Burlington Vermont

Opps. R27 is also is me, R26.

r27, I would not meet your criteria but, I do have 18 verified perfect tenant years.

*at the same. place.

also here you couldn't do that with 3x income. most people here make around 20 an hour on average and even a shithole with a roommate is over half anyone's income.

They have ORANGE streets in Burlington? For this you pay so much money?

haha, that's bricks

There's a black person in Burlington, Vermont, or is that a "crisis actor"?

There's many black people in Burlington r34. we get toms of immigrants

It's a MELTING POT!

Housing affordable or otherwise is the #1 issue in America today. If your citizens can't keep a roof over their head the backbone of your society is broken. Everything else is secondary.

[quote]There's many black people in Burlington

Are there a lot of gays, RC?

Do you befriend them, like on here?

agreed r37. also, Burlington needs far fewer 6 bedroom, $7000/ month apartments

r38, yes!

[quote]o you're naughty [R3]! and yes, I will keep updating - all my friends are sleeping

What time is it there? What time do they go to bed in VT? Dear God!

R24, do you think that your big, beautiful light crystal blue eyes may make him ignore the credit check altogether? Is there a "look" you purposely give to make people swoon?

If you're not a kid and a renter why is your credit "garbage"?

You should have addressed that, there's no excuse for bad credit.

Rescue chick has been rescued.

Congrats and I bet you're the kind of person who exudes ethical behavior - always a plus.

Good luck on the credit check.

congrats! Hope you and your dogs are very happy at your new place.

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Congrats!

Is that Elizabeth Arden, esteemed entrepreneur, at R44?

Let us know if it works out, Chicky! I wish you the very best of luck and will be thinking of you.

Hmmm. I hope you get what you want. The celebrations here seem hollow considering credit check hurdle yet to come.

And the open house/housewarming three-days of drugs, alcohol, sex and rock/roll will be held when????

[quote]congrats! Hope you and your dogs are very happy at your new place.

she has just one dog...her rescue missions are not currently active.

Good luck, it's brutal out there.

Fingers crossed for you Rescue Chick! 🐥 🤞🏻

You definitely give off the vibes that you deserve good karma. I hope you get to that yard soon and enjoy all the bush! 👅

Fingers crossed for you Rescue Chick! 🐥 🤞🏻

You definitely give off the vibes that you deserve good karma. I hope you get to that yard soon and enjoy all the bush! 👅

[quote]I hope you get to that yard soon and enjoy all the bush!

I hope you realise RC is hetero. She likes DICK.

Good luck to you and the pup!

I briefly entertained the idea of moving to Vermont, but then I got wise to the housing shitshow there. Lots of stories like yours on the Vermont subreddit.

Why are personal finances such a mess, gurl? Tell Aubtie DL everything!

[quote] I hope you realise RC is hetero. She likes DICK.

No, I did not. I’ll add that to the list of things I learned about her on this thread, along with her problematic Menzies.

[quote] enjoy all the bush

As far as I know, she tried it, R53 / R58, but it's not for her.

[quote] her problematic Menzies

That I didn't know about, and I hope she's doing better. I'm fascinated by women bleeding into their decades, e.g. into their fifties (which I'm not sure is R-C's case, yet). I've felt that since I stopped having the burden / the 'privilege', due to a medical condition.

[quote] I'm fascinated by women bleeding into their decades

Really?

Yes, really, R60. I got married after having a hysterectomy at age 34 and it was unexpectedly 'weird' to watch my (ex-)wife go through her monthly cycle / bleeding. I wasn't 'part' of that anymore, started feeling 'out of place' as a woman, all sorts of things.

Today, when I hear, say, a 50-year-old woman talk about her period, I am fascinated by the reality of youth and fertility behind it, of which said 50-year-old woman is always blissfully unaware.

The moon is an interesting goddess.

Rescue Chick, be sure to play up your "18 verified perfect tenant years", if you haven't already.

Good luck.

When did DL become fucking Facebook?

[quote]There's many black people in Burlington

I don't know if "many" is the word I'd use.

Burlington Demographics

White: 84.8%

Black or African American: 5.14%

Asian: 4.77%

R42, you’re wrong. People, also, have bad credit for job loss, medical bills, child support, etc.

r63 what's your problem? Rescue chick has been a great contributor to this board for many years. She had something exciting that she wanted to share and did it here with those she knows. Don't read/participate in the thread if it isn't your thing.

I really hope you get it. Everyone needs some good fortune in life.

Good luck, RescueChick! ❤️

Some of my best tenants over the years were ones I took a chance on; I hope you have met a landlord like me.

You cradling a mug rn R66?

[quote] Rescue chick has been a great contributor to this board for many years.

Any examples of these great contributions?

[quote]She had something exciting that she wanted to share and did it here with those she knows.

Are you that lesbian (again), who has a thing for her?

[quote]You cradling a mug rn [R66]?

Probably Ovaltine

r71 I don't need to give examples. If you want to know look up her posts.

[quote]Are you that lesbian (again), who has a thing for her?

as far as I know she's straight and so am I so....No.

[quote] as far as I know she's straight [bold]and so am I[/bold] so....No.

You should have just said 'No' - now you got yourself a lovely FF.

Enjoy.

r74 was that answer insulting to you?

Where in Burlington is the Burlington Coat Factory? Do Burlington residents get a discount on Burlington coats?

