OP didn't provide a link or context, she’s talking about the 1993 Millennium March on Washington for Gay, Lesbian, and Bi Equal Rights and Liberation:
[quote]When you’re at the “Gay March” […] as a newly bona fide, gay activist, and you’re at the podium speaking to a minimum of 1 million flag-waving, rainbow, painted, out-and-proud gay, lesbian, and transgender people and bisexuals it’s [italic]not[/italic] the time to be ignorant. [italic]Or[/italic] stupid. [italic]Or[/italic] ignorant. I was [italic]all[/italic] those things.
[quote]My first message was simple: [italic]“Come out.”[/italic] Then I continued, “Straight people, like I was until very recently, need to know who you are, and not all of you wear it on your sleeve. And as someone who lived the first part of my life as ‘straight,’ I had no idea of the scale of discrimination your face and we have to do something about it!”
[quote](Duh!) [italic]They were doing exactly that![/italic] That’s what the march was all about, Heche!
[quote]My second message was the real problem. I disagreed that being gay was not a choice. After all, I think choice is power. I had chosen to fall in love with a woman, and I hadn’t been with the same sex before.
[quote]It was as if I called out, “Gay can be a choice! Look at me! I chose to be in love with this woman who is essentially the queen of the [italic]you’re born this way message[/italic], and I [italic]wasn’t[/italic] born this way! I just fell in love! Sexuality can be a ‘heart thing’!”
[quote]I basically said that I just recently became gay, and that I had chosen to when I fell in love with Ellen.
[quote](Open mouth – insert foot.)
[quote]I had alienated the entire crowd with one statement. They hated me. I had in one fell, swoop, negated their entire identity, their power numbers, in the community, fuck! [italic]I had negated their colossal, historic protest.[/italic] They were demanding equality, for the selves they were born to be. And the truth is, all I wanted to do was applied each and everyone of them.
[quote]I had a lot to learn about communicating and expressing this love. I was dedicating my life to figuring out how best to approach the world with love. But it wasn’t there, yet, and, with the best intentions in the world, I talked over the truth of many people there.
[quote]What I wanted to do is join the crowd. Help the fight to love without judgment and further at celebration. And I apologize for any confusion about my intent. But the truth is, I was stating something different. I was proclaiming some thing I had discovered by falling in love with Ellen, Commitment, to living in love, the seeds of which I’ve been planted so many years before on a street….
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