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Hot Florida man teacher diddles male student

DL sleuths lets get to the bottom of this. Whose had him?

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by Anonymousreply 554December 9, 2024 3:25 AM

I never find the guys in Datalounge mug shot postings attractive, but this guy is quite hot.

by Anonymousreply 1October 15, 2022 4:16 AM

He is handsome, too bad he's a predator

by Anonymousreply 2October 15, 2022 4:17 AM

16 is almost legal. And it WAS legal 100 years ago.

by Anonymousreply 3October 15, 2022 4:21 AM

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by Anonymousreply 4October 15, 2022 4:24 AM

So the boy opened a tinder hookup account, lied about his age, trapped the guy, and cries about being a victim to get benefit by admission to a college. He has a bright future in the FBI.

by Anonymousreply 5October 15, 2022 4:26 AM

Reminds me of a similar entrapment case I heard about a few years ago. In my opinion, the young person who entraps the older and lies about his/her age should ALSO face some sort of serious consequences, even though he or she is considered a minor.

by Anonymousreply 6October 15, 2022 4:29 AM

I'm pretty sure kids under 18 have been arrested for transmitting child porn by sending pics of their underaged selves, r6.

by Anonymousreply 7October 15, 2022 4:31 AM

That is what "jailbait" means. Be circumspect. Several years ago, I corresponded with a kid who told me he was 19 but I was not convinced so I stopped it. Make sure you're sure because these kids have underdeveloped brains.

by Anonymousreply 8October 15, 2022 4:37 AM

I feel bad for this guy. How can you call someone a predator if they were lied to?

by Anonymousreply 9October 15, 2022 4:39 AM

Too bad this guy was incredibly stupid to fuck a 16 yo. He is hot af. Was a crossfit instructor too.

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by Anonymousreply 10October 15, 2022 4:39 AM

Also 16 is legal in most of the rest of the world. Why does the United States impose the 18 standard everywhere? Surely if you can drive a car and have a job, you can decide who you can fuck?

by Anonymousreply 11October 15, 2022 4:41 AM

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by Anonymousreply 12October 15, 2022 4:42 AM

He's a pederast and too old to have been with a presumed 18 year old. He is a teacher so he's better able to gauge physical and mental maturity than the rest of us. I don't feel that bad for him.

by Anonymousreply 13October 15, 2022 4:49 AM

Twinklovers take risks, I guess. I think the kid may be lying, but I also think this guy is foolish, as well. And what could be more of a gay cliche than being a fitness trainer (in the crossfit cult, no less) in Ft. Lauderdale.

by Anonymousreply 14October 15, 2022 4:53 AM

R5

No, that's now how things went down.

"The teen reportedly stated his age as 18 years old on the app. During their initial conversations, the teen disclosed that he was actually under 18 and did not like to lie about his age. The teen said Montero also said he was under 18 years old.

After trading texts and nude pictures, they agreed to meet. The teen told police he thought he recognized Montero as his teacher when he took an AP Chemistry class online.

Montero reportedly picked the teen up from where he was staying in Miami-Dade and drove him to his home in Fort Lauderdale. Once there, Montero reportedly made the teen a cocktail. The teen said he felt "tipsy" but not drunk."

Second this "kid" confessed he was not 18 but 16, Montero should have shut things down, case closed.

Now it's all over for the guy. Criminal proceedings notwithstanding his days of teaching are done, over, finished. No place will go near Montero with a barge pole even if he's not convicted of top or any charges.

You'd think by now after Anthony Weiner and dozens of others guys would know by now not to put things into emails or otherwise digital technology. This isn't just a case of "he said/he said", but the teen has evidence.

Carlos Montero at nearly fifty wasn't the worst thing to look at; but yet once again a man thinking with wrong head has gotten into trouble.

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by Anonymousreply 15October 15, 2022 4:57 AM

Hot daddy

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by Anonymousreply 16October 15, 2022 5:00 AM

Oh big whoop. It's just a little wank.

by Anonymousreply 17October 15, 2022 5:00 AM

Verificatia of uncut size meat?

by Anonymousreply 18October 15, 2022 5:01 AM

They seemed to have developed some kind of relationship over time then the kid wrote the stupid attention-seeking essay.

Kids can't keep their mouths shut.

by Anonymousreply 19October 15, 2022 5:05 AM

He has psycho yes.

by Anonymousreply 20October 15, 2022 5:05 AM

Carlos Montero yanked his Twitter page, but there's a really hot photo of him teaching a chemistry class in short sleeve shirt and tight jeans. You can find it by Googling his name as it still comes up in image searches, but clicking links takes you to dead page.

by Anonymousreply 21October 15, 2022 5:05 AM

I was blowing a math teacher in my HS with a big guido cock AND my golf instructor. Somehow I kept my mouth shut.

by Anonymousreply 22October 15, 2022 5:07 AM

From r10's link:

"Carlos worked as a high school science teacher and has a degree in Chemical Engineering from Penn State University."

Wow, he went to Ped State. Big shocker.

by Anonymousreply 23October 15, 2022 5:07 AM

"Kids can't keep their mouths shut."

Yeah, that's the problem, not adults having sex with 16-year-olds

by Anonymousreply 24October 15, 2022 5:08 AM

Have seen this play out both ways.

Some gay youth even young as 14 or so know exactly what they are and want they want. Back in day observed how many would make their moves on an older gay (which for them was anyone over 20) with exacting precision. They wanted sex, and were going to get it....

OTOH you also clearly have teens who aren't quite sure of themselves far as being gay is concerned. To be sexually questioning while your hormones are raging is not a good place to be. Sex feels good, but afterwards comes buyers remorse so to speak. This seems to be what happened with the young kid in this case.

In either situation someone has to be the grown up in room. Carlos Montero was foolish, and now he's paying the price.

by Anonymousreply 25October 15, 2022 5:11 AM

This is why I'm 48 and single. These older guys only want twinks and have TERRIBLE judgment! 🖕🤮💩🤦‍♂️🤷‍♂️

by Anonymousreply 26October 15, 2022 5:12 AM

When I was 16, I would’ve killed to have had sex with this man. I know this to my bones. Having said that, the reverse is problematic and doesn’t work. I can’t imagine wanting to fuck a 16 or 18 year old now as a mid-40s man. Weird how it makes sense one way but not the other. Who is with me?

by Anonymousreply 27October 15, 2022 5:13 AM

I had sex with a number of older men when I was 16-17. I had a GREAT time with these big dicked guys who were more experienced than me…I went to a conservative leaning suburban high school and guys my age were all moronic. I have no illusions that I’m some kind of victim like these poor zoomers have been brain conditioned to think. We both got something out of it. Most guys I date are around my age now but I like an older or younger guy once in a while. That’s that.

by Anonymousreply 28October 15, 2022 5:17 AM

I agree r27 - I would have been in heaven to be fucking my hot 40 year old teacher when I was 16. I knew who I was and what I wanted. As a 40 year old though I would NEVER engage with anyone under 21 for anything , like texts, chats, emails much less actual contact.

by Anonymousreply 29October 15, 2022 5:17 AM

Am guessing your in slight minority with that R27; going by popularity if LeGrand Wolf's Carnal Media and other productions featuring young looking "teens" with older men there is quite a following And he's only just one source of such porn....

by Anonymousreply 30October 15, 2022 5:18 AM

[quote] 16 is almost legal

16 years IS the legal age of consent in amost every state. Florida is one of the few it is 18.

by Anonymousreply 31October 15, 2022 5:18 AM

[quote] Some gay youth even young as 14 or so know exactly what they are and want they want. Back in day observed how many would make their moves on an older gay (which for them was anyone over 20) with exacting precision. They wanted sex, and were going to get it....

That was me.

by Anonymousreply 32October 15, 2022 5:18 AM

The student teacher imbalance of power is an issue. Even if the student is 17 they're still likely to prosecute.

This used to be waved away....I remember one of the douchebag teachers at my HS had a new senior girl on his dick every few years and he was never even questioned about it. But now that shit would get shut down.

by Anonymousreply 33October 15, 2022 5:20 AM

I had sex more with men than I did other kids when I was 16. Men were far easier to pick up. They all wanted to fuck my sweet young ass ! But as others have said,I wouldnt touch anyone that remotely looked under 21 .I dont care how hot. Who needs to be thrown in jail and have your face plastered all over the news calling you a pedo ? No thank you,Ive had my share of hot young men.

by Anonymousreply 34October 15, 2022 5:22 AM

Turning out a young gay teen is one thing; turning him off could be quite another.

Tony Perkins as we discussed in another DL thread picked-up, seduced then promptly abandoned that young French twink. Leaving the kid wondering "what happened?"

by Anonymousreply 35October 15, 2022 5:23 AM

The 80s were different

by Anonymousreply 36October 15, 2022 5:23 AM

OP, .the guy has dead eyes doesn't he? Souless.

by Anonymousreply 37October 15, 2022 5:24 AM

[quote]I was blowing a math teacher in my HS with a big guido cock AND my golf instructor. Somehow I kept my mouth shut.

That's because you're a proper lady.

by Anonymousreply 38October 15, 2022 5:24 AM

Yes, older gays, never love 'em (twinks) and leave 'em! Twinks *will* want revenge!

by Anonymousreply 39October 15, 2022 5:26 AM

[quote] I wouldnt touch anyone that remotely looked under 21........ Ive had my share of hot young men.

How do you reconcile those two statements, R34?

by Anonymousreply 40October 15, 2022 5:26 AM

Get off my bloomers, R40 ! I had an edible and Im not thinking clearly. Mea culp,I have shitty sentence structure,syntax WHATEVER,

by Anonymousreply 41October 15, 2022 5:30 AM

OMG ! Culpa ! Culpa ! Aaaiiieeee !!!

by Anonymousreply 42October 15, 2022 5:31 AM

In my hometown a 28 year old was arrested for having sex with an 17 year old he met at an 18+ club because the girl told the dad she had been raped. Turned out she told him she was 18 had written him a note before she left his place about wanting to hook up again and turned up she made up the story because her dad was furious she stayed out all night and needed a cover story.

by Anonymousreply 43October 15, 2022 5:35 AM

R32. That’s my story as well…from when I first snuck into the back room of an adult book store.

by Anonymousreply 44October 15, 2022 5:39 AM

So sad...

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by Anonymousreply 45October 15, 2022 5:39 AM

Why weren’t any of my teachers hot… okay, that one student teacher was hot but the others, yuck!

by Anonymousreply 46October 15, 2022 5:44 AM

It's the gift that keeps on giving!

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by Anonymousreply 47October 15, 2022 5:44 AM

April Zen retreat 2021,

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by Anonymousreply 48October 15, 2022 5:45 AM

He sounds like Agador from film "The Birdcage"

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by Anonymousreply 49October 15, 2022 5:49 AM

[quote]16 years IS the legal age of consent in amost every state. Florida is one of the few it is 18.

I believe it was16 also in Florida until Epstein's story gained traction. Certainly New York made an after the fact change to make Andrew a pedophile.

by Anonymousreply 50October 15, 2022 5:49 AM

What's up with the Zen stuff, is it some kind of a cult?

by Anonymousreply 51October 15, 2022 5:50 AM

um

by Anonymousreply 52October 15, 2022 5:52 AM

[quote]This seems homophobic.

Let's be real r12, if the victim were a teenage girl, he'd be hog-tied and under the jail by now.

Do you have any idea how many straight guys are on the sex offender list because of things like that, especially since girls are more likely to report or "kiss and tell?" There are some who end up on the list while still in high school because they're 18.

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by Anonymousreply 53October 15, 2022 6:07 AM

This is why I only date 90 year olds.

by Anonymousreply 54October 15, 2022 6:07 AM

Okay the article said the teen told the teacher he’s a minor “at a later date.” How much later? Did he told the teacher and they continued the relationship, or told him at the exact moment he regretted it and the teacher freaked out and told him he can’t tell anyone or else consequences? If the teacher thought the teen was at age the whole time and stopped it immediately after the teen confessed, I don’t think the teacher’s guilty, and vice versa.

by Anonymousreply 55October 15, 2022 6:10 AM

[quote]I agree [R27] - I would have been in heaven to be fucking my hot 40 year old teacher when I was 16.

This is so unusual for a guy. /s

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by Anonymousreply 56October 15, 2022 6:14 AM

A teacher of all people should know better than this. Moron.

by Anonymousreply 57October 15, 2022 6:16 AM

I think teachers spend so much time around teens that they become comfortable with their immaturity. I rarely engage withteens, but when I do, I'm always reminded how dumb and annoying they are. It shocks me that a grown adult man or woman would catch feelings or fall for those kids.

by Anonymousreply 58October 15, 2022 6:22 AM

Of all the people you can date, why not date someone your age? Why do people (mostly men) always have to go for someone a few years out of puberty? It's sick

by Anonymousreply 59October 15, 2022 6:31 AM

Problem is R59 many decent to hot older gay males want someone younger. So what's a 40-59 year old attractive and in good shape gay guy to do?

Will give you at least guys could go for college age or twenty-something; messing with young teens is just bad news.

by Anonymousreply 60October 15, 2022 6:45 AM

R59, if women have the means (i.e. money), I’m sure many will go for young guys, too (see Madonna and Jada). You see a lot of more examples of men because more of them are in positions of wealth and influence. And let’s not act like the younger men and women don’t know what they’re doing. You think those people who date/sleep with DiCaprio, Singer, etc. have no sense of autonomy over their bodies? Stop infantilizing young adults. Additionally, some young people find older adults attractive. DILF, MILF, mommy, daddy porn subgenres exist because there’s a demand.

by Anonymousreply 61October 15, 2022 6:46 AM

The kid said he was 18. That IS college age.

by Anonymousreply 62October 15, 2022 6:48 AM

R61 those people are ADULTS, you asshole. Leo and Madonna are dating people in their early 20s and over. Dating someone 24 years old is not the same as someone 3 years past puberty.

by Anonymousreply 63October 15, 2022 6:52 AM

"The kid said he was 18. That IS college age."

Subsequently recanted and confessed true age; that is when this "teacher" should have backed off.

If even half of what the teen says is true (teacher told him not to tell anyone because it could cost him his job, etc...), it all as a whiff of grooming and predator about it. In which case this teacher had better "call Saul", because it's going to take some fancy legal footwork to avoid convictions.

by Anonymousreply 64October 15, 2022 6:52 AM

This was not a sexual assault by any stretch of the imagination. The charges are ridiculous.

by Anonymousreply 65October 15, 2022 6:57 AM

They could stop prioritizing youth R60. Men can be such superficial creeps, it's hard to feel any sympathy for them

by Anonymousreply 66October 15, 2022 6:58 AM

[quote]some young people find older adults attractive.

And they all have unresolved daddy/mommy issues. The older people who fall for them are usually suckers who get involved due to loneliness and a ticking mortality clock.

by Anonymousreply 67October 15, 2022 7:01 AM

We covet that which we see every day...

by Anonymousreply 68October 15, 2022 7:05 AM

Is his forehead botoxed or do men that old not have forehead lines yet?

by Anonymousreply 69October 15, 2022 7:10 AM

[quote]The teen told police he identified himself as an 18-year-old on Tinder, but he “definitely” told Montero later that he was a minor.

If he did this only in person, supposedly, and not via text, we don't know if the guy is trying to frame the teacher or not.

by Anonymousreply 70October 15, 2022 7:15 AM

[quote] You'd think by now after Anthony Weiner and dozens of others guys would know by now not to put things into emails or otherwise digital technology.

Some enormous percentage of the American people continue to sext no matter what.

You will never get people to stop sexting.

by Anonymousreply 71October 15, 2022 7:16 AM

[quote]The teen told police he identified himself as an 18-year-old on Tinder

What age did the teacher identify as on Tinder?

by Anonymousreply 72October 15, 2022 7:18 AM

if you're interested in younger guys you should just not be a teacher.

by Anonymousreply 73October 15, 2022 7:29 AM

Man, 15/16 year old me would have done anything to sleep with this guy.

I get it. It's creepy/predatory/etc. And I suppose it is. But it wasn't for me. I knew exactly what I wanted at that age: Daddy dick.

And I went after it with gusto. However, the men who fucked me knew I wasn't going to say a word. I usually wanted seconds.

by Anonymousreply 74October 15, 2022 7:33 AM

High school and college age guys are the only ones that seem interested in me, and I'm 58, but look 40. I'm 5'4", 130lbs, 30w, I don't think they see me as a threat. They approach me and start chatting me up, they're strapping young men who seem very interested and looking for it, and it's hard to say no when they're so cute, conversational, and willing. I've never had a problem. I think the common thread is that the guys I spend time with are all on their own, do not live at home with mommy, and know exactly what they want, and they don't cry about it afterwards. It depends on the level of maturity. I'm rarely involved with anyone over 30, we just don't have anything in common...

by Anonymousreply 75October 15, 2022 7:43 AM

Cold, soullless eyes. Sorry, girls, not interested.

by Anonymousreply 76October 15, 2022 8:14 AM

The kid was asking for it!

by Anonymousreply 77October 15, 2022 8:18 AM

"When I was 16, I would’ve killed to have had sex with this man."

But you didn't, did you Blanche?

by Anonymousreply 78October 15, 2022 8:35 AM

Hey, I enjoying gronking as much as the next guy, but you gotta avoid the jailbait.

by Anonymousreply 79October 15, 2022 8:42 AM

That little bottom bitch could have gotten out of that man’s car but he didn’t.

by Anonymousreply 80October 15, 2022 8:44 AM

R73 He should have asked to see ID.

by Anonymousreply 81October 15, 2022 8:45 AM

It was the kid who sought him out. Let's not forget this.

by Anonymousreply 82October 15, 2022 8:45 AM

R82 He probably enjoyed getting fucked by a sexy older man but is ruining this man anyway.

by Anonymousreply 83October 15, 2022 9:01 AM

The man is an idiot but that “kid”is truly evil. He knows exactly what he did.

by Anonymousreply 84October 15, 2022 9:03 AM

R74 You were a teenage bottom whore that wasn’t a vindictive bitch like this one.

by Anonymousreply 85October 15, 2022 9:07 AM

Bridget Matters is a "crime expert"? She could barely get a sentence out.

