Man Caught on Video Urinating on His Ex-Wife's Grave Almost Every Day

Started with bags of feces. ----- A family says a Bergen County man was caught on video in the act of urinating on their matriarch's grave in Rockland County last Sunday. Michael Murphy said his late mother, Linda Torello, is the man's ex-wife. "I could see him up there like this and I could hear the urine hitting the ground and my heart..." Murphy recounted, choking up as he described what he witnessed last Sunday, when he shot a video and caught the man who'd been desecrating his mother's grave. "I promised my wife and kids the day before, I promised my sisters, because I was fuming, I would not hurt the man. But we wanted to do it the right way, we thought we'd get justice this way," Murphy said. It all started back in April when Murphy and his sister started finding deli bags filled with feces near their mother's headstone. They initially thought it may have been left behind by a careless dog walker or a dog owner. But after the second bag was found, they knew they'd been left there intentionally. "We contacted the police," Murphy continued. "They came and took a report, and they said, 'If you find another one, let us know.' So we found another one a couple of weeks later." Murphy and his family then got the greenlight from Tappan Cemetery in Rockland County, where their mother is buried, to install cameras to catch the culprit. Camera timestamps showed the man coming to grave while his wife waited in the car around 6:15 a.m. for four consecutive days last week. On the fifth day, Murphy propped his camera on a nearby headstone and shot the video and confirmed the culprit was his deceased mother's ex-husband, who she'd divorced over four decades ago. "There's been no contact since '76," Murphy said. "I know they were married for a year they had a bad break. This should never happen to anybody." Right now, it's unclear to the family why or even how long this has been going on, but Murphy and his family want more serious charges than just public urination and hope for legislation that will make it a crime. "No one should ever endure what I and my family had to endure," Murphy said.

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Sorry to link to the NYP, but this was nicely succinct.

"The pissy man left Murphy’s mother when she was pregnant and never had anything to do with his biological daughter, the son claims, except for one time earlier this year when he ran into the daughter and said he wished she were dead and cursed her and her mother."

We all grieve differently, I guess.

White people!!!

[quote]Camera timestamps showed the man coming to grave while his wife waited in the car around 6:15 a.m. for four consecutive days last week.

His current wife tags along? Holy shit.

He's trash and she (current wife) should not be accompanying him. I hope he gets arrested.

I had copied that to paste it, r6. People are so strange. And stupid.

That’s revolting and he seems like a damaged, deeply unhappy person.

Amazing level of commitment from someone who du led out on his pregnant wife and never helped raise his child.

[quote] family now demanding answers

He didn’t like her.

Trashy, low class behavior.

Probably a magat.

Why on Earth is she buried in what looks like someone's backyard?

Maybe the dead woman really was horrendous

Definitely someone on the DL.

I thought front yard, r13, but there's a wider angle shot that shows more graves. I assume the building is where cemetery offices are.

The perp is lucky Mr. Murphy's friends and family urged restraint. Wouldn't want to tangle with this fella.

I don't see anything wrong with this.

Is this the same woman who was killed by an elephant who would later return to crash her funeral and trample her corpse?

Toldja I was hard core!

Luckily it rains there so the other cemetery visitors don’t have to smell la peepee

R18

R20 - the son hired a company to clean up $250 is the threshold t reach grave desecration criteria for prosecution.

[QUOTE]Murphy has met the threshold for damages after “paying a hazmat company to remove all her decorations that are soaked in urine and have the headstone properly cleaned and some of grass ripped up and replaced, plus the permits to let these companies enter the cemetery."

that current wife is a straight up, fucking loser

The current wife is probably battered or at the very least emotionally abused. This guy is psycho

After spending/wasting way too much of my early 20s as a woman infiltrating Reddit subs and various other male-dominant forums, this does not surprise me.

Most men deep down really do revile women on some primordial level. Am not kidding. Some of the stuff they talk about casually doing when it comes women real-life women, some of whom they know and claim to love, is stomach-turning, worse than any offhand automatic racism or classism I've ever seen (and I've seen some). And much of it isn't even veiled as a joke.

This is one major factor that tipped me from a fairly even bisexual teen to a febfem adult, I reckon. Can't look men in the eye without thinking, "95% of them find outright misogynistic abuse funny, or arousing, or worse think it's imaginary and impossible".

True R27. It took the internet for women to get a peek "under the hood" at what men are like when they think women aren't around.

This is something my narcissistic father would do. This type of behavior doesn't shock me. Most straight men are vile.

R27 Reminded of the same when I read these tweets today.....I'm a man and y'know, not every man needs to be a feminist, fine, whatever.....but some of them.....hoo boy, they take it waaaaay to the other extreme.

That’s not a man, that’s a dog.

I've been to Greece

and I took a leak

Where a woman ain't 'sposed to pee...

I'm in a ce-ment vault

so you'll never piss... on me...eeeee.... eeee... eeeee...eeee

Another angry and impotent ex.

He's desecrating a grave. That's illegal. Infantile too.

Ancient and embittered wrestling manager/promoter/personality Jim Cornette make major lifestyle changes for his health, because he claims to want to outlive his rival Vince Russo so that he can piss on his grave.

Straight men are so fucking deranged. Genuinely think they have denatured chromosomes, or something. We're all chimps, but they're closer to the DNA.

[quote]and he's holding this much of a grudge.

Well, if he held his urine, his bladder could explode.

R27 R28 R30 All men are evil and all women are victims.

I don't see the problem. There's gonna be a stadium sized line when Trump is in the ground.

