It's her party, and she'll cry if she wants to!

SAD!

I smell something fishy here! 🧐

[quote] In the description of a follow-up clip, Narvaez-Dragion said they and their partner Nyx...

This could have had something to do with it.

Why did they have to cancel "the dinner, the private dance, and the sparkler send-off"?

Was it a cash dinner?

Probably because they know the marriage won't last. Who gets married at 18 anymore?

FAKE. This generation is doomed. Their grift for "likes" is a mental illness. Literally.

Google: @grayanxiety TikTok and watch her videos.

Bwahahahaha. It's pathetic!

I wouldn't have gone either. She didn't even brush her hair for the wedding. I'm appalled

[quote]It's her party, and she'll cry if she wants to!

How DARE you misgender they/them.

"FAKE. This generation is doomed."

You're making generalizations about an entire generation of people based on one person? Do you think trump represents all boomers?

My first thought is what is she up to that makes everyone dislike her? This doesn’t happen to nice people.

She sounds okay R11, and not like some Bridezilla.

The article said "they lost around $2,500 of the $3,000 that they paid toward the food, a DJ, and gifts for their guests. They were left with a ton of food, including a massive charcuterie table and a majority of the wedding cake. Narvaez-Dragion also put a lot of thought into the gifts for their guests, which were custom-made resin magnets and soaps..."

That sounds like a nice person.

Maybe one of her co-workers started spreading rumors about her, or maybe they didn't like the "witchy" element to the wedding.

Who knows?

First Of advice is to get rid of that nose ring.

Everyone realized this marriage will last less than six months.

What's weird is how them seems totally into destroying social norms by being a "they/them", yet them buys wholeheartedly into the whole "big expensive wedding" cliche.

And what's with the "they/them uniform" them all sport? Septum ring, pink, green or purple hair, and hideous makeup. Them are all so conventional in them's unconventionality. So boring, and so conformist.

That’s a real bummer, even though this chick is low hanging fruit to mock.

But if they didn’t have real family and friends to invite, they should have had a much smaller reception especially since they just had a courthouse ceremony.

Sounds like they made their plans and invited any and everyone to come to justify their expenses. Who relies on co-workers as the bulk of your 88 RSVPs?

an awkward morning around the office the day after

Sweetheart, people fucking hate you. Face it before you get pig's blood dumped on you at your next wedding.

Don't you need a job to have co-workers ?

Assuming most of her friends are also teenagers, it shouldn't be that much of a surprise that so many of them flaked.

Nobody cares.

The world of het'rosexual is a sick and boring life!

Gravel in jars and guest soaps to take home?

MY SIDES AT THIS DIRT WEDDING!

Oh honey... You poor, poor little white trash

I feel badly for them. I really do. It's impossible not to take that kind of indifference personally. I mean...ouch.

At the same time, you have to be self aware enough to know what to expect. If you are generally viewed as "strange" or have a small circle of unreliable people in your life, don't test them by planning a big "prove how much you love us!" event.

People attend weddings out of family duty or to save face more than anything. If you don't have a big family behind you, feeling obligated to show up, trying to impose on coworkers to take their place is awkward.

But no one should be crying from rejection on their wedding day. That's brutal.

R12 You think she sounds nice because she spent a lot of money on stuff for the wedding? I don't think that's relevant at all. Narcissistic freaks are often very or even inappropriately generous, it's one of the main things they weaponize.

You have a kind heart, r25. And very good grammar (I feel badly)

In any other thread about manners and RSVP etiquette, the Datalounge Men of Manners Committee would have stressed how important it is to only agree to go if you truly plan on attending, and how rude and trashy it is to say you'll go and not even show up.

When it comes to women, weddings, Zoomers or Millennials, however, suddenly your trailer park trash roots come SCREAMING to the surface, and the worst part is that you think you're quality people, simply better than everyone else mentioned in the story.

No, you're exactly the same. Exactly.

[quote]If you are generally viewed as "strange" or have a small circle of unreliable people in your life, don't test them by planning a big "prove how much you love us!" event.

"You're so odd and peculiar, you don't fit into society, so you shouldn't expect people to treat you with respect."

There isn't a single fucking gay on this board who should be saying anything like that. Ever.

You're right. I should have said I feel bad. Not badly.

Anyone who has tried to organize a birthday event or movie night or housewarming and gotten stood up by "friends" knows how deep the disappointment can cut. A wedding? God I could cry for them just thinking about the humiliation.

I knew a girl whose parents threw her a big sweet 16 and rented a huge hall, to make her feel special.... but maybe only 8 people actually came. I was one of them. And I barely knew the girl. It was so sad, the giant echoing space...us moving the chairs closer together since everything was clearly set up as if 40 teens were going to be there...

People suck.

Nyx the sparklers and go straight to cake!