Sixteen will get you twenty.

Finally: Thanks Obama!

by Anonymousreply 86October 15, 2022 9:16 AM

We live in different times. What was possible 50 years ago is no longer.

by Anonymousreply 87October 15, 2022 9:23 AM

[quote]Some gay youth even young as 14 or so know exactly what they are and want they want. Back in day observed how many would make their moves on an older gay (which for them was anyone over 20) with exacting precision. They wanted sex, and were going to get it....

Most boys are horny when they go through puberty.

But "gay youth even as young as 14" are CHILDREN and adults having sex with CHILDREN is rightly illegal.

by Anonymousreply 88October 15, 2022 9:24 AM

The CHILDREN frau troll has arrived.

by Anonymousreply 89October 15, 2022 9:32 AM

I have R89 on block, probably because he's posted in other threads about normalising paedophilia.

It's really not controversial to say that adults should not be having sex with 14 year olds.

I grew up in the UK when Bill Wyman of the Rolling Stones was "dating" a 14 year old "model" called Mandy Smith and married her when she was 18. I knew it was wrong then, it's wrong now, and he should have gone to jail.

by Anonymousreply 90October 15, 2022 9:36 AM

In most of Europe the legal age of consent is 16 and under. In many countries it's 14. So fuck off with your children bullshit.

by Anonymousreply 91October 15, 2022 9:39 AM

He sort of reminds me of pornie Andy Star.

by Anonymousreply 92October 15, 2022 9:39 AM

R13, tell us what the acceptable age gap is, in your opinion?

by Anonymousreply 93October 15, 2022 9:53 AM

I should be so lucky!!!!!!

Catholic confessionals will never be the same again!

AND I'M NOT EVEN CATHOLIC!!!

by Anonymousreply 94October 15, 2022 9:56 AM

Pretty pasty to be living in Florida. Maybe he's indoors on Grindr all the time.

by Anonymousreply 95October 15, 2022 9:57 AM

Gen z is so pathetic, I'm glad I have nothing to do with them. Am 29 and as tiresome as millennial are gen z are far worse. Obnoxious, desperate attention seekers.

by Anonymousreply 96October 15, 2022 10:07 AM

Hawt = Innocent

by Anonymousreply 97October 15, 2022 10:52 AM

people bemoaning older gays for spending time with younger gays are just jealous and angry that no one of any age wants to spend time with them.

by Anonymousreply 98October 15, 2022 1:06 PM

[quote] That is what "jailbait" means. Be circumspect. Several years ago, I corresponded with a kid who told me he was 19 but I was not convinced so I stopped it. Make sure you're sure because these kids have underdeveloped brains.

I say that without judgment and as a former 16 year old with an underdeveloped brain growing up in the early 80s -- under the spectre of AIDS -- who had very grown men buying me stuff, and was very flattered and intoxicated by the attention.

by Anonymousreply 99October 15, 2022 1:32 PM

[quote] "He has psycho yes."

Agreed, R20. His body may be in good shape, but his dark, beady eyes are unsettling. They weird me out. I can't find him attractive as a result.

by Anonymousreply 100October 15, 2022 1:35 PM

When you go on grindr and find the only passably attractive tops within a 50 mile radius are all looking for under 25s despite being decades older, you lose your empathy for pederasts so... fuck him.

by Anonymousreply 101October 15, 2022 1:47 PM

Student is a nasty person. A (monkey) pox on him!

by Anonymousreply 102October 15, 2022 1:49 PM

[quote] Finally: Thanks Obama!

I'm sure we'll hear about that piece

by Anonymousreply 103October 15, 2022 1:50 PM

[quote] Some gay youth even young as 14 or so know exactly what they are and want they want. Back in day observed how many would make their moves on an older gay (which for them was anyone over 20) with exacting precision. They wanted sex, and were going to get it....

So! 16 year old bodies can make choices that 16 year old minds cannot process or understand. Let them work things out with other 16 year olds. No excuse for a grown man to have an intimate physical relationship with a 16 year old.

40 years ago, I was taken advantage of -- willingly, eagerly and multiple times -- by a very handsome 26 year old married man when I was 15. I thought it was exciting and glamorous at the time, and I definitely 'wanted' it. Now I realize it fucked me up and made it very difficult for me to have intimate connections that weren't overshadowed by fear, guilt and shame. I did not know better...but he did (or should have).

Sure enough, he tracked me down about 20 years ago to apologize but the damage was already done. Today, I spend my days dancing around the house in a caftan to "Xanadu", dialing an (inoperable) rotary-dial telephone with a pencil, reading biographies of long-dead actresses and gossiping about Shawn Mendes at Datalounge.

by Anonymousreply 104October 15, 2022 1:57 PM

Poor you.

by Anonymousreply 105October 15, 2022 2:00 PM

I'm not ashamed of my sexual past, which started when I was 14 and involved a number of older men in both very casual scenarios as well as repeat fuck buddy situations.

I don't carry damage from that - I do struggle with intimacy sometimes, but that has far more to do with physical abuse I suffered than any sexual act.

I do not in any way justify pedophilia. It is a crime, period, and should be prosecuted. I happened to be a 14 year old who had been caretaking an ill family member since the age of 8 and was an adult in many ways - not everyone is that bright, worldly or savvy at that age.

My only comment on the age of consent is this - in most of the US we let young people drive at 16, become an "adult" at 18 and drink at 21 - it's almost a moot point to say this since young people drink and fuck for their first time around 13 or so these days, but I think if someone is old enough to drive a car to hook up with someone, they should be considered an adult, perhaps. I just think society is sending a bit of a mixed message with all of that at that age. I feel like a reasonable question/debate is there. (But obviously, clearly, a younger person cannot consent.)

by Anonymousreply 106October 15, 2022 2:13 PM

I was 15 and getting pounded by one of the English teachers, I knew exactly what I was doing. Some teenagers are young for their age and others are older, psch evaluations should be considered in cases like these.

by Anonymousreply 107October 15, 2022 2:20 PM

He was in his 40s chasing after teenagers, that's pathetic to me. And when you are a teacher you know there are dire consequences to bring caught fucking kids.

Christ, even if you sadly want to chase after youth you can't go after guys in their 20s rather than literal teenagers.

by Anonymousreply 108October 15, 2022 2:26 PM

BREED ME PAPI!

by Anonymousreply 109October 15, 2022 2:28 PM

[quote] I'm 58, but look 40.

so you think

by Anonymousreply 110October 15, 2022 2:29 PM

[quote] High school and college age guys are the only ones that seem interested in me, and I'm 58, but look 40.

R75's grindr profile pic.

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by Anonymousreply 111October 15, 2022 2:35 PM

R107 English teachers are always the hottest. Nerdy but animals in bed!

by Anonymousreply 112October 15, 2022 3:08 PM

R106 definitely mixed signals. It's ludicrous our drinking ages are 21 but driving is 16. No 16 year old should be behind the wheel of a car in my opinion. For a permit, yeah, but licenses shouldn't be granted until 18.

by Anonymousreply 113October 15, 2022 3:13 PM

While I do feel sorry for him, I can't for the life of me understand guys into twink types. Had his type been a little more college age at the least then he might have had somewhat of a defense. That is not to say that there aren't 16 year olds who look mature, but most likely that 16 year old looked barely legal and you're always taking a risk going that route.

by Anonymousreply 114October 15, 2022 3:13 PM

Why feel sorry for him? The fact that he told the kid, "keep quiet, I could lose my job" etc.... this middle aged man knew what he was doing was wrong. He could have easily chosen a man in his 20s.

At this point, it seems people only become teachers so they can fuck teenagers.

by Anonymousreply 115October 15, 2022 3:19 PM

[quote]I can't for the life of me understand guys into twink types.

People like what they like. But I can't believe a grown man can't tell someone is underage in the first five minutes of talking to them - even if the person looks older than his age.

by Anonymousreply 116October 15, 2022 3:23 PM

OMG like, I'm SUCH an old soooouulll

by Anonymousreply 117October 15, 2022 3:27 PM

The man was a teacher. We've seen repeatedly how poor these government types are at estimating the true age of students.

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by Anonymousreply 118October 15, 2022 3:49 PM

Was everyone and their younger brother getting hot teacher pinga?

by Anonymousreply 119October 15, 2022 3:51 PM

All he had to do was cruise the library or student rec facilities at the closest college—he would have had all the 18-year old ass he could handle..

by Anonymousreply 120October 15, 2022 3:54 PM

One of the issues that bothers me is why people say a 16 year old mind can’t process emotional and sexual decisions. You get more rights at 16 than at 18 here in Maryland. You can consent to sex, get your driver’s license, get a full time job, quit school, become emancipated, be charged as an adult ( depending on the crime), and get married. If I can quit school, get married, and work full time how is it that I can’t digest certain sexual ramifications. That is why the moment we define adulthood by a number we are fucked up. A hundred years ago people didn’t have a life expectancy that ran into their seventies. Children had to grow up and leave. Now we not only want to keep childhood going beyond it’s due date but to pretend the teenage mind is as retarded at 16 as at 8. And of course sex and drinking are the first sword and shield to a perverted theory of how to rear children. If at 16 I am handed the possibility of being responsible for my life- why do you think I can’t handle my dick- because if I can’t then I can’t drive, hold a job, vote, or shoot a gun either.

by Anonymousreply 121October 15, 2022 4:05 PM

I had my first summer job at age 7 R121. Does this mean an adult should have been allowed to have sex with me?

by Anonymousreply 122October 15, 2022 4:11 PM

Age of consent is irrelevant if you're a teacher.

If someone says they're under 18 or in high school, then treat them like radioactive waste.

Run.

by Anonymousreply 123October 15, 2022 4:13 PM

He was a fool for hooking up with the kid if he knew he was under 18, especially since he's hot enough to land hot guys on his own.

However, whether you go into a bar with a fake ID or use Grindr/Tinder, I question whether the laws have kept up with the times. There is an explicit assumption that if you're on an adults only site or go into a bar that you're old enough to consent. Why would you be checking ID (again, if the kid told him he was underage, he's an idiot...and a criminal).

On a separate note, he reminds me of Jeffrey Donovan.

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by Anonymousreply 124October 15, 2022 4:15 PM

^ if you had been hired as a sex worker, then the answer was yes! Or, it you were old enough to work on the farm, or behind the counter of the country store…then giddy up!

by Anonymousreply 125October 15, 2022 4:15 PM

Assume they used the correct age for a cruising app? Just like any dick size reference is assumed to be accurate?

by Anonymousreply 126October 15, 2022 4:17 PM

r15...what a crock of shit. Im not defending the guy, but if the kid lied about his age, created the profile, went with him when he was picked up, we are supposed to believe he suddenly told the truth ? Not a chance this kid was honest. You know that as well as anyone else with a functioning braincell. How many guys did he hook up with before using that app e lying about his age ? At the very least, they should both be charged...

by Anonymousreply 127October 15, 2022 4:25 PM

[quote]One of the issues that bothers me is why people say a 16 year old mind can’t process emotional and sexual decisions.

I don't think that's the issue. I think the point is a 40 year old should know better than to fuck a 16 year old, no matter how much the 16 year old may want it. As I said earlier, and adult should know when someone is underage within the first 5 minutes of conversation. And if you're not talking, there are other clues; clothing styles, hygiene...

And while I don't disagree with the argument that if someone is on an app, it should be the app's reasonability to make sure the people using the app are of age, but that's not how it works. Kids lie.

by Anonymousreply 128October 15, 2022 4:30 PM

Yeah at 46 he should know you can't deal with messy 16 year olds who have nothing to lose. He got lost in that bussy. That boy is a slut and Im sure he enjoys controlling many grown men by threatening to expose them for fucking his ass.

by Anonymousreply 129October 15, 2022 4:40 PM

Like r128, I believe focusing on what the 16 year old did or didn't do is the wrong approach. 16 year olds make colossally bad decisions all the time. They should not have to suffer the lifelong consequences of a 40 year old pervert's sexual malevolence. The teacher is a sexual predator -- plain and simpke.

by Anonymousreply 130October 15, 2022 4:42 PM

doesn't matter what the kid says on an app.

and "19" is the new "18." just so you know.

by Anonymousreply 131October 15, 2022 4:44 PM

I don't give a shit whether the kid told Carlos Montero that he was 18. He then told Carlos Montero that he was 16.

Carlos Montero is a predator. He shouldn't be fooling around with an 18 year old, either.

He's not going after a twink. Carlos Montero was going after young guys the same age he teaches.

This is not a guy who goes after younger men.

If you want to fuck a 21-year-old...fine.

He's going after teenagers.

Carlos Montero is sick!

by Anonymousreply 132October 15, 2022 4:53 PM

[quote] Some gay youth even young as 14 or so know exactly what they are and want they want.

The little whores!

by Anonymousreply 133October 15, 2022 4:59 PM

What people will risk for sex. It really is crazy.

Does it really make that much difference if someone is 20 or 15? Do they look all that different?

by Anonymousreply 134October 15, 2022 5:00 PM

The guy is a teacher r134. This was no accident, he wanted to fuck someone the same age as the students he teaches and he got caught. Someone who was 21 wouldn't have been exciting to him, it was definitely knowing he was fucking a high schooler that got him off.

by Anonymousreply 135October 15, 2022 5:02 PM

Yes, I've learned to never underestimate how many men get off sexually at the thought of doing something wrong or taboo. It's the act itself they find sexually appealing, not in spite of it.

by Anonymousreply 136October 15, 2022 5:05 PM

R135 = Frau

by Anonymousreply 137October 15, 2022 7:03 PM

R107, should we let underage teens who are "mature" drink, smoke, vote, etc.

by Anonymousreply 138October 15, 2022 7:05 PM

18,16......whatever. Hair splitting. Why is a nearly 50 y/o man chasing teenagers and plying them with alcohol? He's a predator and a loser with arrested development who can't relate to anyone his own age. I don't feel sorry for him at all.

by Anonymousreply 139October 15, 2022 7:15 PM

They were using fucking TINDER. You can’t start a conversation unless both parties like each other and swipe right. This fucking teen knew what he was doing when he made his profile and matched with the guy. And labeling someone a pedophile should only be used on mentally diseased individuals who are attracted to minors under 13 (prepubescent), and like many said most of the world has an age of consent at 16. 16 year olds can make enough decisions to be able drive and get a job, I’m sure they can decide who they voluntarily have sex with. You can find someone’s sexual preferences odd or disgusting (like what straights think of gay sex) but he didn’t do anything illegal INITIALLY since he was led to believe the teen was 18. If he continued after finding out his real age, then there’s a case.

by Anonymousreply 140October 15, 2022 7:29 PM

R138, they still do all that when no one’s looking! How many pearl clutchers and fraus are on this thread?

by Anonymousreply 141October 15, 2022 7:32 PM

Many kids start puberty earlier than 13. My sister was 10. I guess if some adult had fucked her 10 year old self they weren't really a pedophile.

by Anonymousreply 142October 15, 2022 7:33 PM

Grow up and find partners your own age, R140.

by Anonymousreply 143October 15, 2022 7:36 PM

I’m 26 so maybe I’m still young enough to remember what teens are like.

by Anonymousreply 144October 15, 2022 7:38 PM

[quote]18,16......whatever. Hair splitting. Why is a nearly 50 y/o man chasing teenagers and plying them with alcohol? He's a predator and a loser with arrested development who can't relate to anyone his own age. I don't feel sorry for him at all.

First of all, it's perfectly natural for adults to be attracted to young people in their sexual prime. I believe that age 17 is considered the age of absolute sexual prime for a male, and I believe it's even a year or two younger for a female. As others have pointed out, at certain times in the past and in certain cultures, it was common practice for females to get married (and begin having sex) at a very early age. Also, you have no idea if this person is EXCLUSIVELY attracted to very young males.

All of that said, there are several very disturbing aspects to the case, most importantly the fact that the adult in question is a teacher. But that doesn't excuse your wild statements.

by Anonymousreply 145October 15, 2022 9:26 PM

[quote]I believe that age 17 is considered the age of absolute sexual prime for a male

Fucking hell. This might be the dumbest thing I've read on the DL in some time.

by Anonymousreply 146October 15, 2022 9:34 PM

17 is sexual prime for a male and yet 17 year old boys weren't married off to grown women

by Anonymousreply 147October 15, 2022 9:35 PM

[quote]16 year olds make colossally bad decisions all the time.

But 40 year olds don't make colossally bad decisions?

That has not been my life experience.

by Anonymousreply 148October 15, 2022 9:44 PM

Lolita Boysnatch.

by Anonymousreply 149October 15, 2022 9:46 PM

R145, at certain times in the past, gays were executed and slavery was legal. What's your point?

by Anonymousreply 150October 15, 2022 9:49 PM

Scientifically men produce the most sperm between 30-35. There is absolutely no biological basis for 17 being some sexual peak, it's not unusual that guys haven't even finished puberty then.

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by Anonymousreply 151October 15, 2022 9:50 PM

So it was an 18 year study checking guys at 17 and then at 35 to see what the difference in semen production was per individual?

by Anonymousreply 152October 15, 2022 10:00 PM

[quote]First of all, it's perfectly natural for adults to be attracted to young people in their sexual prime. I believe that age 17 is considered the age of absolute sexual prime for a male, and I believe it's even a year or two younger for a female...(snip the rest of r145's pedo justifications).

