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Spaghetti Etiquette

A friend from New York had dinner at a restaurant in the South. When he finished , the server asked if he was from "Up North. " When he asked how she knew, she said "You use a spoon to twirl the spaghetti."

Do you use a spoon and how do people in Italy eat their spaghetti?

by Anonymousreply 182November 30, 2022 11:31 PM

Canadians also use a spoon to eat spaghetti.

by Anonymousreply 1November 19, 2022 10:21 PM

I throw it in chatty servers’ faces. Viciously.

by Anonymousreply 2November 19, 2022 10:22 PM

A spoon is a necessity.

by Anonymousreply 3November 19, 2022 10:23 PM


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by Anonymousreply 4November 19, 2022 10:24 PM

I twirl it against the side of the dish like they do in Italy... and down south apparently.

by Anonymousreply 5November 19, 2022 10:28 PM

I don't care what the Italians do. I enjoy using a spoon to twirl my spaghetti.

I also wash myself in a lot of places that Italians probably don't.

by Anonymousreply 6November 19, 2022 10:32 PM

I don’t use a spoon.

by Anonymousreply 7November 19, 2022 10:34 PM

Stealth pasta draining thread.

by Anonymousreply 8November 19, 2022 10:34 PM

Spaghetti is the basic bitch of pasta dishes. Deliver me from Chef Boyardee

by Anonymousreply 9November 19, 2022 10:36 PM

like a good italiano I eat it with my hands

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by Anonymousreply 10November 19, 2022 10:37 PM

I learned how to twirl it on a spoon, but didn’t do it for very long. It was like training wheels. Before long, I could say “look ma, no spoon.”

by Anonymousreply 11November 19, 2022 10:38 PM

Spoon? Do you mean fork? How could you eat spaghetti with a spoon?

by Anonymousreply 12November 19, 2022 10:41 PM

Rofl R10.

Fascist savages.

No wonder they elected Meloni.

by Anonymousreply 13November 19, 2022 10:41 PM

I always recreate the scene from "Lady and the Tramp" when eating spaghetti. If I'm eating by myself, i ask a stranger, and they always oblige.

by Anonymousreply 14November 19, 2022 10:45 PM

Spaghetti Etty.

by Anonymousreply 15November 19, 2022 10:48 PM

Texas native and I was taught to use a spoon, though I don’t do that anymore.

by Anonymousreply 16November 19, 2022 10:52 PM

My Grandfather was Italian from northern Italy and ate pasta twice a day every day, always with a spoon. Otherwise it's messy. He was a land-owner gentlemen who still wore a three-piece suit even in summer, in the 90s, when he came to visit us, so I think i's the right way.

by Anonymousreply 17November 19, 2022 10:53 PM

I’ve always eaten with a fork, never a spoon. You can’t pick noodles up with a spoon.

by Anonymousreply 18November 19, 2022 10:58 PM

"how do people in Italy eat their spaghetti?"

With a dull butterknife Rose

by Anonymousreply 19November 19, 2022 10:58 PM

I just make sure to bring a friend who has a handy pair of manicure scissors to cut off any excess spaghetti I manage to cram in my mouth.

by Anonymousreply 20November 19, 2022 10:59 PM

I don't eat peasant chow.

by Anonymousreply 21November 19, 2022 11:01 PM

^^ Made by people whose names end in vowels!

by Anonymousreply 22November 19, 2022 11:02 PM

r20=Lucy Ricardo

by Anonymousreply 23November 19, 2022 11:09 PM

[quote]Spaghetti Etty.


by Anonymousreply 24November 19, 2022 11:09 PM

OP, stick to Spaghetti-Os.

by Anonymousreply 25November 19, 2022 11:09 PM

Never used a spoon, nor do I twirl it. At least not more than one small twirl if I need to make sure it stays on the fork. Usually just take a forkfull of it - not a huge one.

by Anonymousreply 26November 19, 2022 11:18 PM

Just fucking eat it! Who cares…

by Anonymousreply 27November 19, 2022 11:22 PM

Right On, R27.