I don't understand why anything had to be cancelled because people didn't show up.

[quote]In any other thread about manners and RSVP etiquette, the Datalounge Men of Manners Committee would have stressed how important it is to only agree to go if you truly plan on attending, and how rude and trashy it is to say you'll go and not even show up.

I don't know; if some dealbreaker was included like "cash bar", the Manners Committee would be slagging you right & left, no matter how touching and/or glamorous your ceremony was.

Like all things with these sorts of people, this story looks like clickbait 1. to get people to check out their social media postings 2. to get $$ through GFM to compensate them. But I'm cynical like that...

I keep seeing stories like this, before you throw a party ask yourself how popular you are

^ Not really, they should have RSVP'd "no”.

THANK HOU, R29

That is, thank you.

When I was in 6th grade, I was invited to a birthday party by one of my classmates. We were friendly, but not friends. We never really hung out together. That Friday night, my parents and I went to a carnival and we stayed out late, I ate way too much crap, and when I got up the next morning, I had a food and fun hangover. I told my mom I didn't feel well (which I didn't) and that there was no way I could go to this birthday party. She would not hear it. I had been invited and had accepted and I was not going to cancel out the morning of. I bitched and moaned the whole morning about it, but she stood firm.

I got to the party and it turned out, I was the only one to show up. No idea how many people were invited and it was nothing fancy, just something at his house (and then we were all supposed to either go to the skating rink or bowling alley and then come back form cake and presents). I could see how absolutely crushed both he and his mother were, but they put on brave faces. The parents made me feel very welcome and I had a nice time (and tried to be upbeat and positive and pretend I didn't notice no one else was there because I felt horrible for him).

When my mom came to pick me up, I told her what happened and that I was glad she made me go. I have no idea why no one else showed up. He wasn't Mr. Popular, but he wasn't someone everyone hated, he wasn't picked on, he was just a kid in our class.

R29 wait up. Waaaaaaait up.

I'm not saying the guests were justified in being no-shows, or that the couple deserved abandonment for being different or odd or gay. Come on now.

I'm only saying that you have to know where you stand when you plan an event like this. People- especially colleagues!- might feel obligated to say an enthusiastic "yes of course!" in public to save face, while privately wanting nothing to do with you or your event.

It's happened to all of us here. And it hurts. It really does.

So you have to learn to be practical. Ask yourself honestly "who would really be there for me?" and "who enjoys our sense of fun?" People can get very snobby about attending a wedding that they think is tacky or cheap or weird, etc. I'm guessing those "magic spell bottles" as gifts would have been mocked endlessly by most people I know, even the so-called "artsy" ones. People can be cruel.

These two might have spared themselves a lot of pain by having a nice, elegant 10 person reception with people they 100% knew would enjoy their vibe. Small? Yes. But maybe seeing 10 people really be happy for them and there to have a nice time would have been better than trying to see if a whole big group would show up.

R38

THERE ^^^ Exactly.

People suck and I hate that that happened. But that is exactly what you need to anticipate in life. People can be so cruel and heartless.

But also maybe there were other factors like bad weather, colds going around, the party being far away, etc.

TV tells us if you throw a lavish party people will attend. Aiways, always lower your expectations.

Poor kid. Been there, but later on in life.

That's a terrible story R38 (but your mom is a champ!); isn't that everyone's worse nightmare (aside from going to work/school without your pants on): you throw a party *and no one comes!*

Can we get back to the sparkler send-off, please? I don’t think that we’ve spent enough time on the sparkler send-off.

I'm guessing that's borrowed from the end of my best friends wedding?

[quote]When it comes to women, weddings, Zoomers or Millennials, however, suddenly your trailer park trash roots come SCREAMING to the surface, and the worst part is that you think you're quality people, simply better than everyone else mentioned in the story.

I don’t know what “women” you’re talking about. The person featured here is a they/them.

Cautionary tale about why you should never throw a party. Ever.

[quote]I'm guessing that's borrowed from the end of my best friends wedding?

Julia Roberts was not going to show up at this shitshow.

[quote]before you throw a party ask yourself how popular you are

^ THIS

Her in that dress..... I'm getting flashbacks to Lindsay Lohan's Halloween costume in [italic]Mean Girls[/italic].

When planning a wedding, the experts say to plan for 1/4 of the people to not show up.

R38 did you ask your classmates why they didn't show up?

It seems like they had a lot of food/things planned for the $3200. How did they swing that?

Please update us when the real reason why people didn't show up come out. 40 to 1 are the odds it was the couple's fault, or at least the weather.

Regardless if people think this marriage will last or not, a lot of money is put out for the food, entertainment and venue and everything involved. Unless it's a true emergency or death, you show up. It's beyond rude. It's a shitty thing to do.

