No Sex before Six

My concept is no sex below 6 l.

And all this time I thought it meant I couldn't have sex during the day?

Damn.

6”***

Before 6pm?

No one taught you this.

Why is everyone on here, such a bitch

OP I feel that concept is shit, if sweet.

I had sex on my first or second “date” with everyone I’ve been with. 2x guys for approx 3 years each, and my husband, been together 8 years married for 6.

That sounds reasonable, but I think they're more fun when they're at least 9 or 10.

What is it with men, why does their libido rule them?

R8 oy vey

OP no gay man taught you that. You fail. Again,

Men (straight and gay) are dogs, R9.

"Why is everyone on here, such a bitch"

Because of unnecessary commas and a lack of question marks.

R12 woof

When did any gay man say this? It sounds like something a straight woman would say

R12 women (straight and gay) are annoying asexual cats

R6 are you lost?

[QUOTE] When did any gay man say this? It sounds like something a straight woman would say

It was a middle-aged gay man, not a women, and yes he was a little bit on the heavy side (weight - wise), but sweet.

If you don't have sex with someone by the second date, you are never going to have sex with them. You either forget about them or they become just a friend.

Agree with r19, but I’d say third date.

Then again when I’m attracted to someone I usually jump them right away.

Seems perfectly sensible to me. In fact I don’t mind waiting up to 16.

When I was younger I dated an older man (in his 40s) who had a similar rule. I thought he just wasn't interested in me, but once we reached the magic number of dates he instantly got naked. Then and now I thinks it is idiotic to have rules about stuff like this. If the chemistry is there and the interest mutual, why not?You have to be really immature to not be able to build a relationship because you've already had sex with someone.

Now that I am old and grey I look back and see the best advice I ever got was to take people as they come -without expectations -and see what happens. If all you had was a sexual encounter, so be it. If he became a friend, that was great. If you expect every guy you meet to be The One, you're in for a lot of disappointment.

Yes, r20. If I wait until the third date, I either know you enough that I'm no longer interested, or I like you too much to treat you like a dirty little whore.

R6 I think it's because people use commas so inappropriately.

I was schooled by elderly lesbians, which means sex on the first date, moving in together on the second, and sharing custody of a child as friendly exes by the sixth.

No one gay or straight is waiting for the 6th date---3rd at the absolute latest

1) No one ever said this.

2) If you guys haven't hooked up within the first few dates it means that you aren't really sexually attracted to each other. If there was heat there it would be happening.

It really bothers what big whores people are on here.

R28 Your writing is a bigger problem.

[QUOTE] When I was younger I dated an older man (in his 40s) who had a similar rule. I thought he just wasn't interested in me, but once we reached the magic number of dates he instantly got naked. Then and now I thinks it is idiotic to have rules about stuff like this. If the chemistry is there and the interest mutual, why not?You have to be really immature to not be able to build a relationship because you've already had sex with someone.

The problem we see with it is a smothering sense of "too much too soon". How can you take it slow when you've already slept together within an hour of meeting for the first time.

And more important than sex is the communication between lovers, before and afterwards.

Six dates is nothing, I've also heard some women make a men they're dating wait 3 months.

[QUOTE] I've also heard some women make a men they're dating wait 3 months.

And no man who's not a complete cad and a bounder would object to this.

^^granted I am a bitchless celibate unfuckable weird girl, so my opinion may not count for much, but a girl nonetheless, and imo female reticence such as it is when it comes to jumping into bed has a lot to do with safety concerns and reputation monitoring as much as anything else. STDs have more ramifications for women, as do accusations of being a whore, then there's risks of pregnancy even with the greatest of precautions. Fucking minefield when you've got working ovaries and uterus, I tell you. So yeah, I don't think prudishness and being a high-maintenance bitch has as much to do with the choice to wait and see as some of you assume.

And once you get a rep as whore it never goes away. Time to transfer colleges (to an other state or across the country, preferably) if that happens.

[quote] "It really bothers what big whores people are on here."

I do love sarcasm!

When I was in college there was a girl that got this rep. She was ok looking but not great. The kind of girl that men will fuck and then throw away.

I was informed by a concerned third party that she was "double teamed" by the football team and that she was "leaking cum".

