Is it bad if a boyfriend acts visibly bored while with their partner's parents? Their partner was arranging some family photos and their boyfriend was looking visibly bored and rolling his eyes.
Boyfriend Acts Visibly Bored While With Partner's Parents
by Anonymous | reply 59 | September 2, 2022 4:35 AM |
Yes, he's a rude so-and-so. Dump him. He'll get bored in the relationship, too.
by Anonymous | reply 1 | August 29, 2022 11:46 AM |
EVERYONE is bored when visiting their significant other's parents!
by Anonymous | reply 2 | August 29, 2022 11:46 AM |
Yes.
by Anonymous | reply 3 | August 29, 2022 11:46 AM |
Disrespectful and graceless.
Only keep him if he's hotter than any other prospects at the moment.
by Anonymous | reply 4 | August 29, 2022 11:49 AM |
Dump him. What an ass. He will only get worse.
by Anonymous | reply 5 | August 29, 2022 11:52 AM |
R2 Getting bored I get but why roll your eyes when they are right next to you?
by Anonymous | reply 6 | August 29, 2022 12:15 PM |
[quote]Is it bad if a boyfriend acts visibly bored while with their partner's parents?
Yes, this is an obvious red flag.
The fact that you needed to ask this at all is a big red flag about you.
by Anonymous | reply 7 | August 29, 2022 12:27 PM |
Have never had in-laws or a girlfriend (I’m a lesbian), so idk how I’d hypothetically behave in that situation. Tbh if I hated a serious girlfriends’ family that much, I’d probably have to ditch her, because I’ve had enough trouble with my own family and am not looking to inherit or import more from other people.
Like the last few weeks: I’ve had to visit and host distant straight relatives and their grubby little hellspawn too, on behalf of my old disabled grandmother (I’m one of her carers). These people are money-grubbing vultures and social climbers, as well as judgemental classists and covert homophobes, and so I do not bother to mask the boredom and disdain I feel when around them. They look down on me and will never do anything for me, so fuck them.
by Anonymous | reply 8 | August 29, 2022 12:31 PM |
Yes, but the OP left out the part that the family and boyfriend were looking at photos of his Ex, and favoring him over the current one.
by Anonymous | reply 9 | August 29, 2022 12:45 PM |
How soon after meeting/dating, did OP bring boyfriend to see parents?
by Anonymous | reply 10 | August 29, 2022 12:58 PM |
R9 I know you are joking but no the photos were not of any exes. Hahahaha
by Anonymous | reply 11 | August 29, 2022 12:58 PM |
R10 been together around 3 years. Parents knew about him after a couple of months.
by Anonymous | reply 12 | August 29, 2022 1:00 PM |
Three years...wow and he's like this. DUMP him now. Rude, disrespectful and a bad sign of things to come. Imagine what he'll be like at your family get togethers- when the focus is on people other than him.
by Anonymous | reply 13 | August 29, 2022 1:02 PM |
R13 He has never cheated but always acts strictly platonic in a group setting. He will even go stand next to someone else when photos are being taken. Is he just a very private person?
by Anonymous | reply 14 | August 29, 2022 1:06 PM |
R1 well it has been 3 years
by Anonymous | reply 15 | August 29, 2022 1:12 PM |
If it were that he feels comfortable enough around your parents to roll his eyes and feign yawning at the family photos, that could be good sign. But I'm guessing it's not that.
by Anonymous | reply 16 | August 29, 2022 1:23 PM |
I don't think your boyfriend loves you. He may not even like you, but he's just sticking around for whatever reason.
by Anonymous | reply 17 | August 29, 2022 1:24 PM |
R17 what makes you think that? Because of how he rolled his eyes? And because he acts platonic in a group setting and poses with other people in our friend group? Is that really enough to draw a conclusion?
by Anonymous | reply 18 | August 29, 2022 1:31 PM |
R18, if this is love, I'd hate to see what he does to someone he really doesn't like.
by Anonymous | reply 19 | August 29, 2022 1:45 PM |
Also when he walks in public he will walk a short distance behind while looking down at his phone. Even when going up escalators which I find dangerous.
by Anonymous | reply 20 | August 29, 2022 1:51 PM |
Social media (instagram etc) on both accounts do not have any permanent posts together (only stories-those expire). Worrying?
by Anonymous | reply 22 | August 29, 2022 2:11 PM |
[quote]Social media (instagram etc) on both accounts do not have any permanent posts together (only stories-those expire). Worrying?
