I'm an average looking gay guy and I'm getting jealous of all the attention my hot gay BFF gets

Take his castoffs and be grateful.

Grow a spine. Make a choice.

Aw, you're the DUFF

I'm guessing your hot friend sees your other stupid posts here?

Why would you tell your friend about it? What's he going to do -- get ugly so you won't feel so bad?

Keep your mouth shut and be grateful you have a friend.

This reminds me of when I had a boyfriend who was 5 years younger than me. Though originally I was usually considered the more attractive one, as I got to be around 38 and he was still only 33 and looked younger, and had all his hair while mine was starting to thin, suddenly he was getting all the attention (from younger guys) and I was standing around in the background. This caused me to eat and drink a little more and then I looked 10 years older than him. Probably you shouldn't hang out with someone when it makes you feel less attractive or worthy than you are.

Take your clothes off. Your nudity will help balance the equation.

Take that jealousy to the gym, trail, or track, OP. Better yourself. And I don't know where either of you stand professionally, but great looks very rarely hang around forever. Use what you can, to get what you want.

“Take your clothes off. Your nudity will help balance the equation.”

Your nudity will help clarify the equation.

Do more scaled down activities with him: movie, dinner etc. Maybe the bar and party scene is not rewarding for you in general if you feel ignored.

Jealous people do us the favor of showing how useless they are.

Instead of going out thinking you’re an “average looking gay guy,” channel the confidence of dudes you see who attract men. You might be putting off “not good enough” vibes.

Maybe you are not even really trying, assuming they wouldn’t be interested. Straighten that posture up and act like you’re having the time of your life. Guffaw!

OP, I was that hot gay BFF.

OP, there's really only one question and it's one you have to ask yourself.

Is he keeping you around as a friend because it makes him more attractive in comparison, or is he keeping you around as a friend because he's a good person and he likes you?

Don't ask him. You have to figure that one out yourself.

But I bet it's the latter, that he's a good friend, and he keeps you around because he likes you.

And that's wonderful, and something you shouldn't give up. And it's unfair to blame him for being attractive.

I think when you realize that you have a good friend, the fact that he's attractive and gets a lot of attention isn't gonna bother you as much.

I don't mean to sound mean. Being jealous is natural, but it is something you have control over, not him. So I don't advise talking to him about it, because it's not something he can change.

As someone above said (more or less) - do stuff with him that doesn't put you in a position of being at gay bars or parties. Just...find other stuff to do that doesn't involve having to see him get all the attention. There must be a lot of other things.

put grease in his skin creams

Lots of surprisingly good advice here. Average looks are workable. Play up your strengths. Nothing is sexier or more attention-getting than confidence. Fake it til you make it, OP.

I've been on both sides of the equation. In my younger years, I was the "cute hot thing" getting all the attention. But that was a couple decades ago. I now have a handsome, younger BF and when we are together, he gets all the focus and I might as well be invisible. I'm happy to let him enjoy his time in the spotlight because it's fleeting.

OP - who has the bigger cock? Do you have anything of value on the meat market? Put that forward. And shut the fuck up about this with your friend. Either suck it up or stop going to cruisy places with him. Do something else. Play sports or go consume culture, or go to dinner. Whatever.

How hot?

Do you have any devastating repartee for the droolers?

You want him? Get in line! No really: get in line and bring me a martini.

His dance card is filled, among other things.

I’m not a pimp. I’m a card carrying member of MENSA. Mens a want to get to know me better.

Oh him? He’s a champ about taking my sloppy seconds.

Or simply: Yes. he’s a great guy. I’m lucky to have him as a friend. What did you do today? Have you seen _movie, show, art, the buffet_?

He's the Barbie, you're the Midge, OP.

When I lived in L.A. I worked at a BH piazza and was the only staff member who was not an aspiring model or actor.

The benefit of this was two of my young co-workers were super hot. I got to go to lots of great things because of this.

Enjoy your hot friend and remember it's your own insecurities that are the issue here.

What’s your body like, OP?

Muscles and a slim waist go a long way.

Some people are hotter than others, hot people are going to get more attention. No shit Sherlock.

Such is the way of the world, it's better to face that with confidence than be insecure about it. And if you really can't handle that then hit the gym and become hotter.

In 1995 when I went to a gay bar guys would be cruising me simultaneously on either side of me. They would lean into me and lean forward to try to catch my glance - good looking guys& very good looking guys.

Today if I walked in to a gay bar completely naked I would be invisible 🫥.

oh god. you should have come to terms with your ugliness about the time you graduated from High School. And what? You're about 60 now?

I think part of the allure, value of this friendship is the attractiveness of the friend and OP likes going out and being seen with him. So if you’re using him for his looks, you gotta take the lumps that come with that.

Sounds like you need to stop doing things with him that involve the gay meat market if you can't get over your jealousy and it makes you feel bad about yourself. Do other things with him. And it sounds like you're aging out of the bar scene anyway while he's in his prime. As somebody said when you get out of high school you pretty much know if you're hot or not and act accordingly. You put yourself in situations where you're not just looking for hot sex You look for friends and you might find yourself physically attracted to them and hopefully they'll be attracted to you. I've been to party situations where the hot seem to gather naturally with the hot and the not with the not. A little like high school.

If you like being seen with him it's out of vanity. And if he likes being seen with you it is as well out of vanity.

For some reason this brings up a situation I found myself in with my then boyfriend and a girl who had a crush on him.

R1 has given the best advice. Existing within his glow is a real thing and a valid choice and unless you are hideous, this can easily be an “all boats rise with the tide” thing.

What do you want us to say, OP? Your friend obviously likes your company, but there is nothing he can really do about guys chasing after him if he's extremely hot. And you're actually probably seen as more attractive than you might otherwise be because you're his friend. Just be glad you have a close friend you can hang out with a lot.

R18- What a about a guy who’s already really good looking and is confident.

In 2004 I was in a bar and these two good looking guys went up to me and started a conversation. The blond guy was more confident and outgoing which increased his attractiveness considerably over the other guy.

Slap his face VICIOUSLY

Offer to service him in any way he likes to earn his love and attention.

Fuck off, OP. There's nothing worse than a jealous cunt.

I remember what’s in my pants and then feel more grateful.