At what age did you stop having sex

I'm right there with you, OP.

Ditto ditto

Nah. I'm 60 and had a hot guy suck me off just this afternoon. It was great!

There's age-appropriate sex at any age.

Well, any legal age, I mean.

What, exactly, is "age-appropriate sex," R4? Are you saying that at a certain age there are things you're not supposed to do anymore? Surely that's just between you and your partner??

And that's great for you, r3, keep it up as long as you can. My libido is dead and I'm fine with it. I squeezed every last drop from it.

Had plenty of sex when I was young. Now, at 62, am done. It's like skiing -- too much work for just a few bits of excitement.

R7: I agree. It's overrated.

Fifty. Lost my sex drive after menopause, and I'm so grateful to have no drama in my life -- you have no idea.

But then again, I'm a lesbian.

I was inspired by Bricktop. She indulged to her heart’s content when young and then became very religious.

I'm so glad I didn't hear it, until I did it *all*...repent!

R3 again: I'll keep at it as long as I can. I know I'm not as desirable as I was in my youth, and I will likely be less desirable every year. But so what? If someone wants you, and you want them, go for it! When I get to the point where I can't get it up, then I'll just go down more. Who know? I might even try becoming a bottom. Like the song says, there's a lot I'll have missed but I'll not have been dead when I die. And a person should celebrate everything passing by!

R9, a lot of women’s sex drive goes up during the M . Anyway, orgasms are key to longevity and happiness

I’m 67, still have sex twice a month or so. It used to happen 4-5 times a week. I’m glad I’m not driven by it in the same way.

I'm almost 43. Totally over it. No one wants a middle aged bottom. Even though I'm still in good shape.

Give me a nice make-out session and a warm body to sleep next to. He can go fuck someone younger and hotter during the day.

I haven't stopped.

Stop having sex or stopped enjoying it with selfish fuckers who don’t get me off?

R15, I'll be happy to fuck you.

Nature "endowed" me with ED at about the same time my libido got weaker. I've sampled Cialis and Viagra; don't like the flushed feeling both create, and, again, my head isn't into it.

I have about six reliable sites I can visit whenever I need a wank. Quick, simple, I don't need to worry about producing a diamond cutter dick, and when I'm done, just throw the hand towel in the hamper and get on with my day/evening.

I'm 59 (but look 58 1/2, I swear)

You guys are nuts! I mean that affectionately. Where do you live? I'm in NYC. I'm 62 and have to bat them away with a stick and I'm no prize. Stay with it. You'll be pleasantly surprised. It's mostly younger guys in their 20's to 40's but I'd be happy to meet guys my own age too but it seems from this thread they've all given up. Get yourselves out there! It's never too late.

Yes 👏☝🏼😊

R20 is right. I get more hits from guys in their 20s than anyone even remotely near my age. Lots of unresolved daddy issues, clearly. But I won't complain!

You don't understand, r20. Some of us were in sexual overdrive for too long. It's now a relief to not have that monkey on my back.

[quote]Use it up

[quote]Wear it out

[quote]Make it do

[quote]Or do without

R13: "...a lot of women’s sex drive goes up during the M."

What's your point? Are you a "lot of women"? Are you a gynecologist? Have you done an empirical study? Do you not understand what it means to have no sex drive?

JFC -- why I even bother to post here, I have no idea. Everybody here knows everything about everything already.

R15. Just curious. Where do you live that you are no longer fuckable @ 43 y/o and supposedly are in good shape?

I was 80 this year and still going strong. Been a horndog my whole life. I'm married to my boy toy who is 70.

We still go at it 5 to 6 times a month.