The issue has nothing to do with some supposed "sexual peak" (which for the record is NOT 17 for men as r151 notes).

As for any historical basis for diddling young people, as a society we've generally agreed on a set of rules. Are there people who fall outside of those rules - of course. There are many younger people who enter into sexual situations with eyes wide open (I did at a much younger age). But, rather than leaving it up to individual discretion, we've drawn some lines about acceptable behavior to make it clear. While I think it's creepy for someone over 30 to try to hook up with an 18 year old, it's legal, so I accept that it's going to happen until we as a society decide that it shouldn't be.

As a society, we've decided that slavery is bad, no matter the long history of humans engaging in the practice, so your argument that young people were wed at much younger doesn't pass the test for acceptable in modern society. It also fails to take into consideration other survival pressures that made it necessary that no longer apply.

The fact that the kid was on Tinder is a separate issue that needs to be addressed. However, once this guy learned the kids was under 18, that should have been the end of it.

by Anonymousreply 153October 15, 2022 10:08 PM

Sorry, I absolutely remember reading many years ago that a male's sexual peak was considered to be 17 years of age. I remember it clearly because it surprised me, but that is what I read. I now see that there is a lot of debate about when a man is in his sexual prime. Anyway, my point was that it's 100 percent natural for older adults to be physically and sexually attracted to people in their late teens or early 20s, even if there are many reasons why it might not be a good idea for two people of very disparate ages to be in a romantic/sexual relationship.

by Anonymousreply 154October 15, 2022 10:12 PM

[quote]But, rather than leaving it up to individual discretion, we've drawn some lines about acceptable behavior to make it clear. While I think it's creepy for someone over 30 to try to hook up with an 18 year old, it's legal, so I accept that it's going to happen until we as a society decide that it shouldn't be.

What's inherently creepy about it? I think it depends on many different variables. The fact that you're willing to make the broad, sweeping statement that it's always "creepy" says more about you than it does about the individuals you're judging.

by Anonymousreply 155October 15, 2022 10:16 PM

Carlos sure seemed to have his shit together. CrossFit fanatic, Zen master, award winning chemistry teacher. This mess must be doubly hard for a disciplined person like that. Someone who’s not used to fucking up. He kind of looks like Kevin Spacey to me.

by Anonymousreply 156October 15, 2022 10:16 PM

[quote]The real issue comes when one person in the relationship wants sex significantly more than the other. And that's a difficult issue considering that men reach their sexual peak in their late teens and early 20s, while women reach theirs in their late 30s or early 40s.

That's a quote on the subject from a doctor, and it's not that far off from what I wrote about a male reaching his sexual peak at 17. As I noted, others disagree.

by Anonymousreply 157October 15, 2022 10:20 PM

How the fuck is a sexual peak going to be 17?

Gotta start when you’re 10?

by Anonymousreply 158October 15, 2022 10:24 PM

In many societies 10 year olds were married off to grown men R158. Ergo it's natural and acceptable....have I got that right?

by Anonymousreply 159October 15, 2022 10:40 PM

No, R158, that's not what it means at all. Think real hard and you might be able to figure it out. Or not.

by Anonymousreply 160October 15, 2022 10:51 PM

R160, it’s not that deep.

by Anonymousreply 161October 15, 2022 10:52 PM

Exactly.

by Anonymousreply 162October 15, 2022 10:54 PM

He’s hot.

I forgive him

by Anonymousreply 163October 15, 2022 10:58 PM

I don’t understand this news report at all:

[Quote] “The teen reportedly stated his age as 18 years old on the app. During their initial conversations, the teen disclosed that he was actually under 18 and did not like to lie about his age. The teen said Montero also said he was under 18 years old. After trading texts and nude pictures, they agreed to meet. The teen told police he thought he recognized Montero as his teacher when he took an AP Chemistry class online.”

Montero said he under 18 too?

The kid took an online AP Chem class in Connecticut and somehow Montero was teaching it?

by Anonymousreply 164October 15, 2022 11:00 PM

What terrible timing, with the whole “are gay teachers groomers?” ginned-up culture war right now.

And it’s in Florida, FFS!

by Anonymousreply 165October 15, 2022 11:01 PM

R165 Convenient isn’t it?

by Anonymousreply 166October 15, 2022 11:08 PM

Hot for Teacher

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by Anonymousreply 167October 15, 2022 11:09 PM

I think we're too easy to throw around terms like predator and groomer these days; and I am certain that some 16 year olds are big sluts and having sex all the time. However, it is up to adults to know and understand that they should not have sex with someone that young. It doesn't matter if they're begging for it with a fuck me sign taped above their hole. A rational, sane adult is not going to fuck a 16 year old.

I don't care if they look 25 and promise not to tell. They always tell and you're going to throw your life away for sticking your dick in someone who is not an adult. If you are desperate to fuck young looking twinks, there are a million of them over 18 with proper ID, looking for daddies and the generous. And finally there is nothing a 16 year old can do for a grown ass man, except cut his grass.

by Anonymousreply 168October 15, 2022 11:32 PM

There needs to be punishment for the 16 year olds too for this crap or not will keep happening. Such tragedies should be avoided, no? It takes two. If there is no incentive for the 16year olds to stop it will keep happening.

by Anonymousreply 169October 15, 2022 11:38 PM

R168 I agree, great post !

by Anonymousreply 170October 15, 2022 11:39 PM

“However, it is up to adults” that’s not how you prevent these horrible life altering, earth shattering tragedies that you want to stop.

You need to put some responsibility on the teens they need to know they will face consequences for seducing and flirting and entrapping older men.

by Anonymousreply 171October 15, 2022 11:40 PM

How will they prove the teacher knew he was under 18?? That teen cunt lied and was using Tinder and lying to men what makes anyone think he isn’t lying that he told his real age. The teacher should sue Tinder.

by Anonymousreply 172October 15, 2022 11:41 PM

Would this be legal if he wasn’t the teacher?

by Anonymousreply 173October 15, 2022 11:42 PM

[quote] You need to put some responsibility on the teens they need to know they will face consequences for seducing and flirting and entrapping older men.

Seriously, how would that work? Sending them to reform school for being jail bait?

by Anonymousreply 174October 15, 2022 11:42 PM

I’m not the judge here I’m just saying if there is no consequences for these out of control teens who seem more destructive than ever then it will keep happening. They have impunity.

by Anonymousreply 175October 15, 2022 11:45 PM

R175 Tinder needs age verification, problem solved.

by Anonymousreply 176October 15, 2022 11:45 PM

it all has to do with fl consent @ 18. not really the teacher aspect because he was not their teacher.

by Anonymousreply 177October 15, 2022 11:46 PM

Woody Allen is guilty because he's fugly. OJ was innocent because he was cute. The teacher is hot and has gay face for days so he's innocent too!

by Anonymousreply 178October 15, 2022 11:51 PM

"these out of control teens who seem more destructive than ever"

Mary!

by Anonymousreply 179October 15, 2022 11:54 PM

[Quotewhat makes anyone think he isn’t lying that he told his real age.

This. Unless there is correspondence between them that confirms he knew the kid's real age before they had sex.

This teacher has a good case IMO. The dirty little whore kid lied to Tinder about his age to set up an account, he lied to the teacher and he lied to other men about his age.

by Anonymousreply 180October 16, 2022 12:06 AM

Can the vile person who started this thread go fuck yourself. How can you state someone is hot when they allegedly committed abuse? You either condone what this sicko did or you have a screw missing from your disgusting head.

by Anonymousreply 181October 16, 2022 12:10 AM

Sex doesn't equal abuse, frau cunt.

by Anonymousreply 182October 16, 2022 12:14 AM

OMG, Carlos already has a GoFundMe!

by Anonymousreply 183October 16, 2022 12:25 AM

R175, what about out-of-control teachers who are cruising for teens on the internet?

by Anonymousreply 184October 16, 2022 12:29 AM

r184...stop with that bullshit. Thats not what he said. His point is valid. Nobody is condoning the behavior of the teacher...he was wrong...but seriously, what is being done to these kids that do this stuff ? The adults USUALLY end up in prison...but the teens walk away. Remember, we are not talking about someone who who was sought out. We are talking about someone who did the seeking...and intentionally lied to lure the adults in. We see and hear of similar stories repeatedly. The adults are not innocent, but neither should these kids who do these thing intentionally be either. We also dont know what this kid looks like. He could look 21 for all we know. I knew a 16 year old growing up that looked 23...he was screwing adult women because he looked old enough and was very hot. Not every teenager is a victim...though many are

by Anonymousreply 185October 16, 2022 12:55 AM

R185, actually most of you are condoning the teacher's behavior by putting the blame on the student

by Anonymousreply 186October 16, 2022 12:57 AM

Fuck off r186....your attitude is why thing are so fucked up socially. And no, Im not a right winger. Not everyone is a fucking victim. If you cant see that this kid was not a victim...he was a willing participant who orchestrated his participation....then you need to work on your critical thinking skills. Is the teacher innocent ?...not by a long shot...but neither is THIS kid. Thats all anyone is saying. Believe it or not, we do know right from wrong on this site...and we also recognize sexual abuse. This kid was not snatched off the street and made to do things against his will.

by Anonymousreply 187October 16, 2022 1:06 AM

R187, you're the one trying to make the teacher into a victim. And, no, you don't seem to know the difference between right and wrong. You just admitted you think it's okay to abuse kids if they aren't "snatched off the street"

by Anonymousreply 188October 16, 2022 1:12 AM

Bullshit r188. I said no such thing and you know it. And Im not making the teacher the victim...and I said it repeatedly. Youre defending the actions of this kid, knowing full well that what he did was wrong...so he should not face consequences. I suppose you think its ok for a prostitute to go to jail, but not the John.

by Anonymousreply 189October 16, 2022 1:17 AM

R164

What is there not to comprehend?

Kid confessed online his true age, Montero responded he too was under 18 ( strike one).

Montero fully knowing kid was a minor sent lewd pictures via app (strike two)

Kid recognized Montero as a chem teacher of an online course thus was surely not under 18 (ball)

Montero met and had sex with minor knowing fully well he was below legal age (strike three)

Piling on are additional fouls such as giving minor liquor. Telling him not to reveal nature of relationship because it could jeopardize Montero's teaching career....

by Anonymousreply 190October 16, 2022 1:19 AM

R189 is doing it again. Making the teacher into the REAL victim. While demonizing the actual victim.

Read r190

by Anonymousreply 191October 16, 2022 1:25 AM

16 should be the age of consent for males. After all they don't get pregnant and they're going to do it anyway.

by Anonymousreply 192October 16, 2022 1:30 AM

R186 There's nothing wrong with being blamed for something you actually did. I guess there are a million other scenarios in which this looks totally predatory and wrong on the teacher's behalf. However, in context, it's not hard to place some of the "blame" on the student who went out of his way to deceive an adult into some intimate/sexual encounter.

This is a touchy subject for a number of reasons but there's something that just doesn't sit right with me. As others have said, we're doing a lot of cherry-picking here. If this same sixteen year old had murdered someone, there would be howls and cries to have him tried as an adult. In 2022, there are a non-negligible amount of people who feel children should be able to pick their gender and go through surgery and take hormones if they desire to be the opposite sex. But when it comes to actually having sex, everybody is super sensitive about age and power dynamics? It doesn't make a lot of sense.

The people saying "he should've known better" are kinda bugging me as well. For one, we don't know what this teen looks like. I don't know why we automatically assume "16 year old" equals "twink". But also, and I say this not to defend this man or anybody else who is caught having sex with a minor, "should have known better" sounds oddly like victim blaming. Why is this kid on Tinder lying about his age and hooking up with grown ass men if he's gonna write an essay exposing his hook-ups? Give me a "good enough" reason for that then we can talk about who's supposed to know better. Because believe it or not, accountability isn't some shit you just learn through osmosis the second you turn 18. Adults who don't know how to take accountability once were children who didn't take accountability.

I just don't like the convenient narrative building that goes on with stories like this. Sexual predation is real and it's gross, disgusting, deadly, and destructive. I'm reluctant to ruin otherwise normal, law-abiding citizens' lives on technicalities. The law is what it is, so I get he has to be held accountable, but within the context of this conversation, grown men should be able to get on age-restricted dating apps and not worry that a match is actually a high school sophomore lying about their age. Period.

by Anonymousreply 193October 16, 2022 1:33 AM

R193 thinks the real victims are 40-year-old men who cruise for teens online

by Anonymousreply 194October 16, 2022 1:38 AM

Most relieved to know I still have the pedo apologist(s) blocked.

by Anonymousreply 195October 16, 2022 1:41 AM

R194 Please fuck off with your unamusing trolling. We're trying to have a mature conversation here.

by Anonymousreply 196October 16, 2022 1:42 AM

Defending creeps isn't mature

by Anonymousreply 197October 16, 2022 1:45 AM

This is unbelievable... I am in a state of shock. Florida has schools?

by Anonymousreply 198October 16, 2022 1:52 AM

Neither is looking through this thread trying to extrapolate a defense out of clearly nuanced opinions. As far as I know none of us are responsible for building a legal defense for this man, nor are we tasked with prosecuting him.

by Anonymousreply 199October 16, 2022 1:53 AM

R197 Cunts like you are the real creeps.

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by Anonymousreply 200October 16, 2022 1:54 AM

R200 = pedo cunt

by Anonymousreply 201October 16, 2022 1:57 AM

R201 Look in the mirror dyke. Where are you when female teachers get knocked up by teen boys??

by Anonymousreply 202October 16, 2022 2:00 AM

If the middle-aged guy is proven to have known the kid was a minor at any point before sex happened, the book should be thrown at him. That's independent of any responsibility the kid might have for lying about his age while cruising the apps for dick.

by Anonymousreply 203October 16, 2022 2:06 AM

" I am in a state of shock. Florida has schools? "

Can we have some too?

by Anonymousreply 204October 16, 2022 2:10 AM

In the article it says the boy "told him later" that he was 16. That could mean after the deed. If true, I would throw out the charges.

by Anonymousreply 205October 16, 2022 2:11 AM

Wow, ruin a man's life after lying to him about your age. Have chimps also taken over the courts? Oh, yeah, that's right.

by Anonymousreply 206October 16, 2022 2:16 AM

Fort Lauderdale is the gay sewer of the world. Grifters, every type of addict, transients, a sad city.

by Anonymousreply 207October 16, 2022 2:19 AM

[quote] The encounter came to light when the teen described his sexual encounter with an adult man he met on Tinder in a college essay.

This is also quite confusing-- since when are NIFTY Archive stories also being used as college essays?

Joking aside, it's just not a topic anyone would write an essay about.

And then there is the second part... Eldergays grew up in a different time, but I cannot imagine being 16 and on vacation with my family and being able to slip away for a night of sex with someone I'd met on the internet. The kid must have been a very convincing liar.

by Anonymousreply 208October 16, 2022 2:23 AM

He looks hot for his age. Were I 16, I'd have lured him over to a dark alley, gotten down on my knees, and sucked the soul out of him through his urethra.

by Anonymousreply 209October 16, 2022 2:25 AM

R205 That article is a mess. One thing is obvious though the homophobic fraus like to come here and tear these gay men down but are no where to be found when it’s a female teacher caught fucking her student.

by Anonymousreply 210October 16, 2022 2:28 AM

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by Anonymousreply 211October 16, 2022 2:29 AM

I am confused too R164

So Montero is telling the kid he is also 16 and then at some point the kid finds out he's actually 50 and doesn't care? There seems to be something missing there-- was Montero pretending to be another 18 year old on Tindr to catfish young guys to send him dick pics? When did the kid figure out Montero's real age-- when he picked him up in his car?

The the "recognized him from Zoom" bit-- did Montero teach online courses to kids in CT and randomly wound up teaching this kid? Is that why the kid got in the car with him in the first place?

by Anonymousreply 212October 16, 2022 2:30 AM

Why do people always say on DL the age of consent is 16. It must be 18. That’s a hell of a thing to get wrong.

I guess we are all supposed to be experts in the law and also experts in human development in all stages so we can scientifically be able to discern older looking males with full beards that are 7 ft tall but happen to be lying and only 16. Or 17.

This is a bunch of bullshit. The responsibility is on the person giving their age. They need to be Hines or held accountable for lying and entrapment. It’s not the adults fault in that case. In no other case does the juveniles get off unless it’s sex. Then they walk away scot free. It’s so messed up and why this keeps on happening.

by Anonymousreply 213October 16, 2022 2:33 AM

"Wow, ruin a man's life after lying to him about your age"

He told the guy his real age eventually, which did not deter the predator

by Anonymousreply 214October 16, 2022 2:53 AM

"One thing is obvious though the homophobic fraus like to come here and tear these gay men down but are no where to be found when it’s a female teacher caught fucking her student."

