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Wil Wheaton says he channeled emotional abuse from parents into 'Stand by Me' performance

As Gordie, a preteen who embarks on a search for a dead body with his three best friends in late-1950s Oregon, Wil Wheaton anchored one of Hollywood’s greatest coming-of-age classics, 1986’s Stand by Me.

Thirty-five years later, as the touchstone film directed by Rob Reiner from Stephen King source material reopens in theaters this week, Wheaton shares with Yahoo Entertainment how his own painful family situation informed his breakout role.

“I didn’t want to be an actor when I was a kid. My parents forced me to do it, my mother made me do it. My mother coached me to go into her agency and tell the children’s agent, ‘I want to do what mommy does,’” Wheaton tells us in a new interview (watch above) about growing up in Burbank, Calif., with mother Debra, an actress, and father Richard, a medical specialist. (Yahoo was unable to reach Wheaton's parents for comment.) “And through a combination of an incredible emotional abuse from my father and a lot of manipulation, using me, from my mother, it really put me in that place.”

Wheaton, now 48, and estranged from his parents, says the distress he endured at the time fueled his performance of a kid dealing with emotionally distant, negligent parents reeling from the death of his older teen brother (John Cusack).

“[It] put me in exactly the right place to play Gordie,” he says. “Because Gordie’s experience very much reflected my experience. We’re both invisible in our homes. We both have a brother who is the golden child. We’re both the scapegoat in the family. So when I watch Stand by Me now, I cannot ignore the unbelievable sadness in my eyes. And I cannot ignore the reality that it was that sadness, that isolation that I think gave me what Gordie needed to come to life and I think Rob Reiner saw that.”

After Stand by Me, which arrived in theaters on Aug. 22, 1986, Wheaton went on to star in projects like 1991’s Toy Soldiers and memorably played Wesley Crusher in Star Trek: The Next Generation. He now focuses on writing (yes, just like his character Gordie), narrating audio books and hosting the Star Trek after-show The Ready Room.

Despite the strife that Wheaton faced at the time of filming, he still looks back (mostly) with love at the experience of working alongside costars River Phoenix, Corey Feldman and Jerry O’Connell and at the lasting legacy of Stand by Me.

“One of the reasons I believe Stand by Me is so enduring is that Rob cast four young boys who were our characters,” he says. “Corey was such a pain in the ass and I said to Rob, ‘Why did you cast him?’ And Rob said, ‘There was no other actor who was as angry as Corey was. And Teddy is filled with anger and rage.’ And I went, ‘Oh my God, that totally makes sense.’ River is smarter than all of us and wiser beyond his years than any of us are. And that’s exactly who Chris is. And Jerry is unbelievably funny, and really easy to get along with, and is guileless. ‘Oh my God, that’s Vern.’

“I guess I want to be a writer so that makes me Gordie. I never realized until I was in my 40s that I was Gordie because I was Gordie.”

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by Anonymousreply 43July 12, 2021 9:39 AM

I've never seen "Stand by Me." He was rather a drip on TNG.

by Anonymousreply 1May 22, 2021 6:18 PM

Most people think he was a drip on TNG.

Stand by Me, however, is a classic.

His story of his parents pushing him into acting to support them isn't an uncommon one.

Seems like he's mostly left that behind except for appearances here and there.

by Anonymousreply 2May 22, 2021 6:22 PM

Wasn't he also famous for having a loud and very public squabble outside The Abbey in West Hollywood with his reported boyfriend Brian Austin Green?

by Anonymousreply 3May 22, 2021 6:25 PM

Were Wil and River ever boyfriends?

by Anonymousreply 4May 22, 2021 6:26 PM

He is married since 1999

by Anonymousreply 5May 22, 2021 6:28 PM

r5 This was back in the early 90's. I used to see them at The Abbey when I lived on North Larrabee in West Hollywood, just down from the Viper Room.

by Anonymousreply 6May 22, 2021 6:29 PM

[quote]reeling from the death of his older teen brother (John Cusack).

It’s been so long since I have watched this that I forgot John Cusack was the older brother.

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by Anonymousreply 7May 22, 2021 6:31 PM

Truly a great movie. Not to be trite,but they sure dont make them like that anymore. He made many appearances on Big bang theory ,he does comedy well.

by Anonymousreply 8May 22, 2021 6:32 PM

[quote]Wasn't he also famous for having a loud and very public squabble outside The Abbey in West Hollywood with his reported boyfriend Brian Austin Green?