69 here- in very good shape, still get compliments on my looks, but with no illusions. I still have sex, mostly with younger guys 30s to early 50s. it’s fun for gods sake! Would like to find someone close to my age but they’re all out of shape and no chance it seems. Of course GIV did in many of my contemporaries. I’ve had two long term relationships that both ended for good reasons and lots of affairs etc., I’m healthy, very active (tennis, skiing, gym), plenty of money, lots of friends and at the wind down stages of a very rewarding career. From time to time I get the old I want a boyfriend blues that lasts about a minute until I realize how lucky I am, what a great life I’ve had. I expect my life to get smaller with old age, but I will always reach out and make friends for as long as I’m able. It’s the only way along with a good sense of humor. The rest I will let happen and hope I can take it.

R26- You KEEP going gurl!

I mean it.

[quote] JFC -- why I even bother to post here, I have no idea

We wanted to ask you that too.

[quote] What, exactly, is "age-appropriate sex," [R4]? Are you saying that at a certain age there are things you're not supposed to do anymore? Surely that's just between you and your partner??

R5, not R4, but I think this is ruling out pedophilia.

I’m 59 and had a great sex life until the pandemic. I haven’t had sex since then—it’s been nearly 3 years. and oddly, I’m fine.

R31- What’s holding you back now?

[quote]At what age did you stop having sex

Well, I took a break at 14. Does that count?

I'm in my 50s and libido has taken a nosedive in the last few years. My testosterone is hovering around 200 so it's low but my PSA levels are elevated. So it's a risk of prostate cancer to start taking extra T. But honestly, I'm not really missing sex all that much.

I've had my slutty days and I'm happy doing other stuff now such as gardening. I can't wait for the spring to start hoeing and planting seed.

R34- We’re not even a week into winter- you have a LONG wait until spring.

Damn ! Don't throw in the towel because you hit 60 . The urgency wanes but the needs are still there

There is a gay guy at my gym he's 68 and unbelievably hot and I wish he'd notice me....never too late

63 and in pretty good shape. I can hunt for sex and get out but I can't be bothered.

r31: 63 here. The Pandemic made me realize I could go a year without sex. The last time I went without it that long I was prepubescent. My fuckbuddies all flipped and shut down. I survived just fine.

Last year I went to Palm Springs for the first time and it felt like I had more sex than I had since I was 30. And it was WONDERFUL.

Back home, Got some dick in September, but it's too much trouble since then. There are several sex parties a week in my city and think "I'm definitely going this week!" but when the day comes I can't be bothered.

People really need to say whether they’re male or female before commenting further.

R38, are you on PrEP?

I'm 57 and still want to have an active sex life. I don't look for it to the same degree that I used to when I was younger but every now and then, I'll log in and see who's on. Not ready to throw in the towel just yet.

[quote] I'm almost 43. Totally over it. No one wants a middle aged bottom. Even though I'm still in good shape.

This is one of the craziest things I’ve read on here. Honey, tons of people will happily fuck an in-shape 43 yo bottom. Lemme guess, because you can’t find an 18 yo to fuck you, you’ve given up. Do you use Grindr? Scruff? Sniffies. Guys will fuck anything. Hell, aren’t there gloryholes near you?

Meth ruined sex for me.

r40: Yes.

R41- I'm 57 as well and I still seek out sex. I have not had any action since August but I felt I was seeking it out too often for months. I would like to find someone for a relationship and having anonymous sex all the time isn't the way to do it. But while I'm looking for Mr. Right there's nothing wrong with some occasional Mr. Right now.

R5, you tedious thing.

When you were 75 you weren't fucking upside down on a collapsing pier with the water visible between the boards, were you?

That's what is meant by "age-appropriate," a nicer term than "age-possible."

Or was it so long ago you can't remember being 75?

R45, you put it perfectly. Everything you said goes for me as well.

R42, guys are horndogs but most want to bottom. So its hard to find matches.

if the spirit is willing and the body is able, I don't see age as a factor

^^^ What the fuck are you going on about, R46? I'm not 75. And wtf about collapsing piers?

Are you George Santos by any chance?

R48- I'm a top so I guess that helps.

I’m in my early 60s and for the last 10 years I have been at my sexual peak. I hope to continue for a few years more

The lure isn't strong enough for me to squeeze into my girdle again.