Drain it, too. Nobody cares!!!

by Anonymousreply 28November 19, 2022 11:24 PM

R27 That waitress cares.

by Anonymousreply 29November 19, 2022 11:26 PM

[1] Canadians can’t even pronounce “pasta.”

by Anonymousreply 30November 19, 2022 11:27 PM

Use the plate to twirl spaghetti on your fork.

by Anonymousreply 31November 19, 2022 11:30 PM

R6 are you the one who eats pizza with a knife and fork ?

by Anonymousreply 32November 19, 2022 11:32 PM

[quote]A spoon is a necessity.

No it isn't. Just twirl it on the plate. Like a grown up.

by Anonymousreply 33November 19, 2022 11:57 PM

I was taught how to twirl it on a fork

by Anonymousreply 34November 20, 2022 12:07 AM

Stealth pasta rinsing thread.

by Anonymousreply 35November 20, 2022 12:22 AM

According to my Italian relatives, only really old people eat spaghetti by twirling them on a spoon. It just went out of fashion.

by Anonymousreply 36November 20, 2022 12:22 AM

In Argentina where we have even more italian descendents than in America, we never use the spoon. I dont know if it's certain parts of Italy do that or all of it but I think its likely the former

by Anonymousreply 37November 20, 2022 12:34 AM

I cut it into small pieces with a knife and fork. Don’t have the time or patience to make eating anything harder than it needs to be for no discernible reason.

by Anonymousreply 38November 20, 2022 12:45 AM

It’s made for a fork, but use a spoon because you’ll want to get every drop!

by Anonymousreply 39November 20, 2022 12:50 AM

Hey R35, see R8.

by Anonymousreply 40November 20, 2022 12:53 AM


by Anonymousreply 41November 20, 2022 12:54 AM

[quote]Canadians also use a spoon to eat spaghetti.

No we don't.

by Anonymousreply 42November 20, 2022 12:55 AM

Me too r5 and I’m Canadian

by Anonymousreply 43November 20, 2022 1:01 AM

Meryl just sucks it up.

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by Anonymousreply 44November 20, 2022 1:04 AM

I prefer farfalla

by Anonymousreply 45November 20, 2022 1:04 AM

[quote] Spoon? Do you mean fork? How could you eat spaghetti with a spoon?

You've got your fork in your right hand, spoon in your left hand. You grab some spaghetti with your fork. You place the tips of the fork tines on the bowl of the spoon, then twirl your spaghetti into a ball.

Then, you shovel that ball of spaghetti into your mouth.

by Anonymousreply 46November 20, 2022 1:05 AM

I only eat spaghetti in the privacy of my own home, for all the above reasons.

by Anonymousreply 47November 20, 2022 1:10 AM

I usually eat my meals reading a book, so before I start I cut the portions into bite size pieces.

by Anonymousreply 48November 20, 2022 1:11 AM

Are there people so incurious they can't picture that the spoon method requires a FUCKING FORK and the spoon?

by Anonymousreply 49November 20, 2022 1:12 AM


by Anonymousreply 50November 20, 2022 1:15 AM

R48 I do the same. I read.

by Anonymousreply 51November 20, 2022 1:16 AM

R40 Rinsing ≠ Draining, dumb fuck.

by Anonymousreply 52November 20, 2022 1:21 AM

You suck up spaghetti like a vacuum cleaner. The DLers who use a spoon remind me of the woman instructing the Japanese girls on how to eat pasta in this clip.

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by Anonymousreply 53November 20, 2022 1:26 AM

My grandmother came to New York from Sicily and she instructed her children (as well as her doting grandchildren) to ALWAYS use a spoon. What kind of heathen would tilt their plate to aid their twirling when their spoon is right there?

My grandmother had refinement and would never have tolerated bad table manners. If I see you twirling your spaghetti without a spoon, I will be judging you.

by Anonymousreply 54November 20, 2022 1:27 AM

I do not see what purpose the spoon serves. You can isolate a few strands of spaghetti on your plate as well as on a spoon (?) Just start from the outside.

Besides which, it generally looks overly greedy to eat with utensils in both hands.


by Anonymousreply 55November 20, 2022 1:34 AM

R54 that's funny because my relatives are from Sicily too, and it turns out we agree. By the way, I don't mind that my relative laughs about me - I like old-fashioned things.

by Anonymousreply 56November 20, 2022 1:34 AM
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by Anonymousreply 57November 20, 2022 1:40 AM

Italians do not use spoons to eat spaghetti.