LOL, it's straight men - not straight women who defend those women. Because they say it's what they wanted. Kind of like gay men who defend this guy because they say it's what they wanted as teen boys

by Anonymousreply 215October 16, 2022 2:55 AM

Will he be deported? It's back to Venezuela for him!

by Anonymousreply 216October 16, 2022 3:10 AM

Unfortunately, we don't know how many times they fucked. I would guess once, since the lying horned up "victim" was on vacation.

by Anonymousreply 217October 16, 2022 3:11 AM

He is not hot and I love white daddies.

by Anonymousreply 218October 16, 2022 3:18 AM

Strange what desire will make foolish people do...

by Anonymousreply 219October 16, 2022 3:19 AM

I'm sure a lot of posters, when 16, wanted to have sex with an older man. However, when you're 16, a 25-y-o looks "older." 30 would be pushing it. I think this teacher would have just looked "old" to a 16-year-old.

by Anonymousreply 220October 16, 2022 3:20 AM

R11 States define age of consent not the federal government. Most US states the age is 16 but some have 17 and 18. Age of Consent is 18 in Calif, Ore, Ida, Utah, Wy, ND, Wisc, VA, DE, TN, FL.

by Anonymousreply 221October 16, 2022 3:26 AM

The fishy thing is that the 16-year-old was in Connecticut. Florida man was in Florida. If adult twinks were truly his taste, why did he need to go fishing in Connecticut waters? Yes, Florida man was good-looking. He could have *easily* found 18-20-year-old sex partners close to home.

by Anonymousreply 222October 16, 2022 3:30 AM

Fishy—read the article and all will be revealed.

by Anonymousreply 223October 16, 2022 3:36 AM

Teacher could pretty much pull anything he wanted. I bet hes even hotter in person. That lying little whore must have been damn pretty . If I were a betting man Id put money on the fact if they tracked lying whore's IP they'd find many more Grindr hook ups with other grown men. Sexually assaulted my left nut.

by Anonymousreply 224October 16, 2022 3:41 AM

OH. MY. GOD. Mystery solved, you horny faggots!!!!

"The age of consent to engage sexual intercourse in the state of Connecticut is sixteen years old. This means that any person who is sixteen years or older can consent to sexual intercourse with someone sixteen years or older."

This kid was from Connecticut and thought he could have sex with a grown man!!!

(I think I just stumbled onto his lawyers defense strategy, too!)

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by Anonymousreply 225October 16, 2022 3:43 AM

[quote][R11] States define age of consent not the federal government. Most US states the age is 16 but some have 17 and 18. Age of Consent is 18 in Calif, Ore, Ida, Utah, Wy, ND, Wisc, VA, DE, TN, FL.

Age of consent also varies based on gender and the age of both participants, including participants.

by Anonymousreply 226October 16, 2022 3:48 AM

Why did the little whore tell his friends he was fucked by an older teacher? Why was he depressed? Because he is a lying dirty whore?

by Anonymousreply 227October 16, 2022 3:51 AM

"(I think I just stumbled onto his lawyers defense strategy, too!)"

He doesn't need a defense strategy. He didn't do anything illegal. But the pedo teacher sure did!

by Anonymousreply 228October 16, 2022 3:54 AM

R228 sweet innocent “children” aren’t supoosed to be on dating apps meant for adults.

by Anonymousreply 229October 16, 2022 3:55 AM

What I would have given for my 8th grade math/gym teacher to fuck me! I jerked off thinking about him every night.

He was muscular with a thick hairy chest. He must have been in his 30’s. Unmarried because he “never found the right gal.” Hmmmm.

by Anonymousreply 230October 16, 2022 3:56 AM

[Quote] He could have *easily* found 18-20-year-old sex partners close to home.m

Im sure he did that too

by Anonymousreply 231October 16, 2022 3:57 AM

[quote]Age of Consent is 18 in Calif, Ore, Ida, Utah, Wy, ND, Wisc, VA, DE, TN, FL.

This reads more like bottle deposits.

by Anonymousreply 232October 16, 2022 3:58 AM

R230 Would you cry that you were depressed and sabotage to ruin his life after, if he fucked you though?

by Anonymousreply 233October 16, 2022 3:58 AM

A few years ago, I (then 53 years old) was getting ready to leave my work at a university, but stopped to make a deposit in the porcelain throne before the commute. While I was in a restroom stall, I heard somebody else come in the restroom. I opened Grindr and saw the nearest guy was about 20 ft. away. His profile said he was 19, so I figured he was a student there. He sent me a Grindr message asking if I wanted to blow him. Then almost immediately, another that he confessed that he was really 16 and on campus for Model UN and he did not have much time. I did not reply to his messages.

I exited the stall and washed my hands and saw a guy at a urinal. He looked to be older than19 and he was cute. He looked at me and stepped back to reveal him jacking off. His phone was on top of the urinal and he had an ear buds in the ear I could see. Something seemed off about him. The shoes were not what a teenager, or really a college student, would wear. They looked orthopedic. I dried my hands and left the restroom.

In the hallway outside the restroom were two city police officers and two campus police officers. They had their heads down looking at a cell phone, but raised their eyes to observe at me as I walked by. Immediately I understood that it was a sting operation. In 2019. I knew I hadn't done anything illegal, but it weirded me out nonetheless.

For the record, I get pinged all the time by college guys (with daddy issues). The idea does not disgust me – hooking up with a guy who's young enough to be my adult child – but my dad always told me not to shit where I eat. So I don't.

by Anonymousreply 234October 16, 2022 3:58 AM

[quote]I guess we are all supposed to be experts in the law and also experts in human development in all stages so we can scientifically be able to discern older looking males with full beards that are 7 ft tall but happen to be lying and only 16. Or 17.

Well, not always.

by Anonymousreply 235October 16, 2022 3:59 AM

R228 I meant the defense strategy for the pedo teacher!!! Keep up, dear.

by Anonymousreply 236October 16, 2022 3:59 AM

That’s no affirmative defense. The kid was underage—end of story.

by Anonymousreply 237October 16, 2022 4:04 AM

Not end of story, Lenny, if the kid lied about his age.

by Anonymousreply 238October 16, 2022 4:07 AM

The kid lied, Carlos' career died. THE END.

by Anonymousreply 239October 16, 2022 5:55 AM

R238 et al

For love of god will you all just let go of fact this kid initially lied about his age. It doesn't fucking matter since kid turned around before the two actually met and confessed is real age.

You meet someone in a bar, on street, in gentlemen's room at Four Season's Hotel and he gives his age as 21. Later as pair of you are walking towards a cab person turns around and says he's really 14, that's fucking end of things. If you still have sexual relations with that "kid" you've knowingly broken the law.

Going before a judge or even telling LE in a statement "when we first met he said was 21.." will prompt one or both to ask "when did you discover his true age?..." If answer was anytime before relations, then you're done.

Also as repeatedly stated in this thread Montero knew he was doing wrong because he warned the kid off telling anyone about their relationship as it would harm is teaching career.

Some of you can spin this anyway you like; bottom line Montero is in it up to his neck.

by Anonymousreply 240October 16, 2022 7:45 AM

So the “twink” lied before what makes you think it isn’t lying still. He seems like an attention whore that is full of vengeance.

by Anonymousreply 241October 16, 2022 7:49 AM

We don't know when the twink revealed his real age nor do we know if he isn't lying about this as well.

by Anonymousreply 242October 16, 2022 7:52 AM

Lying on tinder, hooking up on vacation with parents, telling his friends about it, writing a fucking essay about it?? so many red flags. Kids a total loon.

by Anonymousreply 243October 16, 2022 7:57 AM

it does not matter when his real age was revealed.

not at all.

game over.

by Anonymousreply 244October 16, 2022 8:45 AM

Ok I’m going to sound like a cranky old queen, but I’m 60, and if a “twink” hit on me, my first reaction would be, what’s this kid’s angle. No Thank You, I’d suggest he focus on his education.

by Anonymousreply 245October 16, 2022 9:40 AM

When I was 16 I was desperate to have a sexual encounter with a guy like this.

by Anonymousreply 246October 16, 2022 11:39 AM

R215, you’ve missed the point. Women are quick to condemn men who have sex with teenagers but are silent when women have sex with teenagers.

by Anonymousreply 247October 16, 2022 12:45 PM

I’m sure Montero has had tons of sex with teenage guys and never had a problem. This is why he didn’t think twice when the guy gave his real age

by Anonymousreply 248October 16, 2022 12:49 PM

Exactly r248, he had easy access and thought he could get away with it, there's no way this was a one off. And that 16-year old slut has had his share of older guys, Im sure his Grindr account will reveal.

I'm probably in the minority, but in high school I didn't find any of my teachers attractive, at all. Guys who were older than college age absolutely not. I know the man wasn't his teacher, just an interstate whore hook-up, but still.

by Anonymousreply 249October 16, 2022 1:54 PM

Isn't Tinder for hets?

by Anonymousreply 250October 16, 2022 1:59 PM

I had a massive lustful crush on a history teacher. He was a coach. 40s. Tan, Fit. Big huge bulge in his little poly blend Hoochie Daddy shorts.

One time I went to his office, which was in the boys locker room. I stumbled upon him with his giant dick hanging out the leg of his shorts as he held it while he was reading a magazine article. I thought I was going to die, I was so thrilled. He didn't see me. I only saw it for one second before I ducked out undetected.

I jacked myself silly when I got home from school. I couldn't believe that I knew what his dick looked like after staring at his crotch all year.

by Anonymousreply 251October 16, 2022 2:15 PM

It doesn't matter how wrong or how much he wanted it or how slutty the kid was, in these cases the minor is always going to be the victim and the most he'll get is a talking to from the judge about lying about his age.

by Anonymousreply 252October 16, 2022 3:14 PM

Lying little whore.

by Anonymousreply 253October 16, 2022 3:23 PM

My history teacher was a fat blob, but he was really hairy. Hair is my catnip so that bear was in my jerk off fantasies all the time

by Anonymousreply 254October 16, 2022 3:30 PM

There's a cover for every pot R254

by Anonymousreply 255October 16, 2022 3:38 PM

My high school Spanish teacher decades ago bored a striking resemblance to porn actor Jack Wrangler.

by Anonymousreply 256October 16, 2022 4:32 PM

This is an example of applying the law "equally" to both guys and gals makes no sense in the real world. Fucking around with a 16 year old girl is FAR different than fucking around with a 16 years old guy, especially when the two guys are both gay.

by Anonymousreply 257October 16, 2022 5:01 PM

Back in Massachusetts in a small town, there was a gym teacher (he was so hot) whose initials are CS, in case anyone here knows who I am talking about to confirm. He knocked up two or three cheerleaders during my time at the high school, 9th to 12th grade. Nothing ever came of it. His last name was well protected and his family were all on the town council/selectmen, etc. His ex-wife, now in her late 70s can still be seen furiously power-walking through the town. I believe the youngest was 14.

Damn, I wanted him to fuck me, but he was all about the V.

by Anonymousreply 258October 16, 2022 5:38 PM

sorry it was junior high back then, 10th to 12th grade

by Anonymousreply 259October 16, 2022 5:43 PM

If the teacher had stayed away from teenagers (for sex), there would be no need to determine exactly when the kid revealed his age, if at all, whether he was in the right state for having sex with a 16 year old vs 18 year old, etc etc. It's the easiest thing in the world to avoid having sex with teenagers, it really is.

by Anonymousreply 260October 16, 2022 5:51 PM

He's certainly got the GAY stare and the GAY lips.

by Anonymousreply 261October 16, 2022 5:56 PM

If near-jailbait is your kink, it's up to you to make sure the current object of your fixation is indeed as old as he says he is. One could do that by actually hanging out with him and getting to know his family and friends before you have sex with him. Of course, that doesn't fit into the fantasy. I have no sympathy.

by Anonymousreply 262October 16, 2022 6:09 PM

R260, 18- and 19-years olds are teenagers. Do you honestly feel that even they should not have sex with older adults even if it's entirely consensual, and even if the younger person pursues the sexual relationship?

by Anonymousreply 263October 16, 2022 6:11 PM

[quote] My high school Spanish teacher decades ago bored a striking resemblance to porn actor Jack Wrangler.

It's "bore" a resemblance, not "bored" a resemblance.

by Anonymousreply 264October 16, 2022 7:02 PM

I had only two attractive male teachers in high school. One I thoroughly despised, the other was really nice and a young coach who remained unmarried until his death a few years back. I suspect the latter might have been have-able once I was an adult, but by then I was crushing on fellow college students and out of contact.

by Anonymousreply 265October 16, 2022 7:48 PM

WHOSE had him?

Shocked that no-one has Oh, deared this!

by Anonymousreply 266October 16, 2022 7:55 PM

R263, legal is legal

Me? I'm much older but still not emotionally mature enough for something that doesn't include love.

Everyone's different.

Not legal? Stay far away. Legal? try not to hurt them.

by Anonymousreply 267October 16, 2022 7:59 PM

I had no dad so, I wanted those masculine teachers to adopt me or act like a big brother.

If the hottest one of them all had had sex with me it would have fucked me up forever.

by Anonymousreply 268October 16, 2022 8:01 PM

R268 Fucked you up forever how exactly? How can you speculate on the effects something like that would have had on you if you never experienced it.

I had sex with older men I looked up to when I was underage and loved it, and it didn't fuck me up at all.

by Anonymousreply 269October 16, 2022 8:05 PM

R269- How were you able to find these men?

I did not have sex with a guy until I was 23 years old.

by Anonymousreply 270October 16, 2022 8:07 PM

Tinder? Eye fucking men? Gay bars and clubs?

by Anonymousreply 271October 16, 2022 8:09 PM

I'm not the person you are replying but yes I do feel like 40+ adults should not be trying to get with 18 and 19 year olds r263.

it's not about the legality, it's about it being creepy as hell for a grown adult to chase after someone barely out of highschool. If one of my friends came around with someone that damn young we would never let them hear the end of it.

by Anonymousreply 272October 16, 2022 8:14 PM

R272 My experience with those people is that they don't take the teen to see their adult friends. When I was a kid at school I remember there being multiple creepy men who were dating my underage friends (mostly girls but not many gay boys were out then).

by Anonymousreply 273October 16, 2022 8:19 PM

Hot? Uhm, no. Just no! He looks like a victim of excessive dermabrasion or chemical peels.

by Anonymousreply 274October 16, 2022 8:39 PM

Lots of sex hating fraus on this thread.

by Anonymousreply 275October 16, 2022 8:57 PM

Ah yes, frau. The go to insult of STD addled gay whores of low intelligence. Yawn.

by Anonymousreply 276October 16, 2022 9:04 PM

Why are people saying the devious teens should face no consequences? That baffles me. they should be able to cause these incidents that are so terrible that someone goes to jail but there is no punishment? It’s illogical.

by Anonymousreply 277October 16, 2022 9:09 PM

Why are so many queens focusing on guy young enough to be their sons ? Sickos

by Anonymousreply 278October 16, 2022 9:11 PM

R278 Says the sicko that wants to service Elon Musk.

by Anonymousreply 279October 16, 2022 9:15 PM

r277, that's how it works legally.

by Anonymousreply 280October 16, 2022 9:19 PM

R279 not me honeybee

by Anonymousreply 281October 16, 2022 9:20 PM

R268 it would have fucked up his hot ass, forever! And his little hole, too.

by Anonymousreply 282October 16, 2022 9:22 PM

it would have fucked up his hot ass, forever! And his little hole, too. Reply meant for R269

by Anonymousreply 283October 16, 2022 9:23 PM

"Thats just fine cause he's good looking."

Datalounge.

by Anonymousreply 284October 16, 2022 9:24 PM

[quote] Why are people saying the devious teens should face no consequences? That baffles me. they should be able to cause these incidents that are so terrible that someone goes to jail but there is no punishment? It’s illogical.

People like you keep refusing to say what exactly these "consequences" should be. Reform school?

by Anonymousreply 285October 16, 2022 9:26 PM

R270 i found them starting in jr. high, when I discorde how to sneak into adult book/video stores near LAX/Inglewood. Later, in high school I discovered even more at the awesome porn shops (two of them) on PCH in Hermosa Beach.

Who needed thst tired story of your cousin making you do stuff, or furtive sex with some mixed-up jock or drama guy @ your hug school. I sent straight to the big time! And I had a blast doing it

by Anonymousreply 286October 16, 2022 9:28 PM

Deterrent is a better word. There needs to be a deterrent.

Kids get in trouble for fake ids and trying to buy booze and should also be held accountable for participating in these situations.

by Anonymousreply 287October 16, 2022 9:29 PM

^ auto correct is a bitch—my apologies for the cheap errors.

by Anonymousreply 288October 16, 2022 9:29 PM

The deterrent is expected to be rational action from the adult in this type of situation. Oh , maybe a well-educated chemist, or a Bhuddist, or a teacher!

by Anonymousreply 289October 16, 2022 9:32 PM

R271 If you looked up to these men, then you weren't finding them on Tinder or in gay bars...

by Anonymousreply 290October 16, 2022 9:34 PM

I bet the twink bottom isn’t good looking since he is obsessed with this teacher and wants to ruin him. I bet he only had youth going for him.

by Anonymousreply 291October 16, 2022 9:36 PM

I asked my cousin who's a cop about this today. I told him about this story and he said basically it doesn't matter when the minor told him he was sixteen. The point is he had sexual contact with a minor. He may not do much time, but he'll likely have to register for a sex offender. That depends on the prosecutor, his priors, etc.

I asked him more broadly about these kinds of laws and why there are no exceptions when it comes to stuff like this. He said, in his opinion, it's not just about criminalizing sex between two people who have vast age differences, it's about deterring sexual exploitation. He said very often this is how girls get involved in sex trafficking, pornography, and prostitution. They may come from broken homes, they meet a guy who is like a father figure to them, they build a sexual relationship, then he starts using her to make money. He said once these girls get into a lifestyle they're very loyal to their boyfriend/lover/Daddy/handler. Technicalities in the law make it easier to prosecute guys like this even if the girl doesn't want to cooperate.

by Anonymousreply 292October 16, 2022 9:42 PM

R286 Same here. I came of age in the early 2000s but almost every formative sexual experience I had was with a man at least ten years older than I was - I was extremely insecure about my lack of experience and there were ZERO out gays in my high school, so I wanted to have sex with guys who weren't ashamed of themselves and knew what they were doing.

by Anonymousreply 293October 16, 2022 9:44 PM

I was an extremely early bloomer when it comes to both masturbation and sex and was not harmed by it in any way. Glad to see the prudes aren't dominating this thread.

by Anonymousreply 294October 16, 2022 9:58 PM

[quote]It's not about the legality, it's about it being creepy as hell for a grown adult to chase after someone barely out of highschool. If one of my friends came around with someone that damn young we would never let them hear the end of it.

