I don't know how to bond with other men

Gay men- and most women- are unable to relate to males in a non-sexual way. Unless they're ugly.

Fuck first, then be friends after. Works for me 🙂

This is the loser thread that finally allows me to post?

Eat shit, OP! Glad to ne back.

You can go to the gym and find a hot gym bro who also likes netflix and weed.

Or you move to another country and start from scratch.

Or you accept your fate of loneliness and become a youtube celeb.

Join a volunteer group.

Don't say "shoot the shit."

Look online for gay social groups - I found one via Facebook - met lots of cool people.

I appreciate the responses so far accept for the cunt at R3 . I hope you get monkeypox you scallywag whore 🖕🖕

[QUOTE]I appreciate the responses so far accept for the cunt at R3.

Oh, dear.

I'm the same -- no issue talking to guys here or elsewhere anonymously online, but I have zero male friends in real life, gay or straight. I've just always surrounded myself with women for some reason. Wasn't homo-socialised properly, I guess. Boys pretty much rejected me in elementary school as soon as they caught a whiff of "the gay", so that didn't help going forward.

"scallywag"

I love that word, conjures up images of hung bad boys 😛

R6, I want to give you a dutch rub for some reason and that’s not something I’ve done to anyone.

What kind of vibe are you putting out there that would make a harmless do-gooder soul such as myself feel the need to cause you discomfort and bad hair?

^ Is that anything like a purple nerple?

Try Gorilla Glue, it is guaranteed to bond you to anything.

OP in general I thought I was incapable of making friends. I just didn't know the mechanics of it, even though I had a long term partner for many years. I met him young and we were kind of each other's best friend. So as I got older I never really formed the skills necessary to meet new people.

But to be honest, one thing that really worked for me was just going to a restaurant with a bar. I would sit at the bar by myself, have a drink or even eat dinner at the bar. I didn't do it on purpose in the beginning. At first it was out of convenience of wanting to relax before heading home. It helps to have a purpose in an environment that's not a pick up bar and be OK with your own company. I noticed, without even trying, people would strike up a conversation with me. Either people traveling to the city, or people who lived in the area and were out by themselves. If there was no one, the bartender would strike up a conversation when it was slow. I became better at starting conversations myself, breaking the ice. It helps that I am naturally curious about other people and a lot of people in this day and age are craving someone who actually hears what they are saying, sees them. Sometimes an interesting conversation was just that, and practice as well. I slowly started learning what people liked about me, which I had no idea of previously. I discovered a couple of really good friendships this way, including the bar staff or random customers. You have to learn who your people are. It's not about changing yourself so more people like you. It's discovering more what you want from the people in your life and finding people who match that.

Or take up COKE. Find a fentanyl free dealer you can trust. When out at parties sniff constantly like your nose is running and go to the bathroom every 15 minutes. Someone who will eventually become your best friend will find their way in there with you. And it's usually some hot guy with his girlfriend at the party but he's questioning things. You will become his confidant, his plug, his best friend and first male lover.

What are your interests? Friendships depend on low-stakes repeated interaction. Is there a sports team you could join? A language class? A meetup group of some kind?

You are clearly a trans female, and should begin the transition process immediately!