[quote] Anyway, orgasms are key to longevity and happiness

Are you a devotee of Sigmund Freud?

I slowed down to practically nothing by the time I was thirty-eight.

I'd had plenty... and I'd had enough!

35.

There's no point trying for a sexual relationship if you can't get erect or have an orgasm.

At 62, I get just as much satisfaction hiring a bodybuilder to pose naked in front of me. Some of them are very willing to get hard and jack themselves off.

Fair enough, R58.

I know one eldergay who was a male model back in the years 1959-1961. He was paid to pose for an international celebrity back then providing there was no touching.

This is all so depressing.

Stop? Of course not. A lady has needs and gentleman callers still line-up to see me regularly.

Never!

Never.

This is one of the benefits of being in an LTR and keeping fit.

My partner and I stopped having sex when we were in our late 60s. It change our relationship, mainly for the better.

[Quote] [R31]- What’s holding you back now?

First it was Covid and then Mpox. I’m finally ready to start up again. I got my Covid and Mpox vaccines. I started PrEP again. Expect to fire up Scruff this weekend.

R38, tell us about your Palm Springs sex. Did you find guys on apps? Were you at a gay resort?

[Quote] know one eldergay who was a male model back in the years 1959-1961. He was paid to pose for an international celebrity back then providing there was no touching.

identify the 'international celebrity' or this didn't happen

r66: Sex was a sideways benefit, r66. I had made plans to stay with a friend in Palm Springs a year or so before the ;pandemic, and when Covid hit I had to put everything on hold. Had already bought my ticket but the airline made out good several years as nobody knew when the pandemic would end, or at least ease up with vaccinations. I joined a Facebook Palm Springs Dads and Bears Group to introduce myself and became friends with several guys there. About a year later when I finally visited I met the most welcoming group of guys - I was invited to lunches and dinners and many pool parties. All the sex I had were with guys I had chatted with many months before - and because of that the sex was phenomenal. Over a year later I am still FB friends with them all - two have stayed with me when they visited my city. Can't wait to go back.

107

[quote]This is all so depressing.

It really isn't, r60.

R68, what a great experience! Good idea to befriend guys prior to going there via Facebook.

I don’t remember when I finally had enough but I’m definitely done. At no point was it ever what it’s hyped to be, but then I fucked people I didn’t know. Although the two I did know were no better, really. It’s just not my sport.

R42 actually the exact opposite. I like older men. 50-60 works for me. No, I don't use Grindr or gloryholes. That's never been my thing.

I was very fortunate for most of my life: I was "movie star" attractive (in the real world, not DL world) and could attract the hottest guys without even trying. My three LTR were with very masculine, alpha type men. I got very used to being with guys like that. And now? That's the only type of men that do it for me. Wish that wasn't the case, but it is. Lord knows I've tried to change my type.

Those types of men, in my experience, quit finding me attractive once I turned 40 or so. And why wouldn't they? They can get whoever they want and they want 25-35. They can go get younger, fitter, versions of me. Which makes sense. Can't get mad at that.

I have a good friend who is an alpha type. He was sexually obsessed with me - by his own admission - for almost 20 years. Then I turned 40 - again, by his admission - his attraction evaporated. Over night. We joke about it all the time.

I'm a born realist. I can continue to try and get men who no longer find me attractive or I can get with men who I don't find attractive or I can move on from sex.

I choose to move on.

As others have said, I had a TON of fun. Don't regret the great sex I had in my relationships and on my own. And if it happens again? Cool. But I'm fine focusing on other parts of my life.

R25, Los Angeles

R68, any crazy Palm Spring orgies?

My daddy fuck bud went to Palm Springs and did nothing but fuck for a week. He’s a hot top and a complete sex pig. He loved all the attention.

I'm 60 with plenty of energy and everything still works well naturally. I'd love to hook up once in a while, I just don't have the "game" in me anymore.

