My boyfriend HATES my straight guy friends. I need advice?

Tell your bottom that he needs therapy.

OP your dude sounds needy as fuck and if that's what you want then stick with it, if you really love him I guess.

Something tells me this will end in tears, drama, broken blinds, broken glass, physical assault, and you in handcuffs.

Dump your boyfriend. He's broken. Can't be fixed. Immature brat.

These friends will be around a lot longer than this boyfriend. Have a lot of sex with him and get it out of your system. His love for you is conditional.

I just saw this the other day on Instagram. It should suit you well here. Anyone who asks you to give up something you love just to show how much you love them doesn't love you, they love themselves. Untangle that knot and you'll get the meaning.

It sounds like you have more than one of the these straight friends. And he is treating them as if they are all one entity. If he really wants you to give them up, I would at least have him go down the line and tell you specifically what he doesn't like. And I think it's fair that if his reasons are valid and true to his character, you should consider it. But most likely he doesn't have a reason.

Or else he knows that you are actually probably in love with one of them, but have never admitted it to yourself. But you keep them around. A mate can tell when someone is really into a person, even if they have never acted on it.

Or he is jealous because he knows you want to blow every last one of them, and he won't get a chance to.

He will drain your soul and energy. Needs, envious people like him will always peck away at others. You have to decide - is this "on again off again" boyfriend worth giving up what makes you you? I doubt it. It seems like you'll regret staying with him. The right person blends into your life without trying to reshape it.

Yikes. You need to move on from this boyfriends, OP. Seriously.

Tell him they're your friends and he needs to deal with it. Set boundaries now and be firm. He'll either adapt or not. If he does, great. If he doesn't, end the relationship.

Punch and delete.

Oh yeah and I must ask because people like you don't always tell the whole story. Are you fkin one of your straight bros, OP?

[quote] his friend group consists of other gay men and straight women.

Dump him. like, now. no hope there

my partner is insane is this bad?

OP is a queenie, lisping, 300 pound, bald fruit whom has never known any straight men in her entire fag*oty life.

I have a bunch of straight friends too. It's funny how all of my straight good friends ended up being dudes I would totally bang if given the chance. No uglies in the bunch. I think gay men rarely have straight friends that they don't find attractive in some way and hope that on some given drunken night you might tug one out together. Even if it just remains a fantasy that friend works because they fuel that fantasy.

"my boyfriend asks me to kill myself; or I don't love him, what should I do ?"

All you brain dead Golden Girls watching fairies making up stories. Straight men don't associate with your type EVER. Fail.

My guy friends are straight R10 they either have girlfriends or are actively dating women.

OP, are yo Colton Underwood ?

more like, OP, are you Colton Underwood ?

You two aren’t compatible.

[quote] OP is a queenie, lisping, 300 pound, bald fruit whom has never known any straight men in her entire fag*oty life.

we all knew this, but let's see how far he's going with this

Is this very hateful poster one son of a gun or multiple trolls. Yall know I don't use trolldar ever.

OP is also the nephew troll. And niece troll. Her stories are dreadfully bad. A dude who is brain dead in a coma could conceive of better stories.

R23, oh is he. Nuff said then. I'm outta here.

Ah, didn't know we were dealing with a troll here. This is boring now. Later.

Too many straight friends is a red flag for me.

Fuck you R23 I'm no girl or no troll. I've been here a long time

OP, I have a similar relationship with my straight guy friends I grew up with that goes back to elementary school. Most were all very supportive when I came out after college. Not all, some couldn't handle it. I socialized with them usually around the holidays when we'd all be in town, and then in our late 20s they all started to get married and we'd see each other at weddings. I never brought a date but was always offered a +1. My friends know I am gay but don't really know that part of me. I'm not "hiding" anything, we just all sort of revert to our old selves when we get together.

Some have met my boyfriend and he is pleasant enough to them but has nothing in common except me. He and I, like most couples, found our own friends together rather than force each others core groups to be friends. I think that's what you should do, but probably not with this guy, who sounds like a control freak. I do agree you should ask him to tell you why specifically he doesn't like each of your friends.

[quote] I was a popular jock in high school and college before coming out to my loved ones. I lost some friends but most have been amazingly supportive, especially my straight guy jock friends who've been there for me more than my family members at times, just as a friendly ear.

And yet somehow you found your way to Datalounge. One of the shadiest and guuuuuuuurliest places online.

