How DARE you!

How dare you tell me who my friends should be!

I say it all the time.

Yes. Some fusty queen poked me with an umbrella and told me to “move it along, toots.”

Well toots, did you move it along?

I most certainly did NOT. I was taking a selfie.

I have this angry Australian woman with whom I work who has some sort of Cluster-B personality disorder. She uses this phrase all the time.

When she tried it on me once, I just gave her a cold long stare and walked away. She cannot get me fired (nor vice-versa... we're both tenured faculty), so it's a pretty toothless thing to say.

[quote] I have this angry Australian woman with whom I work who has some sort of Cluster-B personality disorder. She uses this phrase all the time.

I cannot imagine how/when/why a person would say this "all the time."

I don't think I've even said "How dare you!" even once in my life.

I say, "Get out" a lot.

To COVID-insensitives and hookups who can't take a hint.

Someone called me a beast, so yeah, I said it.

I said it to my other once, when I really shouldn’t have. I was dating a guy for a couple years, & she told me that my sister, who at the time was married for 5+ yrs, kinda warranted more for her anniversary than I did. At the time I felt I was totally justified, but now, not so much…

[quote] Someone called me a beast, so yeah, I said it.

[quote] —Eileen D.

You deserved it, you beast!

Always accompanied by a vigorous slap across the other person’s face.

I've never said that, OP, but once, when I was in second grade, I harrumphed, "Well, I NEVER!" to a kid who was bullying me. It wasn't the proudest moment of my childhood, but it definitely was one of the gayest.

I think that I would slap them after saying it. I always slapped them.

Ten years ago this month I took up with a narcissistic drama queen. I helped him move flats. I won't spare you the gory details but he was truly quite a handful. Anyway, conveniently, just after he was all settled in, I referred to a good friend of his from NYC who (so he told me. I doubt the veracity of lots he told me) topped himself. I told the NDQ that of course his friend was always there in spirit.

I strongly suspect that the NDQ took this as the cue to get rid of me, now that he no longer needed help moving his things. He embarked upon a performance of chewing up the scenery that, if it hadn't been so awful, would have been funny. Anyway, 'How DARE YOU!" figured into most of the verbage.

No good deed goes unpunished. It hadn't occurred to me until now that if he posts on this site, this story totally tells him who I am.

^I don’t follow

I simply stood up, lowered my caftan, and returned to the cheese ball and cracker platter. I'm still waiting for my invitation to this year's Christmas open house!

So what does "How VERY dare you!" mean?

It's a good opening line for a knife fight

No....but I was told this once AT WORK!!!! By someone I liked, but who was also a nitroglycerine queen.

Yes!

O.

M.

G.

at R21.

She is the most annoying fucker... EVER!!!!

Have you ever actually watched the video, r22? It's worse than you can imagine.

I had to stop, R23!

I was cringing, and completely embarrassed for her.

What a goddamned weirdo.

I prefer "Go fuck yourself", but to each his own.

Once, on the Motown 25 special. But it was cut for the broadcast.

"Shame on you!" would be on par with "How DARE you!" I hate both of these sayings. Both sound pretentious and ridiculous.

I prefer "How VERY dare you?"

It packs more punch and lets those on the receiving end know how inferior they are.

"How very dare you" doesn't sound grammatically correct.

I had a drag queen friend who always used to say "How dare!" whenever we ripped on her.

*Did you whip your cape and storm off, afterwards? "

*sigh*

One does not "storm off", one flounces off

[R25], a line I invented (at least I've never heard anybody else use it) is, "Fuck you and the clogs you staggered into town on." The influence is clear viz. visiting The Netherlands. It's not about my friends there, though. I haven't really found the appropriate situation to use it in. But like the Boy Scouts, we must always be prepared...

I had a “girlfriend” in 6th grade who thought adulthood must be just like the soaps. She was anxious to grow up and act like Lucy Coe or Bobbie Spencer from GH.

At her house after school one day she insisted on practicing with me, using soapy dialogue. It mostly consisted of shouting “What?!” and “How DARE you!”

What she didn’t tell me was that she would also be slapping my face. When she did so—apparently putting all her strength into it—my eyeglasses went flying across the room, while I lost my balance, fell onto her bedroom wall, and groped at a mirror for support, taking it down in the process.