Oh, R75. I'm just tired of straight people (men and women) running up and down this place. You see, this is a gay board.

"But R-C is straight" - yes, she is. She's also an above-average, tried-and-true, salt-of-the-earth specimen.

The rest of you all, not so much.

r77 okay. I didn't care that you gave me an FF but I did care if you thought I was insulting you because that was not my intention. Afraid I can't do anything about how you feel about straight people.

I am so happy for you rescue chic

Yeah - you're hijacking this good woman's joythread and making it about you, as your kind is known to do. Spare yourself, and spare all of us, for Heaven's sake.

Rescue-Chick, how was it? Tell us all about it.

R80 is referring to the hijacker at R78, naturally.

Let us move on and cheer on for R-C's impending, inevitable good news.

Bravo rescue chick ❤️ happy for you.

As an aside, I’m staying overnight in Burlington at the end of the month, do you have any recommendations for coffee and a vegan friendly restaurant?

I weirdly am taking an emotional break for just today from my apartment woes and possible joys. I realized that for the past few days I have barely been able to sleep, wake up, walk and not be nauseated and need to give myself a break (just for today). The well wishes are taken to heart though!!

r82, I have heard people really enjoy pingala cafe and Sherpa kitchen. both are within walking distance-ish of my current abode lol

[quote] I just need to come up with $5000 plus moving expenses

$5000 moving expenses for a cross town move?!

Are you moving a grand piano?

Good for you, Chick! How much for a pack of Marboro in Burlington?

The racial makeup of the city was 85.6% White, 4.4% Black or African American, 0.4% American Indian, 4.6% Asian, and 4.8% from two or more races.

That doesn't seem like many black peand immigrants, 85% white.

no r84, 5000 PLUS moving expenses. 2 for rent, 2 for deposit and 1 for pet deposit.

I don't know r85, I always buy a box of wine at the same time.

My neighbors are almost all immigrants of one flavor or another. I am often the only white person on the bus in the morning. so my view may likely be scewed by my day to day travels in my neighborhood. I really enjoy living in a community with immigrants

Yay rescue chick!

If you need us to donate to a GFM or something along those lines let us know

I would be banned so fast for that it would make all our heads spin r88! plus, the doxxing would be hard and fast and not in a fun, after 2 drinks way 😉

Check articles for how to improve your credit score instantly. I think one of the apps you’ve probably heard of helps… lije Credit Karma.

I believe I used Experian Boost first.

Is it just me or did Lipstick Lesbian try to make this thread about her and her missing plumbing?

Somebody asked a question, R91, I answered it.

I'm still curious about our own R-C's 'plumbing', though, as you call it.

I hope this is a good appartment for you, and your dogs love it.

How stressful. It is so hard to find places that take animals. What is with all these Americans who hate animals? Should be a law that forces rentals to be animals and human safe, and at an affordable price too.

Good Luck to you OP! I hope you get the best place for you and your dogs.

She has ONE dog - how many times do you need to be told? People see RC as some kind of Dr Dolittle.

[quote] Dr Dolittle

I will never, ever be able to unsee that now.

Keep us posted rescue-chick, crossing my fingers and toes for you

What's up with this very recent appearance of the character, Lipstick Lesbian, who goads and blocks a perfectly fine straight female and then wants menstrual/menopausal information about a popular straight female poster, rescue-chick?

Orwellianly bizarre -- approach me so I can track, slap, & attempt to humiliate you? Or something like that?

You're overthinking it, R98.

And I've been here since 2006 (just didn't use to sign my posts).

[quote]I always buy a box of wine at the same time.

That's a very Datalounge answer. I hope you have a caftan, too.

swaths of them r100!

ugh, I just filled out and paid for the background /credit check and am nauseated. I also couldn't complete the step to connect my bank account to PLAID because I use a small local credit union and it won't connect. so in addition to crappy credit I look flakey. I did send him screenshots of the 2 factor incompatibility notice.

Play up the fact that you like banking local. You’ve been an 18-year resident after all! I wholeheartedly grasped the fact “too big to fail” meant “I do t want any part of that” awhile ago and went straight to my company’s CU. I’ll go off on a diatribe about the evils of big banking, and not everyone will agree with me, but when they do, it’s like finding a kindred spirit.

Don’t give up!

haha, I am not giving up, just venting so I can present a confident, trustworthy face! I agree, fuck big banks for real! And he already knows that I am a 'my community' person based on where I work, my gardening obsession (which his fiance loved and was something she was hoping for in a tenant) and my volunteerism.

I hope you get the place, and your dog has plenty of space for zoomies. When I was buying my house, even with an 810 FICO score, the approval stage was the most stressful, and I was on edge. Good luck, and keep us posted.

R-C, If I were wealthy, I would buy you a big house with a great yard. I think this will all work out and you will get it :)

you're a dollface r106!

RC your bank/credit union may be able/willing to supply a brief statement saying you have been a solid customer and are in good standing.

They can do that without a specific $$ amount to keep that private.

This is a GOOD IDEA, [r108]

[quote] RC your bank/credit union may be able/willing to supply a brief statement saying you have been a solid customer and are in good standing.

In 1950's maybe.

Happy for you Rescue-Chick!

his fiance called my work for an employment verification this evening... 😮

I'm sure they said good things, Rescue-Chick. You'll be in your new apartment soon.