Seriously, maybe you should consider that you have some kind of issue in feeling so strongly about this, because I think it really depends on each individual situation. And one of the things is depends upon GREATLY is whether the older person is acting as a seducer or predator towards the younger person, which is really NOT the case in the situation we're discussing here, as the young person was looking for a hookup on an app for sexual hookups and then went ahead and had consensual sex with the teacher after it became clear that he was much older.

by Anonymousreply 295October 16, 2022 10:06 PM

We’re already low on qualified educators and this dumb teen had to lie and bait this guy for sex. He enjoyed it too until he got slut shamed by his friends. Then he decides to ruin the teacher’s life later via a college essay over a hookup while on vacation? Teacher is gullible but the teen is fucked up.

by Anonymousreply 296October 16, 2022 10:34 PM

Idiot. Lol. Why cut it that close? Like he couldn't imagine a kid on Grindr would lie about his age. He HAD to have the the youngest possible legal (or so he thought) hookup? He couldn't give himself some margin by hooking up with a 22-24 year old, where if they're lying at least they're still legal.

by Anonymousreply 297October 16, 2022 10:40 PM

What part of this aren't some of you getting? If someone is underage, it doesn't matter if they pursued the sexual encounter and wanted it. The 40 year old who fucked them is in a world of trouble if the encounter is discovered and charges are filed. The adult is supposed to know better. Ignorance of the law is not a defense. You teen sluts from the 70s and 80s, I'm glad you got all the dick you wanted, but the world is different now. Teen sluts have nothing to lose now.

by Anonymousreply 298October 16, 2022 11:50 PM

[quote]What part of this aren't some of you getting? If someone is underage, it doesn't matter if they pursued the sexual encounter and wanted it. The 40 year old who fucked them is in a world of trouble if the encounter is discovered and charges are filed.

I don't think there's a single person posting here who doesn't "get" this. All that some of us are saying is that it's ALSO very wrong for a minor to lie about his or her age and then go trolling for sex on a hookup app. Do you not "get" that?

by Anonymousreply 299October 17, 2022 12:32 AM

Yes, I get that. But getting it and thinking it matters are two different things. And it doesn't matter because no minor is ever going to be prosecuted for lying about their age to have sex with someone older. Our current culture and our laws are set up so that the underaged person is always going to be the victim.

by Anonymousreply 300October 17, 2022 12:41 AM

You sex obsessed fags are a shonda for the Christian wackos who despise you! Grow the hell up, stop obsessing about young dick! Act your age, stop justifying the irrational connection of pedophilia and homosexuality!

by Anonymousreply 301October 17, 2022 1:05 AM

R300 Legally speaking, you're right that a minor isn't going to be prosecuted for that. But we're free to say that's BS and not clutch our collective pearls at this particular incident given the specific details of the situation. We shouldn't be called pedophile defenders if we're pointing out there's clearly onus on the minor given they went out of their way to deceive someone. Save the "predator" label for someone who actually deserves it.

by Anonymousreply 302October 17, 2022 1:05 AM

"I don't think there's a single person posting here who doesn't "get" this. All that some of us are saying is that it's ALSO very wrong for a minor to lie about his or her age and then go trolling for sex on a hookup app. Do you not "get" that?"

Bottom line here is difference between being an adult or a child (minor).

Law long since has recognized youth make mistakes due to immaturity. Adults OTOH are largely held responsible for their actions.

by Anonymousreply 303October 17, 2022 1:06 AM

Maybe the lines drawn are crude and maybe the age of consent should be lowered (to 16?) but the alternative is opening the way to a ton of exploitation.

by Anonymousreply 304October 17, 2022 1:08 AM

[quote]But we're free to say that's BS and not clutch our collective pearls at this particular incident given the specific details of the situation. We shouldn't be called pedophile defenders if we're pointing out there's clearly onus on the minor given they went out of their way to deceive someone. Save the "predator" label for someone who actually deserves it.

I have never once called anyone a pedophile defender or predator on this thread or any other. But I am concerned that some of you might end up in jail or or on some kind of list because you're making bad choices on these apps.

by Anonymousreply 305October 17, 2022 1:16 AM

Who touched your no-no R301 ? Was it dad ? gramps? An uncle ? Did you like it then hate yourself for it ? Obviously you got some issues Gurl.

by Anonymousreply 306October 17, 2022 1:20 AM

I feel like many posters hit the nail on the head about the two types of gay teenagers with regards to sex. Those that know what they want, and those that don't. I've shared this before in another thread. but from middle school through high school, I wanted to have intimate relations with another males, but like most closeted kids, I had to sit and watch my classmates grow and experience affection, dates, hand holding, making out, and eventually sex for some of them. It hurt and frustrated me.

I had my first hookup at 16. Remember it and the guy well. I used Adam4Adam to get a decent looking college student to come to my place when my parents were out. Gave him a blowjob. Zero regrets, I can still remember how he smelled (like Old Spice) and that was over 14 years ago. I told him my real age afterwards. He freaked out then left. I messaged him again a few week's later and ended up at his less than clean garden apartment. He wanted to fuck me but it hurt so we just did oral again. I just loved the attention. When I asked for a third meet up played coy. I was so desperate, I went to his house to beg him in person (I know, cringy). He politely let me down and I never saw or bothered him again.

By 17, I had my drivers license and my own car. My parents traveled a lot so I was inviting guys over to my place or driving up to an hour for hookups. Remember two hookups that lead me to pitch black farms or doublewide deep in the country at like 1 or 2am. I remember praying that I wasn't going to get murdered cause it would destroy my parents, but I couldn't turn away from the offer of sex.

I would have killed for a guy like this who seems publicly non-threatening, fit, discrete, and hot.

As an adult, I must say that the teacher was crazy, stupid, and a creep. Remembering the teenage version of myself, I can say that I would called this kid an idiot for snitching. As an adult, I understand he had to do what he needed to do to clear his conscious.

There are at least 10-15 adults I hooked up with when I was 16 & 17. I guess I could have ruined all of their lives, but to what end? How would that make me feel better?

by Anonymousreply 307October 17, 2022 1:21 AM

R303 You're right but even that distinction is blurred in this situation. Sixteen is the legal age of consent in most states. I think it's more appropriate to say there's are some differences between a "child" and a "minor". We're not talking about a prepubescent child here; we're talking about a statutory minor.

R305 There are people who are saying even the slightest eye brow raised constitutes "defending" this guy. And I think most of us would prefer people at or around our age, so I do understand where people are saying that while this fifty year old man is very attractive, he probably should've kept it to 30-above.

I do think the law should catch up to the times, though I'll admit I'm not sure how that work.

R307 "Remembering the teenage version of myself, I can say that I would called this kid an idiot for snitching."

Oh man, I was thinking the same thing reading through this thread. In fact, I bet a bunch of his peers would call him a snitch too. That's the slightly ironic part about this. I bet a bunch of girls his age would say the teacher is a predator, but boys would say he's snitching if he was the one on Tinder looking for hook-ups.

by Anonymousreply 308October 17, 2022 1:27 AM

[quote]I do think the law should catch up to the times, though I'll admit I'm not sure how that work.

I think the apps should institute age verification. If the cam sites can do it, the apps can do it.

by Anonymousreply 309October 17, 2022 1:33 AM

Did any of you bother reading posted links?

Kid in question wrote about his experience in an essay (odd, but that's what young people do nowadays). People who read essay contacted parents who in turn began process that got a criminal complaint filed against teacher.

by Anonymousreply 310October 17, 2022 1:33 AM

I had a momentary slip of guilt when I WAS TOLD BY COUNSELORS that's how I was supposed to feel about the 18-year-old neighbor who had me lick his cock and put it in my mouth when I was 4 years younger. No regrets and no pussified hard feelings. I wanted it, he gave it to me.

by Anonymousreply 311October 17, 2022 1:34 AM

Yes, what he did wasn’t great to have to register as a sex offender because of it is ridiculous.

His life will be destroyed—blocked from coming anywhere near children for his job. His name will be on tons of websites. He can’t live near a school, daycare, etc,

There’s a strong possibility he could become homeless.

That penalty is ridiculous

by Anonymousreply 312October 17, 2022 1:38 AM

Doesn't he face jail time as well r312? I wouldn't want to be a gay man in prison, especially with a child porn wrap sheet.

by Anonymousreply 313October 17, 2022 1:39 AM

He will be deported!

by Anonymousreply 314October 17, 2022 1:43 AM

The Doesn't Matter Troll is tiresome as hell. Many factors matter in this story and this article is so poorly written that we don't know the specifics.

Where's the kids photo? His an adult now.

by Anonymousreply 315October 17, 2022 1:45 AM

Remember this story also covered on DL?

Link to follow...

by Anonymousreply 316October 17, 2022 1:50 AM

[post redacted because linking to dailymail.co.uk clearly indicates that the poster is either a troll or an idiot (probably both, honestly.) Our advice is that you just ignore this poster but whatever you do, don't click on any link to this putrid rag.]

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by Anonymousreply 317October 17, 2022 1:51 AM

R301 We know you are unfuckable, you stinky seacow!

by Anonymousreply 318October 17, 2022 1:52 AM

R312 Yep most of us that are calling this “teen” evil and vindictive are being called “pedo” by some stupid morons here. The teen sought out an older man for sex and lied to him. he then bragged about the sex. He is fucking insane.

by Anonymousreply 319October 17, 2022 1:56 AM

Jail is way to harsh for two consenting people. This is so ridiculous, putting people in jail for human nature. It’s cruel and unusual.

by Anonymousreply 320October 17, 2022 1:56 AM

13 year old me would have been in heaven, in heaven I tell you!!!! Some people really get to live your dreams.

In other news, my goodness he was sexting with a 13 year old?13!!!!! The fuck?

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by Anonymousreply 321October 17, 2022 1:57 AM

The juvenile delinquent did this on purpose to get attention and to feel the control of ruining another person’s life. For a teen that is the ultimate rush. To be more powerful than an adult in a situation. The stuff they dream of.

by Anonymousreply 322October 17, 2022 1:59 AM

Or r322, more than likely she told a friend, as one does, the friend told another friend who said something around an adult. The adult then takes action and the rest is history. Either way, let's not blame her. There is NO WAY you can mistake a 13 year old for an adult. He can play that game in France with their lowered age of consent, but not the US.

by Anonymousreply 323October 17, 2022 2:01 AM

I feel sorry for the poor guy. Gay men have a hard time getting into a good relationship. And sometimes they go for a sexual experience, at times with a very young male, out of desperation. May God help this teacher and help him escape the trouble he is in!

by Anonymousreply 324October 17, 2022 2:04 AM

At 12 I shot up to 6 ft,at 13 I was able to grow facial hair. At 14 I had a mustache and a hairy chest. No one ever guessed my real age . Thats why my happy ass was sitting in a gay bar at 14. I never felt exploited or preyed on,and I cant tell you the number of men I slept with. These fucking kids think all that shit because their mothers tell them they were victims . This lying little whore will get his one day,Karma is indeed a bitch.

by Anonymousreply 325October 17, 2022 2:05 AM

I know r324 is satire, cause everyone goes for younger men because they are damn hot. Teenager, are typically not that hot but 20-25 are some scorching hot years. 16,17,18, um no.

by Anonymousreply 326October 17, 2022 2:07 AM

R325 is such a liar. I would love to hear those discussions you were having in gay bars at 14. Try again.

by Anonymousreply 327October 17, 2022 2:10 AM

R327 at fourteen I was getting sucked through glory holes, and swallowing loads in return—in video booths. I was a quick study and I did my homework.

What’s so hard to imagine, or understand?

by Anonymousreply 328October 17, 2022 2:20 AM

These prissy cunts on here think everyone else has an Eiffel Tower-sized stick up their ass, like they do, R327, and can't believe everyone else's life isn't as empty and boring as theirs.

It's pathological.

by Anonymousreply 329October 17, 2022 2:24 AM

Anonymously getting sucked through a glory hole is not the same as hanging out in a gay bar.

by Anonymousreply 330October 17, 2022 2:35 AM

[quote] [R327] at fourteen I was getting sucked through glory holes, and swallowing loads in return—in video booths. I was a quick study and I did my homework.

You're a whore, darling! You were born that way. It is the foundation of your whole lack of decency, morality and propriety.

God bless you. You are a fallen soul. If I were your mother and had witnessed the seed of Satan blossoming in you as a fledging, I would have delivered you straight to Jesus Christ with my own two hands (and an extension cord).

by Anonymousreply 331October 17, 2022 2:38 AM

Colton Hayes said in his autobiography that he was getting his back door blasted by a state trooper at like 143 or 14. Then became a gogo-boy at 14, giving it up to patrons at the bar. Also spent a summer in NYC as a struggling underage model, make of that what you will.

So there are some teenagers getting it better than us adults. He didn't name names, so I guess he made piece with giving it up to anyone white that gave him attention.

by Anonymousreply 332October 17, 2022 2:40 AM

Who said it was anonymous?

Just so you know: in addition to being adept at the signals and gestures beforehand, I was also a very good conversationalist afterwards.

by Anonymousreply 333October 17, 2022 2:41 AM

R332 He didn’t “make piece,” he was the piece!

by Anonymousreply 334October 17, 2022 2:44 AM

The first sin was intercourse!

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by Anonymousreply 335October 17, 2022 2:45 AM

R332

That might have something to do with issues Colton Hayes had later in life with booze and drugs.

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by Anonymousreply 336October 17, 2022 2:48 AM

At least he didn’t try to ruin the cops life. I had sex with dozens and dozens of men from 16-18 and would never do that to them because I wanted it at the time. I loved every minute of it. Getting dick is a huge challenge at that age within your own cohort. It’s impossible unless you’re constantly exposed to large pools of new people. and I was appreciative when I could get it. It was the most exciting thing in the world.

by Anonymousreply 337October 17, 2022 2:50 AM

I was so horny when I was 16-21, and then it really plummeted. I no longer have the urge to go on dates or have hook ups. I used to have a little bit of a crush on half of the guys I would run into, and I no longer feel that way anymore. I had one two month long relationship in that period, but I prioritized schooling because I was anxious about finding my dream job. Yeah I really wish I was a slut and that I fucked a lot because it doesn't feel like all the stressing and attending every single class was worth it. I should've at least went to a single concert. But yeah I always hesitated going further than flirting with an older guy because I believed that I would immediately get PTSD if I fucked someone who was over 18. Oh well.

by Anonymousreply 338October 17, 2022 3:00 AM

Carlos Montero could barely scrape together $40k to post bail, he's going to need multiples of that sum for a good defence attorney.

Despite some of the noise many posters on DL are attaching to this case, courts are concerned with facts. Unless there is something undisclosed that will come out at trail, and or the kid decides to pull a Ricky Martin nephew (recant story/not cooperate), Carlos Montero will most certainly be found guilty.

From sending lewd images, plying teen with booze the optics of this just look really, really bad for Montero.

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by Anonymousreply 339October 17, 2022 3:32 AM

Some of the charges Montero are up on are serious felonies.

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by Anonymousreply 340October 17, 2022 3:35 AM

Carlos Montero. Sounds uncut.

by Anonymousreply 341October 17, 2022 3:37 AM

R339 That “article” doesn’t mention if the horny lying teen admitted his real age before or after the sex but it makes sure to call Mr. Montero a “pervert”

by Anonymousreply 342October 17, 2022 3:39 AM

The homophobic frau is back.

by Anonymousreply 343October 17, 2022 3:39 AM

Sexual assault..

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by Anonymousreply 344October 17, 2022 3:42 AM

Another "hot" Latino from Florida known to DL as Raphael Cedano also has caught a criminal sex abuse case.

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by Anonymousreply 345October 17, 2022 3:45 AM

R245 Those monsters shouldn’t be tied to Montero. Totally different circumstances.

by Anonymousreply 346October 17, 2022 3:47 AM

I guarantee it is r336. Most of my peers who became sexually active at young ages (like 11 - 14) have serious emotional issues; both the males and females. The straight ones are all single parents. One, on God, has 8 kids from 6 different women, was a stripper for a while, sold drugs, and is now an aspiring rapper.

But I was a prude because I was still a virgin at 14. That's a damn kid. I wasn't thinking about sex. I was trying to see how long it would take Goku to run on Snake Way to make it to King Kai. That went on for SEVERAL episodes. Who had time to think about sex with that going on??

by Anonymousreply 347October 17, 2022 4:05 AM

[quote]I was so horny when I was 16-21, and then it really plummeted. I no longer have the urge to go on dates or have hook ups.

But DL states your sexual peak, when you're the horniest and blow the biggest loads, is when your fifty but everyone tells you that you look 30!

by Anonymousreply 348October 17, 2022 4:17 AM

This guy was 50 but thought he could pass as a minor???. He would fit right in here.

by Anonymousreply 349October 17, 2022 4:25 AM

When I was 15 my best friend (who looked 25-- 6'1" muscles, facial hair etc--) would take a bus to the city, that had gay bars, and hook up with older men! He loved it!

This kid is a scorned lover (dumped by the teacher once he found out how old the kid was) and kid, who was hungry for any attention (hence, the essay) but it backfired on the teen!

(Even teen boys can be cunning and diabolical !)

by Anonymousreply 350October 17, 2022 4:37 AM

^ And my friend contracted HIV. Just fyi.

by Anonymousreply 351October 17, 2022 4:39 AM

This guys a fucked up and stupid. At 46 he has no business hooking up with anyone 18,19,20. Too young. Legality has nothing to do with it. It’s creepy. He knows it. He’ll pay the price now. Dumbass.

by Anonymousreply 352October 17, 2022 4:59 AM

I went through a phase where I was really into guys who were around college age and met a bunch of them on Grindr but I was only a few years out of that range at that point. . Some of it was fun but wouldn’t know what to do with a college aged guy now. It would be really weird and I’m not sure how one even connects with them.