Restaurants in Italy don't even set the table with spoons unless soup is being served.

In the decades I lived there I never saw anyone eating spaghetti with a spoon.

What you do occasionally see though, which is pretty cool, is men tucking their table napkin into the top of their shirt, bib style, to protect it from sauce.

by Anonymousreply 58November 20, 2022 2:08 AM

I use a fork, and twirl it on the plate.

by Anonymousreply 59November 20, 2022 2:09 AM

R54 you don’t tip your plate. There is no reason whatsoever to use a spoon to get a forkful of spaghetti into your mouth.

by Anonymousreply 60November 20, 2022 2:18 AM

True. You do not tip your plate.

And actually, pasta in Italy is usually served in a pasta plate, a low sided bowl.

by Anonymousreply 61November 20, 2022 2:26 AM

My mother's uncle lived in the same city as us. Both he and my mother were immigrants. He taught us that it was proper to eat spaghetti with a spoon. He also taught us some twisted way to hold a fork when using a knife to cut a piece of meat. It may have been deemed proper to use a spoon 60 years ago but no longer. I never saw anyone eat spaghetti with a spoon in Italy.

by Anonymousreply 62November 20, 2022 2:27 AM

[quote] I also wash myself in a lot of places that Italians probably don't.

And what places would that be, r6? You realize it's actually [italic]illegal[/italic] to build a bathroom that doesn't have a bidet in Italy?

by Anonymousreply 63November 20, 2022 2:32 AM

I'm not a Southerner but I have never, ever seen someone use a spoon to eat or twirl their spaghetti.

by Anonymousreply 64November 20, 2022 2:41 AM

I don’t eat anything I have to fight with in public. The waitress sound like a yenta.

by Anonymousreply 65November 20, 2022 2:43 AM

[quote]I don't care what the Italians do. I enjoy using a spoon to twirl my spaghetti.

R6 also eats Spaghetti-0s, Velveeta and Spam. Sound advice from white trash.

by Anonymousreply 66November 20, 2022 2:44 AM

[quote]like a good italiano I eat it with my hands

The use of the fork in Europe, as well as the concept of table manners, began in Italy.

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by Anonymousreply 67November 20, 2022 2:46 AM

Don't rinse your pasta after it's cooked and you wont need a spoon. The starch from the pasta makes it stick. The Great Pasta Washing Debate = SOLVED.

by Anonymousreply 68November 20, 2022 2:49 AM

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by Anonymousreply 69November 20, 2022 2:57 AM

R68, the great pasta debate is not about rinsing vs. draining, it’s about not dumping the pasta water out of the pot at all. Anti-drainers insist that you use tongs or a claw to take the pasta out of the pot and into a serving bowl or into a pot of sauce and adding some of the pasta water to the sauce.

I do not do this. I also don’t use a spoon to assist with twirling spaghetti on my fork. You fat whore eat way to many carbs.

by Anonymousreply 70November 20, 2022 3:01 AM

Uh-oh, spaghetti nos.

by Anonymousreply 71November 20, 2022 3:05 AM

Yes, R68, you dump it into a colander and shake off the excess water and then combine it with the sauce.

by Anonymousreply 72November 20, 2022 4:39 AM

My spaghetti twirled UP!

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by Anonymousreply 73November 20, 2022 5:07 AM

I had no idea what eating spaghetti with a spoon meant until I saw the video at R57. That looks so stupid and prissy. Why would you want to eat a ball of spaghetti? That’s gross. If you want to eat a wad of pasta then order ravioli or gnocchi.

by Anonymousreply 74November 20, 2022 8:20 AM

I wonder if these pretentious nellies twirl ramen into a ball before eating too.

by Anonymousreply 75November 20, 2022 8:22 AM

Only hicks use a spoon.

by Anonymousreply 76November 20, 2022 8:41 AM

I am not Italian but I am from NY. I have never used a spoon. I did work for an Italian artist who made and ate pasta daily; one uses a fork and a hunk of bread.