You'll be in like Flynn!

and they called my landlord.

my bestie who I got into fostering, trained and got her all her dogs just wrote me into her will to take care of her animals if she and her husband die. There's a monetary attachment with that and she's going to give me part of it now/soon to help with my moving expenses. I obviously told her that I am honored to be entrusted to her pets but I hope she's not doing it just to justify to her husband giving me money and she said 'you're the only person I know who I have no doubts will take care of my pets like your own forever'

IMO, that's the highest compliment a person can receive. I wish I had a person like you to put in MY will.

it brought me to tears Sylvia, it was the greatest honor *I've* ever received. I won't take kids but pets, you bet!

R115 I was going to make a joke about bumping her off but the sentiment is too nice to spoil, that is indeed a great compliment to you and your new landlord must realise he's struck gold from all these testimonials!

and fortunately, she's one of my personal references r118!

Can we get a Tasteful Friends after you move in?

Haha, as if I am tasteful

When will you hear whether you've been accepted, RC?

No clue Dutchie r122 but, they're doing this after they received my credit check and notes that I couldn't connect to PLAID so I am hopeful!

Also, I am kind of weirded out at being in someone's will. It never occurred to me that I ever would be. My father had money and left me nothing and the only thing my mother has left me is damaged (she's not dead but the damage is the gift that keeps on giving).

Am I supposed to do something in return for my friend? Is there protocol here that I don't know?

R110 Our bank did that for us when we were moving into a new city. We were in between jobs (starting new ones in the new city) and our bank confirmed our holdings without being super specific about dollar amounts.

It's really all a landlord wants, to know you are reliable. Transitions like job changes, etc. are understandable.

Good luck Rescue-Chick! I am a landlord and, while financials that are "on paper" are important, there are qualitative factors that go into the mix as far as deciding on a tenant. So far, we have been very lucky with our tenants, both of whom stayed six and five years, respectively (and left due to relocation, moving in with a partner, etc). You sound like a really trustworthy and solid individual; the fiance likes you already, which can only help. Reliability is important and you had 18 years as a good tenant in your current home.

Please keep DL posted on the progress-- I am pulling for you and your dog!

You’re good, R-C. You already did the most valuable thing by agreeing to look after their dogs. That’s a lot, even with a little money. You know what all goes into it— it’s challenging arranging good care when you want/need to travel without them, there’s the regular maintenance like teeth cleanings and bloodwork, and it’s incredibly expensive when they get older.

It’s worth it, to dog people to put themselves into it, but it’s still a lot of work and a lot of money. I think you’re squared away. They are very lucky to have you.

Fingers and toes crossed for you RC.

(I think you said your late father was gay. If that’s not me hallucinating, I think that gives you deserves to be on DL cred despite being straight.)

The moon is regular LL. Bleeding into your 50s, not so much.

Burlington is super diverse compared to the rest of Vermont.

Oh and a tip I heard from a friend which I’ve never used so who knows:

Find out the day your CC reports to the credit companies and clear your balance the day before in addition to paying on your due date.

Hi EL r128, my father was gay-good memory! I am almost 52 and still get periods. I think I will always get them lol.

R8, why in crisis ? Is that all of Vermont ?

R131, not all of Vermont. All around Burlington anywhere within an hour's drive.

What’s going on? 👆🏼

Buerocracy. There's a one mile stretch of road that would deeply benefit the city being built with easing traffic and they've been fighting about it for over 30 years. Much money, no road.

Has crime increased with the immigrants?

Not really. It's increased but more due to gang members using Vermont as a bridge between new york and Massachusetts along with the homeless population crimes usually both are caused by drugs.

It's probably too late, but you can have your old landlord write a letter and vouch for you- that's what I did in the bad old days of my credit rating.

my property manager was here today to take room measurements and I talked with her. She said she gave me a great reference and has been keeping an eye out for places for me.

I have to be out by lease end but I don't have to pay if I find a place before that and move ie, if I move for June I am not responsible for July. I can also pay partial month if I need an extra week into June or July to pack and move. And I don't have to clean because they're gutting it, I get my full deposit back. so, that's good!

Hoping everything works out for you, R-C. There are so many empty apartments in my area that property management companies are just asking for additional rent if the renter has a pet dog or cat. Some people are responsible and know how to care for a pet in an apartment.

ElderLez R128, see, this new generation of 50-year-olds is infinitely fertile, as R-C herself at R130 will tell you, and I can't help but be fascinated by it. Mary!

Everyone loves to complain about find a rental in Manhattan…oddly enough, though, she’d already have a signed lease and a ready-to-move date in this neck of the woods…

The wheels turn slowly up in the Green Mountains 🤷🏻‍♂️

I’m only a year older than RC, LL and let me tell you, as someone who is still stuck in perimenopause, bleeding after 50 is no indicator of fertility.

“My gynaecologist looked up to me this morning, and he told me I was still very much fertile.”

No rc just take care of their pets if they knock off unexpectantly. Good Luck with your apt. 2000 a month is hwy robbery.

$2000 is sadly pretty much standard for an apartment these days in most cities.

I GOT IT! 🥳

Woohoo!! Congrats!!! Very happy for you!

ow I just need 5k,pack everything, get a truck and movers and move. the easy parts!

YAY good for you--really happy for you and your dog!!