They seem so distant now. Like a different species. But I can’t say that if a hot beefy 18 year old who looks like a grown man came into me that I would turn it down. Sometimes the dick has a mind of its own and takes over. You become irrational.

Especially if they are dangling their virgin hole in front of you. I mean the older presenting ones., the ones that look older and are fully men. But you got to show that ID. Better stay 21 and up to safe or better get 25 and up.

by Anonymousreply 353October 17, 2022 5:20 AM

Tell me more.

by Anonymousreply 354October 17, 2022 5:21 AM

Nobody deserves to go to jail for this crap. They want to make all gays look like predators just before an election. So they will probably throw the book at him.

We are all animals and subject to sexual mistakes. Maybe these people need treatment or punishment but not to be locked away in a cell for hooking up with a 16 year old. So crazy. If he raped him or forced him or threaten to hurt his academic career if the student didn’t put out is one thing but this kid was put on the prowl.

Somebody needs to teach them that regret is part of life, and if you decided later you didn’t like something that’s ok. That’s how you learn.

by Anonymousreply 355October 17, 2022 5:25 AM

My personal opinion is that it is different for girls and guys.

I know that sounds bad to some people but I think that girls are just different on the whole and you can’t go around banging teen girls but guys are different. Especially gay guys they just want the dick and know what they are doing by late teens.

by Anonymousreply 356October 17, 2022 5:29 AM

R352 Another unfuckable.

by Anonymousreply 357October 17, 2022 5:31 AM

R355 Sadly the world isn't ready for that conversation. Regret sucks, but that's why you have to think twice before you act, and as the saying goes, look before you leap. But as a society we want to be "sex positive" one minute and "puritanical" the next.

by Anonymousreply 358October 17, 2022 5:35 AM

R356 Ironically, even though these laws are largely meant to protect girls, girls develop and mature quicker than boys (physically and psychologically). People tend to equate physical strength and the fact that women tend to be more left-brained/emotional to overall maturation. But we have a tendency to infantilize women.

by Anonymousreply 359October 17, 2022 5:46 AM

You can be put away for life in prison in Florida over this according to the link upthread. A bit harsh, no? Smh.

by Anonymousreply 360October 17, 2022 5:54 AM

I think these boys could use good advice and learn some things. I would be happy to help them free of charge.

by Anonymousreply 361October 17, 2022 6:39 AM

OP here. I really just wanted to know if anyone had sex with Carlos. Anyone?

by Anonymousreply 362October 17, 2022 6:52 AM

He looks familiar. But that could be because he looks like that actor dude. But he does look young.

by Anonymousreply 363October 17, 2022 6:53 AM

R362 There are no teen boys here.

by Anonymousreply 364October 17, 2022 6:54 AM

So we are only hearing the kids side of the story where he admits he is a liar?

Hope the guy gets a good attorney. I bet half the essay is probably lies. If not the entire thing.

by Anonymousreply 365October 17, 2022 6:55 AM

He's in Fl so hes fucked. If that lying little cunt had been a girl,we may not have even heard about it. They are going to fry his ass because he's gay.No other reason.You think they give a shit about that twink ? Not in the least ,but they are happy to have a faggot to stick it to.

by Anonymousreply 366October 17, 2022 6:57 AM

Out the twink, gay men in connecticut need to be warned about that loon.

by Anonymousreply 367October 17, 2022 7:05 AM

Post the twink's photo. He's an adult now so no problem. Dailymail, do your thing.

by Anonymousreply 368October 17, 2022 4:00 PM

Ah, R368, but he's considered a VICTIM!!!!!! even though he lied about his age to go on a sex hookup app, and then consensually agreed to have sex with the teacher even after finding out the teacher's actual age.

by Anonymousreply 369October 17, 2022 4:49 PM

Getting a reaction out of students

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by Anonymousreply 370October 17, 2022 5:58 PM

R369 what you mean to say is, the grown man decided to have sex with the teenager even after the teenager admitted he wasn't a legal adult. And the grow man originally lied to the teenager about his age, in order to get close to said teenager. Then told teenager to keep quiet because it could ruin his career....nope , nothing predatory about that at all.

by Anonymousreply 371October 17, 2022 7:21 PM

r371 You need to read the article. You are alleging things that we don't know. We don't know the timeline!

by Anonymousreply 372October 17, 2022 7:42 PM

You're right, we don't know R372. Which is why this article should not have been linked and frankly, these cases should not be public until the trial, if a trial occurs.

by Anonymousreply 373October 17, 2022 7:45 PM

But also R372, R369 is alright things we don't know. Such as the kid finding out the teacher's real age.

by Anonymousreply 374October 17, 2022 7:49 PM

Alleging ^^

by Anonymousreply 375October 17, 2022 7:49 PM

Sixteen should the age of consent, thats what most of Europe has, except Germany and Italy at 14.

by Anonymousreply 376October 17, 2022 7:50 PM

Why should it be 16 though. Other than adults wanting to fuck minors, there is no legitimate reason for it. It's ridiculous to have a drinking age of 18 but a sexual consent age of 16 or lower.

by Anonymousreply 377October 17, 2022 7:52 PM

[quote]What you mean to say is, the grown man decided to have sex with the teenager even after the teenager admitted he wasn't a legal adult. And the grow man originally lied to the teenager about his age, in order to get close to said teenager. Then told teenager to keep quiet because it could ruin his career....nope , nothing predatory about that at all.

NO ONE said that, least of all me. You seem to be one of those mentally challenged individuals who, for some reason, can't understand what anyone with a functioning brain should be able to understand: namely, that the behavior of BOTH the adult and the teenager in this case was very wrong, and pointing out the that teenager's behavior was reckless and dangerous IN NO WAY exonerates the teacher.

Why is it that, in cases like this, some people insist on believing that the behavior of one party HAS to be judged as horrendous while the other party has to be considered completely free of all wrongdoing? What a childish, simplistic way of looking at things.

by Anonymousreply 378October 17, 2022 8:20 PM

R374, I'm not "alleging" anything I don't know. Obviously, the teenager found out the teacher's real age, or could at least figure it out roughly, when he met him and before they both had consensual sex. What part of that do you not understand?

And NO, that does NOT mean it was okay for the teacher to lie about his age initially, if in fact he did that. But I could never understand the point of someone lying and saying they're much younger or older than they obviously are (or lying about their looks, or their weight, or whatever) if they're actually planning to meet up with a person, who will then immediately see they were lying. Can anyone explain that to me?

by Anonymousreply 379October 17, 2022 8:26 PM

R378 it's the accurate way of looking at it. I do believe the kid should be punished for lying about his age, just like kids should be punished for lying about their age to drink or drive. But the teacher is still guilty just as guilty if all of this is true. The teacher will not be innocent of being a predator even if the kid gets punished.

by Anonymousreply 380October 17, 2022 8:27 PM

r377 The only legitimate reason I can think of is because 16 and 18 year olds are still in high school at the same time and dating. If the age of consent is 18 across the board, you'd have a lot of high school seniors risking their college futures because they ended up on a sex offender registry for statutory rape because they had sex with their minor bf/gf (who is in the 10th or 11th grade) their senior year of high school after prom.

Obviously, adults in their 20s, 30s, 40s on up have no business messing with teens anyway, but I can see how it could be more of a problem for actual high schoolers who are sexually active with their classmates/peers. When I was in high school, I know of 4 athletes (2 seniors 1 junior, 1 sophmore) who ended up in a rape case trial because they ran a train on this 9th grade cheerleader (she was my classmate). She was 14. Their ages ranged from 16 - 18. Everyone knew that girl did that willingly and purposely went over to one of the guys' house to let them do that because she later told one of the guys' girlfriends that she fucked him to get under the girls' skin. That's how it escalated, got back to her mom, who was basically embarrassed her daughter was, by all accounts, a hoe, and then she went to the police. Eventually, the girl then changed her story and said they raped her. All of them were convicted of statutory rape and had to register as sex offenders before they even graduated.

Needless to say, the entire school hated that girl so much she had to change schools because we all knew she was lying. I'm the first one to advocate for victims, but that situation was some bullshit. So, long story short, age of consent laws are really meant to take into consideration that 18 year olds and 16 year olds are more likely to have sexual encounters because they're classmates and peers.

by Anonymousreply 381October 17, 2022 8:27 PM

The point of lying about his age was to get close a gullible kid so he could have sex with him.

by Anonymousreply 382October 17, 2022 8:27 PM

You can't rape the willing. Especially if they are the instigator.

by Anonymousreply 383October 17, 2022 8:27 PM

So if an 11 year old consents then it's not rape? I know kids who hit puberty at that age and younger.

by Anonymousreply 384October 17, 2022 8:29 PM

R381 that what Romeo and Juliet laws are for. Because the adult is close in age to the teenager. It's a misnomer because Romeo and Juliet were the same age but whatever, then law exists for that reason.

by Anonymousreply 385October 17, 2022 8:30 PM

[quote][R381] that what Romeo and Juliet laws are for.

Which not all states have.

by Anonymousreply 386October 17, 2022 8:35 PM

R384 - if one of the two consenting parties (aka the instigator) looks like he's 18+ and knowingly falsifies his information to engage sex from someone of age, then yes.

Someone who clearly looks/acts like an underage child by any reasonable standard is an entirely different situation altogether.

by Anonymousreply 387October 17, 2022 8:36 PM

To keep it simple:

1. What the hawt Daddy did is against the law, regardless of what the young man may have stated online. There is no defense available for “but, he lied.” 2. Assuming the young man intentionally went for it (and lied one or more times to get it) is not relevant, much less is it a crime.

Our legal system, in this type of case, puts the entire burden on the adult not the younger person. End of story.

by Anonymousreply 388October 17, 2022 8:37 PM

That's not true. If the man had all reason to believe, during the entire duration of the sexual relationship, that the kid was 18, then he did nothing wrong. I dont believe its the case, but if it was , then he's innocent.

by Anonymousreply 389October 17, 2022 8:40 PM

It's not the end of story if HE BELIEVED THE KID WAS 18.

And the Court will weigh all these matters.

by Anonymousreply 390October 17, 2022 8:41 PM

[quote]Obviously, adults in their 20s, 30s, 40s on up have no business messing with teens anyway,

Why "obviously?" Do you really think a 22 year-old has no business having sex with an 18-year-old, or even a 17-year-old? I think we all agree the line has to be drawn somewhere, but the problem is there are always going to be a lot of situations that fall into the gray area.

by Anonymousreply 391October 17, 2022 8:42 PM

This ain't no gray area. Guy was in his 40s. He was also a teacher of high school students. I think we all know this isn't the first minor he fucked, this is just the first time he got caught.

by Anonymousreply 392October 17, 2022 8:44 PM

[quote]It's the accurate way of looking at it. I do believe the kid should be punished for lying about his age, just like kids should be punished for lying about their age to drink or drive. But the teacher is still guilty just as guilty if all of this is true. The teacher will not be innocent of being a predator even if the kid gets punished.

That's EXACTLY what I meant, and I certainly hope you didn't misunderstand me.

by Anonymousreply 393October 17, 2022 8:45 PM

[quote]This ain't no gray area.

Of course it isn't, and nobody said it was. I was referring to a hypothetical sexual relationship between a 17- or 18-year-old and a 22-year-old. I didn't even both to mention the example of a 19-year-old -- still a teenager -- having sex with a 22-year-old, because I assume that even the most reactionary, self-righteous alarmist wouldn't have the nerve to say there's anything inherently wrong about such a relationship.

by Anonymousreply 394October 17, 2022 8:55 PM

[quote]Sixteen should the age of consent, thats what most of Europe has, except Germany and Italy at 14.

I have never thought of myself as a prude, but for the very life of me, I just don't understand what a 16 year old could offer any adult over the age of 25. Have you seen a 16 year old? Have you talked to a 16 year old? And you 1970s and 80s teen whores going to truck stops, don't tell me how you were different -- you were horny little sluts and old men exploited you.

by Anonymousreply 395October 17, 2022 8:57 PM

R390 as a matter of law, you are mistaken.

by Anonymousreply 396October 17, 2022 9:07 PM

[quote]If the man had all reason to believe, during the entire duration of the sexual relationship, that the kid was 18, then he did nothing wrong. I dont believe its the case, but if it was , then he's innocent.

Pity the law doesn't agree with you.

by Anonymousreply 397October 17, 2022 9:45 PM

The law is stupid if, by all accounts, the man did not know the kid was a kid.

by Anonymousreply 398October 17, 2022 9:48 PM

R395, please see R355. Whores! Sluts! How dare you have consensual sex from an adult! How dare you!

by Anonymousreply 399October 17, 2022 10:31 PM

^ Whoops I meant see R335.

by Anonymousreply 400October 17, 2022 10:32 PM

[quote]I have never thought of myself as a prude, but for the very life of me, I just don't understand what a 16 year old could offer any adult over the age of 25. Have you seen a 16 year old? Have you talked to a 16 year old?

The fact that the 16-year-olds you know, and perhaps you yourself, are or were incredibly immature and/or had very bad judgment at that age doesn't mean that applies to ALL 16-year-olds. And I am sure there are lots of people in their early 20s, and even older, who are actually less mature than some 16-year-olds. Probably you, for example. So your gross generalization is worthless and pointless, but thanks for contributing :-)

by Anonymousreply 401October 17, 2022 10:38 PM

Man, the people who are trying to die on the hill that there is nothing weird about with 46 year olds trying to get with teenagers don't realize how creepy that sound.

by Anonymousreply 402October 17, 2022 10:39 PM

You serve or buy booze for a 16-year-old who says he's 21 and presents an ID to "prove" it, you're still the one in trouble.

by Anonymousreply 403October 17, 2022 10:39 PM

R401 ah yes, the old "they're mature for their age!" Always pathetic, always obvious.

by Anonymousreply 404October 17, 2022 10:41 PM

Do he doo lady architect?

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by Anonymousreply 405October 17, 2022 10:42 PM

[quote]Man, the people who are trying to die on the hill that there is nothing weird about with 46 year olds trying to get with teenagers don't realize how creepy that sound.

Please point out one or more specific responses that have said that. If you can't, shut the fuck up and learn to read.

[quote]Ah yes, the old "they're mature for their age!" Always pathetic, always obvious.

So then, you don't believe that some 16-year-olds are more mature than some people in their 20s or even older? Because that's all I wrote, in response to someone's idiotic post that all 16-year-olds are immature. I DID NOT write that therefore I think it's okay for adults to have sex with minors, but I'm sure you think that's what I wrote, because you're delusional and/or simply can't read, like the cretin I responded to above.

by Anonymousreply 406October 17, 2022 10:46 PM

SIZE MEAT VERIFICATIA for the two parties, please.

by Anonymousreply 407October 17, 2022 10:54 PM

Sweetie R406, it's painfully obvious what you think. Give it up.

by Anonymousreply 408October 17, 2022 10:56 PM

Even in states where the age of consent is 16, there are typically prohibitions against persons of authority (like teachers) having sex with minors under duty of care standards. Plus there's the alleged alcohol factor.

by Anonymousreply 409October 17, 2022 10:57 PM

[quote]The fact that the 16-year-olds you know, and perhaps you yourself, are or were incredibly immature and/or had very bad judgment at that age doesn't mean that applies to ALL 16-year-olds.

The very act of a 16 year old pursuing adults for sex is an example of having poor judgment which is why it's up to the adults to discourage the behavior, not indulge it.

Tf even is this argument?

by Anonymousreply 410October 17, 2022 11:01 PM

He likely has a disappointingly small dick. He won’t be using it in jail though!

by Anonymousreply 411October 18, 2022 12:38 AM

Spoke too soon about the prudes showing up.

by Anonymousreply 412October 18, 2022 12:55 AM

How the mighty have fallen...

If convicted will Carlos Montero have to give back that medal?

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by Anonymousreply 413October 18, 2022 2:24 AM

For those otherwise unaware South Florida, in particular Doral has a huge number of Venezuelans. Many recent "migrants" or whatever.

Thus not surprising Carlos Montero is from the area.

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by Anonymousreply 414October 18, 2022 2:26 AM

More...

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by Anonymousreply 415October 18, 2022 2:27 AM

“ I was an extremely early bloomer when it comes to both masturbation and sex and was not harmed by it in any way. Glad to see the prudes aren't dominating this thread.”

- Michel Foucault, posting from Hell

by Anonymousreply 416October 18, 2022 2:41 AM

Because things were so much different back in day when many on DL were "at school"

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by Anonymousreply 417October 18, 2022 2:55 AM

The people on this thread quoting that a male’s sexual peak is age 17 have no earthly clue what the fuck they are talking about.

None.

And if any of you believe that your 17 yo self had greater sexual prowess than some version of your older self you need a therapist, stat.

by Anonymousreply 418October 18, 2022 3:59 AM

[Quote]According to the groundbreaking books, Sexual Behavior in the Human Male and Sexual Behavior in the Human Female, researcher Alfred Kinsey posited that men and women have sexual peaks at different phases of life. His research suggests that women reach their sexual peak in their 30s whereas men peak in their late teens.

by Anonymousreply 419October 18, 2022 4:05 AM

[quote]Sweetie [R406], it's painfully obvious what you think. Give it up.

No. You're not a mind reader, you're just an asshole.

by Anonymousreply 420October 18, 2022 4:27 AM

[quote]The very act of a 16 year old pursuing adults for sex is an example of having poor judgment which is why it's up to the adults to discourage the behavior, not indulge it.