R25 couldn't you tell ??

[quote] I was a popular jock in high school and college before coming out to my loved ones. I lost some friends but most have been amazingly supportive, especially my straight guy jock friends

OP, what sport did you play in college and whered you go?

Datalouge is one of the few gay spaces online that I know of R29. I don't have a girly personality AT ALL. R31 I was on the basketball team. I also ran track in middle school.

R32, what school? And what position did you play?

R30 suck my dick

Ask some of your friends to fuck him in his mouth cunt or his hungry bussy...

wow OP R34, so masculine, so assertive

^ I have to admit that usually works in pornos

I'm not gonna tell you my high school R33 it's not your business nor is it relevant to my OP. You don't have to believe my story that's your right, you don't have to keep coming back either. Adios!

OP HAS STATED HER BOUNDARIES!

I asked where you went to college as you said you were a popular athlete. You don't have to say the years attended. Me thinks you are lying. I said I was done here, but thought I'd give you the benefit of the doubt.

0/10

you guys are so mean and stupid. OP is just a handsome, hot, regular sporty jock who has tons of jock friends, and also HAPPENS to be a gay. NObody holds that against him. Anyone less than his straight, loyal, jock friends. It's all about your personality, you see , if you're masc, easygoing, firendly (and dare I say, handsome ) nobody discriminates JUST BECAUSE YOU HAPPEN TO BE ALSO GAY. get a life, mean old queens !

R42 Says the illiterate fucking goof who writes at a grade one level. Fuck off.

r40, OP said he was a jock in high school, not college. Why is it hard to believe that? I was also a jock in high school and continue to be athletic today. A lot of gay men are but it seems you don't leave your house enough to know that.

[quote]Datalouge is one of the few gay spaces online that I know of

r/gaybros isn't doing it for ya?

R44, reread the OPs post you stupid fkin cunt. Reading is fundamental.

R40 Peace out bro and by the way I never claimed to be this ultra masculine gay all I said was I played sports Jesus! You guys sound like him. What's so threatening about straight guys ? Are you guys such Marys that you can't relate? I don't think I'm better than other gays sheesh!

yeah, Datalounge is full of jocks. Gay men, and esp dataloungers are known to be passionate athletes. It takes stamina to run down the stairs to turn in GOLDEN GIRLS twice a day

Eh, all my friends are straight males too. I'm NOT hyper-masculine or jock like (in fact, often mistaken for female when younger and I had longer hair). It happens, it's just that there's more straight people in the world than gay people. I would not give them up for a partner.

No I KNOW you are trolling. Bye you dumb loser.

[quote] I was also a jock in high school and continue to be athletic today

I caught that ball ONCE, and you were in the girls team, calm down, raisinbreads

^Fuck off you fat cunt

Dump the boyfriend. Period.

R52 was for R50. Fatass bitch. Stop coming in here if you don't believe me. There's no point in coming back repeatedly to call me a troll. FUCK OFF! I have nothing to prove on an anonymous website! Lol

Are you crying ?

Those pearls and sissiness didn't take long to come out. Too funny.

Ok really deuces this time.

R48 Nothing excites a DL puff's puny cocklet more than a Golden Girls marathon. If they could actually get an erection it'd be stiffer than steel.

^No I'm fucking your father in the ass.

^ For R55

OP, your boyfriend sounds like trouble. An emotionally mature partner would accept that he just doesn’t “click” with your straight buddies and won’t interfere when you are socializing with old friends. The prognosis for your relationship is not looking good. Don’t entangle yourself with him through marriage or shared property, etc.

R57 Thank you for being a friend! I meant lol R56 Don't leave babe. WE love making fun of obvious trolls.

I have a feeling the boyfriend is the sane one in the relationship.

[quote] My boyfriend HATES my IMAGINARY straight guy friends. I need advice?

more like it

[quote] ^No I'm fucking your father in the ass.

I guess you have a shovel

You've been with this guy for about 2 years.

He's manipulative and controlling, as well as insecure and needy.

The fact that they're straight is irrelevant. "Love tests" - if you loved me, you'd do xyz - are ALWAYS a huge red flag. Trying to isolate you from your friends and support network is a huge red flag.

He "can't stand" straight people - lol - more likely "I feel insecure and inferior to straight people." Boyfriend is a mess.

RUN.

