What things make you immediately dislike someone before you've really given them a chance?

Rudness to wait staff is a permanent dislike

Obvious designer labels, especially when mixed together (i.e. Gucci belt, dear God, especially the Gucci belt, Burberry scarf, etc). I know the person is desperate and TACKY.

Rudeness to wait staff is never a good sign, but “bee’s knees” is a delightful phrase.

Loud voice.

Sweats and PF Flyers.

Twenty-three Skidoo!!

Loudly identifying yourself as a member of a group, such as "I am an ARTist!"

OP, what if he had described it instead as "the tits" to convey the same meaning? Would that have been permissible?

Deal fukin Breaker

Certain hats....

Mentioning George Soros and the Rothschilds in casual conversation.

I’m like okay we’re done here!

Well, republicanism. That's a given. But the phone thing and constantly looking around as you talk to them.

r7, you mean like this?

Socks with sandals.

If someone slurped their coffee, I'd have to slap it out of their hands. My nerves are too frayed "in times like this" for that nasty shit.

1) anything Trump, MAGA, Qanon, etc.

2) “both sides are awful” bullshit.

Big, fat, expensive, tacky watch.

Passive aggressive cunts

Passive aggressive cunts

I love my Gucci belt, r2. I love Burberry scarfs as well.

A pussy handshake. I don't mind if the hand is soft but have a grip, ok?

r10, the images in the photo are not hats, they're Caps. A cap has the brim in the front.

Also anyone who overuses unnecessary words - repeated use of "like" or "omg" or "amazing," etc. These are red flags that signal a very limited vocabulary.

R21, "Handing Someone a Dead Fish."

Inappropriate clothing for wherever we're meeting. I don't need to see your junk or your baseball cap at Sunday brunch.

People who are overly familiar with people they barely know. What's that about?

R26 Oh yeah, name droppers. It is kind of fun to bait them, though; badger them with personal questions about the person they claim to know and see how far they'll take it.

R4, And super quiet voice.

But mostly saying proudly that they don't own a television.

In a new group we were asked where we live. One guy said "I'm Brooklyn-based." Excuse me!

People who catcall or people who flirt with someone in a group setting instead of when they're one on one.

Painted fingernails on a guy.

People who insist on smoking near me.

R23 - add cool and awesome.

Men over 30 wearing trucker hats or snapback hats. They look retarded.

Asking a nosy/too personal question and then persisting with the question even after receiving a vague answer.

R34 is an asshole

Republicanism. It's a disease.

People who add a weird flourish to everyday expressions, like "okely-dokely" or "yes indeedy doodly."

If I hear a cutesy phrase, I know they are either mentally challenged, or desperate for attention. "Totes adorbs" "Husbear" etc.

Using “y’all” in speech or writing.

Rudeness in general.

Shitting in the toilet and not flushing

-R28 I hate super quiet talkers/mumblers/mutterers, as well.

-Smokers under 70 or so.

-People who only seem to care about sports and assume everyone else is interested.

Someone taking a dump in the bathroom and closing the door after so the smell just stays there waiting to nauseate whomever comes in next.

Anyone with any fur on.

Anyone driving a huge SUV.

R40 My friend who is a wonderful person and a professor at UC was encouraged to say or write y’all as part of the gender less pronoun craze. “Y’all” instead of “you guys.”

Anybody who starts sentences with “Frankly” or “So”

Agree with R1.

"Loudly identifying yourself as a member of a group, such as "I am an ARTist!""

I guess loners and mumblers are lining up at your door.

People who set out to impress me with their connections/credentials.

[flush]

[quote] My friend who is a wonderful person and a professor at UC was encouraged to say or write y’all as part of the gender less pronoun craze. “Y’all” instead of “you guys.”

This is why I dislike it. When “y’all” was just a Southern thing it was fine, charming even. But now it’s become part of the SJW woke lexicon language policing BS.

People who start sentences with "So" like people have started doing in recent years.

People who use the term "anal" or "anal retentive". It's disgusting and denotes an edgelord type of person. Just say "Obsessive Compulsive" or "neurotic".

People who refer to disgusting or sexual things in polite conversation without euphemisms.

Someone who has obviously just farted and is trying to act nonchalant about it. I really hate that.

People who can't control their dope and booze consumption (Burp!).

R47 and R52. The “So...” thing used to drive me crazy but it’s everywhere. On NPR and in academia. My nephews and nieces under ten do it frequently too. It’s here to stay. Just like the uptalk and vocal fry. Language evolves even if it the evolution is based on a mistake.

People say “hone in on” instead of “home in on” and it’s become acceptable. My teachers used to correct us when we said “forte” like “fortay.” They’d say “it’s from Latin, not Italian” but now it’s also acceptable to pronounce it like the musical term.

Yous, anyways, irregardless and gonna still bother me.

I guess I’m getting old.

^^^ Even if, not even if it

R55 ‘dominate’ has become acceptable for ‘dominant’..ughhhh

spouting off on politics

Bee's Knees was also used on ILL by Bea Benederat. I'd love the reference.

Seemingly high or drunk every time I meet them. There's clearly a problem if you're always high and/or drunk. My husband has a few friends like this and he can never understand why I don't like them.

I like the 🐝's knees quip. But yeah, being rude to the staff is the worst. People that (over) laugh for no reason is a major turnoff. It signals dishonesty in my book and I avoid them types.

People who come off as dicks right away,

People with douchey haircuts,

People with septum piercings.

R62 Septum piercings are so gross.

r63, they really are. Honestly, I had any piercings on a man except for maybe ear piercings. But I don't like those either, they are just tolerable.

Reckless driving

Dirty, messy car

Rodney Dangerfield eyes

If their last name is Guttman.

“You know” after every third word.

"But now it’s become part of the SJW woke lexicon language policing BS."

My dislikes:

1.People who use SJW as an insult

2.People think you're "policing" them if you criticize them. These are the same people who claim they're being "silenced" if people make fun of them

Loudly declaring yourself as high maintenance.

People who brag about their degree--"I'm a gender studies PhD". Good for you, dumbass.

Someone who ignores or pushes away a dog or cat that wants to be pet.

I rarely write off anyone right away. People are usually complex.

Anyone who within the first 15 minutes of conversation mentions where they went to school, the type of car they drive, what they do for work, "our house at the lake", or "when I was in (fill-in-the-blank) last month". You know the type.

Rotten armpit odor. Halitosis. Tattoos Gauges. Religious jewelry. No eye contact when speaking to me. No sense of humor. So yeah I dislike most people I meet.🙃

I think multiple, random tattoos and massive ear gauges are invaluable TIME SAVERS. They tell me not to bother with that person.

I was on a date with a guy who was being unnecessarily curt with our waitress, and I was attempting to defuse the tension with a bit of 'charm'. My date actually complained to me that the waitress was paid to "take it". I had already decided there wouldn't be a second date, but after being scolded, I got up, located our waitress and explained I needed to leave, and paid for the meals with a generous tip (in cash, of course). I left without a backward glance.