by Anonymousreply 77November 20, 2022 8:47 AM

Italians would laugh at anyone using a spoon.

by Anonymousreply 78November 20, 2022 8:48 AM

Tuck a napkin down the front of your shirt. Slurp the spaghetti off of a fork. That's how it's done in Calabria.

by Anonymousreply 79November 20, 2022 8:49 AM

I'm from Chicago and have never in my life used a spoon with spaghetti. I twirl with my fork.

by Anonymousreply 80November 20, 2022 8:50 AM

I can confirm what r78 said. There may have been a brief period in the mid-20th century where it was perceived that eating spaghetti with a spoon was “higher class”, or at least not lower class, but it certainly didn’t last. You’d now be labeled an effete tosser if you used a spoon.

by Anonymousreply 81November 20, 2022 9:00 AM

Can't believe OP missed the chance to call his thread "Spaghettiquette".

by Anonymousreply 82November 20, 2022 10:08 AM

Why does anyone care how anybody else eats something, or what they eat or don’t eat? Seriously, what’s it to you?

What a bunch of control freaks.

by Anonymousreply 83November 20, 2022 11:21 AM

Serve spaghetti in warm bowls and twirl against the side of the bowl.

by Anonymousreply 84November 20, 2022 11:28 AM

I am from a large Italian family and there are small variations of spaghetti transportation. Flat plate, side of bowel, bread pusher, no big deal. When I went to college, I was chagrined when my roommate took his forks and cut his pasta into short threads and used his fork in the shovel position to transport the short pieces.

by Anonymousreply 85November 20, 2022 12:00 PM

[quote] You fat whore eat way to many carbs.

Said the fat whore who can't spell.

by Anonymousreply 86November 20, 2022 1:51 PM

I just lift the plate to my mouth and shovel it in with a fork.

by Anonymousreply 87November 20, 2022 2:56 PM


by Anonymousreply 88November 20, 2022 3:13 PM

I’ve never heard of twirling pasta. Who wants to eat big clumps of pasta. The whole point of spaghetti is to eat its individual stands. Otherwise I would’ve ordered lasagna.

by Anonymousreply 89November 20, 2022 4:00 PM

The twirling is so that you avoid eating it like this.

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by Anonymousreply 90November 20, 2022 4:12 PM

You’re supposed to slurp noodles. The louder the better. It means you’re enjoying it. If you don’t slurp, it’s a great insult to the chef.

by Anonymousreply 91November 20, 2022 4:19 PM

Up north we use a spoon because it's how you do it. In the south you break it into pieces with your fork. Maybe even use a knife. Oye. Or they sometimes break it before cooking it.

by Anonymousreply 92November 20, 2022 4:25 PM

Marcella Hazan, the doyenne of Italian cooking, said you should not use a spoon but twirl it against the side of the dish.

by Anonymousreply 93November 20, 2022 4:31 PM

Look at this guy:

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by Anonymousreply 94November 20, 2022 4:34 PM

Just grab a handful at a time and shove down your gullet. Repeat until bowl is empty.

by Anonymousreply 95November 20, 2022 4:43 PM

For me, it depends on the sauce. If it's on top of the noodles, I just put the tip of the fork in the dish and start twirling. That way I get three or four noodles wrapped around the fork, covered in sauce, and eat it. When the sauce is at the bottom I do the same thing but stick the fork in the side of the dish to get some sauce on the noodles. If the noodles are only covered in some oil and garlic, I murder the chef.

by Anonymousreply 96November 20, 2022 4:43 PM

I get so tired about how they do it in Italy, fuck the Europeans, they're not paragons of intelligence, look at the mess they're in now. And grandfather came from Calabria too! He would have said vaffanculo and go to hell, I eat how I want.

by Anonymousreply 97November 20, 2022 4:45 PM

Stealth Greg thread.

by Anonymousreply 98November 20, 2022 4:48 PM

[quote]I’ve never heard of twirling pasta. Who wants to eat big clumps of pasta. The whole point of spaghetti is to eat its individual stands. Otherwise I would’ve ordered lasagna.