OP 's watched too much SCHITT'S CREEK

I don't know why so many of you are giving OP the third degree. Dataloungers love straight guys and are repulsed by their own kind.

R67 It was a horribly written EST. Fuck off.

I suppose your husband feels self conscious and jealous. Jocks are the top of the food chain, even after high school. Some gay men are intimidated and jealous by that.

I also have mainly straight male friends, although they are not jocks.

R69 Sure, Jan. You're a 0 who thinks she's a 10.

R70=intimidated and jealous gay

Bump

You would have to bump the lamest EST EVER.

I have straight male friends on and off for most of my life. Some thought my being gay was no big deal, some I learned were friends because they thought they were earning some points in being liberal. I could suffer them for the most part because being liberal is a positive. There were a few guys who thought there was some sexual tension between us and they got off in it. I did too.

But were you a cum dump?

[quote]r14 It's funny how all of my straight good friends ended up being dudes I would totally bang if given the chance.

Yes, that is funny. Curious, even.

I’m Team Homo. Who needs breeders.

[quote]Yes, that is funny. Curious, even.

r76 It means that gay guys usually have crushes on the straight friends they have in their lives. It's not just purely platonic even if it's not ever acted upon. It's the same as the widely accepted fact that straight men rarely have female friends they don't want to bang. You can enjoy their company, have a great time, hang out, do things that friends do. But given the chance, you would fool around with them.

So OPs BF probably knows this and senses he has crushes on these guys he calls " all his straight buddies."

[quote]Quick back story about me. I was a popular jock in high school and college before coming out to my loved ones.

How is this relevant to anything?

Depends on how great the sex is with the bf. In your shoes I'd hang with the straight friends on my own and hang with the bf separately.

Why is this so difficult to figure out? Don't mix them and don't give up the bf. Fuck his brains out until you get tired of him.

Oh honey, no one believes you have straight friends let alone a boyfriend.

OP, he’s trying to isolate you.

R16 But they do! They all would have made Bros a hit but the studio didn’t put marketing dollars behind it!

Because it is germane to his “gay Penthouse Forum” meets “Dear Abby” post.

Do your friends like this guy? I'm guessing they don't. Boyfriend is picking up that vibe. He sounds toxic.

Any masculine jock should have enough self-awareness and respect for himself to know this whiny queen bottom you've been dating needs to be kicked to the curb immediately.

There was a lockdown and pandemic, so your lapse in rational thinking can be forgiven.

My advice is to dump the dumb, needy queen, grab a couple of cases of beer and have your jock buddies over to tell them DING DONG THE WITCH IS DEAD and hopefully you all end up banging the shit out of each other.

UGH! There's nothing worse than a sloppy, needy, demanding queen bottom.

There is something worse, dumb cunt. Golden Girls watching fairies who respond to lame ESTs.

R70 All I said was that I happen to have a lot of straight make friends. Why is that unbelievable.

Some of you old, bitter Queens need to get over the trauma of getting made fun of in high school by straight guys. Its kinda pathetic.

Like DL doesn't thrive on lame ESTs . Go to bed, Ma.

[quote] Some of you old, bitter Queens need to get over the trauma of getting made fun of in high school by straight guys. Its kinda pathetic.

Yes, it's much healthier to indulge in fantasies and delusions until you lose all touch with reality. Blow out your candles, Laura.

Listen you whiny bitch OP, many of us have straight friends (usually from work or neighbors), but your post gives you away and you sound ridiculous.

I’m with R1.

[quote] It takes stamina to run down the stairs to turn in GOLDEN GIRLS twice a day

Twice a day? Gay poseur.

Humblebrag

R93 - Humbledelusion

Taking it on faith that this isn't EST, because I used to be (before a shit ton of therapy) the needy, insecure partner who gave my boyfriends ultimatums about changing their lives...

Suggest therapy. If that doesn't work, what R4 said...

Not worth it.

[quote] I was a popular jock in high school

sure Jan

This is such an EST but it gave me a good laugh. Props OP.

R95 is OP. Fuck off.

R98- I assure you, I am not. I was simply bored and momentarily forgot that responding to posts on DL is a good way to attract baseless accusations from complete strangers.

I'm OP!

No, I'm OP!

I'm OP!

We used to get more threads like this before.

Like when the internet was new.

I think the OP is the Arrested Development Troll. Which would be kind of fun if it was about the TV show. But it's actually about the fact that the OP thinks it's still the 1990s for some reason.