An enthusiasm for Astrology. NEXT!

Ok, I get rudeness to waitstaff. But what if they are rude to you first? I waited tables. I know the hierarchy. But sometimes after being understanding and sympathetic and still getting shit service I will let out a stinger to let them know why they are only getting a 15 when I settle.

Fuck off, R40.

When politicians and pundits are asked a question and they begins their response with, “Look ...”

Biden does this WAY too much.

[Quote] Someone who has obviously just farted and is trying to act nonchalant about it. I really hate that.

What's the ladylike way to deal with a little slip of a poot? What do you do in these delicate circumstances r53?

Hey youse who disapprove of y'all and So, you think language does not evolve? You don't have to use then if you don't like them. So, what I'm saying is that usage will prevail over correctness.

R72 - and "nuanced".

"Trans people started Stonewall."

DL has, what, several thousand threads wherein posters have gushed / obsessed over their pet kitties, right?

Ergo, why all of the love here for "The Bee's Knees?" Pay some attention to ME, dammit!

Uptalk. It's indicative of a devious or dishonest personality.

Women who immediately bring up their children.

Why in the world would I want to hear about your kids?

Saying “To be honest,...”’ all the time. It implies that you are normally not honest.

R36 No, R34 is not. Those snap-back caps are cheap and the person wearing one shows it.

Chronic upspeak, or a shrill speaking voice.

Religious people and Republicans. People who parrot inane-yet-popular notions and catch phrases like, "I believe everything happens for a reason", or who don't realize organic produce has no added health benefits. Followers of hucksters like Oprah/Chopra, or New Age personalities. Shall I go on?

Gays who move from nyc to la. Always awful, social climby (with no reason to be — too many ways to be here)

R90 Yes, a tone of voice can be an instant turn-on or turn-off.

As a dog owner, someone I meet who acts annoyed or irritated by my dog right away, for no reason.

Anyone that says “foodie.”

Someone who makes a big deal about others eating carbs and makes it their business to say "dude, that's so much of carbs!".

Criticizing anyone's food choices. Who made you the Food God? Especially at Sunday brunch where people like to indulge themselves.

Negative nellies. People who bring up an obscure movie and then acted shocked and repulsed when you admit you've never heard of it.

"WHAT?? You *haven't* seen Coffee and Cigarettes??!!"

R97 Oh yes! They are also shocked if you haven't heard of the recent food trend or political book. All I want is some decent conversation and a good meal. Is that too much to ask?

I hate people who use the word “meal.”

R99 You actually HATE them?

I’m not wild about contrarians and those who whip out a smartphone to challenge others with statistics like ratings on Rotten Tomatoes. Sigh. You can be partially right but completely obnoxious.

Self centeredness. When it is clear to me after a brief interaction they are only interested in talking about themselves.

Flip flops with long pants.

Crocs.

103 responses?

1/10

Not so elaborate scenario.

FAT!

R102 - sometimes than can happen when the first person has nothing to say. I dated someone who was not a talker and I am so that didn't work.

A mullet

Weird hair colors

R93 How do you know there is no reason? A lot of people have allergies or fears of dogs. Are you the type that fails to keep your dog away from strangers? No one should have to deal with your dog without consent. Dogs should be trained to stay at a distance until given the green light to approach a new person. I say this as a very big dog lover and former shelter volunteer.

Snooty people. We all enter and exit this world the same way.

People with permanent scowls on their faces.

Everything! I hate everyone !

I agree with R109 about the dogs. Some owners think its adorable to have fido jump all over you and nip you but it can be annoying. I have a friend who has 2 yappers and I can't see her without them tagging along. She seems to need them psychologically but it's not what I signed up for. I like most dogs but in small doses, same as children.

One of my favorite phrases is "alla y'all" when engaging in friendly banter with a group, mainly because of the sound. Formal usage (!) would be "you all."

Dislike people who are fussbudgets and have an air of permanent dissatisfaction. [Then I look in the mirror...oops.]

People who have resting bitch face and pull a momentary smile that's more like a grimace (without being in pain).

people who make everything about Trump. "Gurl, did you see her makeup?" Response "Someone needs to tell Trump to stop wearing orange makeup." "I'll have the steak. What about you?" Response "Trump eats overdone steak with ketchup. "

People who immediately start asking probing questions to see how they could use you (and how they should treat you).

Like, immediately asking what you work, whom you know, what car you drive, all while eyeing your clothes and watch with calculating eyes. It's stunning how unreserved people are in acting like this. Nobody's ashamed in the slightest.

R22 "A hat is any kind of head covering, other than a helmet. A cap is a type of hat." They are hats

If someone mentions the brand name of something, or feels obligated to make sure you know how cultured they are. I went on a date once and this guy was working so hard to impress, it was distracting. Me: "Oh, I like your watch." Him: "Thanks, it's Tiffany, my mother gave it to me on a trip to the Bahamas."

The food here is supposed to be really good. Him: "I hope so, I went to this supposed Italian restaurant yesterday. It was nothing, but once you've actually been to Italy several times, there's just no real Italian food here worth even mentioning."

People who immediately trot out their pets or kids. I don't care. Are you able to have a human-to-human conversation?

Well r106, there are extremes. I have some friends who don’t need to fill every moment with blathering conversation. It took me a bit to appreciate that, but usually it is a sign of confidence that I have come to enjoy.

On the other side are the people who are constantly talking about themselves (and not necessarily in a bragging fashion) and at any point that you try to move the conversation in another direction they get this far off distant look in their eyes waiting for their next opportunity to speak. I’ll take the silent type any day over that.

[quote]The food here is supposed to be really good. Him: "I hope so, I went to this supposed Italian restaurant yesterday. It was nothing, but once you've actually been to Italy several times, there's just no real Italian food here worth even mentioning."

I have a friend like this. He travels a lot, but 90% is cruises. I took Italian this past year, and so he became fond of talking about "when I was in Rome," "when I was in Venice," etc., and it turned out that he was in each of these places for a day, possibly overnight, one time while his cruise ship went around the boot. And he's trying to come off like a member of the cognoscenti.

If I detect the least bit of insincerity, then I'm done. Lies, gossip, loudness, overbearing and obnoxious.

farting in the presence of another person.

Those well kept beards that have a straight line on the face and on the neck on men, Long claw like nails on women, Excessive, luxury jewelry, golden watches and big rings, necklaces, especially on men T-shirts and hoodies with big advertising logos (Nike, Adidas etc.) The men that wear scarfs and bandanas around their neck like Johnny Depp and a lot of ageing former rock stars

A very strong, obnoxious perfume that hits you in the face and knocks you over

Wearing a tropical shirt and shorts with a pattern of circles.

Gay men who refer to other gay men with feminine pronouns:

“ Well I don’t know what HER problem is.”

“Gurl, did you . . . ?”

Guys who ask you to pronounce their list of words before they'll continue the data.

Finding out they're a racist or a xenophobe.

Holier-than-thou attitudes (e.g. "Please don't use that kind of language around me. I find it classless" when someone uses the occasional cuss word.)