The son wanted to do it "the proper way"? Setting a booby trap would also be an option. Make him crash into a hole in the ground and then watch for a couple of hours while he tries to free his useless ass while he's scared shirtless.

Rest in Pees.

I don't know, r37. I never said all men are evil. But my father tried to murder my mother several times so yeah, a lot of straight men are evil.

R23 Hazmats to clean up the guy's piss and shit? Was he carrying ebola or the zombie virus or did he have a three way with Jason Dootley and The Brooklyn Seacow?

You must be very a very third world shithole inhabitant, r42, not to understand basic hygiene or the universal biohazard symbols that appear all over hospital properties on developed countries . Are you the type who thinks cleanliness is below him/they/it? You could very well be a festering multiple disease vectors.

Do you wash your hands after a shit or prepare for sex? You sound dubious.

R43 I was being sarcastic, you silly bitch.

Love means…

Never having to say “Sorry, but I’m looking for the restroom….?”

How could he be this angry after almost 50 years and no contact????

What a nutter.

I think the comment from the son was a nice touch:

“I can’t get my wife to go out to dinner but this guy gets his wife to go along with him to desecrate my mom’s remains every morning!” Murphy fumed.

R48 ROTFLMAO!!!! 🤣🤣🤣

No wonder the lady divorced him. Obvious mental problems, stunted emotional growth, and trashy. Not to mention just GAF

[quote]I promised my sisters, because I was fuming, I would not hurt the man.

I know he's pissing on some griund that just so happens to be a burial site but... I guess he "promised" to not assault a living being?

LOL

R41 I would love to hear more psychodramatic recollections of the childhood that made you incapable of rational and critical thought.

All men are monsters because you have daddy issues. Got it.

I don't think all women are hysterical attention-starved martyrs just because you are. Maybe lie down for a bit?

The ex-husband reminds me of 2016 Hillary Clinton voters (primaries and general election).

R53: why?

R41 very specifically said they did not think all men were evil, but r52 just pretends like they did, and then launches a bunch of personal attacks based on what they made up in their head.

Men are garbage.

R55 "Most men deep down really do revile women on some primordial level."

Just most of them. Go heal yourself, sweetheart. This tiresome shtick won't fly here. Try Jezebel.

Haha r57 you're talking about three separate people and you don't even realize it. I didn't realize you were one of those kooks who thinks everyone you disagree with is all the same person.

R58 The issue with deluded Karens like yourself is that you really think you are unique when the world is filled with people just like you.

Sorry your mom had shitty taste in men, but it's not everyone's problem.

R35 We are all chimps? Who the hell taught you biology?

R27 If you were equally attracted to women and men then, you still are now. Sexuality isn't something you can change.

Late-in-life lesbians would like to have a word with you, r61.

[quote] If you were equally attracted to women and men then, you still are now. Sexuality isn't something you can change.

True that instinctual desires can't change, but the person experiencing those desires can choose whether or not to act on or follow through on them, according to their individual preferences and emotions and circumstances. If a bisexual woman doesn't feel happy or secure with and around men, she doesn't ever have to have consensual intimate contact with them, or even go around making sure everyone knows she's still attracted to them. It's a choice.

R62 They didn't change their sexuality

R63 Not dating men is a choice, yes. Being or not being attracted to them, isn't.

Some of you have profound and sad reading comprehension problems.

There's no shame in adult education classes.

Please don't let him be whi...

I used to work with a guy who was divorced, wife left him. Whenever he would go pick up his son, when the woman wasn't there, he would go to her bedroom pull back the covers and jack off and ejaculate all over her sheets. She had a new live in boyfriend too. He thought it was hilarious and still wonders why he left her. There are a lot of vile straight men out there. I read a 4 chan post about guys sharing stories how they would ejaculate into food, some guy was making pancakes, and got off on seeing his mom and sisters it. I didn't know this was a thing some guys did. Truly sickening.

I feel sorry for her family but this lady is laughing at him somewhere. No contact since the Carter administration and he's still mad. All the piss in the world doesn't change the fact that he wasted his life. Loser.

LOL that's actually the Ford administration. Carter didn't take office until the next January. There's a certain kind of old white boomer guy who makes a vocation of wound collecting despite being relatively coddled all his life. ("Keep your socialist hands off my Medicare!") They're not all like that, obviously, but there's a type.

True dedication to a goal is so rare these days.

Talk about living rent free in someone's head...

[quote]Camera timestamps showed the man coming to grave while his wife waited in the car around 6:15 a.m. for four consecutive days last week.

The pisser has a current wife who would accompany him on these jaunts no less. At 6:15 am!! She must be a real winner to be with this guy at all, but to actually go with him to the cemetery where his ex wife of 40+ years ago is buried so he can piss on her grave...my god, woman, I don't know you but surely you can do better, or be better off going it alone.

Maybe she was into that sort of thing.

r52, it's impossible for me to WW myself as that's only a paid feature and I don't pay. But do go on with your misogyny and horrible reading comprehension skills.

R75 I think you are correct. 95% of the men walking the Earth really do hate you and want to do harm to you. I can believe that.

Lol, I ain't mad atcha, Dude. My cat Deke did the exact same thing when his abusive nemesis finally bought it. He pissed on Blackie's corpse before it was buried, and pissed on the grave at least once a week until he died himself.

I have fantasied about doing the same when my evil ex-boss dies....

Does he have OCD? Seems like a compulsion, and a demented one. Or is really just that angry?

He has a pissonality disorder. (Sowwy. I have a typed-speech disowder. Don't get pissed off at me about it.)

Yankee 🗑