I don't understand what you are saying or how you are eating your spaghetti. Individual strands? Do you lift them up one at time and stick your head underneath your fork? The question is whether you use the side of your plate or a spoon to twirl your spaghetti. Either way, you take like three strands with your fork to twirl. It's not a huge clump.

by Anonymousreply 99November 20, 2022 4:50 PM

Look at the video at R57. It’s a huge clump. You’re basically eating a dough ball.

by Anonymousreply 100November 20, 2022 6:32 PM

Your MOM’S a dough ball!

by Anonymousreply 101November 20, 2022 6:35 PM

[quote] Marcella Hazan, the doyenne of Italian cooking, said you should not use a spoon but twirl it against the side of the dish.

Marcella Hazan is not a god.

by Anonymousreply 102November 20, 2022 7:08 PM

Marcella Hazan is unknown in Italy.

There is no Marcella Hazan type in Italy. Italian cookbooks were things like Artusi and Ada Boni. I guess maybe you could consider Ada Boni the Italian Marcella although most people learn cooking from their parents and relatives. Boni's books were a great reference point for homemakers though.

Gualtiero Marchesi was another culinary institution in Italy. I used his "La cucina italiana. Il grande ricettario" while living there. It is a great volume. Maybe the best all-encompassing Italian cookbook ever.

When I first got to Italy and didn't speak Italian very well and didn't know what I was doing, I used Hazan's first two books. And I will tell you that they are excellent and authentic.

(And BTW: no pressure cooker risotto in sight.

by Anonymousreply 103November 20, 2022 7:55 PM

I use a spoon, but no fork.

by Anonymousreply 104November 20, 2022 8:37 PM

I use no utensils and pile up my spaghetti on a plate so I can eat it hands-free, alligator-style.

by Anonymousreply 105November 20, 2022 8:46 PM

[quote]Marcella Hazan, the doyenne of Italian cooking, said you should not use a spoon but twirl it against the side of the dish.

That only works if you're eating it from a bowl.

by Anonymousreply 106November 20, 2022 9:00 PM

If I'm by myself, I will twirl on the plate.

If I'm with other people or in a restaurant where other people can see me, I use a spoon, mostly because I find that other people are usually exhausting and think that table manners and etiquette, in general, are bludgeons to beat people, rather than a way to make people more comfortable by having common rules for how to do things.

Few people will critize using a spoon, whereas the spoon-uses usually take great pleasure in pointing out how gauche it is not to use a spoon.

by Anonymousreply 107November 20, 2022 9:19 PM

[quote]If I'm with other people or in a restaurant where other people can see me, I use a spoon

What sort of Italian restaurant do you go to where it is considered good manners to use a spoon?

by Anonymousreply 108November 20, 2022 9:22 PM

[quote]What sort of Italian restaurant do you go to where it is considered good manners to use a spoon?

Well, for starters, I don't got it Italian restaurants that often because I don't really like Italian all that much.

However, every Italian restaurant I've ever been to in NYC, including those in Little Italy, provide a spoon, as far as I recall. Since I'd never choose to go to an Italian restaurant on my own, I couldn't tell you whether any of them were authentic, but some were pretty expensive if that's any indication dinner for four $300-400 range, not including wine.

by Anonymousreply 109November 20, 2022 9:34 PM

Mama June cooks us butter 'n 'sketti!

by Anonymousreply 110November 20, 2022 10:44 PM

Using a spoon is pretentious.

by Anonymousreply 111November 20, 2022 10:51 PM

Why slop around with a bunch of spaghetti in a fancy restaurant? If you MUST eat pasta, just order bowtie or penne. It's all carbs, just the same.

by Anonymousreply 112November 20, 2022 10:54 PM

No, using a spoon is gauche.

by Anonymousreply 113November 20, 2022 10:54 PM


by Anonymousreply 114November 20, 2022 11:07 PM

For R6,

[quote]"The difference between Italian boys and American boys,” the great Gore Vidal remarked to Sean Strub over cocktails at La Rondinaia — Vidal’s villa in Ravello on the Amalfi Coast — “is the Italian boys have dirty feet and clean assholes, while American boys have clean feet and dirty assholes.”

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by Anonymousreply 115November 20, 2022 11:11 PM

^ Yes, Mr Vidal 65 years ago. In the south. Believe me, Italians today are obsessed with hygiene.

by Anonymousreply 116November 21, 2022 12:05 AM

[quote] What sort of Italian restaurant do you go to where it is considered good manners to use a spoon?