They hate cats

[quote] super quiet voice

Reminds me of Seinfeld's "close talker".

People who actually judge others for what brand of cell phone they have. Who gives a damn if you're an Apple or Android user as long as you've got one?

Preaching about religion whether it is for or against. Some of the obnoxious Atheists are just as annoying as the Bible thumpers.

Saying "all lives matter" or "blue lives matter."

R125 What's wrong with tropical shirts?

Why are so many older gay men so judgemental?

I can understand not liking someone for being a Trumpist or racist but so many of these are so petty. No wonder so many posters on here are so miserable.

What era does "bee's knees" date from? Seems like the 1920s or even earlier. I've never heard it used except in jest.

[quote]Why are so many older gay men so judgemental?

Why are so many younger gay men so judgmental?

People who say, "it is what it is. " I'm thinking, thanks for your powerful take. My as well be talking to my dog.

[quote]...but so many of these are so petty. No wonder so many posters on here are so miserable.

R132 People who overuse the word "so"

It was combined with patterned shorts, R131, that’s what’s wrong.

r108 With those ear things, you're noticing his hair color?

soccer slides and other douche-bro affectations. Worshiping beer. Going on and ON about fucking BACON and BURGERS!

Needing to say "I'm a Christian."

Anyone who says, "Go [sportsteam]!"

Anyone who name drops famous people. Tacky AF.

Or anyone who talks extensively about rich people you don’t know and gives you meaningless details about their lives (oh see that big house over there? Harry lives there and his wife does blah blah blah and their kids are blah blah blah and this one time blah blah blah).

Like I’m not even that interested in my own life - why would I care about strangers?

[quote] anyone who talks extensively about rich people you don’t know

So 75% of the posters on Datalounge?

R51 even so we southerners will continue to use y’all

R55 addition to getting old you’re getting annoying

all of r128's list makes my list with the addition:

Stupid people who think they're smart. Ugly people who constantly talk about how gorgeous they are and how much tail they get. People who flex on total strangers - why the hell do they think we care that they went to Andover? We don't.

[quote] Why are so many older gay men so judgemental?

Bad spellers.

If they stink of laundry chemicals or dryer sheets. If they use air "freshener" in their home or car.

Use of the term “husbear”. Hard pass.

This will make me sound older than I am, but I really despise crappy, childish tattoos. See Lens Dunham or Lourdes Ciccone. Although, it does you the favour of letting you know the person is crazy upfront. Tattoo sleeves will just make think you have poor judgement.

Lots of you are delicate little flowers, aintcha?

If you're a Lysolina from the "Shopping For Groceries Is Like Hell Right Now" threads.

Racism. Especially blatant racism as if to dare you to say something about it.

They might as well say “I sodomize six-year-olds and I dare you to disapprove”

I'm the job at I. Magnin's Judy quits when Scotty starts paying her rent at the shabby boarder motel.

What if, in the course of your dinner at a restaurant, you learn that your server is a Trump supporter, is it okay then to be rude to them?

No, R154. But then, that's my answer; others will surely say yes.

Why would you bring politics into a server's life? Why would you care R154? Are you that miserable you wanna bring everyone around you down with you? Leave servers and people on the service industry alone. Eat your meal and shut the fuck up!

Bluetooth earpiece

Use of speakerphone in public

Neck and /or face tattoos

Stretched earlobes

Parents who make no attempt to control their brats in public

Adults who whine about minor inconveniences like mask wearing

No R54 commenting on your server’s politics is some thing MAGA trash would do.

R147 so you’d rather smell my dog’s shit over this Meyer Lemon natural oil air freshener??

You leave your dog's shit in your apartment, r159?

R160, are you really that stupid?

Your choices, r161, not mine. Two bad smells > one bad smell?

I hope you don’t have a dog, r162

What [italic]are[/italic] you going on about, r163? I don't have a dog now, but when I did, I didn't need air "freshener."

I dislike r162! It was immediately after “meeting” her too!

What R1 said. I would add to the list...anyone who is dismissive of the opinion of others. You may not agree, but listen to their point of view.

People who just talk about themselves and never ask about you. In other words...all the narcissists out there.

I also dislike cheap people. There's a big difference between people who are frugal and people who are just cheap. I had a relative who would travel 25 miles out of the way to avoid paying a 35 cents toll. Cheap bastard!

R134 It is what it is

I immediately dislike everyone. They have to win me over.

People who repeat the punchline of a joke you've just said. I've never understood what that's about. I have an aunt who does that and always adds a little snort at the end and I can never understand why it bothers me.

I usually give everyone a solid three strikes rule. Anyone can have a bad day or make a bad first impression, especially if they're nervous. It's when you're always making a bad impression that I have to cut the chord. Being rude to waitstaff is the one thing that immediately makes me cut the chord, though. That's inexcusable, especially if they've been nothing but pleasant. I once went on a date with a guy who was rude to the waiter and I ended up dumping the guy and going out with the waiter the next week. We're still together 15 years later.

They are on my lawn!

People who are cleary mask refusers or "make America great again!" lovers.

[quote]It's when you're always making a bad impression that I have to cut the chord. Being rude to waitstaff is the one thing that immediately makes me cut the chord, though.

Oh, dhear.

Pedants, see R22.

Bragging

Extremely critical people who complain a lot. Picky and demanding at restaurants and everywhere else.

They think that being critical and acting superior makes them look important. It doesn't.

For all of you scorners of public farting, my mother was a very proper church lady. She was the picture of decorum in public but wasn't above cutting a loud fart or yelling "SHIT!" or "GODDAM IT!" at home. I always got a kick out of that.

Once I was dragged along for some reason when she picked up another of her church lady friends. This was a very sweet, demure woman, lovely in her printed dress and cute hat (a la Hyacinth Bouquet only not crazy), but also heavily girdled. As she slid into our car a gentle "poot" was heard and of course Mother pretended not to hear. I did the same (while suppressing loud guffaws) but boy did we laugh about it later.

All of the above, that's why I don't go out.

R173 That's not a minor detail, you schmuck. That's like saying vehicles and cars are two different, separate things

"Pleasant to meet you," sounds a bit lukewarm. Sounds like the cousin saw you coming and took an instant, preemptive dislike to you OP.

People who immediately assume you're of the same religion they are, ie., Christians (let's pray before we eat ) -- no, let's not.

People who just met you and are already asking for your number (let me just add you to my contacts right now...) - do I WANT you to have my number? I don't know yet.

Pre-COVID, but huggers, right when you meet them. Why are your hugging me?

My aunt saved her farts for when she was near younger, prettier women. She'd let one rip, then twist her face and hold her nose, and point at the younger woman. Once, in church during midnight Xmas mass, she let go of a loud one right after the little bell, when we were bowing our heads. She looked at my sister and said her name loud enough for the priest, and everyone nearby, to hear.

Roars of laughter. My father had to bring some of outside to wait in the car.

Can all stop talking oldsters' farts?