People tend to skip pre-divorce ceremonies these days.

This is a terribly sad story on its face; however, my gut is refusing to allow me much sympathy for these people. Though she claims to have deep, sincere love for the 40 (!) co-workers who didn't show, I suspect they were meant to be background players in their little extravaganza. If anyone bothered to interview them, we might learn about a very strict dress code for attendees, or perhaps see a copy of the flier Gray handed out at work with marching orders for participation in the sparkler send-off.

[quote] did you ask your classmates why they didn't show up?

I honestly don't remember, but probably not because I didn't want anyone to know I was the only person who was there. If Jimmy asked people on Monday morning, I don't know. If it had been me who had been stood up, I'm not sure I would have let it be known that no one else had come to my party. As I said, I wasn't super friendly with him, so I don't know who his good friends were, or if he had any. All I remember is that he was not a kid who was picked on or shunned. I don't even think we really had any of those in our class. The worst we had was some kid who had some sort of palsy-like affliction and walked very funny and had a super high voice, like a falsetto. But we mostly steered clear of him because his hygiene was horrendous. He smelled and had green teeth.

....or if it's in the middle of nowhere and you have no way of getting there and ask for assistance arranging a carpool only to be refused.

Well that's sad. Her wedding day too. Why didn't people use their manners and notify her that they couldn't be there? Do people understand manners or etiquette anymore?

Who the fuck gets married at 18 today??

That's old...^^

What type of career is “creator”? Where does zhe work that they have 80 creator coworkers?

Her creator co-workers are all online, other influencers she meets on Instagram.

[quote] The article said "they lost around $2,500 of the $3,000 that they paid toward the food, a DJ, and gifts for their guests.

How did she lose so much money? Was it because she canceled the food and cake and sparkler parade? Why not just still have it all and then take home the leftovers? Then she wouldn’t lost money.

[quote]Her creator co-workers are all online, other influencers she meets on Instagram.

So she doesn’t know any of them, but they were all invited to her wedding…and it’s a mystery why none of them showed up.

R38 That was a sweet story.

It is probably because he was too nondescript that no one went. Sounds like he was a just there type.

[quote] Who the fuck gets married at 18 today??

They/Them Non-Binary POSERS who try to act like they're cool, and "totally different" from everyone else, but in the end, they're really just a straight couple married at 18, who will eventually have 2.5 kids and live in the suburbs.

They/Them is the new face tattoo, if you get my drift.

It's all an act to let other people know how "cool" you are.

Pfft.

It’s zer party, and zhe’ll cry if zhe wants to…

Has the GoFundMe been set up yet?

[quote]I smell something fishy here! 🧐

Oh, give me a break! I JUST got here. There's no WAY you smelled that all the way back at r2.

I definitely would have skipped that two bit bullshit wedding.

But would you have RSVPed YES that you were coming?

It is wrong to RSVP to a wedding and not show up. Unfortunately if she is 18, I suspect most of her guests are on the younger side as well and just have not learned proper social graces yet. Plus, and I do not say this in jest, I doubt many of her friends can drive.

I've seen several stories in the past few years about parents organizing a birthday party for their kid and no one shows up. When I was a kid (I'm 42) I went to every birthday party I was invited to. When I was young I never heard of someone throwing a birthday party and no one showing up. As a young adult I went to a co-worker's wedding, the saddest wedding ever, but I still went. Is not showing up a new phenomenon?

Maybe the guests weren’t okay with wearing pronoun buttons?

I do think tastes have changed people now feel more entitled to skip out on things that don't 100% suit them. There was a sense of "decency" in the past that I don't know is being passed down from generation to generation anymore. It's much more of a me-me-me world. I also remember accepting birthday invitations and showing up and being game to do whatever the birthday person wanted to do - watch a movie, play games, go go-carting, whatever...now, as adults people weigh whether or not the activities suit their temperament before committing, and even then, they still back out.

A few years ago I invited some friends for a birthday. I had generally given up on birthday parties and felt stupid organizing them for myself because inevitably, people would cancel at the last minute or ask a million questions, forcing me to alter things to cater to them and it became more stressful than fun.

But that year, I really felt like I needed to celebrate, so I sent out invites to 10 people for a dinner and dancing evening. I picked an easily accessible restaurant and then figured we'd go 2 streets over and boogie down at this fun dance club I'd always wanted to check out but felt lame going to by myself. The people I invited all attended and the dinner was quite nice, chit chat amongst the couples and people meeting new people or catching up with old friends...but then, sure enough, everyone started to talk about "early mornings" and ducked out quickly before 11, so as to avoid the move to the dance club. In the end, only one couple went with me to the dance club, and probably only out of pity. We spent 2 minutes there, I felt like a moron because they seemed uncomfortable about dancing, so I said "it's okay, I'm tired, let's go" and we all left.