Excellent news! I hope you really enjoy your new home.

Congratulations!!!!

Congratulations Rescue Chick! We now expect zoomie, and gardening updates! Moving is a pain in the ass, but worth it when you get the place you really wanted♥

R142, I've known two women, one was 50 and the other was 51 years old, who got 'accidentally' pregnant at those respective ages, while not attempting to / not undergoing any hormone treatments whatsoever.

Perhaps the Brazilian ho is just an extra-fertile ho?

Zoomies all round!!!

R146 YES! Congratulations, R-C!!!! We all called it!!!!! Happy for you.

(somehow it's taking forever for newer posts to load - do show us pictures of your new garden, as someone above suggested!)

haha, the guy said if I wanted to dig up all my stuff gardens and plant them I can do it any time I want

So jubilant for you ELez !! This will bring you so many blessings

I mean rescue chick lol

This is great news!

I've been worried about you.

All the best in your new place!

Great news RC can’t wait to here about your adventures in gardening.

So happy for you, rescuechick!

I think I may need to take a mental health day tomorrow. this has been a roller-coaster for me! and, with more to come a day break may be good.

48 new posts since I last checked this thread early this morning. I had hopes it meant there was a happy ending and I am so happy it did!

Congrats RC! 🥳 enjoy your mental health day tomorrow, and the warm feeling that comes with knowing you are a good person worthy of good things!

I’d send you a six pack or beer, or bottle of bourbon but I need to know which you prefer. And by “send” I mean, I’d drive it out and drop it off.

Xoxo

R162 if you lived in NYC, you’d be home by now

😘

r163, bourbon, always bourbon. or, box o wine!

R163 has a crush on our own Chicky.

Cute. ❤️

Right-on, RC! Happy for you!

happy for you, op

Congrats, Chick, sounds like you found yourself a wonderful new home.

Fantastic news!! So happy for you and your pup!

I'm glad for you, Chick! 😊

Great news ! congrats on your new place

Congrats RC, looking forward to seeing your garden.

Happy excited lasted all of twelve hours. I am now at the 'I am so overwhelmed that I am throwing up' stage. My stupid HR person, whom I spoke with about taking a 401k loan was like 'yeah, it's easy, you just request in your account'. Does she have it set up to be able to do that? nope. is she answering emails? not yet. How does one pack up everything, manage finances, get movers all at once while working, trying not to have to pay everyone back from borrowing money, etc?

This is so overwhelming. Haha, my mental health day took a weird turn

RC, I would imagine you could apply for a 401k loan through the website of whatever company is managing it/administering it.

For example, mine is done through Fidelity. I have to use a different portal than my regular investment account Fidelity, but once there I can access, manage and yes, take out loans without any special help from my company’s HR

unfortunately r175, that's not how ours is set up. I am choosing to blame our hr person lol. I am breaking down and doing a gofundme for my friends-hopefully anyone who offered to loan me money will maybe be able to donate a portion of what they could loan instead. how humbling and shameful feeling but I am 'have to do something have to take action' mode right now. and, it's better than sitting here grumbling at the sky.

if my boxes I ordered had come yet I could burn off mental energy packing. I am very aware that is what the problem is- just mental energy looking for an outlet moving my forward.

RC, I wish you could somehow tell us about your GFM, I understand why you can't but I would help in a second

r177, I wish I could too because my pride is nonexistent right now BUT I also get why the big M doesn't allow that. thanks for listening to my ramblings today. I thought I would decompress and recharge today. ha! best laid plans and all.

Stop talking about getting approved! It’s a nothing burger!

Get off her new, upgraded lawn, R179.

RC do you have a family member or friend who will give you a loan against the 401k withdrawal since it’ll probably about four weeks? I did that with one of my siblings. I put together a two paragraph contract.

Post your gofundme

Do we know for a fact that Lady M forbids things such as posting a link to a GoFundMe?

And if posting links directly is not allowed, would it be allowed for one to, say, [italic]describe[/italic] to us how we might find the right GoFundMe, without posting any links whatsoever?

It’s not that hard… especially if you use some choice search words that are pretty obvious.

Also, once you do find it, you must leave even a $mall indication that you found it!

I don't think it has any kind of robust search, I can't find my gfm in the search. It lets you choose 'near me' and type which wouldn't be helpful. I think from their perspective they want sharing of links which makes sense!

I mean - each GFM has a 'title'; I wonder if perhaps R-C posted such title, we might be able to go and Google it, for example.

I’m a bit shy to say anything more for fear of this being M<>$&71’d… but it didn’t take more than some common-sense.

Zoomies-runner in the profile pic kinda gave it away and was a nice touch. He seems like a sweet boy. No pic, or mention, included your son’s squirrel-ish assbrow thoigh, but that should probably be appreciated.

You go, Rescue Chicken!

Chick***

MOTHERFUCK! I think I found it too, R188!

BITCH! I'll just say this:

help me move to new apartment burlington

DAMN!

I have calmed down enough to say what set me into panic today. my hr person who I spoke with WEEKS ago about taking the loan from my plan was originally lik3 'yes, that's easy, you just fill out a form, no problems'

TODAY when I contacted her about doing it she's like 'o, that may not work you know, they may not approve it because it might not qualify. it's only a b and c that qualify' and I am like, bitch really? forst of all, the a b and c you listed are for withdrawals I believe. and, why were you so 'y3ah, easy peasy' 2 weeks ago and I was counting on it? I could have used that 2 weeks for other things.