My Grandpa had his last kid when he was 72.

I love older men so have a few fuck buds going strong in their 50’s and early 60’s. A few have amazing bodies and stamina. The sex is spectacular. I hope they don’t stop any time soon

Nice, R77. How old are you?

I'm 57 and have never gotten enough so I hope it's not over for me. I have to get to work on a beach bod, though—fortunately I'm not anywhere near fat.

R78, I’m 32

I'll be 60 next year. I plan to go on fucking until the end. I'm a top.

I'm 52 and my sex drive dropped significantly in the last year. I think my same-age husband and I last had sex this past May.

And you know what? I'm actually ok with it. I spent SO MUCH of my time in my 20-30s looking for sex. I couldn't even get out of bed until I jerked off. So it's actually kind of freeing to not be controlled my by it anymore.

[quote] guys are horndogs but most want to bottom. So its hard to find matches.

Really? I find nothing but tops or vers in Philly.

Hmm… checking train schedules to Philly as we speak

Apparently tops in the South constantly complain because everyone’s a top

I’m in my early 50’s and slowing down. I no longer do the crazy orgies and such. I have sex every weekend but mainly stay within my FB circle.

Fuck fuck fun fun

I met a new guy today who is only 30! The chemistry was wicked hot. We met on scruff, he's a keeper. He woofed me out of nowhere and it turned out we work near each other. one thing lead to another.....totally unexpected. I was expecting a long boring day.

Stop having sex? Not in my foreseeable future.

I'm 59 years old and have been together with my husband (51) for over 12 years. During the pandemic, I went to live and care for my mother, who lived a couple of hours away from our home, so I didn't see my husband very often. That's when we decided to open our relationship. We'd only had threesomes up to that point. So I didn't do much sex stuff while caring for my mom. But post-pandemic, it's been fantastic; we're still into threesomes, but I'm having 1-on-1s, too. And the caliber of guys has been quite impressive, both young and old.

I often ask these young guys why they are hitting on me? I tell them, I'm old enough to be their father, and to one 20-year-old, I said a young grandfather. But they all say the same thing: "I'm into older guys," "age is just a number," and so on. Plus, I'm in ok shape, I've aged well, full head of hair (good genes, thx mom,) and the coup de grace - I have a big meaty dick. Truth be told, it has always gotten me laid (I'm a grow-er and a show-er.)

But lately, I've been feeling like my dick pics are a bit of false advertising because I've turned into a big old bottom. I went from a total top in my teens to my 20s, top/verse in my 30s-40s, and full-on bottom when I hit my 50s. So they see my big dick pic in my profile, but the description says bottom, it seems a bit "bait and switch-ish," but I always make sure they're clear, but they don't care. I'm still getting dick, like every weekend - dick. It also helps that we live in one of my city's gayest neighborhoods. And we eventually plan on retiring to Palm Springs, so well, you know...nope on quitting sex.

Good for you R89!

88 and still into cocks

[quote] But post-pandemic, it's been fantastic; we're still into threesomes, but I'm having 1-on-1s, too.

How novel.

44. I had gotten fat after quitting smoking, and decided when I got AOL to try escorts. Well, the odds were the same as meeting guys the old fashioned way: one out of five was someone I'd like to see again. He was gorgeous. Looked like James Franco (whom we were still a few years from encountering in Freaks & Geeks), loved kissing me, made love to my entire body, and had an absolutely magnificent cock (8", cut, perfect upward curve). We talked for hours after the time I'd paid for.

I was sure I'd fall in love with him, or at least become completely obsessed. And I was equally certain I didn't want to be obsessed with someone I had to pay to have sex with me, so I never got in touch with him again.

And for whatever reason, I haven't had sex since.

R93- How many years ago was this?

I have no idea what "age appropriate" sex means. I never fucked anyone on a pier, but as I get older (mid 50s) certain things appeal to me less. Bottoming, for example. This is likely a personal preference but at my age I just can't be bothered with the prep and the gymnastics. So topping and oral it is. I hope sex never ends completely, but everything becomes more difficult with age.