Are there photos of the boyfriend alone? with other groups of friends and acquaintances, just not his boyfriend? Maybe he just doesn't like to be photographed at all, and, when unavoidable, he moves to the back or away from the spotlight. However, if he has loads of photos of himself and all his friends and familiars, - except his boyfriend - and he's not shying away from the camera, that would be a bit sinister.
by Anonymous | reply 23 | August 29, 2022 2:23 PM |
Before I can give you my expert advice, I need one vital piece of information that you haven't shared. How big is his wiener? Is he a top or bottom?
by Anonymous | reply 24 | August 29, 2022 2:34 PM |
Also, is he employed or unemployed / student?
by Anonymous | reply 25 | August 29, 2022 2:57 PM |
R23 when standing together and a friend indicates a photo will be taken, he moves away. He is not particularly active on social media but is willing to take photos front and centre with his friends. In social settings he acts mildly friendly and not romantic. R25 working
by Anonymous | reply 26 | August 29, 2022 3:21 PM |
Face it, OP. He’s just not that into you.
by Anonymous | reply 27 | August 29, 2022 3:29 PM |
As if.
by Anonymous | reply 28 | August 29, 2022 3:32 PM |
R28 as if what?
by Anonymous | reply 29 | August 29, 2022 3:33 PM |
"Also when he walks in public he will walk a short distance behind "
Is OP an Arab/Muslim and the boyfriend is actually a wife in a burkha?
by Anonymous | reply 30 | August 29, 2022 3:35 PM |
R30 no...
by Anonymous | reply 31 | August 29, 2022 3:50 PM |
OP, is he in your program?
by Anonymous | reply 32 | August 29, 2022 3:56 PM |
Rolling one’s eyes is effeminate.
That’s the larger problem.
by Anonymous | reply 33 | August 29, 2022 4:00 PM |
R32 very funny
by Anonymous | reply 34 | August 29, 2022 4:06 PM |
Sounds like he's closeted or is uncomfortable with people knowing he's gay.
by Anonymous | reply 35 | August 29, 2022 4:25 PM |
"Their"? Oh dear.
by Anonymous | reply 36 | August 29, 2022 4:30 PM |
As if OP has a boyfriend.
by Anonymous | reply 37 | August 29, 2022 4:56 PM |
He sounds immature.
by Anonymous | reply 38 | August 29, 2022 5:43 PM |
It's a sign that he doesn't respect you (in addition to being rude).
by Anonymous | reply 39 | August 29, 2022 6:19 PM |
[quote] How soon after meeting/dating, did OP bring boyfriend to see parents?
Why ask? We all know it was the first date. Blind date at that.
by Anonymous | reply 40 | August 29, 2022 11:05 PM |
Had OP put the boyfriend's shit out on the curb with a "FREE STUFF!" sign, and sent a photo of it to the new ex?
Is OP stationed inside looking out the window waiting to roll his eyes and act visibly bored?