Then go finger your pussy on the front lawn!

we have a frost warning r193, that isn't going to help much

FUCK IT, let's get this show on the road.

Rescue-Chick, your currency is worth five times my currency; screw it, I'm helping you.

Let's go, y'all!!!!!!

o please don't get me banned- I love it here and you all and would miss you terribly!

Ugh that sucks @192, RC. I hate it when stories/circumstances change. Doubly worse when finances are involved AND there is a certain element of dire straits on the line too.

So many times in my younger, leaner, poorer days circumstances forced me into fiscally irresponsible situations. This wasn’t helped by my own penchant for fiscal irresponsibility. And when I thought I may have some help, or a way out, watching that dry up because some paper-pusher bureaucrat admit a mistake and “poof!” there goes the help I was counting on… beyond frustrating.

It doesn’t seem those are your exact circumstances now, RC, but I’m reliving a bit of my own turmoil reading about yours… even though I know the outcome is exciting and the best thing for you.

This may not be

Erase that last line… that was left over from an edit.

[quote] we have a frost warning [R193], that isn't going to help much

Mmmmm, pubecicles!

R196, I won't, I won't... If anything, Lady M might b a n me! Anyway, I'm not saying anything more than I already did, and I suppose what I DID say is not enough to warrant a b a n , so...

a friend donated $1000 and I have $1000 in my bank account so I have the deposit that I can give him today. I can worry about the rest tomorrow! also, fuck hr.

I just saw that, RC. You def have nice friends, Wtg!

I found it too. Wish I could have done more but I plunked some coinage your way. Good luck RC!

and PS

ooooh! that old pupper in the photo...so cute!

he's a gem r204, my big guy keeps me (semi) sane 🐕❤️

Yay RC...and what a good ol' pup you have.

Very happy for you, and I also condole you on your Aunt Flo still hanging around.

I've sent some your way, Chicky. ❤️

Rescue Chicken is cracking me up

I saw that and sent a thank you note r207! I have been doing that through the portal because I don't want anyone here to feel weirded out. My bestie who wrote me into her will is going to drop off a check and I will update the total as 'off line donation' like I did my friend who venmoed me. no double dipping here!

I like you. The gofundme, however, disgusts me—that’s low trolling for cash. Very disappointing.

Time for you to Move in or Move on.

That's fascinating, R210. Wow.

I got it on my e-mail, R209. ❤️

You’re entitled to your opinion r210, but surely you’re not equating this situation with some of the more ridiculous ones DL has collectively shamed and derided thru the years?

You’ve made me think though about just how GFM campaigns can get traction with certain types of people. I’ve donated a few times in the past… all were times of “random compassion” on my part which short-circuited any judgment on my part. They weren’t far off from some of the lamer situations. Perhaps the only thing that put me over the edge was the gin I was drinking at the time

r210, I understand and respect your opinion on the subject. I was melting down yesterday but trying to keep my 'sane' face on in real life. I likely should have kept my ramblings to myself- my dignity hit the road about 2 weeks ago and flipped me the bird yesterday. I'll earn back your affections!

Sometimes there's a need for a Hail Mary. My friend's film was selected for this year's Cannes Critics' Week, it was unexpected, so she created a GFM to try and haul the cast from Brazil to France (bless them, they are there right now). So, that was twice in the same week I've donated to a GFM, which is completely unusual for me, but, in this case, absolutely worth it.

R210 We practically had to pull teeth to get RC to tell us about the fundraiser so maybe stuff your judgemental attitude where the sun don't shine.

We never know what might happen that might make us turn to a fundraising initiative like that. I have a friend in need of a liver transplant and we raised 10K for him. Did any of us want to do that? No. But times are tough and you can either ask for help when it's needed or sit in the dark and cry.

Yeah, I was going to say that - we basically had to doxx R-C to come up with her GFM.

^in order to* come up with

I almost want to make a comment, mostly in jest, that R210 is just a bit butthurt because his GFM for Anal Bleaching fell waaaaay short.

But I won't.

But I really want to.

But I won't.

R218 I applaud your restraint!

RC, given that your HR person has apparently already given you some incorrect information about the possibility of the loan you describe, I would strongly suggest that you contact the financial company that handles your 401K directly to ask your questions. If you are getting statements, there most likely is a number to call for help. Or a list of FAQ (Frequently Asked Questions.)

Good Luck!

What R220 said.

Any updates, RC? You good?

r222, the drama of it all! I think I am going to be able to white knuckle my way through. it's going to be obscenely tight but that's ok! I had the full deposit and we were going to meet, sign the lease, get the keys etc Friday.

I go to venmo him the money Friday (he wants rent by venmo, it's part of the lease). venmo says 'lol no'. I call my bank, get my daily transaction limit raised, try again. venmo 'lol, no'. my friend drops off a check for me to deposit through venmo. venmo 'nope, we say we do that but, not for you'.

he and I talked yesterday and he's fine but I had visions of him 'I don't even know her and she's playing games' and was just sick. he said I can start moving outdoor plants if I want and we'll sign when he gets back from vacation on the 31st.