...I haven't been dancing in years. I'd love to have some friends to go with, but people don't seem to want to anymore. Board games, they love, but boogie-ing not so much. It stinks. But hey, at least they came to the dinner right?

Why are all of the tables bare? No placesetting. No flowers. No table cloth. No nothing.

If they were expecting all those people for dinner?

This seems like a scam.

Maybe because the venue looks like a DUMP.

Gray, honey, they just assumed it was another of your gangbangs-for-pay, and they had finally completed their STD treatment courses from the last one.

This is what happens when the couple's friends look like the couple.

Oops! I was invited to the wedding but forgot to go

STOP HAVING CRAZY EXPENSIVE WEDDINGS YOU CAN"T AFFORD!

A friend send me an invite to her wedding. I had a number of things going on so wouldn't be sure if I could go until maybe a month before. I told her this but she still called me daily to ask if I was coming or would be cancelling.

It got nuts. Finally, I said I would love to come but because she was so obsessed with making sure she was paying for the exact number of guests, I would show up for the wedding portion and skip the dinner, if that would help her. When I did go, it turns out a few people didn't so I was able to go to the dinner portion. But the whole thing showed me how unnecessary the stress of a wedding is. PARE IT DOWN. STOP SHOWING OFF. NO ONE CARES!

It sounds like nobody likes the couple

[quote] People attend weddings out of family duty or to save face more than anything. If you don't have a big family behind you, feeling obligated to show up, trying to impose on coworkers to take their place is awkward.

The only weddings I've RSVPd yes and gone to are those of direct family members, and I only showed up begrudgingly to make my mother happy (we're no contact/estranged from my father's crazy family). I am always busy when it comes to other invites.

If I could get away with never attending to weddings, I would no-show them all. I don't really agree with the practise.

[quote] As a young adult I went to a co-worker's wedding, the saddest wedding ever, but I still went.

Ooh, what happened R73?

The key to these things is putting all the money into an open bar rather than food and entertainment and stunts--people will flock for free booze and an excuse to drink, plus sauced people make their own entertainment and get merry with no prompts required.

People still talk about my parents' 1980s wedding and reception to this day, it's the stuff of legend. Because every attendee was absolutely sauced after a couple of hours in, and did not stop drinking for an entire weekend.

I'm not a fan of weddings. I hate attending but I do if it's someone I care about. I've never had a co worker invite me to their wedding. I would find that odd if someone did but I absolutely would RSVP no.

Weddings and Baby Showers suck. I'd rather sit and watch paint dry. But that being said, I ALWAYS RSVP. People today have no manners.

I have a big extended family, so I love when my cousins get married and we all get together. I'm a sucker for daggy music and dancing with my aunts all night long! My favourite part though is probably the post wedding bitchfest with my sister, where we discuss who got fat, who has the hottest boy/girlfriend, who was worst dressed etc.

I'm sorry but she looks BPD.

A few years ago, my partner and I were invited to a wedding in Mykonos. We declined the invitation because we really couldn't afford to fly from Australia and pay to stay for a week. That's one wedding I'm glad I didn't attend. You had to stay in accommodation approved by them, participate in daily festivities leading up to the main event, and join in the post wedding festivities. There was a strict dress code for each event, right down to what colours were allowed so that the photos would be cohesive. And, get this, it wasn't even a gay couple! Two straights. Anyway, we saw the pics all over social media. They were even featured in a magazine. It all looked lovely and I'm sure they had a wonderful time.

One of the most excruciating weddings was one where I barely knew the couple. Those are the worst. Never again

These days, weddings are like tattoos, in that only basic conformists have them, but they think they’re special for having them.

I can only assume she's pregnant, had a shotgun wedding, and the pregnancy hormones are messing with her emotions

[quote] The article said "they lost around $2,500 of the $3,000 that they paid toward the food, a DJ, and gifts for their guests.

Sounds like a pathetic wedding. I wouldn't be caught dead at that

Tbh I had though that small private friends-only weddings/services and rustic barn-dance type weddings were the chic things these days. Like sit-down banquets and big occasions and venues are passé.

Is Nyx hot and fuckable? I feel like we need to know if we’re to assess this situation properly.

I would have RSVPed: "YES! And I'm bringing 14 friends!!!"

And then made other plans.

Yeah, partner and I were invited to a big wedding Nyack, years ago. When we arrived at our hotel, there was a list of things we had to attend, along with various custom-made t-shirts and stupid vests we were supposed to don at certain times. We looked at each other at the same time and just said, 'FUCK THIS SHIT' and showed up at everything wearing our own clothes, not the fucking clown clothes they had ordered us to wear, like extras in a movie. Jesus Christ on a CRACKER!!!!

I'll never understand spending that kind of money on a party

What a bunch of losers