The Walmart kind.

by Anonymousreply 117November 21, 2022 1:01 AM

[quote] However, every Italian restaurant I've ever been to in NYC, including those in Little Italy, provide a spoon, as far as I recall.

That’s for your soup, dear.

by Anonymousreply 118November 21, 2022 1:02 AM

[quote]That’s for your soup, dear.

LOL - um, no.

But, I did chuckle when I read that, so kudos.

by Anonymousreply 119November 21, 2022 1:40 AM

I thought this thread was going to be about a twee new Wes Anderson movie.

by Anonymousreply 120November 21, 2022 1:43 AM


by Anonymousreply 121November 21, 2022 1:45 AM

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by Anonymousreply 122November 21, 2022 1:48 AM

Ivana Trump, Sr., did not twirl her spaghetti.

by Anonymousreply 123November 21, 2022 1:49 AM

r82 & R121 Really?

by Anonymousreply 124November 21, 2022 2:00 AM

🍝 My Grandpa Giovanni from Sicily, expertly twirled with a spoon and a fork.

by Anonymousreply 125November 21, 2022 10:37 PM

That spoon thing is pure American bullshit from people who are as Italian as senile joe Biden is Irish

by Anonymousreply 126November 21, 2022 10:48 PM

You don’t need to serve spaghetti in a bowl or shallow pasta dish to be able to twirl it on a fork without a spoon, the fork doesn’t even need to touch the plate for a proper twirl.

by Anonymousreply 127November 21, 2022 10:54 PM


by Anonymousreply 128November 21, 2022 10:59 PM

I use the spoon and the fork. I never wear a bib, and I never get a drop of sauce on my tie.

by Anonymousreply 129November 21, 2022 11:00 PM

[quote]and I never get a drop of sauce on my tie.

Wearing a tie to eat spaghetti? Fancy!

by Anonymousreply 130November 21, 2022 11:04 PM

"Marcella Hazan, the self-appointed American doyenne of middle-brow bourgeois cooking" said what now?

by Anonymousreply 131November 21, 2022 11:20 PM

Come to think of it I don’t think I’ve ever eaten spaghetti in a restaurant. Penne alla vodka has been the ubiquitous side for the past two or three decades and restaurants are increasingly not including sides.

by Anonymousreply 132November 21, 2022 11:36 PM

[quote] [1] Canadians can’t even pronounce “pasta.”

My closest friend is Canadian and pretty WASPY, but it always sounds vulgar when he pronounces it "pass-ta".

He also refused to pronounce the name of Marin County correctly when he visited me when I lived in San Francisco. "Mare-in". Jesus!

by Anonymousreply 133November 22, 2022 12:25 AM

I cut spaghetti with a knife and fork and eat with either a spoon or fork.

It's so vulgar when people let it hang out of their mouth and chew it.

by Anonymousreply 134November 22, 2022 12:28 AM

Cutting pasta is as bad as rinsing.

by Anonymousreply 135November 22, 2022 12:30 AM

All my great-grandparents immigrated from southern Italy to NYC in the early 1900’s and my grandparents were born in the city in the aughts - so all similar in terms of cultural background, region and class (working). My maternal grandparents always used a spoon, (and served the salad last) paternal grandparents never did (and served salad first). So it seems to have been more of a personal quirk or family preference than anything else, but it does seem to have died out. I’ve never used a spoon, I think my mom usually does, but honestly I haven’t noticed one way or the other - I’ll watch her eat next Sunday.

by Anonymousreply 136November 22, 2022 12:47 AM

Has anyone in this thread coined the term “spaghettiquette”?

by Anonymousreply 137November 22, 2022 2:11 AM

^ Oh rats, sorry GuyBitchie!

by Anonymousreply 138November 22, 2022 2:12 AM

I shovel as much spaghetti into my mouth as I can, then my best friend trims it with her cuticle scissors!

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by Anonymousreply 139November 22, 2022 2:17 AM

[quote]Penne alla vodka has been the ubiquitous side for the past two or three decades

An actual Italian restaurant never serves pasta "on the side". Pasta is a first course. (although it can be a main meal if you forgo the second course...but never as a side dish....at least in any restaurant that claims to be authentic).