I opened a checking account with a 'big bank' and scanned the check my friend dropped. it'll be available next week.. I am going to close my venmo and start a different one with the new bank account and hope for the best. but today, uvm graduation day (closed streets) I am going to enjoy the likely rain, watch tv in my pajamas and chill the fuck out.

I am also going to mention to my boss (executive director) that it's incredibly ironic that we discriminate against renters (based on what we do) and that employees should be aware they can't take loans from their 401k so they can make informed decisions if they want to put their money in it.

I borrowed from my 401K to move, so I'm not sure why they told you no.

Maybe it's your particular company's rules (or their financial company's rules)? It's a shame they dicked you around like that.

it's what the company chose. there's two options 'any reasonable expense' and the one they chose (which matches the wording of the withdrawal option) 'hardship reason medical, mortgage, education, burial' etc. No one I have spoken with has ever heard of being fully vested and not being able to take a loan. it's just typical for this specific hr person.

Yeah, as someone else mentioned I'd call the company directly and bypass HR Frauette.

Unfortunately, it can't be changed without going through the board etc. I think that's why she sent me a screenshot so it would be clear I could not bypass it. I will of course call them but don't really have any expectations. I will talk to the person who can initiate the change through the board approving it so maybe the next person won't have the panic I did.

hahahaha, my neighbor is a school bus driver and has access to the whole fleet. my driveway is between 2 tall stone walls and fairly steep. She's going to try to check out one of the small buses for my move.

Picture this: me, my boxes and my dog rolling into the neighborhood on the short bus!

my friend who put me in her will to take care of her pets if she dies (and wrote me a check) is adopting an adult cat with feline aids, is heartworm positive and has urinary tract infections. I can't stop laughing. I told her to make sure she takes her vitamins

so, I am just venting. Movers are coming tomorrow around noon. Today we did a dump run and another run out to the apartment with a truckful of jumbo laundry bags of stuff. Gave my 84 inch sofa away today because the new apartment is smaller than the one I am in now.

I am about 95-90 percent packed and I am just sitting here crying and exhausted. I wanted to get my bedroom fully emptied so my dog could hang out in there while the movers are here but I am not able to get all of the upstairs into the office. I also can't drag my mattress out of my room by myself. he's going to have to go in his crate and the movers will have to deal with his barking until they get the mattress, 2 boxes and a nightstand out. I am too exhausted to continue trying to get the mattress out.

I have to pack my desk/computer area up. I have to do dishes so I can put some dinner in the toaster oven so I can clear the counters and pack dishes after I eat. I need the counters cleared so I can put my living room plants on them because I am bringing them separately. my upstairs ones are in the bathtub. I need to detach my big tv from the stand.

I am desperately hoping that they can just take the outside stuff without me fucking with it, like the small storage shed.

fuck I am tired. also my neighbor is burning shit in their yard. it it smells like shit. or, maybe cigar? I don't think I will get to bed tonight.

Hang in there, rescue-chick.

Moving is one of the most stressful things in life. It will be over soon.

thanks r231. I am done for the night. I will move my plants in the morning and pack my computer stuff then too. I HAVE 2 people who are planning on helping after with stuff that doesn't make it. my bestie is bringing her truck down Monday and my neighbor plans on bringing me and the big guy and whatever out tomorrow afternoon.

I just am tired of having my poor friends have to do all this. the more I get packed the less they have to bring. they're really too good for me.

Try to get some rest.

R232 would you do the same for them if they needed you and you were able? If so then no need to be hard on yourself!

Good luck with the move, r-c.

This thread has become exhausting…moving is not torture, don’t treat it as such. If we all told the DL every detail of our own experiences in moving from place to place, then this lounge would have gone out of business many years ago.

If you find this thread exhausting, r236, you can simply skip it. There are many more for you to choose from.

This thread is a prime example of why many of us don’t want straight women posting here.

Dear Diary

I hate stories where the hoped-for resolution is presented:

I bought a lottery ticket and I think im really going to win big!

I think I aced my job interview and can expect to be hired on Monday on a salary well above that posted!

I saw a car in front of the building today, and I think it's the McArthur Foundation people looking for me!

Bat-shot crazy optimism and asking strangers to cross their finger for you...it's nuts.

Congratulations, Rescue Chick!

You are moving to your new place today!

When all is moved, just sit down and give a sigh of relief. Take your time over the next days putting things in place and just enjoy the fact today that the move is done.

Peace.

R241 you omitted one item on her list: have this thread closed.

R236, R238, R239, R240, R242 - and yet how you do go on about your skin care rituals & old glory holes

RC I understand you are writing your thoughts for those of us who are interested. That fact has eluded some DLers.

my main mover is a gay guy. he's lovely.

Yes, I agree with R243. Those tired, soulless stalagmites listed are the type that come into a thread clearly advertising things that don’t interest them and then piss on it, ending with “I really don’t care for this”.

… the ones who blather on about not caring for architecture in “Tasteful Friends”

… those who diss the wondrous Grealish when they could just stay the fuck out

… the pathetic anti-porn, anti-masturbation trolls that want to make us gays all groomers

Basically, those that should fuck right off of Datalounge now!

Hang in there RC. I’m sorry to read about your troubles and self-questioning but I’m thankful for the update. I wish I could do more to help now, physically.

I have minimal stuff and I hate moving. Rescue-chick, sounds like you had a lot of stuff to move.

So, just a 'wrapping it up' update.