But I wasn't referring to 16-year-olds who pursue adults for sex. Incredible how many people in this thread not only can't understand what they read, but apparently are somehow reading comments that no one posted.

by Anonymousreply 421October 18, 2022 4:29 AM

[quote]The people on this thread quoting that a male’s sexual peak is age 17 have no earthly clue what the fuck they are talking about.

I posted that, and I clearly remember reading it many years ago. I don't remember where, but this may be a clue, so thanks, R419:

[quote]According to the groundbreaking books, Sexual Behavior in the Human Male and Sexual Behavior in the Human Female, researcher Alfred Kinsey posited that men and women have sexual peaks at different phases of life. His research suggests that women reach their sexual peak in their 30s whereas men peak in their late teens.

I think "sexual peak" may be a reference to fertility, in case that makes any more sense to you, R418. But I really don't care what you believe, so piss off.

by Anonymousreply 422October 18, 2022 4:37 AM

[quote]But I wasn't referring to 16-year-olds who pursue adults for sex.

Then why the blazes would you even bring up "the maturity of some 16 year olds" in a thread where the main topic being focused upon is the case of a 16 year old who pursued an adult for sex? Do you not know how discussions work?

by Anonymousreply 423October 18, 2022 4:41 AM

[quote]Then why the blazes would you even bring up "the maturity of some 16 year olds" in a thread where the main topic being focused upon is the case of a 16 year old who pursued an adult for sex? Do you not know how discussions work?

Because I was responding SPECIFICALLY to someone who posted that all 16-year-olds are immature. I am allowed to comment on specific statements in this thread, and of course, not every statement is a direct comment on the OP topic. Do YOU not know how discussions work?

by Anonymousreply 424October 18, 2022 4:48 AM

R424, take your Geritol and GO TO BED. 🖕🤦‍♂️

by Anonymousreply 425October 18, 2022 4:49 AM

[quote]Because I was responding SPECIFICALLY to someone who posted that all 16-year-olds are immature.

[italic]NOTE: The topic is about the inappropriateness of an adult having sex with a 16 year old and the many reasons why it is inappropriate. One such reason is their lack of maturity.[/italic]

Sir...

by Anonymousreply 426October 18, 2022 4:57 AM

[quote] Too bad this guy was incredibly stupid to fuck a 16 yo. He is hot af. Was a crossfit instructor too.

R10 I bet it was a hot fuck, a cross fit alpha top. You just know that guy knew how to pound a hole.

by Anonymousreply 427October 18, 2022 5:06 AM

I can't believe someone actually thinks a 16 year old is mature. You need help.

by Anonymousreply 428October 18, 2022 5:08 AM

Summer AP Chem prep package...

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by Anonymousreply 429October 18, 2022 6:20 AM

^sexy stuff…he’s the real Chemsex

by Anonymousreply 430October 18, 2022 11:43 AM

He can teach his fellow inmates how to generate a chemical reaction within a novelty-sized volcano.

That can be his punishment.

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by Anonymousreply 431October 18, 2022 12:10 PM

I know we won't get to see photos of this manipulative little shit BUT I imagine that he looks EVERY BIT of his sixteen years.

by Anonymousreply 432October 18, 2022 1:19 PM

I’m going to start off by saying it’s weird for a 40-something to have any sexual interest in a teenager. However, do I think he deserves to have his life ruined over this? No.

The kid pursued Montero. The kid wanted it. I don’t think Montero is a predator and I don’t think he poses a danger to society. I also don’t think he hurt that kid. At all.

Montero’s hotness actually does play a role in this. The kid wanted to have sex with him because Montero is good looking… and the kid got it. Notice he didn’t go after an ugly fatty. What harm was actually done?

This is similar to people with mental illness or cognitive deficiencies having sexual relationships. Should it be illegal to have sex with someone with Down syndrome? I used to think it should be, but after thinking about it, is that fair? If someone has sexual desires isn’t it paternalistic for us to say they’re not able to make choices for themselves? There’s a difference between taking advantage of someone and having a sexual relationship with them. I don’t know the answer.

by Anonymousreply 433October 18, 2022 3:17 PM

[quote]I can't believe someone actually thinks a 16 year old is mature. You need help.

I can't believe you actually think NO 16-year-olds are more mature, in terms of good judgment and intelligence, than some older people. The very fact that this is how you feel strongly indicates that you are a perfect example of an older person who has not reached maturity in those respects. YOU need help, and you also need to shut up.

by Anonymousreply 434October 18, 2022 3:19 PM

R434 "dates" 16-year-olds.

by Anonymousreply 435October 18, 2022 5:49 PM

I don't date 16-year-olds, R435, but I strongly suspect that you date NOBODY.

by Anonymousreply 436October 18, 2022 7:00 PM

What famous people are 16? We need a reference here.

by Anonymousreply 437October 18, 2022 7:23 PM

Bieber (when he was 16)?

by Anonymousreply 438October 18, 2022 7:24 PM

I think the point some people are missing in regards to putting responsibility on the teen is that by putting it on the teen, you also put it on his parents. In this particular scenario it’s more egregious that the teens parents didn’t realize what he was doing than this teacher hooking up with someone much younger than him. I understand why and how the law works but we can call a spade a spade and acknowledge this kid knew full well what he was doing.

by Anonymousreply 439October 18, 2022 8:32 PM

So...when's the trial?

by Anonymousreply 440October 18, 2022 9:44 PM

I will have to see the face of the 16 year old. If he can pass as an adult, this isn't the mans fault. He was on tinder pretending to be an adult to begin with.

by Anonymousreply 441November 25, 2024 2:53 PM

[quote] The teen told police he identified himself as an 18-year-old on Tinder, but he “definitely” told Montero later that he was a minor.

That kid is a fucking CUNT.

He should face penalties too.

by Anonymousreply 442November 25, 2024 3:06 PM

[quote] Montero is facing charges of sexual assault on a minor, obscene communication use of a computer to seduce or solicit or lure a child, buying or selling minor information for sex purposes, and traveling to meet after using a computer to lure a child

Bullshit.

Bullshit.

More bullshit.

by Anonymousreply 443November 25, 2024 3:08 PM

The boy has a bright future as a Grade A hustler.

Also? When hooking up with a young adult? Demand to see ID, and take a picture of it, before hooking up. If there’s any doubt? Don’t do it. Your gut gives you information for a reason, & your gut is almost never wrong.

by Anonymousreply 444November 25, 2024 3:18 PM

Mr. Teacher looks like a bottom.

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by Anonymousreply 445November 25, 2024 3:20 PM

It's still weird for a 40-something to want to meet up with an 18 year old (assuming that's the age the student originally told him he was). He's old enough to be the student's dad.

I believe the student when he says the teacher knew his real age. I wouldn't be surprised if he questioned the student's age when they met up (after all, it's harder to tell on photos), but by that point perhaps the teacher was willing to ignore it.

I don't get people defending Montero. Even if he wanted to fuck younger guys, couldn't he have gone for men in their mid to late 20s? He was in his 40s.

by Anonymousreply 446November 25, 2024 4:16 PM

[quote] I believe the student when he says the teacher knew his real age.

It doesn't change the fact that this lying whore went on Tinder and LIED about his age, knowing that all the guys on Tinder are 18 years and older.

Which means that by default, anyone he met would be breaking the law.

And he KNOWINGLY put them in that position.

Then to make it worse, he wrote a fucking college essay about it, either for attention or notoriety, or whatever.

He's a fucking CUNT, and I wish this asshole the worst.

by Anonymousreply 447November 25, 2024 4:23 PM

It’s either Tinder at fault for not having proper safe guards. Are you at least 18 is not a safeguard. Or it’s the adults fault. Or it’s both their faults.

And if I were the chicken hawk id be suing tender. Or next time I’d be asking to see an ID.

A 16 yo wants to buy booze in my area they will be carded. Fucking 18 year olds and not worrying after—-confirm they are 18 before you fuck them.

by Anonymousreply 448November 25, 2024 4:33 PM

[quote]I will have to see the face of the 16 year old. If he can pass as an adult, this isn't the mans fault. He was on tinder pretending to be an adult to begin with.

If you have a taste for chicken, it's incumbent upon you to do your own due diligence. Relying on an app to do it for you is the height of idiocy.

by Anonymousreply 449November 25, 2024 5:29 PM

[quote] It's still weird for a 40-something to want to meet up with an 18 year old (assuming that's the age the student originally told him he was). He's old enough to be the student's dad.

Welcome to Daddy Culture. It's everywhere now.

by Anonymousreply 450November 25, 2024 5:56 PM

r441 You bumped this old thread to add just that stupid comment

by Anonymousreply 451November 25, 2024 5:59 PM

R451 insightful comment

by Anonymousreply 452November 25, 2024 6:25 PM

This is so borderline that it shouldnt be in the same category as someone going after a child. I feel sorry for the guy. It must be awful liking younger guys...he cant help his urges..but acting upon it is when its wrong..and he went for a guy who was legal...Hewas lied to. It just feels so odd. The young guy is really overly throwing him under the bus.

by Anonymousreply 453November 25, 2024 8:45 PM

Cesspool Florida

by Anonymousreply 454November 25, 2024 8:58 PM

Trusting your life and career to an “alleged” 18 yo on tinder you don’t know.

by Anonymousreply 455November 25, 2024 8:59 PM

"Diddling" is the wrong word.

He wasn't molesting the neighbor's kid.

He met up with a lying sack of shit who claimed to be 18 (on an ADULT website) for a hook up.

That's not a diddler.

The guy was duped by a scammer.

The teen should be charged for fraud.

by Anonymousreply 456November 25, 2024 9:08 PM

R456 is no doubt a criminal attorney

by Anonymousreply 457November 25, 2024 9:11 PM

At those rare times someone under 30 shows interest in me, I offer him homemade soup, discuss his life and thinking with him, and send him home with a couple of books.

by Anonymousreply 458November 25, 2024 9:29 PM

Meh... I stopped when I saw the words "Fort Lauderdale" and "Tinder".....

by Anonymousreply 459November 25, 2024 9:55 PM

Recently my friend's brother-in-law got arrested for fucking a 14 year-old. When the judge got the full story on the kid, he threw out ALL of the charges and told the kid 'you do this again and it's going to be you here on charges'. So it will be interesting to see how all of this plays out over time. I make no judgements on this case or any other, just relating how something similar played out.

by Anonymousreply 460November 25, 2024 10:06 PM

The teacher wasn't entirely in the right - but I'm sick and tired of Americans thinking that kids who are 16 and 17 years old aren't fully aware of what they're doing or incapable of making rational choices.

He pursued the teacher - flew down from CT to meet him. He was not groomed. He didn't claim any sexual assault.

Then the asshole writes a college essay about it?

God knows I was out at gay bars and meeting men when I was 16 and 17 - I knew what I wanted. I wasn't abused or taken advantage of.

by Anonymousreply 461November 25, 2024 10:13 PM

When is a much older 40+ yo teacher entirely right when fucking an underage illegal boy? Especially a fucking teacher who should have been careful enough to demeaned proof of age. Teachers know kids make up shit all the time,

A chicken hawk high school teacher what could go wrong ?

Getting caught

by Anonymousreply 462November 26, 2024 7:30 AM

R433 a 40+ year old gay teacher with a taste for young boys . What does he say when arrested

“It was the first time . I never did anything like this before”

Does anyone on DL actually think this was likely the first time? He is a grown man that likes them young and he got caught this time,

Risk vs Reward sometimes you lose,

by Anonymousreply 463November 26, 2024 8:25 AM

[quote]Does anyone on DL actually think this was likely the first time?

If you know that it wasn’t then it would be swell if you’d corroborate.

by Anonymousreply 464November 26, 2024 8:34 AM

R464 Common sense and knowing a,little about human sexuality

What are the chances a gay teacher who is a chicken hawk and likes his boys very young would wait until they are in their 40s to try for the first time ?

The common response when arrested or caught by a SO for cheating

“It was the first time—-honest”

It almost never ever is

He knew the kid was underage and told him not to say anything because he would get in trouble. And some think the over 40 yo teacher was a victim.

by Anonymousreply 465November 26, 2024 8:53 AM

Total Wine has a great selection and prices there may be a store near you. If so even if you are a 81 yo bring your ID

“We check ID on everyone”

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by Anonymousreply 466November 26, 2024 10:00 AM

I would have loved to have been wanted by a hot 40 year old teacher when I was a 16 year old. And I would have kept my mouth shut, considered myself very lucky and hardly would have been tortured by guilt.

But this 40 year old was very very stupid and has ruined his life and sadly deserves what's coming to him. You never know what you're getting with a 16 year old.

by Anonymousreply 467November 26, 2024 10:21 AM

Just don’t do it.

by Anonymousreply 468November 26, 2024 12:54 PM

Your friend must have been very white, tall and rich R460.

by Anonymousreply 469November 26, 2024 4:33 PM

There are states where a grown man fucking a 14 yo might get off. The sleazy 14 yo was asking for it defense.

R460 friend is a child fucker. Not a chicken hawk but at 14 yo fucking an actual child.

That fucker should be in jail. The judge should be out of a job.

Jury , I say to you, that the 14 yo in question was a slut. My very adult client is the victim here.

by Anonymousreply 470November 26, 2024 4:41 PM

At these times, it feels fucking fantastic to be ugly with a low sex drive. I appreciate the schadenfraude of hot people experiencing negative consequences from sex that no one would’ve ever propositioned me for. I am being childish, but I am also not in legal trouble lol

by Anonymousreply 471November 26, 2024 6:27 PM

I forgot how disturbing many of the replies in this thread were. Really sucks to be reminded of them with it being bumped.

by Anonymousreply 472November 26, 2024 6:29 PM

There's a lot of hysteria on here.

The teacher should have used better judgement.

The younger guy should not have set him up - for better or worse - and should face some consequences, as well.

Student's parents found out - from the stupid essay - which we have not read and which could have been extolling the many benefits and comfort of sex with an older man, for all we know - and student had to cover his ass so threw the teacher under the bus.

The student could have refused to say a word, and if he hadn't said a word, the state wouldn't have had a case.

I think it's a draw as to who's the perpetrator and who's the victim.

Side A here is not going to convince Side B here and vice versa.

It's been going on since Roman times. And reading history, it never seemed to be a problem until Christianity reared its ugly head. So there's that.

by Anonymousreply 473November 28, 2024 2:39 PM

No one should be jailed for this—that’s the bottom line

by Anonymousreply 474November 28, 2024 2:42 PM

He was the adult putting his dick into something he knew was underage and illegal. He broke the law, he needs to pay the price.

Yes, 18 is just a number in a lot of cases, but you have to draw a line somewhere. The man was older and in a position of trust. The legal assumption has to "err" on the side of protecting the kid and deterring the adult.

It doesn't matter if the kid threw himself on the guy's dick - the adult has the responsibility.

by Anonymousreply 475November 28, 2024 2:47 PM

R473 the 47 yo adult man was clearly the victim despite the fact that he was far to stupid to check on the age of the 16 yo, who claimed he was 18 at least for a while, but was not legal before fucking him.,

It’s the 16 yo who was at fault.

Although my advice to the poor 47 yo male teacher , next time try for sex with a gay man. Not a confused child who might be confused conflicted and feel guilty and remorse after you fucked him..

That teacher was one stupid fucker. He documented everything.

by Anonymousreply 476November 28, 2024 2:50 PM

[Quote] He was the adult putting his dick into something he knew was underage and illegal. He broke the law, he needs to pay the price.

Far more complicated than just that. Prison helps no one

by Anonymousreply 477November 28, 2024 3:04 PM

R477 The law isn't about him, it's about stopping the next 10 guys who think about how good that underage ass might feel. And, yes, that's a benefit that can't be detected unless we run the "experiment" of removing the minimum age and seeing what happens - no thanks.

by Anonymousreply 478November 28, 2024 3:07 PM

And for that matter, R478, how are we stopping the next ten young guys that lie about their age on an app so that they can have sex with older men?

by Anonymousreply 479November 28, 2024 3:14 PM

R479 That's on the parents.

by Anonymousreply 480November 28, 2024 3:27 PM

Gotta wait until they can sign a consent form - duh!

by Anonymousreply 481November 28, 2024 3:32 PM

R479 that app that allows 12 and 14 and 16 yo to sign up and then hook up with adults 20 and 30 years older than them is the one that has a responsibility to act..

Those apps if they can’t police themselves they are now at great risk of being shut down.

by Anonymousreply 482November 28, 2024 3:46 PM

It’s like your local booze store that does not check ID and sells booze to a 16 yo. It’s not the parents that gets shut down and in some cases looses their license it’s the store.

As it should be

Age verification for all adult sex forums is on its way

by Anonymousreply 483November 28, 2024 3:53 PM

[Quote] That's on the parents.

No realistic

by Anonymousreply 484November 28, 2024 3:57 PM

^not

by Anonymousreply 485November 28, 2024 3:57 PM

R485 do you think we were too stupid to not get it without a correction? Most of us at DL would have understood the first time.

by Anonymousreply 486November 28, 2024 3:59 PM

Age verification with a picture ID. That is going to change hook up culture.

by Anonymousreply 487November 28, 2024 4:02 PM

R48, that’s what republicans are demanding for porn

by Anonymousreply 488November 28, 2024 4:05 PM

[Quote] do you think we were too stupid to not get it without a correction? Most of us at DL would have understood the first time.

You sound like you’re one of the stupid people on DL

by Anonymousreply 489November 28, 2024 4:05 PM

Not me I understood very well what was said before the stupid fucking correction.

by Anonymousreply 490November 28, 2024 4:14 PM

No shortage of assholes on DL who have nothing better to say that to troll on someone's typo.

by Anonymousreply 491November 28, 2024 4:49 PM

Lucky student!

by Anonymousreply 492November 28, 2024 5:04 PM

Don't poke the bear, R492.

by Anonymousreply 493November 28, 2024 5:05 PM

R488 Protect the Underage

Age verification.

