I think I may be in love with someone I loved like a son

WTF are you rambling on about?

Whatever it is, I don't think you will garner much sympathy.

Are you Matt Gaetz?

R1 Op here. Sorry about the typos but I think you understand the gist of what I’m saying. I’m not looking for sympathy, there’s nothing going on that I would need sympathy. I’m am looking for empathy Zane clarity as I try to redefine and understand my new feelings.

Zane=and

OP, if you’re not trolling, leave the kid alone.

Most young people don’t want old partners.

They deserve a chance to fall in love with people their own age, not someone who’s clos to retirement age.

C’mon, OP…

Grow up and get a grip.

Ew.

[quote]Everyone I know who k owns him is astounded.

Is he a sex trafficked whore, darlin?

R5 Op here. I agree. You are correct, except he’s not a kid. He is a grown man. 20 years older than I thought him to be. Yes, I’m a lousy judge of age, but he just does not look his age.

Op. When I thought he was younger my feelings for him were paternal, I truly loved him like a son, anything more would have been creepy, but I didn’t feel anything more. But now that I know the truth, I’m struggling to redefine my feelings. I’m confused. I still love him very much.

Poor Bryan Singer / op.

I guess you'll just have to throw a pool party and find another "son."

He is twenty years older than you thought?? You must have diabetic glaucoma, OP.

Bryan/OP has so many "sons" to choose from!

Which one of these guys are you, op?

Is this your febrile delusion flaring up again, OP? You are not making any sense.

Is he a 30-year-old midget who pretended to be a prepubescent boy like that psycho orphan bitch girl?

You loved him like a son but didn't know his birthday? I would (at least temporarily) create some distance and find a therapist to work this out with. This sounds one-sided, in both manifestations of your feelings for him.

Don’t spoil your friendship with him.

Was his name Joel?

R11, not only that but ESTs never think their tales all the way through. Consider this, the OP claims to have loved and cared for the man as a son. Now riddle me this, how could this bond develop without knowing some intimate details, biographical occurrings, past experiences and memories of the "son". I could legitimately believe the son looks twenty years younger. What I don't believe is that you could have known him for even a few years, and spent the time necessary together to love as a child without figuring out this glaring reality. What the fuck did you 2 talk about?

8 outta 10 cunt.

[quote]Anyway he can’t be the son of my heart, too old.

Why not? He can't be the son of your body, but why should you think of him any differently?

R6

Yes, ewwwwwwwwwwwwwww.

Ew. What is this, N@MBLA? The RNC? CPAC? The Vatican? Take the incest fantasies elsewhere.

To answer the above. I kept my feelings to myself abd was careful not to go @all dad” on him, it works have been overbearing and it’s not as if he didn’t have a real father because he does.

I actually know what you’re talking about, OP.

I’ve experienced this.

Intimacy was off, OFF the table.

Then, his stumbling and trying to make it in this world and need for a ‘family’ figure morphed into something like our being contemporaries.

He was always beautiful to me, but in a prideful way - I was proud of what this young man was and could be.

Then he found his footing and needed less advice, and support as a family member/friend and HE began to see us as equals.

I appreciated his advancement lIke an achievement.

Then he began to share things that were less like a request for fatherly advice and more like commiseration.

He’s not a child - 25, but I’m twice his age.

His opening up has shifted from ‘what do you think/what should I do’ to this is what I want now/you are perfect for me.

I’m thrown, honestly.

Weirdly there’s a part of me wondering if I was the one actually being groomed.

It’s dumb and pointless to consider the romantic possibility, if only because I think he’s actually just feeling his own confidence and self-assuredness.

But it simultaneously makes me feel proud that I was part of his finding his way, and flattered that I would even be on his radar that way.