My dog absolutely positively loves it here. We just calmly wander around the back yard, no barking, no pulling etc. We both finally slept in my bed last night and he was so happy he kept waking me up to snuggle.

I am about 1/3 unpacked and do not yet have any of my plants here yet (indoor or outdoor), I am getting them Thursday. After that, I am telling my old apartment, I am done. Yes, there's some rubbish left, yes there's a few things left in the walls, yes it's not as good as I would like but I am done with it. It's certainly not 'trashed' and all the rooms are emptied but I am not cleaning the fridge or wiping down countertops etc. I need to focus on unpacking.

The people upstairs are really nice and keep to themselves. My landlord is upping the internet speed with no additional cost to me and is discussing putting in lots of raised planter areas in the back yard for next summer so I can really garden. He claims the raised gardens would make mowing easier for him, I think he has caught on that I can be a bit prissy lol.

I have told my real life friends this and want to say here to- thanks for being here for me with this. it was frankly extremely traumatic and I keep thinking this place is too good to be true but, my dog loves it so much that I am going to follow his lead 😊🐶

Dogs know things in ways we can’t RC. Happy it is all working out.

I'm glad it all worked out and you and the pup are happy, R-C!

Thank you for the update RC, you really sound like you’ve got a handle on it now. Not perfect, but real and good. It puts a smile on my face to think of your happy dog zooming around the yard, and I hope you do make the most of that yard!

Congratulations and enjoy the summer!

[quote]Yes, there's some rubbish left, yes there's a few things left in the walls, yes it's not as good as I would like but I am done with it. It's certainly not 'trashed' and all the rooms are emptied but I am not cleaning the fridge or wiping down countertops etc. I need to focus on unpacking.

Any updates, RC?

Happy for you! Good luck!

252,just unpacking! I am about 60 percent unpacked. Last night I HAD to order stuff to make a big salad for the week, I had been eating Chinese food and pizza for the past week because I couldn't cook due to not knowing where my stuff was and not having room. My digestive system was not having it any longer, between shitty food and stress I just felt yuck.

My big guy has been having unusually runny poops and it's because he's also been off his regular diet (for the same reasons) so I have a pot of chick peas on for his dinner and pulled out his regular meats because I FINALLY found my knives lol.

I spoke to the young lady upstairs and asked her 'is it good here? it feels too good to be true' and she said her boyfriend has lived here for several years and loves it and she moved in a few months ago and also likes it.

Apparently it's been empty for months and he had been interviewing people for months but just didn't like anyone for it. In Burlington, apartments go the same day they're listed- sight unseen. I feel more grateful every day.

My big guy has farts this morning that are clearly from the Chinese food fried rice I gave him 2 days ago. repulsive, never again.

All the happiness to you in your new home, RC!

I just took the biggest dump! I was constipated for days but took a laxative and that must've kicked in overnight because man that dump was huge!

Fried rice usually has onions? Your poor dog.

Glad it all worked out, RC!

EL r257, this place has really large sliced onions, I picked them out.

Any hot neighbours?

I only have seen the guy upstairs and someone next door, not sure if male or female. you guys would probably like the guy upstairs, he's Jamaican (I assume), short, trim and well dressed. The person next door I couldn't really see as there's privacy bushes but they were really buff and wearing an 80s workout outfit and doing that thing with big heavy ropes (? I don't know what it's called, some workout thing). They may have had a blond mullet wig on.

FF the impersonator at R256 for her lack of class.

I thought it was funny r262, that wasn't what was wrong with my stomach (more just feeling bloated and sloggy) but it's exactly what I would say to my bestie if it were what was going on

R76 - Burlington Coat Factory originated in Burlington, New Jersey, not far from Philadelphia.

Yeah, agree that it's uncool to not clean the prior apartment. You could hire someone to clean it, at least.

I mean, they're gutting it so I am not as much of an asshole as it sounds.

Happy4you RC!

[quote]Yeah, agree that it's uncool to not clean the prior apartment. You could hire someone to clean it, at least.

This bugs me too. Clean up your mess. What she describes doesn't even sound like much, just too lazy to care I guess. Whoever is gutting it shouldn't have to deal with someone else's filth and dirt too.

a portion of my back yard!

Looks lovely Rescue Chick, you can setup a comfy sun lounger there and get a nice healthy tan on your tits!

One year update - I re-signed my annual lease this morning 😊

He raised the rent of the neighbors upstairs (a bit, not horrifically) but didn't raise my rent because 'of the unbelievable work I have done in the back yard'. He also gave me permission to get a pit mix when my big guy dies (this has been on my mind because I thought he was dying last week. he's peachy keen currently fortunately).

Please don't tell the universe this but, I am so happy here as is my dog. He doesn't bark at shit anymore. I had to get a stun gun to feel comfortably secure inside because he simply can't be bothered anymore lol.

I put in a 1200 square foot wildflowers garden, 2 Adirondack loveseats, a screened gazebo, a swing bench, I have hanging baskets, bird feeders and bath, hummingbird feeders in the lawn part of the yard. I am slowly clearing all the undergrowth from the wooded portion in the far back and put in lily of the Valley, lenten roses and forget me nots so far.

We have a massive mole and skunk problem- that means the soil of the yard is full of yummy (to moles and skunks) grubs of various sorts. I am treating the whole yard next week with beneficial nematodes to solve that.

