Would you go to a gay bar by yourself?

Gay bars are passé

Yep, done gay bars solo. Not ideal, but sometimes ended up being really fun.

Yes, but after binging on true crime shows during the pandemic, I'd be a little worried about serial killers.

R3, lol.

No.

Post-pandemic, I am going to have to get used to doing many things by myself.

Yes, but not in my home town.

[quote] Would you go to a gay bar by yourself?

Only a shut-in would ask this question. Oh, and you don't have any friends.

There's nothing for me in a gay bar. I don't drink or dance or go home with strangers. And I don't have enough friends to do one of those group-date things, where you commandeer a table and stare at each other- daring strangers to invade your exclusive circle.

Sure.

Are the little kiddies afraid of being in a big bad (Gay bar? They're ALL gay bars.) bar all alone?

Because no one else could possibly be there for the same reasons you are? (companionship, kill time, alcohol, conversation, meeting people, play some games, make out, find someone to hang out with, find someone to fuck, see what's happening, and on and on and on)

The overarching question should be "Would you go to a gay bar?," and for that my answer would be unlikely, as the music tends to be awful, no one knows how to cruise any more, and you can meet gay people in regular bars just as often.

But yes, I might go to one alone if I was traveling, on vacation, or was really hoping to get laid (though I know the latter is less and less reason to go to a gay bar).

[quote] Are the little kiddies afraid of being in a big bad (Gay bar?

Based on their explanation, it wasn't the gay part that felt intimidating as much as the being alone in a party atmosphere.

I would go to a gay bar alone, but I wouldn't leave alone...

But people might think I'm unpopular if I went by myself!!

I usually went by myself....I mean, the point wasn't to hang out with friends, it was to get laid....It's all a long time ago, and so sad.

R15, me too. That's how I hunt for men.

I am not shy at all.

It depends on the bar.

It's much easier to meet people if you go alone.

I don't go to bars any longer, but when I did, of course I would go alone. If I didn't go alone, many times I wouldn't have gone out.

[quote] And I don't have enough friends to do one of those group-date things,

I am thunderstruck by this information!

[quote] I might go to one alone if I was traveling, on vacation,

That's one of my favorite things to do when traveling. Going to a gay bar, solo, and sampling the local flavor.

ewww no

Loved going out to bars alone in my drinking days. I'm pretty friendly and would I always end up chatting up some barfly. Met a bunch of interesting people over the years. A few damn good fucks too.

Good times.

The pub is a good place to meet men. I don't see why not

What R13 said.

I usually went to gay bars alone, starting with leather bars and bars known for easy sex when I was 17. When I was young it was where I made my first gay adult friends, and far more friends for the night.

I associate travelling in a pack more to big night clubs, with queues to get in and queues for the coat check and to order a drink. Big clubs were more about seeing who was there and drugs and djs and clothes and gossip and sloppy messes. I did it for a very few years with friends and while I had a good time. It would have been fairly miserable on my own and I would have left for a leather bar or a sex bar and had a much better, less pretentious evening.

I never understood the man who thought going to a bar by himself was unthinkable, as though some young Victorian woman of whom society demanded that she always be accompanied by a suitable male escort or family member. It's easier to meet people, to join in conversations with strangers, to not have to achieve group consensus on every little move.

I hate that school girlish business of a gaggle of friends vetting someone with whom you were talking to or who is looking at you. Also I found over time that the most men who would shudder at the idea of going out alone were timid and prissy in other aspects of life.

I'll bet the answer to this varies according to age.

[quote] I hate that school girlish business of a gaggle of friends vetting someone with whom you were talking to or who is looking at you.

Exactly.

OP has watched too many episodes of "Queer As Folk"

In my salad days I went to gay bars alone many times. But it was a rare occasion I left alone.

You guys have to realize that most gay bars are not cruisy anymore. Sure 20 years ago you went to meet guys to fuck, but nowadays things have changed. A lot more guys in groups just talking to each other and less trying to meet other people.

R30, salad days?

I've never had a problem doing this, and I've never understood why anyone would. I hit up a friend (if I'm in the mood for that), & if they're not available, I go alone. I do the same with other places...restaurants, movies, the theater.

But the bar that I really most prefer isn't the local gay bar. It's a hole-in-the-wall Irish-style pub. Great staff, cheap drinks, and an interesting mixed crowd are three of the reasons I prefer it.

You hunt solo if you're looking to hook up.

I don't have 'bar voice', the kind that cuts through noise and disco music like a hot knife through butter. I have 'coffee shop voice'.

Once social distancing is over, I would have no problem going by myself. I meet up with a group of friends on a regular basis on Saturday's, and last night, we went to two different places. We have a set-up meeting time and usually stay at one place, but they have a time limited when at capacity and when others make reservations. Once this ends and things go back to normal without that crap, we'll most likely just stay there. The only thing that ruins the gay bar experience is the abundance of hen parties who crash and try to take over. Nothing worse than a bunch of cackling chickies to make the rooster want to fly the coop.

As a younger man I often went to gay bars alone. But seldom left that way.

[quote] and I've never understood why anyone would.

I think it's the same people who wouldn't want to go to a restaurant or cinema alone.

[quote]I hate that school girlish business of a gaggle of friends

Sometimes literally schoolgirls. Tagging along to the back room 'yasss kween wooooooo'. 🙄

R39, lol.

[quote] [R30], salad days?

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