"It's when you're always making a bad impression that I have to cut the chord. Being rude to waitstaff is the one thing that immediately makes me cut the chord, though."

What did Chord ever do to you?

"People who say, "it is what it is. " I'm thinking, thanks for your powerful take. My as well be talking to my dog."

If someone has to tell you "it is what it is," it's because they think they're talking to someone with the brain power of a dog.

In other words, you're yipping about something doesn't actually change anything, ergo "It is what it is."

Would you care for a bacon treat, dear?

People who drink all their water from plastic bottles, even at home. Not an "immediate dislike," but it just seems dumb. Get a filter.

Lack of imagination. Oh you can't IMAGINE people thinking/feeling/doing a certain way? Oh really? It doesn't even click in as a possibility? You can't consider that people live different lives, coming from different formative experiences? You can't even PROCESS it? Well I can imagine people like you, I just don't like them.

Classism. I'm basically poor as hell, but I mean it in all directions. No you poors, the rich are more oblivious than malevolent against you specifically, they just have inbred selfishness. No you elites, if you don't consistently do something about inequality, it inevitably ends with your life, unless we believe we're at the end of history. If I see someone whine about losing access to their housekeeper, I probably dislike them (a reason why I can tolerate my partner's relative is because he used that as a chance to just boast about his robot carpet cleaner instead). If I see someone whine that there's LITERALLY ZERO jobs and NO way to feed themselves in CANADA (and not in a remote area of it), I immediately think they're dumb or simply manipulative. Same goes with treatment to service workers. Treat them with disdain, I think of you with disdain. Treat them as though you're one and the same so you deserve special treatment, I think you're going to be a pain in my ass.

I actually don't mind people who only talk about themselves, with the caveat that they seem to deliberately leave room for you to interject and talk about yourselves with no undue judgement. But this is just reflecting off myself who is either largely quiet and liking to hear others, but occasionally gets carried away with a topic and hopes that I didn't dominate the talk too much. I guess I want more leeway to I give more leeway.

Social conservatism. I'm more tolerant than many of my friends towards socially conservative notions people can have, but as identities I'm even less forgiving. Same with related concepts like religiosity, where I get if someone needs to bring up a religious concept and belief that connects with a religious philosophy, its more fine with me than most atheists, but I abhor religions as institutions and their most mindlessly fervent believers.

Humblebragging or even flatly bragging, without a hint of sarcasm about it mattering. You can be a genius coder, just give me the wink that understands that for all we know, it could be a dead profession in decades. You could explore the world, just give me the wink that you know that it'll matter as little as anything else after you're gone. You can volunteer thousands of hours, just give me the wink that communicates that you know structural change requires more than personal 'sacrifice'. You can have several successful children, just wink in knowledge that at least one will most likely fuck up beyond belief and that you won't condemn them for being less than perfect. If you're just showing off, you're weirdly almost not a person to me. I can IMAGINE (see above) you as a person, but its kind of wispy and false.

While our relationship isn't the dreamiest ideal or anything, in many ways I'm describing what I find appealing in my partner. He's with a strict good/bad black/white mindset, yet its been so well tempered with external and internal therapy and mindfulness (the real kind) that I respect his process a lot. He's from a more classist environment (ranging from the wealthiest of relatives to the elders struggling in home country) but actively rejects it, though he's materialist enough to like toys and small signals. He had to be real to deal with poor me, really. He's generous socially, for the most part. He was moderate right wing when I met him, now he's probably left of (the public face of) Sanders (and kinda me). And he's always conscientious of how he's coming off and how that can impact his teams/family/partner/friends. Oh no, humblebragging. But the point is that if I can spend most of my time with this guy, why should I tolerate a little piece of shit unless I had to?

pt 2

My first and only flatly failed relationship (my first one ended, and I dumped him, but I don't regret the time) was with a guy who simultaneously was a person who claimed to stand for various social justice issues while being a rude shit to a server. That was my yellow, or even red flag to get out but I was desperate I guess. So just for the knowledge, treatment of service workers is a big deal to me. And most of the best people I know either were service workers at some point, or still are and haven't been worn down too much by it. With others, its a gamble. They can be the best put together, educated, successful, wealthy person and I'll just be bracing for the moment they release their unrestrained inhumanity. Sure service workers have inhumanity, and their face to the public has to be fake, but their struggles are particular, and humbling enough to form truly kind to people.. off duty.

*so just for that knowledge, treatment (..)

R185 The filtration systems that remove fluoride and the remnants of pharmaceuticals from tap water are very expensive and take up a lot of room. I usually just drink tap water but if I could fit a filtration system under my NYC apartment sink, I would. It’s too bad we can’t go to store with a filtration system and fill up our own bottles.

R189 Are you sure a grocery store near you doesn't have exactly what you're describing? Many large grocery stores have filtration systems. You buy the bottles from them and then refill them as needed.

Constant complaining and negative attitude.

R190. Thanks for that. I checked a while back by google and didn’t find one. I’ll check again. I live in NYC so if it’s not uncommon, I should be able find one.

R180 "People who immediately assume you're of the same religion they are, ie., Christians * Yes. A thousand times, yes

Having lost my own water well staff I manage quite well with Brita these days but I can't stand people who will drone on and on R186/7.

If a guy swaggers while walking, epecially if he's over 25.

^^^ Hahaha. Yeah, I couldn’t read the posts to which you refer.

Toothpick in mouth.

Cock rings

R35 if someone asks something that's none of their business, I ask "Can you keep a secret.?" When they eagerly say "Oh, yes," I reply "So can I." Never has anyone asked a second time.

Strangers who call me 'buddy'.

R200 A young adolescent called me “Chief” the other day. I kinda liked it.

Well, it's better than 'old-timer' R201.

Judge another person based on his/her skin color or where he/she comes from. I always stay away from these ignorant people

My ex-gardener called me 'captain' at the outset when I am a colonel. He lasted a day.

[quote] People who just met you and are already asking for your number (let me just add you to my contacts right now...)

Has this happened to you more than once?

I have never had it happen to me nor witnessed it happen to anyone else.

People who write novellas on Datalounge. (Though you slightly redeem yourself by breaking it into paragraphs.)

[quote] Lack of imagination. Oh you can't IMAGINE people thinking/feeling/doing a certain way? Oh really? It doesn't even click in as a possibility? You can't consider that people live different lives, coming from different formative experiences? You can't even PROCESS it? Well I can imagine people like you, I just don't like them.

[quote] Classism. I'm basically poor as hell, but I mean it in all directions. No you poors, the rich are more oblivious than malevolent against you specifically, they just have inbred selfishness. No you elites, if you don't consistently do something about inequality, it inevitably ends with your life, unless we believe we're at the end of history. If I see someone whine about losing access to their housekeeper, I probably dislike them (a reason why I can tolerate my partner's relative is because he used that as a chance to just boast about his robot carpet cleaner instead). If I see someone whine that there's LITERALLY ZERO jobs and NO way to feed themselves in CANADA (and not in a remote area of it), I immediately think they're dumb or simply manipulative. Same goes with treatment to service workers. Treat them with disdain, I think of you with disdain. Treat them as though you're one and the same so you deserve special treatment, I think you're going to be a pain in my ass.