And its going to be hard to argue that porn needs to be protected from proper age ID of its adult members.

by Anonymousreply 494November 28, 2024 5:09 PM

I'm not sure that Republican's, the closet porn fanatics, are going to be okay with proof of age documentation. Not for THEM, anyway, if there is a way around it.

by Anonymousreply 495November 28, 2024 5:25 PM

Kids are far smarter about VPN than the people making the rules

by Anonymousreply 496November 28, 2024 6:23 PM

The rules are aimed at the app company. And smart kids or not requiring photo ID will mean no doubt a major shake up of that business model.

Since I don’t spend my time watching porn, I had enough of that for my job, I say go for it a photo ID for any x rated site. It would be fun to watch heads explode and read the posts after.

by Anonymousreply 497November 28, 2024 11:35 PM

As far as age verification, I am sure there will be companies that just issue an online “age license” that can be used an any manner of sites that require it. So all those closet cases don’t have to submit their driver’s license to Grindr, just their age verification number that has to match up through a security code sent to phone.

by Anonymousreply 498November 29, 2024 7:47 AM

I wish people would protest this age verification nonsense. Why Americans just sit back and accept the puritanical BS is beyond me. At least make some noise about these laws.

by Anonymousreply 499November 29, 2024 8:28 AM

[Quote] No shortage of assholes on DL who have nothing better to say that to troll on someone's typo.

Oh dear.

by Anonymousreply 500November 29, 2024 8:32 AM

R499 after the crushing defeat the Dems were given you think the america you live in is going to take to the streets to save porn? And around the issue of fighting for no age and ID verification?

That is nuts how out of step

JHC the vast majority of Americans do not watch online porn. Most are not fans of porn. In fact after being on forums for decades DL is the only place where porn is treated like air and water and food as far as a necessity.,

The good news since I know how much more important marriage is to you than porn it’s porn they will be going after not marriage.

Good news?

by Anonymousreply 501November 29, 2024 11:05 AM

r501, total bullshit that "the vast majority of Americans do not watch online porn" Almost all men do from time to time. And all boys do once they reach a certain age. I'm sure it's less common with women, but they do watch it. Some women even like gay male porn.

Most people do not follow it like some of the DL obsessives do, that's true, and I don't get the concern for thte lives of pornstars, but absolutely people search for it on random porn sites.

Americans are HUGE hypocrites when it comes to this. At least the gay men on here are honest about it. My very religious uncle had pics of naked women kissing and touching themselves on his computer and yet he'd never admit that to anyone except his gay nephew as he is supposedly a good Mormon.

These laws are unnecessary and harmful. And America will just sit back and let it happen.

by Anonymousreply 502November 29, 2024 11:21 AM

“do from time to time”

OK we agree on this R502. Yes lots of people do see porn. That is different than those who see porn as a major part of their life and watch it daily or significantly through out the week.npon for many is their sex life. People think this is healthy?

America is not going to fight on line age verification for porn. Most will think that a great idea. And let's face it studies have shown that those who watch porn a lot are not the most mentally healthy .

We card at liquor stores and no one fights that because we don’t want kids buying booze even though kids will often find a way to buy booze on their own. We card at movie threatens showing very NON xx rated even though kids to sneak in.shows.

Fighting to save porn from the same carding is a fools fight.

by Anonymousreply 503November 29, 2024 11:47 AM

I said they wouldn't fight it, r503, so I obviously agree with you that they won't fight it!

My disagreement with you is on the idea and the hypocrisy.

And I think a lot of men use it more often than you think.

I'd actually love to see this put to a vote. Not a poll. An actual vote. I think in a secret ballot it would fail in most states actually. Unlike you, I think people won't like it, but they will accept it and pretend publicly to like it.

by Anonymousreply 504November 29, 2024 12:55 PM

I am thinking like a new policy person and I believe you or at least many like you are looking at this from the view of porn consumers.

It should be quite popular with the majority of the country and arguing in public that porn is necessary and an age restriction that is enforced is somehow bad because lots of adult men spend hours every week looking at porn and jacking off is not a winning approach.

by Anonymousreply 505November 29, 2024 1:50 PM

I could see it becoming illegal again and going underground. Or statewide choices, even though the idiots won't consider that the internet doesn't stop at state borders - that won't matter as much as them being able to brag about their moral and clean states.

Again, ignoring the fact that the man they just elected is a moral and ethical sewer. Those wacky Christians!

I wouldn't put anything past these republican fuckers.

by Anonymousreply 506November 29, 2024 1:58 PM

[quote] As far as age verification, I am sure there will be companies that just issue an online “age license” that can be used an any manner of sites that require it.

No one wants to give personal information like that to even private companies, knowing it will be tied to porn and hook up apps.

by Anonymousreply 507November 29, 2024 2:06 PM

R507

Bingo.

But this is what they are likely to go after NOT marriage. And you are correct we may tout porn and how important it is and how it harms no one but many will not want their named attached to it in any way.

by Anonymousreply 508November 29, 2024 2:13 PM

R508, the GOP has already promised an anti-porn agenda. The ID verification has already started in a number of conservative states

by Anonymousreply 509November 29, 2024 2:41 PM

r509 I'm visiting my parents in GA and tried to look up something on CorbinFisher.com for the ongoing thread here, and it requires age verification by joining the site. I know Pornhub is blocked in some states, but not here, and neither is SeanCody or any of the tube sites I glanced at. Apparently the law goes into effect July 1 2025, so I guess CF is just getting a head start.

by Anonymousreply 510November 29, 2024 2:56 PM

There are ways around that ID verification process. Do not give in. Fuck the morality police.

by Anonymousreply 511November 29, 2024 3:02 PM

Looks like someone who thinks highly of themselves but is covered in awful tattoos.

by Anonymousreply 512November 29, 2024 3:05 PM

When i was 16 I knew exactly what I wanted. I seduced my dad's best friend one night. Had sex with the hot gym teacher and had a six month affair with a married guy at the big box store I worked at in high school. I still remember the gym teacher being freaked out afterwards. "You can't tell anybody," he kept saying. I said "relax, I won't tell anyone because I want to do this again and why would I ruin that?" I would of had this guy buying me a condo so we could move in together after high school lol.

by Anonymousreply 513November 29, 2024 3:13 PM

r513, exactly. And younger than that you knew you were into guys too. No grooming ever occurred and you ended up totally into dudes.

by Anonymousreply 514November 29, 2024 3:20 PM

[quote]JHC the vast majority of Americans do not watch online porn. Most are not fans of porn.

Is that rock you’re living under cozy?

by Anonymousreply 515November 29, 2024 3:43 PM

Thank you R515 I corrected that already as I was wrong. Many Americans do see porn or watch it now and then. Certainly I have seen some.

Most Americans don’t spend hours a day or a week addicted to porn watching it while they Jack off. And most sane Americas do not think porn is so special it deserves special protections.

I have spent decades on job or hobby or military related subject forums. I never once remember anyone even once mentioning or going on and on about the porn they watched or how greats the tits or dicks were that they saw.

On DL that happens on days that ends in Y

Most Americans will think that an age ID on porn makes perfect sense.

by Anonymousreply 516November 29, 2024 4:06 PM

[quote] When i was 16 I knew exactly what I wanted. I seduced my dad's best friend one night. Had sex with the hot gym teacher and had a six month affair with a married guy at the big box store I worked at in high school. I still remember the gym teacher being freaked out afterwards. "You can't tell anybody," he kept saying. I said "relax, I won't tell anyone because I want to do this again and why would I ruin that?" I would of had this guy buying me a condo so we could move in together after high school lol.

Whor-lita!!

by Anonymousreply 517November 29, 2024 4:23 PM

r516, first off, hobby forums are not the same as a night out with the guys and some beers. Hobby forums are focused on one topic and are usually heavily moderated. Military forums are certainly not going to be allowed to be porn fests. But you will hear porn talk sometimes in casual conversations with straight men.

DL is a forum for gay men. The topics can be anything. But what unites gay men is that we are sexually attracted to other men, so of course you are going to get sex and porn talk here. And we are not put off by the possibility that something we post may turn on someone else. If they blow their loads at what we post, more power to them.

Gay men are way more honest about their sex lives. Gays are more honest about their porn watching. ( We are also better than straights in other ways, but I digress.. )

by Anonymousreply 518November 29, 2024 4:33 PM

[quote]Recently my friend's brother-in-law got arrested for fucking a 14 year-old. When the judge got the full story on the kid, he threw out ALL of the charges and told the kid 'you do this again and it's going to be you here on charges'. So it will be interesting to see how all of this plays out over time. I make no judgements on this case or any other, just relating how something similar played out.

Okay R460, could you provide more details on this. Did this happen in the USA, if so which state? Was the kid male or female? Was the adult upper middle-class, wealthy or in a position of power? What was the race/ethnicity of the adult involved? What did the kid do previously to receive that harsh admonishment from the judge? I'm not doubting the story, I'm just trying to understand a scenario where an adult avoids charges for having sexual encounter with a minor child well below the age of consent. Thanks.

by Anonymousreply 519November 29, 2024 4:37 PM

R518 the military forums I was on were not generally available to the public. Lots of crazy shit was posted. Just never once anyone going on about porn or how in,ove they were with some porn star.

You prove my point. This is a way to attack the gay male community , without looking like you are attacking the gay male community. And will not make the attackers look like assholes. IMO the WH will come after porn and leave marriage alone.

And America will be happy it goes that way if it goes that way..

by Anonymousreply 520November 29, 2024 5:56 PM

He is a teacher and targeted a kid. He's scum.

by Anonymousreply 521November 29, 2024 7:49 PM

He reminds me of total diva Jeffrey Donovan.

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by Anonymousreply 522November 29, 2024 8:02 PM

I don’t want to sound like a prude, and I enjoy gallows humor, but I just can’t bring myself to joke about the death of that poor little girl. If everything that’s implied about her death is true, it’s just too horrific and sad, and I don’t even like to think about it.

by Anonymousreply 523November 29, 2024 9:03 PM

R523? What little girl are you talking about?

by Anonymousreply 524November 29, 2024 11:23 PM

R524 I'm guessing they meant to comment in the JonBenet thread.

by Anonymousreply 525November 30, 2024 12:04 AM

What IF you look for I.D. and its a fake I.D. I know 15 year olds who look 20. And as for girls; they age up hugely with makeup and clothes. So yeah, the very unromantic idea of showing your I.D is not fool proof. I guess its just safer to err on the side of caution and make sure they look and are well over 21. It may be alot of legal, but young looking, lads wont get laid.

by Anonymousreply 526November 30, 2024 12:27 AM

r517 Oh I know it. I matured early, pretty well built and have a nice dick. My gaydar kicked in early.

by Anonymousreply 527November 30, 2024 2:05 AM

r527, 16 isn't that early.

by Anonymousreply 528November 30, 2024 2:11 AM

If a guy looks very young just stay away. He could be 18. Just don't risk it. If he is underage it will be YOUR fault. A friend of mine hooked up with an 18 year old, they met and he was like you're not 18. The kid insisted he was. My friend just walked away.

by Anonymousreply 529December 1, 2024 8:38 PM

R529 Yes - at least one person is known to be an adult, so they need to act like it.

by Anonymousreply 530December 2, 2024 12:09 AM

R519 - The adult is an upper-middle class male aged 28, the kid is a female who by the age of 14 had fucked her way through several dozen adults, starting at 12.

The state is generally known as being conservative.

I don't get a lot of the comments here, I'm 62 and 48 years ago when I was 14 there were any number of males that I knew then that were quite sexually active, fucking males or females or both. This was in an geographical area that had as many ultra-wealthy as working class so I can't see social class having anything to do with it.

I think that a lot of the people commenting here were completely oblivious to what was going on amongst their peers while they were that age. I knew I was gay at the age of 4. (a psychiatrist I'm friends with tells me that a surprising number of people realize it at the age of either 4, or not until later like the teen years.)

I didn't do anything because I was horrified about what would happen if my parents found out.

by Anonymousreply 531December 6, 2024 9:06 PM

Weird. Why don't they just go to Europe where the age of consent is often 14?

by Anonymousreply 532December 6, 2024 9:55 PM

12 year olds cant fuck their way through adults, they are fucked BY adults R531.

by Anonymousreply 533December 6, 2024 10:09 PM

I looked this guy up on google and apparently while he was out on bond for this crime, he was seen on a college campus passing out flyers advertising tutoring.

So which one of you bitches is Carlos?

by Anonymousreply 534December 6, 2024 10:25 PM

R533 - And that's where the commenters on this thread are wrong, there are any number of 12 year-olds that are, and are completely ok with it. I don't understand why this is such a hard concept to grasp. Again, I'm not saying this is OK with today's society and American culture, it just is what it is.

My great-grandfather, at the age of 13, was doing something for a living 99.99% of DLers would never, ever have the balls to do at any age (No, it was not working in a mine or some other tedious, unremarkable job).

by Anonymousreply 535December 7, 2024 1:59 AM

^ Yes. This reply right here, officer.

by Anonymousreply 536December 7, 2024 4:10 AM

why does God allow minors under 18 to breed? is he a pervert pedophile?

by Anonymousreply 537December 7, 2024 4:10 AM

R533 Just walk away from this thread, bro. Do not even engage. A lot of folks on here be just trying to strike a chord and it's definitely a minorrrrrrrrrr.

by Anonymousreply 538December 7, 2024 4:12 AM

Was he an international boy of mystery r535? Was he fighting voldemort and saving Hogwarts? What, what was your child prodigy great-grandfather doing?

by Anonymousreply 539December 7, 2024 4:15 AM

Well, over two years later and the case against Montero is still pending and he's been out on bond since. It sounds like they have an ankle monitor on him, since a request was made that it be removed when he needed to travel to NYC.

The court has received letters from a Fort Lauderdale crossfit gym requesting that they be able to re-employ him. He worked there prior to his arrest in 2022. The court has also received a letter from his sister asking that he be allowed to see her teenage son and daughter, saying they miss their uncle.

by Anonymousreply 540December 7, 2024 5:09 AM

The nephew is named Joel, I presume.

by Anonymousreply 541December 7, 2024 5:24 AM

R539 - Well snotty, what he did was something I would rather doubt your sagging ass would or could ever do. It's on the internet with his name and would quite likely eliminate my anonymity here should any resident genius decide to Google it, so that's that.

by Anonymousreply 542December 7, 2024 3:26 PM

Just goes to show your life can be going great then you make one mistake and you are fucked.

by Anonymousreply 543December 7, 2024 7:11 PM

There's no way this is the first time he fucked a kid.

by Anonymousreply 544December 7, 2024 8:19 PM

And probably not the first time that kid has hooked up with an older man.

by Anonymousreply 545December 7, 2024 9:55 PM

r542,

My great grandfather was born about 1850, so at 13 I guess he could have been a general in the Civil War (if true, that would make him unique enough that you could find out who I am?)

May be that you are younger than me. Was he the young Kaiser before WWI?

by Anonymousreply 546December 7, 2024 11:36 PM

OMG! I think I've found R542 and R533. He is Princess Christa!

by Anonymousreply 547December 7, 2024 11:42 PM

Sorry ^ should have been R535

I just got too excited :)

by Anonymousreply 548December 7, 2024 11:43 PM

Isn't that porn guy going to jail for fucking kids? Austin Wolf?

by Anonymousreply 549December 8, 2024 3:18 AM

R549 There has been no trial yet. Austin (Justin) is still locked up at the Metropolitan Detention Center (MDC) Brooklyn, as bail was denied.

As of the last document presented to the court on November 27, the government has requested its fourth continuance, and the defense has agreed and is cooperating. Part of that document (quoted below) makes it sound like the parties are in discussion to reach some kind of resolution.

[quote] 7. On October 24, 2024, the Honorable Gary Stein entered an Order of Continuance, pursuant to 18 U.S.C. § 3161(h)(7)(A), extending the time within which a preliminary hearing would have to be conducted or an indictment or information would have to be filed in this case until November 27, 2024.

[quote] 8. Defense counsel and I have had discussions regarding a possible disposition of this case. The parties plan to continue our discussions, but do not anticipate a resolution before November 27, 2024. 9. Therefore, the Government requests a 30-day continuance until December 27, 2024, to continue the foregoing discussions toward resolving this matter.

[quote] 9. On November 20, 2024, I personally corresponded with defense counsel, who stated that the defendant consents to an extension of the preliminary hearing and Speedy Trial Act deadlines to December 27, 2024, and has specifically consented to this request. This application has been authorized by Assistant United States Attorney Andrew Dember, Deputy Chief of the Criminal Division.

[quote] 10. For the reasons stated above, good cause supports the extension of the preliminary hearing deadline, and the ends of justice served by the granting of the requested continuance outweigh the best interests of the public and defendant in a speedy trial.

by Anonymousreply 550December 8, 2024 9:23 AM

I'm guessing Wolf has been singing for all he's worth - naming any and everyone he knows in the "business" in exchange for consideration.

I don't see how he can avoid at least some (further) jail time, no matter what he does.

by Anonymousreply 551December 8, 2024 9:54 AM

[quote] And probably not the first time that kid has hooked up with an older man.

Older man, meaning a few years older. Not decades older. This guy was in his 40s.

by Anonymousreply 552December 8, 2024 9:42 PM

He's too Macarena for my tastes.

by Anonymousreply 553December 9, 2024 12:36 AM

Wolf is just creepy. I saw some video where he fucked a little person. He was so into it you can just tell his fantasy is to fuck a child.

by Anonymousreply 554December 9, 2024 3:25 AM
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