My big guy and I go out every morning and drink coffee, well I drink coffee, he poops and we both watch all the birds. So far we have chickadees, 4 different kinds of finches, a bluejay and a shy cardinal. Crows in the wooded section and eagles, turkey vultures and hawks overhead enjoying the cross breezes.

It's fucking idyllic.

Ironically, my old place has been on the market, unsold for almost a year. Fuck them.

[quote] get a pit mix

[quote] mole and skunk

[quote] all the birds. So far we have chickadees, 4 different kinds of finches, a bluejay and a shy cardinal. Crows in the wooded section and eagles, turkey vultures and hawks

Rescue chick, are they/will they be rescue animals?

I'm happy for you RescCh.

Renoviction. I have to be out of here by June No suitable 2-bedroom places, here we say 4 1/2, under $2300. Even in the boonies. Downtown there a brand new places, condos, almost reasonable. But no room is wider than 8.5 ft.

every one of them r272!

r273, I am so sorry - that's so fucking stressful. I suspect you will wind up lke me though - eventually happier (don't tell the universe I said that)

The backyard sounds like a dreamscape. I admire your energy. You'll have to put a couple of photos up when it's in full bloom.

Before they signed their lease, did your landlord ask the upstairs tenants to put some rugs down so you don't have to hear them stomping around?

Rescue Chick- You have good karma. I am in the seacoast of NH and it has been like. this for me:

2022 1500 2023 1950 2024. 2450

Its unsustainable...

" Where the hell are you that $2000 for a two bedroom is a deal? That sounds very expensive to me."

I'm in Southern CA and my rent is 42140 for a one bedroom. I do have my own washer and dryer and a dishwasher and fireplace but it's still almost half my income. I have no other debt so it's currently not an issue, but saving money is difficult.

Sorry, that was $2140 ^^^

R277 Similar- But no dishwasher, no washer and dryer- But I do have the ocean, and that keeps me happy

Boggles my mind that I will be paying more than someone in southern CA. And my place is OLD.

It does include heat. (Which in New England, electric heat costs 3-400 a month for a small place 7 months out of the year)

I will post pictures r275! I did not ask him for that because we had a couple of 'come to jesus' moments, the upstairs people and I. During the day if it gets bad I wear headphones and they are now quiet after 11pm. We're ok. She even brought the kids to the park across the street for the first time in a year last weekend. I think I scared her.

Something has to give in this country wrt rent, housing and cost of living for the basic necessities. It's dangerously unsustainable.

Sweetie, my dog Sam and I are thrilled for you. You deserve the best in life and it is coming to you. Best wishes, my darling!

Awwww, R281. Dollface post.

omg T @ r281, is that truly your dollface? I hope so because it's a dollface!

Yes, darling. Sammy keeps me going every day!

dogs are so good for us r284!

Happy for you Rescue Chick. So good to see Sam Tallulah!

"Boggles my mind that I will be paying more than someone in southern CA. And my place is OLD."

Except you're not. A two bedroom in SO CAL is $4000. You're paying less than I am for a ONE bedroom.

Sorry R287- I was replying to the southern Ca renter paying $2140-

That's me, r288. I pay that for a one bedroom.

$1745 a month (utilities included) here an hour North of San Francisco for a 600 sf studio. And I share the laundry room with the landlord, who overtakes it on Sundays (which is also where my bathroom and closet are located).

It will be going up in Feb...AGAIN. I moved here in 2020 for $1550 a month, and it's gone up every year except the last because I complained.

I've been looking for something else (maybe with an actual bedroom, so I don't cook 10 feet from my bed) for months and it's really slim pickings. I am considered low income, I just found out, as I make 63k (66k in 3 months), but our county's median income is 91k.

I'm worried I won't find anything, and if that's the case, landlord will be raising the rent as much as he is allowed to (by law).

It sucks.

Thrilled for you rescue-chick. Couldn't happen to a better person!

R291- I agree-

And let me tell you that Vermont, and Burlington VT are some of the worst rental markets in the country. (New England is often forgotten)

NH has a .80 % vacancy rate for apts or something utterly grim. (Why I am paying $1000 more a month than I did 3 years ago)

VT is as bad, if not worse-- and the job opportunities are far worse because most VT'ers cannot commute to Boston, like folks in NH..

I don't know how I made it this long up here.

Rescue Chick deserves all the best!

Northern New England (ie Mass and above) is just insane. So many people moved here during Covid “because it’s safe” ie mostly white people. Also telecommuting means they can keep their high paying job and live in a beautiful area with low-paying jobs for locals. I pay more for a two bedroom apt than my relative who rents a house in New Jersey. I’m an excellent tenant, non smoker, quiet, no pets, paid rent on time, stayed eight years in each of my last three apts and have only moved because resident landlord decided to sell. Current landlord is a real estate agent. I should’ve known better as my rent just went up 10%, the legal limit. I’m sick with worry.

I am so sorry r293, it's so scary. Safe, affordable housing is a fundamental human right.

Of course a lot of those majority white areas are in fact much more dangerous than NYC, but people hear “only three murders in the past decade” and fail to realize that that is a much, much higher rate murder rate in a town of a thousand people than 400 murders a year in a city of eight million.

Even the terrible area I grew up in has houses close to a half million in price. It’s bizarre.

RC, when are you moving in? Update?