Penne alla vodka. A 1980 concoction. Today, decidedly déclassé.

by Anonymousreply 140November 22, 2022 2:24 AM


by Anonymousreply 141November 22, 2022 2:25 AM

Just don't drain it.

by Anonymousreply 142November 22, 2022 2:26 AM

Pasta is drained.

Occasionally tongs are used to retrieve pasta from the pot if a dish requires it. Or slotted utensil might be used to retrieve stuffed pasta like ravioli which is delicate and could break. But outside of those situations, pasta is drained into a "scolapasta".

by Anonymousreply 143November 22, 2022 2:46 AM

R140, I’m not talking about an “authentic” Italian restaurant specializing in fine dining, but old school family run restaurants and pizzerias where an entree like chicken parm comes with a side of pasta and a salad. It used to be linguine or spaghetti but penne alla vodka still seems to be very popular among NY metro carb eaters.

by Anonymousreply 144November 22, 2022 3:09 AM

Never serve an Italian spaghetti with meatballs unless you want to wake up with a horse's head in your bed. Italians don't eat meatballs!

by Anonymousreply 145November 22, 2022 3:18 AM

Italians most certainly DO eat meatballs--just generally not in a sauce with spaghetti.

by Anonymousreply 146November 22, 2022 3:27 AM

[quote]Italians don't eat meatballs!

Meatballs are a much loved dish in Italy but they are served as a second course. Sometimes in tomato sauce, sometimes just fried. Made with ground meat or chopped leftover cooked meat, lightly breaded. Sometimes egg shaped. Never huge as they are in the US.

In certain parts of the South tiny meatballs are in pasta dishes. In the South sometimes in lasagne.

by Anonymousreply 147November 22, 2022 3:46 AM

R140, Dan Tana in WeHo is a beloved Italian restaurant, although they do serve mostly Italian American dishes. You can order a main course pasta, but all of the entrees come with a butter plate sized spaghetti. And at their prices, they should..The aglio olio is simple and delicious.

by Anonymousreply 148November 22, 2022 5:43 AM

You’re supposed to twirl it with your tongue. 👅

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by Anonymousreply 149November 23, 2022 5:53 AM

What is this bowl shit. I was dating a guy whose mother was Italian. I made a pasta dinner and tried to put the spaghetti in a bowl and he was outraged. Said it belonged in a plate, god dammit.

by Anonymousreply 150November 24, 2022 12:40 PM

[quote] You realize it's actually illegal to build a bathroom that doesn't have a bidet in Italy?

R23 I didn't know there were that many gay bottoms in Italy!

by Anonymousreply 151November 25, 2022 7:33 AM

^^My attempt at humor was in response to R63, not R23.

by Anonymousreply 152November 25, 2022 7:47 AM

Always used a spoon to twirl here in the US. Early in my travels to Italy, I was shamed out of it by family, friends, and restaurant staff.

by Anonymousreply 153November 25, 2022 8:14 AM

You’re ALL wrong.

I know a grand lady. Far grander than anyone you know or would hope to know.

A grand lady, I tell you.


Flys only first class.

She doesn’t use a spoon OR a fork.

She uses her comb.

Her name is Dona Klobucharetti.

Capice? 💋👌

by Anonymousreply 154November 25, 2022 10:30 AM

R154 Don't quit your day job.

by Anonymousreply 155November 26, 2022 5:05 AM

🍝 I always bring my own fork AND spoon.

And my own gun.

In this world, you must always be prepared.

by Anonymousreply 156November 27, 2022 4:56 PM

I just rewatched the movie Heartburn tonight. There is a scene where Rachel brings a pasta dish to bed for she and Mark to share. One bowl, two forks and two spoons. It was the eighties, they are supposed to be yuppies as well as educated writers. Preceived elegance and sophistication.

by Anonymousreply 157November 28, 2022 7:30 AM

I still can't get over the person that cuts their spaghetti. Did Mommy do it for him? Along with his chicken nuggets?

by Anonymousreply 158November 28, 2022 7:46 AM

With a spoon is no longer in fashion.