Her solution to the issue was to lay low for a semester and then to come out as bi.

[quote]f you don't have sex with someone by the second date, you are never going to have sex with them.

That is not true in my experience.

R31 six dates could easily take three months. I’m not waiting a quarter of a year to get laid. Actually back when I was single, I didn’t date until after we’d already had sex. Which is how every gay man I know operates. Fucking is a basic physical need. Dating is desire to make an emotional connection.

R32 That's why he's on Grindr.

If you have to date a guy six times before you know he's the one, then you're a miserable, clueless twat. But if he's not meant for you, and you keep on dating him 6-7 times before you can fuck, you are even more miserable, clueless, and stupid twat.

No one said you have to "keep dating" fool. If there's no chemisty you're allowed to stop seeing each other.

Imagine investing all that time only to find out that he's a bad kisser or a lousy lay.

R42 exactly why it’s not a good plan.

Usually I had sex BEFORE the first date. Then if he was any good in bed, we'd exchange numbers for a future rendezvous, which might include dinner or a drink - or maybe just another bout of sex.

What is this "Dating" of which you speak? Do gay people date?

As several posters have stated…this Jane Austen shit about glacial courtship is bizarre. It took a few minutes of interaction for me to know if I wanted to get sweaty with a guy. It usually took one fucking to know if there was potential for ongoing primal recreation together. One post-coital recovery to know if he was a confident autonomous human. And one interaction socially after that, to know if he was mature enough to repeat the process with. Only then did I begin to want to [italic]know[/italic] him intimately.

I’m attracted to and gravitate toward self actualized humans who don’t look to anyone/everyone around them to [italic]provide[/italic] them with validation or attention, wrapped in a bow. That goes for guys I’ve slept with or platonic friends, woman, whoever. The ppl I’m attracted to find meaningful stratified validation in the fullness of their experiences, as I do.

If we had an Olympic throw down and a guy needed me to coddle him like a puppy, or text/DM at predictable frequency, when we barely knew each other, no need to proceed, it wasn’t a match. I grow tender when it is the natural evolution of the relationship.

Menluving, yes gay men date, some even get married, imagine.

Someone mentioned women that make guy wait for few months, before they have sex. Living in a catholic society, I know the cases of young hetero couples saving themselves for the marriage. I think every guy in such a relationship is closet case.

No one, gay or straight, should be dating someone they are not sexually compatible with.

I thought we had to wait until six guys showed up.

Are you trying to convince us you actually have a 2nd or 3rd date, much less a 6th, because I don't think you do ... like EVER.

Fuck that. I had sex with my husband the night we met. And it certainly wasn't a "date."

This advice would not have served me well.

I would like to try the three date thing but we never get to three dates because so many gay guys lay out all their baggage and talk endlessly about their exes. That's a big turn off when you are looking for a relationship. Or they ghost me or I end it before three dates. I don't think gay guys date for the most part like in the heterosexual world. Maybe there's some logic in doing it first and then seeing if your personalities match. I want to marry every guy I have sex with. That's another problem. I know. Issues.

what is this, the 1890s?

R52 people in the 19th Century were filthy y'know..

I try to adhere to "don't have sex at the house" before three. I don't want strangers to see my house and often I don't want to see their house, but there are plenty of other places to have sex. BTW, I would never have sex in my car but I don't mind his car.

r9 you must not be a guy if you are asking that question.

[QUOTE] I grow tender when it is the natural evolution of the relationship.

Are you tender to the touch?

There is a guy who is giving advice on bottoming on You tube, a very young guy, I believe a zoomer, who is advising bottoms not to give up "bussy" too soon, cause tops won't respect them.

R57 great, Neo-Puritanism. I’ve never not respected a guy who does what he wants with his body. I cohabitated with two guys long term and married a third, who I fucked about as soon as I could get their underwear off and spit in my hand.

For me, part of determining if he’s “the one” is seeing how compatible we are in bed. Why wait 6 dates for that?

Can you imagine waiting 6 dates only to find out he can’t suck cock worth shit?

R60 I know. If I had to wait 6, I’d be plying him with phallic food and challenging him to see how few bites it would take to consume

R61 A bananarama?

Are you kidding, OP? If they don’t put out by the fourth date there won’t be a sixth.

Link, R57?