[quote] I actually don't mind people who only talk about themselves, with the caveat that they seem to deliberately leave room for you to interject and talk about yourselves with no undue judgement. But this is just reflecting off myself who is either largely quiet and liking to hear others, but occasionally gets carried away with a topic and hopes that I didn't dominate the talk too much. I guess I want more leeway to I give more leeway.

[quote] Social conservatism. I'm more tolerant than many of my friends towards socially conservative notions people can have, but as identities I'm even less forgiving. Same with related concepts like religiosity, where I get if someone needs to bring up a religious concept and belief that connects with a religious philosophy, its more fine with me than most atheists, but I abhor religions as institutions and their most mindlessly fervent believers.

[quote] Humblebragging or even flatly bragging, without a hint of sarcasm about it mattering. You can be a genius coder, just give me the wink that understands that for all we know, it could be a dead profession in decades. You could explore the world, just give me the wink that you know that it'll matter as little as anything else after you're gone. You can volunteer thousands of hours, just give me the wink that communicates that you know structural change requires more than personal 'sacrifice'. You can have several successful children, just wink in knowledge that at least one will most likely fuck up beyond belief and that you won't condemn them for being less than perfect. If you're just showing off, you're weirdly almost not a person to me. I can IMAGINE (see above) you as a person, but its kind of wispy and false.

[quote] While our relationship isn't the dreamiest ideal or anything, in many ways I'm describing what I find appealing in my partner. He's with a strict good/bad black/white mindset, yet its been so well tempered with external and internal therapy and mindfulness (the real kind) that I respect his process a lot. He's from a more classist environment (ranging from the wealthiest of relatives to the elders struggling in home country) but actively rejects it, though he's materialist enough to like toys and small signals......

People who say things like "let's do lunch sometime" with no intention of following through. These people are generally smooth talkers who know what to say and how to say it. They are great networkers who go through people like kleenex.

R206 They should realize that their posts often aren’t read.

On DL, I hardly ever read any more than five lines per post.

Being late to an appointment. It's my pet peeve, I guess. However, I can eventually move past that.

R210, for me, people who are constantly late and find no need to apologize are fucking disrespectful.

Black people

Whites, can't stand them.

Oh fuck. A clan meeting just broke out.

Jews only where I am please.

Anyone who's too conservative and go into random monologues about their religion and how they don't let their kids watch certain demonic shows on TV. It takes everything for me not to burst into laughter. They have no idea how ridiculous they are. Then again, I'm sure we're all pretty ridiculous in some ways.

As a white person, I have to say with regret that I have no black friends any more. When I was younger I had some black friends. But not now; drifted apart - I wonder if they have any white friends these days. It seems there is a segregation going on.

Contempt for concern over nonhuman animals.

I always give someone a chance. A 30 second chance, but it's a chance.

People who think they're too good to "learn" anything new. For instance, I have a co-worker (frau) who is working on some sort of long distance diploma-thing and she INSISTS on spending all her time getting exemptions for most of her courses. I don't have any problems with this in theory, especially if your work experience lines up with the course. That makes sense. However, she just insists she "knows everything," etc. Bitch, you barely function at your actual job. You're not going to have a great time once you finish your diploma and realize you've learnt nothing about the field you're studying. She's just too good to, god forbid, learn something new!

Paying more attention to what I’m wearing than what I’m saying

Shaking my hand while looking at and talking to someone else

Putting down the person who just introduced us

Conversely, totally ignoring me while having a lengthy conversation with the person who just introduced us

Why is it so hard to be polite? At least fake it for two minutes of your life.

R221 the brittleness of the queens is strong.

R217, I feel the same way. I had a fantastic childhood friend who was black and now, I have a bunch of black people I'm friendly with, but none that I hang out with all the time. I have a pretty small circle of true friends anyway, but I wish I could open it up more.

Easily ofended prissy queens.

Men who behave like women socially.

They don't know how to share the conversation and show interest in others as much as themselves and their need to communicate and socialize.

I have 2 women friends who own small, neorotic dogs. No, I don’t want to pet these dogs.

Other men who stay seated when shaking your hand, as if they were ladies.

Men who refuse to fuck or suck immediately on meeting.

Where do I start?

Lol- after reading these reasons, it’s no wonder y’all are single. Sounds like a lot of people here score low on the openness scale.

R205 yes it’s happened to me on a few occasions. I find it very odd.

People that use LOL on anonymous message boards like R231

Fishing for compliments. "I'm so fat," "I'm so ugly," "everyone hates me," etc. It is attention whoring at it's finest and I have no patience for it.

R234, it's best to be silent in thost moments or (even better) just agree. And maybe add a "I know, I'm so sorry".

R234 I’ll have to try that. I have a relative who says “I’m not smart“ and then goes on to give an opinion on everything and everyone.

R236, that's the perfect opportunity to say (while interrupting them mid-sentence) "woah, woah, woah....if you aren't smart, why are you sharing your opinions?". Then, they become so embarassed, they shut up.

When you're with a group of friends that know each other well and a person who has never really associated with anyone in that group before singles someone out and treats them like "the stranger".

One guy I know who’s a really nice, decent man always adds “or whatever” when he expresses a thought or opinion. He’s so worried nobody will like him he’s erased his self worth.

[quote] As a white person, I have to say with regret that I have no black friends any more.

You likely never had black friends to begin with. If you've seen how they act with each other, they are really comfortable and by comparison, completely tense around their white friends. I've observed this with black people I thought were my friends.

My college friendships with people of all races were really deep. But in my thirties, my black friends started hanging out more and more with their other black friends. I still see them but we aren’t as close. Except for those who are mixed rave couples.

^^^ race

To be perfectly frank - I don't know OP but after reading his insufferable post about inconsequential slights and pathetic dislikes I have decided that I dislike OP. Immensely.

[quote]Other men who stay seated when shaking your hand, as if they were ladies.

Oh, fuck yes. I try to let people give me a picture of themselves on their terms, in their words, in their own time, but when a man with nothing in his way of standing or even giving the least impression of rising for a handshake sits there like a stupid, rude fuck, his first impression will hopefully be his last.

Like I really like the dress and do you think like it is to tight? Like the light looks like really good on me. Like I'm so hungry and like need to like have a drink. LIKE LIKE LIKE.........

R201 Wish someone would call me a chief

R55 Forte is a French word and it is indeed pronounced "fortay".

meeting a friend's new boyfriend with the knowledge that he has a huge cock, because I follow the boy code and don't mess around with a friend's man

I hate everything.

People who think it's whitty banter to make outrageous contrarian statements. Years ago I was at dinner with one and I just agreed wholeheartedly with every more ridiculous statement. He drove him crazy as he kept upping the ante to try to spark an argument.

Yes, Gengius Khan was great for gay people !

witty ^

Non-Scottish people who use the word "wee" meaning small.