Wait... what?

by Anonymousreply 9May 22, 2021 6:35 PM

r9 I did not witness the squabble. I only saw them together frequently at The Abbey and the reported argument was the talk of West Hollywood by those who did witness it.

by Anonymousreply 10May 22, 2021 6:39 PM

Years ago it was discussed on various sites including this one from around 2005:

"If this has been discussed before, I apologize. I'm new and stuff. But has anyone else read the A list and puzzled over this item:

[Wil Wheaton vs Brian Austin Green (Supposedly a very bad breakup)]

So cryptic!"

by Anonymousreply 11May 22, 2021 6:43 PM

The below is from Datalounge back in 2007 referencing years before:

"Anyone remember that rumor of a fight in West Hollywood between him, Wil Wheaton and Jonathan Brandis because one of them was cheating on the other with the third? It was big news on alt.showbiz.gossip. Those were the days."

by Anonymousreply 12May 22, 2021 6:46 PM

Now that is some odd (and very random) gossip, R12.

But I like it!

by Anonymousreply 13May 22, 2021 6:56 PM

[Quote] It was big news on alt.showbiz.gossip.

In what year? 1995?

by Anonymousreply 14May 22, 2021 7:00 PM

r14 It was sometime around then because I was working in L.A. for CBS from 1991 until 1996. In that time frame.

by Anonymousreply 15May 22, 2021 7:02 PM

[quote]This was back in the early 90's. I used to see them at The Abbey when I lived on North Larrabee in West Hollywood, just down from the Viper Room.

Did straight men go to the Abbey back then or was it exclusively gay?

by Anonymousreply 16May 22, 2021 8:30 PM

Another victim!

Why should I care? There are victims everywhere nowdays in Pussy America!

by Anonymousreply 17May 22, 2021 9:26 PM

r16 From my experiences there "back then", it was almost exclusively gay. My observed interaction between Wil and Brian seemed more than just friends.

by Anonymousreply 18May 22, 2021 9:33 PM

Wil used to be a twink, but is he considered to be a "bear" now?

by Anonymousreply 19May 23, 2021 11:55 PM

^ perhaps an otter.

by Anonymousreply 20May 24, 2021 12:01 AM

I don't think Megan Fox would be clamoring for your jizz and spawning three of your children if you have hairy man ass sweat smeared across your face on the regular

by Anonymousreply 21May 24, 2021 12:09 AM

Did you WW your own comment?

by Anonymousreply 22May 24, 2021 12:10 AM

We stood by Will as long as he had checks to cash.

by Anonymousreply 23May 24, 2021 12:19 AM

r21 The alleged relationship occurred when Megan was in grammar school!! (She was born in 1986 and the affair between Wil and Brian allegedly happened in the mid-90's.)

by Anonymousreply 24May 24, 2021 12:31 AM

Maybe it is just me, but I just don’t think I’d throw my parents under the bus like that (publicly). Maybe if they were dead.

Not saying he is in the wrong, but there are worse parental fails than pushing your child into acting.

And no, Mrs. Ramsey, no comments from you.

by Anonymousreply 25May 24, 2021 12:44 AM

Did he then channel his experience as an uptight priss into Wesley Crusher?

by Anonymousreply 26May 24, 2021 12:48 AM

[quote] Maybe it is just me, but I just don’t think I’d throw my parents under the bus like that (publicly).

It's the only way!

by Anonymousreply 27May 24, 2021 12:50 AM

Wheaton is always complaining about something. I don't understand his appeal, he's never seemed like this amazing good guy that all the nerds claim he is, he's sour faced and whiny.

by Anonymousreply 28May 24, 2021 12:52 AM

[quote]Maybe it is just me, but I just don’t think I’d throw my parents under the bus like that (publicly). Maybe if they were dead.

You should probably read his whole post R25.

Seems like this article parsed it together while not making it clear that his father beat him up and he says his mother never did a thing to stop him. She even pretended as if it never happened.

Countless stories like that have been on Datalounge over the years. The parents who never acknowledged that they were not perfect if not downright physically and/or emotionally abusive. Of course that always leads to the kid cutting them off.

His actress mother, he claims, was also a narcissist, which I think many of them sometimes are.