No? What's that? He has more details/bread crumbs to lay out before forming an opinion?
by Anonymous | reply 41 | August 31, 2022 11:58 AM |
Well my partner's parents are Trumpeters so I roll my eyes too. And they LOVE talking about politics. I swear they are trying to troll me some times. So I just kind of BS them. "yeah, just because I am a liberal Democrat I agree with you the only way into this country should be legally." Shuts them the fuck up, they have no one to argue with. Sometimes they will even repeat their stupid statements to see if I change my mind.
by Anonymous | reply 42 | August 31, 2022 12:11 PM |
I am deeply ashamed i used to do this.
by Anonymous | reply 43 | August 31, 2022 2:31 PM |
R43 used to do what? You used to roll your eyes in front of you partner's parents? Judging by R2 's likes, it doesn't seem to be a big deal
by Anonymous | reply 44 | August 31, 2022 3:01 PM |
No i wasnt so crass are to roll my eyes but I'm afraid i was probably visibly bored. I'm sorry.
by Anonymous | reply 45 | August 31, 2022 3:04 PM |
R45 are you being sarcastic? Implying I am being ridiculous?
by Anonymous | reply 46 | August 31, 2022 3:44 PM |
Most partners parents are boring. Especially when they start pulling out all the old pics talking endlessly about them for hours with not a single one of your partner in them or of anyone you would know.
by Anonymous | reply 47 | September 1, 2022 9:55 AM |
I'd get rid of someone like that. If they're so obvious in public, then behind closed doors they're probably a nightmare.
We all have to do things that bore or annoy us from time to time, but most have the decency to be polite and have a bit of dignity.
by Anonymous | reply 48 | September 1, 2022 10:06 AM |
R47 they weren't looking at old photos they were taking new ones and reviewing the ones they had taken.
by Anonymous | reply 49 | September 1, 2022 11:33 AM |
R14 Standing next to someone else for photos is just very odd behaviour. There is also no excuse for sitting around acting bored. He can make himself useful or go for a walk if he feels it's unbearable to him. Being an adult also means keeping your shit together in most settings. He is definitely weird. Do you love him? Want a future with him? Why? Do you still have sex? (No need to answer, just ask yourself a couple of questions along these lines.)
by Anonymous | reply 50 | September 1, 2022 11:37 AM |
R48 He heaved an obvious sigh and rolled his eyes. To me this is bad behaviour but I grew up with strict parents so I don't really know if I am the exception not norm
by Anonymous | reply 51 | September 1, 2022 11:48 AM |
Hell, I enjoy visiting my boyfriends parents more than I enjoy visiting my own.
by Anonymous | reply 52 | September 1, 2022 11:52 AM |
Why is the OP surprised? I'm sure it's the same behavior the BF had been exhibiting in bed for years.
by Anonymous | reply 53 | September 1, 2022 12:36 PM |
Your parents obviously accept you and your relationship. They welcome your boyfriend into their home. Your parents are hurt. His rudeness is inexcusable, immature and cruel. Your tolerance of this, directed at your parents, in their own home, is far worse. What does that say about your character?
by Anonymous | reply 54 | September 1, 2022 2:16 PM |
Insane that the boyfriend places himself away from OP when posing for pics. Walks behind OP. Is he ashamed of you or himself? How did you meet? Are you the more active participant in the relationship?
It sounds like the boyfriend is marking time.
by Anonymous | reply 55 | September 1, 2022 6:32 PM |
Is your boyfriend Andrew Cunanan? No wonder he is odd about being in pictures, he doesn't want evidence to show up later after he murders you in bed one night.
by Anonymous | reply 56 | September 2, 2022 3:59 AM |
R50 yes I find it really odd. During group photos, instead of standing next to or directly behind, he will go to the edge of the group and lean in towards the group with a slightly sheepish expression or stand at the back . The thing is, while he is only with his good friends he will pose confidently. Also had to work until midnight the day before his birthday, Friday (his birthday fell on a Saturday)
by Anonymous | reply 57 | September 2, 2022 4:27 AM |
He wasn't raised right. Move on.
by Anonymous | reply 58 | September 2, 2022 4:33 AM |
r58 Yeah I too put the eye rolling thing down to casual rudeness. TBH I doubt most people are as sensitive as me.
by Anonymous | reply 59 | September 2, 2022 4:35 AM |