Guys whose beards are unmanaged, untrimmed and unruly. I see guys whose facial hair has grown wild and unkempt and I think he's

(a) a religious fanatic OR (b) angry at the world OR (c) trying to make a socio-political commentary

There are a few gay porn subreddits and they're infested with attention whores. They want to know what we think of them and they wilt like a cotton candy in water when you tell the truth.

If a woman has a Louis Vuitton ANYTHING, I instantly know she's basic and insecure with no identity or style of her own.

People who use the term "gaslighting" to mean "dared to contradict me". I don't think that word means what you think it means.

R53 reminded me of a favorite joke.

Two old British men in a gentlemen's club. 1st man: Ponsonby, did you just fart? Ponsonby (startled): Of course I did! Do you think I always smell like this?

People who write reviews on Amazon about how fast a shipper sent something or that the case was cracked,.rather than the object itself. I always curse them STRAIGHT TO HELL because they are too stupid to function in societey.

Cheap shoes.

R247 no, it bloody isn't!

People who immediately and rudely correct you when you use the name you’ve read or been told by someone else. A neighbor sold her house last year to a couple she told me were named John and Kathy. When I first saw them outdoors on the other side of the fence, I introduced myself, saying, “Hello John, hello Kathy” and being coldly corrected by the husband - before so much as saying “Hello” in reply - that it’s “Katherine.”

That was last June. I haven’t spoken to them since. What would be the point?

Actors. Especially grade C or below gay actors (or should I say Actors!) who are always "on"!

Just hang in there, darling!

I have a coworker like that. Im sure she introduced herself as Susan, amd thats how I referred to her. Later that day, she pulled me aside and said again "My name is Susan". I never once referred to her as anythi ng e lse-except now it's "that uptight bitch"

R260 Why would you refer to total strangers, who never introduced themselves to you, by their names? That's creepy. Why didn't you just say: hello, my name is so and so, nice to meet you?

R172's comment. Unfortunately this will not stop them from oh dearing people.

I’m the Free Bleeding workshop.

R263 Because I'd been told it. I did say, "Hi, John and Kathy, my name is John, welcome to the neighborhood" If you think that's creepy I can't help you. I hope someone can.

They live next door to me. I'm the person who'd call the fire department if their place was on fire, or if I saw it being broken into, or if I saw water running out of the walls (don't laugh: it did happen to the woman who sold it and who told me their names.)

"Total strangers" who aren't rude wouldn't be waiting for your idea of a proper introduction. Idiots who're rude asswipes might be, but it'd be to their detriment.

Loud people. And they are everywhere. Hate them

Shit eaters

Relentlessly fake positive people. Not to be confused with people who try to look at the bright side of things, but the toxically positive people who don't want to hear any complaining or experience a single disagreeable moment in their fabulous little lives. These people have the intellect of instagrammers, and the empathy of Hitler, but they often hide behind the cult of positivity.

As well, there are the types who bitch and bitch and bitch and the moment you say anything remotely negative you're hit with the "you're so negatiiiiiiive...." whine.

People with no self-awareness whatsoever. They honestly need electroshock or to be deprogrammed like cult members.

[quote] People who immediately and rudely correct you when you use the name you’ve read or been told by someone else. A neighbor sold her house last year to a couple she told me were named John and Kathy. When I first saw them outdoors on the other side of the fence, I introduced myself, saying, “Hello John, hello Kathy” and being coldly corrected by the husband - before so much as saying “Hello” in reply - that it’s “Katherine.”

R260, I dare you to call this guy "Johnny."

I knew someone named Betsy. All of a sudden, she wants to be called Elizabeth. I guess people have a right to name themselves. But it was rude to do that upon first meeting. I'd prioritize having a decent relationship with my new neighbors, esp. since they own the house (not rent).

The actor types who always feel like they have to put on a show and be the most interesting person in the room. They never have a real moment. I also find it funny that those types of actors are usually awful on stage and/or screen because they're too busy trying to sell themselves than the character. They're the same kinds who get made if a prettier girl is added to the cast or they don't have the most lines.

I resemble that comment,R271!

Ha! Ha!

R260, the new neighbor was probably being rude to you as a way of saying, we don't want to be friends with you so hopefully this will keep you away from us.

[quote]Why would you refer to total strangers, who never introduced themselves to you, by their names? That's creepy. Why didn't you just say: hello, my name is so and so, nice to meet you?

I'm with R263. When introducing myself to strangers (which is what they are until they know you, whether they live next door or whether it's the guy who has a dick up your ass) I would introduce myself and then maybe say, "it's John and Kathy, isn't it? Margaret said nice things about you and was glad you bought her place." To shout "Hello John. Hello Kathy" across the hedge to people who don't know you from a hole in the ground is a bit presumptuous.

People get names wrong all the time; they think they remember perfectly but somehow Frank turns out not to be Frank but Will, of all things. Or the realtor called him Frank all through the closing but Franklin never corrected it knowing he'd never see the woman again. If I don't know as a fact that it's Michael and Rebecca (because people named Rebecca are bitches, usually) I will say it tentatively inviting them to correct me, and say, "Mike and Becky, good, I'll remember next time."

Some people, even from my experience some fearless and very social people (rather understandably to my thinking) bristle when a stranger by way of a mutual friend walks up to them and says, "So you're the famous John and Kathy! I've heard so much about you!" The mutual friend is trying to be friendly, too friendly, but it just comes off badly and weird, as though there's a dossier in circulation on them.

Being friendly or being overly familiar is a matter of perspective, and the other party having started badly rarely catches on and just keeps making things worse. I'm always wary of people who gush too enthusiastically or who who are way too interested knowing nothing about me yet.

Any server who calls me “boss.” Now and forever.

People who tell you about something like but don't bother to ask if you like it or know if it...an old pop song for instance. Anything, actually.

In the UK, strangers who call me, "Mate."

[quote]In the UK, strangers who call me, "Mate."

The UK is FOUR different countries.

We all address strangers differently.

When asked what someone does for work they respond, "I'm from academia".

Oh. well whooptiefuckendoo!

B/s R278, you all say "Mate" no matter where you come from.

[quote] When asked what someone does for work they respond

What things make you immediately dislike someone: when they ask me what my job is.

[quote]B/s [R278], you all say "Mate" no matter where you come from.

Um...no, luv.

R282 Men don't call each other 'luv' any more even in Yorkshire. It's all "Mate": it's the influence of the TV.

I have a different take on R260 's situation. You're dealing with someone who will be your neighbor, someone who is a fellow homeowner. You are just trying to be cordial & R260 already knew their names from the previous owner.

You're not trying to be best friends, but it would be nice to be neighbors on good terms. Someone who might keep an eye out for possible burglars, etc.

My childhood was far from perfect, but my parents were homeowners and all of our immediate neighbors were owner-occupants. Everybody was on decent terms with each other & we did look out for each other.

When you were a child R284, it was the Golden Age of the West.

R247 Yes, it is but the English word meaning strong point, or strength comes from Latin and was pronounce ‘fort’ but fortay has become more and more popular so is now a secondary pronunciation.