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by Anonymousreply 29May 24, 2021 12:55 AM

If he were really my son, I'd beat him too.

by Anonymousreply 30May 24, 2021 12:58 AM

Imagine if R30 really was McFadden!

by Anonymousreply 31May 24, 2021 10:14 AM

I like him

by Anonymousreply 32May 25, 2021 12:27 AM

[quote] Wasn't he also famous for having a loud and very public squabble outside The Abbey in West Hollywood with his reported boyfriend Brian Austin Green?

Now you know why I left him for Machine Gun Kelly.

I wanted to marry an actual straight man.

by Anonymousreply 33May 25, 2021 2:26 AM

[quote] Jerry O’Connell reacts to 'Stand by Me' co-star Wil Wheaton’s emotional abuse revelation: 'You have no idea what is going on with someone'

In an interview with Yahoo Entertainment last week, Stand by Me star Wil Wheaton revealed that a painful childhood fueled his performance as the troubled Gordie in the 1986 coming of age classic.

"Through a combination of an incredible emotional abuse from my father and a lot of manipulation, using me, from my mother, it really put me in that place," Wheaton told us, noting that his actress mother forced him into a childhood show business career.

One of Wheaton's co-stars, Jerry O’Connell, reacted to Wheaton's comments with sympathy and encouragement on Wednesday while guest-hosting CBS's aptly named daytime talk show The Talk.

"I love Wil. He's a great friend of mine. We've obviously been friends for 35 years now. That film was 35 years ago. I had no idea he was feeling this when we were doing this film," O’Connell told co-hosts Sheryl Underwood, Amanda Kloots, Elaine Welteroth and fellow guest host Jaime Camil.

O'Connell sees Wheaton's candid revelations as a teachable moment.

“I think what should be said is, you have no idea, not even co-workers, just people close to you, you have no idea what is going on with someone. So, if you sense anything is amiss, anything weird, it costs you nothing to go up to them and say, 'Hey is everything ok? Is anything going on? Do you want someone to talk to?' I just think even saying that I think reaches a hand out to someone."

O’Connell added that he has "great memories" from filming Stand by Me – which were largely shared by Wheaton when it came to the bonding experience with O'Connell and costars Corey Feldman and River Phoenix.

"But I wish I was older back then so I could have said, 'Hey Wil, hey man is anything [wrong]?'" O'Connell said. "But I do love Wil and he's doing great. He does a lot for Paramount+, for Star Trek, he's doing great."

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by Anonymousreply 34May 26, 2021 9:37 PM

r6 there was a group of them that played gay in public.. called themselves pansies; leo, tobey, orlando, river, too.

also, started a lot of shit with sitcom actors.

but wil's outcry now just sounds whiney and entitled. . . desperate for attention and playing to his political base. expect a me too moment and a duet with corey & his angels.

all these reveals decades after events is just pathetic.

by Anonymousreply 35May 26, 2021 10:01 PM

I used to jerk off to Will as Wesley Crusher when I was a horny teen. I would only admit to this anonymously.

by Anonymousreply 36May 26, 2021 10:23 PM

Why be embarrassed, R36? He was hot! Check out R17 from a related thread.

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by Anonymousreply 37May 26, 2021 11:10 PM

This isn't the first time he's mentioned his bad relationship with his parents. He brought it up long before trauma was trendy

by Anonymousreply 38May 26, 2021 11:19 PM

A child isn't entitled for not wanting to be beaten nor pay the bills.

by Anonymousreply 39May 26, 2021 11:28 PM

R39, I disagree.

by Anonymousreply 40May 26, 2021 11:31 PM

Beautiful movie.

It always makes me cry because I think about my own gang of friends and how fast all that goes away.

And River is too good in this. He was an angel.

by Anonymousreply 41May 26, 2021 11:36 PM

This film always makes me emotional. Time is fleeting. I am surprised it was marketed as a dramedy, much like The Wonder Years, I found it more dramatic than humorous.

by Anonymousreply 42July 12, 2021 5:16 AM

He had little to give as an actor. Knowing what I do (which is way too much) about the shithole that is what younger kids go through to try and grab the brass ring, I would not be totally surprised if he never really "made it" past his little blob thing, which, if it helped, good for him.

Hope he is out of the hell hole, and in therapy. I also hope his cunt parents are in jail.

That never happens, sadly.

by Anonymousreply 43July 12, 2021 9:39 AM
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