86.

58. My husband passed on Nov 1, so my romantic life is over. at my age, the check engine light is on and I'm not going through another experience like that. I also can't be sexual with someone unless I'm in love with them - I guess I'm just a hopeless romantic.

Sorry for your loss, R97.

6 years old

Also sorry, R97.

I don't know what I'd do if my bf died. I'd hate to think my sex life was over.

R99 😂😂😂😂

I hope none of you have to find out what it is like to lose your husband. It's extremely brutal. I just want to die.

Sending you love R102 ☹️❤️ so sorry for your loss.

[quote]At what age did you stop having sex

At 107.

Hugs, R102. Sorry for your loss.

I'm sorry, r102. I hope you can find happiness again.

pandemic killed it. I was 58 and had fuck buddies, some of them dating back over 15 years! Also went to cruisy beaches and what not. I tried picking it up the first summer - summer of 2020 - after the first crisis was over but I wasn't feeling horny, really. Then in summer 2021 again not in the mood. Then in summer 2022 there was monkeypox and no vaccine in my country. I was jerking off in 2020 but stopped for some reason. Now in 2023 I'm starting to jerk off again because I think I need the chemicals and its good to drain the pipes. Maybe I'll start fucking again. I dunno. I'm distracted by other things. I was the Whore of Babylon and said I would stop at 50 but didn't. So the pandemic finally put an end to my slut years.

A few months ago a 28 year old (he said he was 28; he looked more like 22) who worked in the sandwich shop where I was getting a sandwich asked me to be his lover. I'm 60. I declined his offer. I had people tell me "You should go for it!" but id didn't WANT to go for it. So I guess I"m over having sex.

Am 67 but look a lovely 27. Can go for another 20 years having gentleman callers partaking of my ladybugs hut. Hope my mango muffin lasts just as long.

R97- I'm sorry for your loss. How many years had you been together?

R108-Maybe you'd prefer someone over 40 or someone much closer to your age.

When I started cumming blood clots.

Funny, guys are oddly repulsed by this.

R112- That could be from masturbating too much.

R102, please go elsewhere. You can't help but come across as someone who needs therapy, not the DL.

Or you're trolling.

R114, nice one

R97 we were together for 18 years, married for 14

wow R114 you really have a black soul. you must be so proud of yourself. I am in therapy, and I pay to be on here - so go fuck yourself you miserable cunt

R117 don’t even engage it.

Sending you love. I hope you had a better day today.

R114 is fucking evil.

I’m 69 and I haven’t stopped.

So sorry R97. My guy died at the end of August. 31 years together, the last 11 married. Wish I could tell you it gets better but five months later I still want to die. Be good to yourself. Take a shower, if you can. Don't forget to eat.

Hey guys, I’m 67, 6’3” and still have a strong muscular body. I. work out 3X a week, People tell me I could past for late 40’s 😎but I’m 67. I have a wonderful husband of 12 years. I know I’m not everyone’s cup of tea but I still get hit on by guys in their twenties to seventies. I believe it’s as much about your attitude and energy as it is about your age.. I have sex about once a week, (my husband once a month) and old and new fuck buddies the other times, Stop thinking of yourself as old and ugly and embrace life! I’m grateful for life and glad I can still get men to strip naked for me soI can have my way with them😈

I have three fuck buddied in their 60’s. All have amazing bodies and are the best fucks I’ve ever experienced. I love daddies (I’m 32).

The famous Troy Bathhouse guy with the massive cock is likely in his late 60’s. He’s a champ of a fucker

R124- Your comment belongs on the bathhouse thread

Great post, R122.

Can’t imagine stop having sex. So many men would be disappointed if I did.

Stop having or stop enjoying? I stopped enjoying it ages ago. Most of the my friends in relationships hardly have sex. We’re in our 40s.