This is not the term from French used in fencing.

Maybe so, R284.

When someone tries to look me in the eye or attempts to speak to me.

When a faggot calls me a dyke.

using the word "retarded"

People who try to introduce me to their kids.

Women like Ellen who try to introduce me to their girlfriend du jour.

When someone whips out a cross. Or garlic or holy water. Or suggests J step into the sun.

I also am irritated when someone asks me what I do for work. It's none of their damn business. What if someone is unemployed, disabled or lives on a trust fund and doesn't want to advertise it?

^^ Or has had to take an embarrassing or weird job that they don't want to be identified with.

R284: Having good neighbors is a great pleasure in life. No one is debating the value of good neighbors, which is all the more reason to take care to build good relationships--not bombarding them with your insider knowledge of their names when they don't have the benefit of knowing yours. If R260 had heard from the seller of the house that the couple were trying a new round of IVF to see if they could have a kid, and it was something to do with the husband's plumbing, he wouldn't, I hope, shout that across the hedge.. Not everyone is put at ease when a stranger shouts out their names in lieu of an introduction. Overly familiar isn't the always the best introduction is my point.

I've traded keys with many neighbors and battened down their patio furniture when a storm passed through and collected their packages or they mine, and looked in when an always closed gate sits open for a day or two. Some neighbors become good and sometimes unlikely but devoted friends. Having someone live next to you who notices when something is amiss or when to offer a hand without ever giving the sense of being a snoop or a busybody is a brilliant thing. Quite possibly "Katherine not Kate" and her husband is not that neighbor or friend that I describe, but I wouldn't risk the chance of that by blowing my first impression by making a show of knowing their names.

There's a reason people often take a tentative tone and say, "It's Michael isn't it? Do I have that right?" or "I think the realtor said your names were Brad and Eric, did I get that correctly?" or some way of letting the person confirm or correct him, but these are things you say after you've introduced yourself, "Hello, I'm Frank, I live just next door here."

Introductions aren't to show off what you already know (or don't), they're to meet someone on some sort of equal footing.

Fag hags. They all have pseudo-romantic or barely hidden sexual obsession with gay men. They are creepy.

Sexism. I just can't. Toxic masculinity. The refusal to admit that the above things even exist.

[quote] Fag hags. They all have pseudo-romantic or barely hidden sexual obsession with gay men.

That’s what makes them fag hags. They use us to fulfill needs they should be getting from straight men but can’t.

There are many straight women with gay friends who have healthy relationships with them as friends. They are not fag hags, because they are not users.

Fag hags are parasites.

Fuck all that "Good neighbor" bullshit. What makes good neighbors is fences. I don't get chummy with mine, I am just polite and don't give them a reason to dislike me.

And yes, I have owned my homes since I was 26.

R297 R299 I think I misunderstand the term ‘fag hag’ and I want to earnestly know what it means from the DL crowd.

Because I know some women who aren’t creepy and they have a lot of gay friends. They have just as many girlfriends and a few straight male friends and they have or seek romantic relations with straight men. My gay friend called one such woman a fag hag. Was that an accurate usage?

I can’t stand Sex and the City but is Carrie B a fag hag?

^^ earnestly want to.

R294 : So what DO you do for work?

People who ask you a question then talk over you when you try to answer. I'll check out of that conversation immediately. People who tell you their academic qualifications on introduction. Nobody cares. Physically - stretched ear lobes. You're probably a good person, but the sight is gross and repellent to me.

[quote] "I think the realtor said your names were Brad and Eric, that Brad's a bottom and Eric's training to be a top did I get that correctly?"

That would be more like it.

[quote]training to be a top

Lol! Is that a thing now?

I do hate when people ask what I do for a living. I'm a mostly employed actor, so I know I'm doing better than a lot of other people in my profession, but you can always feel people check out and they'll usually say something like "oh, that's a fun hobby" as if it's not a real job. If money's getting exchanged, it's a job.

Immediately talking politics of any sort. Hate it. Hate it.

When people used to ask me, "So, what do you do?" I would sometimes ask back, "Do you mean professionally?" These days, I reply, "Oh as little as possible." Sometimes I also treat them to my excellent John Gielgud impression when I reply, "Oh as little as possible."

I hate people who find it very important to know one's profession or occupation almost straightaway. Conversation is much nicer in the places where this sort of inquiry is considered a bit rude or unusual.

If at some point the subject turns to, say, natural history museums, that is the point to say "I worked there after my studies: I'm an ornithologist," or "Lawyers! Don't even start, I married one, work everyday with others, and am one myself."

I know there are whole metropolitan areas where conversations start (and sometimes end) with, "And what do you do?", but it seems an awful thing to lead with unless you're at a professional conference or a job fair.

There can be a place for work in conversation, certainly, but how grim to make it a central point of every conversation, particularly when first meeting someone.

I’ve got the trots.

As a permanent resident alien, let me say that years ago, fresh off the boat, I found some folk in some parts of the US rather forward when they asked me early on what my immigration status was, whether I paid taxes here, how much I earned. In the old country I had only ever encountered, "How much do you earn" once, from the mother of a [hot] guyfriend of mine: I had never met the lady before but she obviously thought I was fair game (practically one of the family) and she wanted to know if I earned more than her son; her son was in the Army, so yes I earned more than he did and so did a lot of other people!

I’m not reading r312. It’s too long!

Yeah six lines if way too long for R313 lol.

[quote]As a permanent resident alien, let me say that years ago, fresh off the boat, I found some folk in some parts of the US rather forward when they asked me early on what my immigration status was, whether I paid taxes here, how much I earned.

I cringe every time I hear that and usually try to interject myself in the conversation to address the Concerned American. And the line of questioning is genuinely an interrogation, often using the otherwise not too usual phrase "And now let me ask you this...do you need some kind of special permit to work here, because I think you should. we have a lot of Americans who need jobs too, you know." They manage to be rude, ugly, and ignorant, and insist they are just being "friendly."

Americans are brainwashed to think that the rest of the world wants their previous freedoms, the freedom to be stupid and unpleasant.

Non-bianary

Polyamorous

Use of the “cis” prefix

Gays who have to make a grand entrance, to make sure everyone sees them. Screeching across the store/restaurant "HEYYYYYYYY GURRRLLLLLL"

Pastels.

No one cares, sperg at R186/R187.

[quote]If money's getting exchanged, it's a job.

DAT'S DA SUCK JOB!

R171 - I can tell you what made me instantly like someone and that was my roommate's mom who said she saw a lady at Cosco not just being a bitch to staff and holding up the line but putting her mask under her chin. She said "I may unfortunately LOOK like a Karen, but you are one...so put on your mask and get lost".

I wish other people handled these psychobitches like that.

White men dragging an Asian wife behind them in the supermarket. The types whose wife is always one step behind him and who prances around with a superior and smug colonial attitude while filling his shopping cart with Sprouts skin care products for himself. These are despicable cunts who lead pathetic lives and it shows.