Without a spoon you look like a disgusting pig and risk splattering it all over yourself, or worse still, over someone else.

Whether one drains it or not has caused social division so severe that it might one day lead to War.

There is CLEARLY only one solution: never, ever, ever, ever eat spaghetti.

by Anonymousreply 159November 28, 2022 8:28 AM

It’s called spaghettiquette!

by Anonymousreply 160November 28, 2022 9:36 AM

Oooh! Look at me! I had a fancy grandma with fancy spaghetti manners and shit.

Well, my garndmother had to work in the mines!

Just kidding. She was just a racist little troll.

Like most grandmothers of our generation.

by Anonymousreply 161November 28, 2022 9:42 AM

Look, that's why I break the spaghetti in two before I cook it. It's easier to eat. I still twirl it onto my fork, but no spoon needed.

by Anonymousreply 162November 28, 2022 10:27 AM

Why the extra step of twirling? Seems faggy to me.

by Anonymousreply 163November 28, 2022 10:30 AM

Breaking spaghetti is almost as bad as rinsing.

by Anonymousreply 164November 28, 2022 8:35 PM

I use chopsticks

by Anonymousreply 165November 28, 2022 8:36 PM

Guess they no longer make Franco-American Spaghetti, but I grew up on this canned delicacy. The orange (no doubt artificially colored) sauce was a true delight.

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by Anonymousreply 166November 28, 2022 11:17 PM

R106 has flat pieces of glass with no rims instead of plates.

by Anonymousreply 167November 28, 2022 11:33 PM

No spoon at home or with friends/fam for me, but if it is at a restaurant with one of those bowls that is 2x the normal size, and the sauce is sloppy and plentiful, I will use a spoon so as not to spatter myself.

Speaking of spaghetti, I don’t know how to spell it ? but I made scaldatta last night. I think it means scalded? It is an expression (used in the central part of Italy I think?) for cooking leftover spaghetti in a saucepan with just a little sauce, so it gets scalded and a bit crunchy.

It’s different from the Italian assailant / assassins pasta, (when you actually cook your pasta in a saucepan in the sauce, & I don’t know how to spell that either.)

Anyway I haven’t had it like that since I was a kid and it was so good, yet so basic.

by Anonymousreply 168November 29, 2022 12:03 AM

[quote]yet so basic.

Like you.

by Anonymousreply 169November 29, 2022 12:07 AM

R166, the canned Franco American spaghetti is still made. Even though Campbell's bought them over 100 years ago, they kept the name until fairly recently. I use it for a casserole I love (don't ask, not that you would).

by Anonymousreply 170November 29, 2022 4:02 AM

[quote]Look, that's why I break the spaghetti in two before I cook it. It's easier to eat.

This is a babytastes habit.

by Anonymousreply 171November 29, 2022 4:23 AM

They sell half-length spaghetti, R171.

by Anonymousreply 172November 29, 2022 4:43 AM

I'm sure they do- I don't shop at the Dollar Store.

by Anonymousreply 173November 29, 2022 4:47 AM

Amazon sells it, too.

by Anonymousreply 174November 29, 2022 7:50 PM

When I was first living on my own I had to break spaghetti because I didn’t have a pot that was big enough to cook full-length spaghetti. It doesn’t twirl as well and is messier. I usually would just make a smaller shaped pasta.

by Anonymousreply 175November 29, 2022 11:04 PM

[quote] I'm sure they do- I don't shop at the Dollar Store.


by Anonymousreply 176November 30, 2022 2:33 AM

[quote]There is a scene where Rachel brings a pasta dish to bed for she and Mark to share.

Oh, dear.

by Anonymousreply 177November 30, 2022 3:10 AM

I've spent time working in four different Italian regions, and never saw anyone use a spoon at the table, in a restaurant or street cafe or private residence, for the pasta course.

by Anonymousreply 178November 30, 2022 3:21 AM

It’s a low class American thing.

by Anonymousreply 179November 30, 2022 3:47 AM

R178, me either and I manage to eat without splattering on my clothes as well.

by Anonymousreply 180November 30, 2022 5:46 AM

The only twirling DL will tolerate is Fallon Carrington's.

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