I love Lucy Coe, she’s the best, though in life I was more of an Erica Kane. My tagline was a hissing: “damn you. Damn you to hell!”

I lived 1991 like i was on a soap, manipulating people, playing mind games, breaking up relationships, all while I was solidly the center of attention. Eventually people wised up & my house of cards was ruined, but it was fun while it lasted!

OP it's not "how dare you" In DLese. It's "how dare of you'.

[quote] my eyeglasses went flying across the room, while I lost my balance, fell onto her bedroom wall, and groped at a mirror for support, taking it down in the process.

MARY!

I used “How very dare you!” with a snarky, in your face trans coworker at my past job and she took to it like a fish takes to water. She then used it like other people use “please”, or “thank” you” in regular conversation. She would relish saying it if she hadn’t met you, and rephrase sentences so she could deliberately punctuate her phases wit it.

I sincerely regretted introducing DL vernacular to her.

Rofl R33!

You should have charged at her and let the "Crystal versus Alexis" fight take place!!

Greta Thunberg needs a cape.

I think she's delightful, and one of the more enjoyable aspects about her is how worked up right-wingers get about her. She's like an instant litmus test in spotting them out.

You're a whore, darlin'.

How very dare you!

I usually say to when somebody smells my hair. The little I have left as a middle-aged man.

I read once that when someone says 'how dare you' it's not about you, but them, and it's coming from a place of ego.

Not "How DARE you" But the only fight I ever got into in HighSchool was over a guy calling me a Fat Queer. I pushed him into the bleachers and told him to "Go to Hell!" In a shrieky gay voice. Looking back I cringe, what a fat queer thing to say.

I always wanted to say it someone but in Spanish like those overly dramatic novelas, followed by a vicious slapping.

R36 I was an awkward teen. But then I went to France for a year, stayed with a family that refused to speak English—forcing me to become fluent in French. I ate very little and lost tons of weight, shot up in height, and exchanged my glasses for contacts. When I got back to the states, I was no longer Wilhelmina.

R2 That gif always makes me want to strangle her with her own braid.

Not "How dare you!" but a similar thing...I was like 10 years old and was looking at toys in the toy department of a local store. With me was a family friend's 3 year old daughter. A clerk started following us around, I'm sure thinking that we were going to shoplift. I stopped in my tracks, whirled around and said "I have NEVER been so INSULTED in my entire LIFE!" and flounced off holding the 3 year old's hand.

I know, I know, "Lil' MARY!" I cringe whenever I think about it.

Rofl R47!!!

There is NO FUCKING WAY you said that at 10 years old.

You would have to be the Queen MARY of all Queens!!!!

r37 I hear ya'.

-Lucia Lucas, originator of "Au reservoir."

[quote]There is NO FUCKING WAY you said that at 10 years old.

LOL, oh but I did. To help solidify the picture of what I was like back then, the first album I ever bought with my own money was the OBC of "Applause" right around the same time of my being insulted.

R50 I had that album as a kid too. I used to stand in front of the mirror and sing along with Penny Fuller:

“ Well damn you, Daddy…Look at your little girl NOW! I…feel….bitchy! And twitchy! And MANIC!”

R15 Huh? You helped him move. Ok. You reminded him of a friend who topped himself, and you said he was always there is spirit? What does that mean? Why was he mad? I'm confused here.

In college in the early 90s I was a big drunk At a party at some apartment and some townie looking chic came in. I gave her outfit the once over and loudly said “acid wash? How dare you!”

She got uncomfortable and left

While I’m here, is this performance by Penny Fuller in “applause” considered an iconic camp classic? I for one think it should be

[quote]“ Well damn you, Daddy…Look at your little girl NOW! I…feel….bitchy! And twitchy! And MANIC!”

"Calm and collected, no sign of panic! But alive! But alive! But a-LIIIIIIVE!"

That Greta T soundbite gets me EVERY TIME. Stern has on a "Greta" character that is fucking hilarious.

Not being a lady.

R55 “So I feel up and together and steady….eager, excited, so come on I’m ready….ready for the climb….baby it’s my time….”