R52 and R53 are obviously not tops...because if you bitches are that sensitive, you need to join a nunnery.

Link, R254?

R266 sounds menacing and crazy.

I know this is bad.

When someone speaks and I realize they are from OZ.

I find too many Australians to be unbearable.

When they take out their dicks on the floor of Marshalls or TJMaxx. Save that for WalMart, hunties.

We will do our best to avoid you, R326.

R326 if you don't realise straightaway from the nails on a chalkboard accent, never fear, they will tell you they are from Australia soon enough. Shudder.

Australians are the only people who ever interrupted my reading to ask not what but WHY I was reading. This has happened not once but a few times.

R330 That's kind of hilarious, what was the context? I can't imagine anyone asking that, but I believe it!!

R331: In airports twice, and in a cafe having coffee or a lunch or something alone, so not as though in the middle on a concert or on a surfboard but the kind of places where reading isn't unusual.

Misuse of the reflexive pronoun "myself". It's usually a sign of a simpleton who's trying to seem more important than they are.

Makeup on men.

Piercings on men anywhere except the ear.

Piercings on men anywhere

Also tattoos

Man buns. They look stupid.

People who endlessly post on social media about how perfect and fabulous their lives are. Every little thing is about the ‘gram. The food, their vacations, their children, their husbands, all of it. Every single minute of every single day has to be posted or nobody will ever understand how utterly superior they are in every conceivable way.

[quote] The food

People who post food pics on social media.

People who call me or others “kid” or “kiddo” or refer to children as “kiddoes”. I realize this is not exactly rational but it’s extremely annoying to me and an immediate dislike against those who use it.

I will accept 'kiddo' from a woman old enough to be my mother, provided she is a former nurse from NY who looks like Shelley Winter.

A "man bun."

Ewww

People who use the non-word “conversate”.

R343 I’ve never heard anyone say ‘conversate.’

Count yourself among the fortunate, r344.

R343 "Just say talk." - Jujubee

R346 - love it. The meme. NOT the word.

I don’t like it when someone I have just met asks a lot of personal questions.

R348: Repeat unwaveringly after every annoying question: "Why do you ask?"

It takes the questioner a while to see what you are doing and that he can't win, but the balance tips and he won't soon interrogate you again.

R349 I’m not R348 but I like your advice. I’m going to give it a try. DL isn’t all pointless bitchery. I learn a lot from you guys.

What if you don’t like their answer? Like.. "oh just curious", or "I’m just trying to conversate"

R350/R351: It's a polite response to a rude question that forces the questioner to change the subject, or explain himself.

"Why do you ask?"

"Because I want to know."

"But why do you ask?"

"Because I want to know how much money you paid for a chair like that."/"Because I want to know how much money you make"/"Because I want to know if your husband's dick is really that big"

"But why do you ask?"

"Because"

"But because why? Why do you ask?"

"Oh, come on, just tell me already"

"Why do you ask me this question?"

"Fuck you and your fancy chair and your big-dicked husband and your 'why do you asks'"

"Nice talking with you."

Maybe someone said this earlier, but anyone who starts talking about religion or quoting The Bible in the first five minutes. As much as I know it's wrong, I immediately dislike them / judge them thinking they're either hateful, self-righteous or weak.

People who can't take a compliment.

Speaking of the Bible, people who post cryptic Bible verses as statuses on Facebook. No one knows what the fuck you're talking about, Gretchen, and that Bible verse isn't going to make people forget that you once blew the entire soccer team in 11th grade.

Sir Elton John

Declaring your vegan/vegetarian/pescatarian status within 5 minutes of meeting me...bitch, I am not cooking your dinner so I don't care.

Talking about the totally adorable thing your toddler just did which, to anyone but the parents, is nothing to write home about. They just snorted after eating an apple. They didn't do backflips while singing the score of Evita in the original keys.

Me: It’s nice to meet you. Them: It’s nice to be met.

Small penis size.

People who stand near you talking loudly on their phone. Don’t get me started on the assholes who do it on an elevator.

[quote]Me: It’s nice to meet you. Them: It’s nice to be met.

A version of this happens at AA meetings a lot. Me: Good to see you. Them: Good to be seen.

"Good to be seen" is just an old Jewish expression. In NYC, at least among the older, set it is meant to be funny. In AA or out. I think it's gotten a little tired as we aren't in the 1950s anymore and borscht belt Yiddishiskeit in daily life is no longer novel and is basically an affection. But then in NYC so are dated Irish and Italian American references to the religious and cultural practices of your childhood. That world has passed, it's best to leave it buried. I don't find such expressions rude, just tiresome affectation and nostalgia. It tells me the person is living (in his head) in some old stand-up routine.

What about, “Charmed, I’m sure”?

People who are obsessed with material things. The people who, for instance, went crazy over Kanye's shoe or designer labels just because they want to show off, even if it means they are putting all of these things on credit.

"Good to be seen" sounds quite nice, but if someone told me that a thunderbolt of pity (for their trauma / lack of self-confidence) would go through my body and I would keep my distance.

MAGAs

Datalounge posters who, when asked their "Greatest Musical of All Time," list more than one. "Grease" is the only one that I'd count from this list, not because it's my favorite—I hate it—but because it was the first one listed.

PICK ONE, BITCH! CAN'T YOU READ?

Grease

A Chorus Line

Dreamgirls

My One and Only

Annie

Best Little Whorehouse in Texas

Do Re Mi

How Now Dow Jones?

Hamilton

The Producers

Rent

Having seen their 10 inch dick pics before meeting them at Church.

They whip out their wipes and start slathering everything in sight.

They talk about wipes, Lysol, and the fact that they can't slather everything in sight.

Saying "You know" too many times.

[quote]Saying "You know" too many times.

There was a guy in my AA group years ago who would say "you know" constantly. I counted 84 of them one time.

If the person I'm meeting has all of these prissy little pet-expectations dictating how others should behave in their dear, precious presence.

Although, I do agree about people that make a point of buying from luxury brands to impress and putting it all on credit. Black people have a name for your kind. The term rhymes with "trigger-itch".

- debt-free taxpayer

I've heard about enough of the saying "Be in community"

Someone asking me to sign a petition.

If they not like rodent and think we dirty.

If they scream when look at me.

If they call me mouse. I a rat.

If they say I gay or bi - Cupcake and Brownie. I will bite hand for five day straight without unclench my jaw. You will have to trick or bribe in order to make me let go.

If people smoke cigarette. I not lick hand if fingers smell and taste like smoke.

When people eat in front of me but not share treat. If not share, I climb up chest and steal food directly out of human mouth.

R372 attended the same AA group as Nick Stahl?

R371 and R372. Not quite the same thing, but we were well into the wine one night when a famous author and Harvard professor was the after-dinner speaker. The woman sitting next to me started it, but I helped. She pulled out an envelope and started making hash marks every time he said "Uh" or "Um." We stopped counting when we got to 240.

A mutilated dick.

They FART before being properly introduced .

In certain cultures it is polite to fart AS you're being introduced.