Advice on Tongue Cancer Please (and life, art, nature, and pets)- Thread 4

At the end of the previous thread, someone posted the following story about bluejays:

Blue jays are nesting in a tree right near my patio. It happens every year and when the babies get close to leaving the nest the parents get very aggressive and attack my cat. They scream at him constantly and hop around within 18 inches of him and dive bomb him and nip the end of his tail. He lays there all helpless and gives out stress meows unless he comes in on his own or I go get him. He's usually out for just a few minutes before the noise gets to be too much.

Once the babies leave the nest my cat is on lock down. The babies are vulnerable for a few weeks. While they're learning to fly they flop around in the bushes and can't get up higher easily. I did some research, the young birds stay with their parents through fall.

I reposted that pic above because, well, I've never seen a cuter bluejay.

My mother is obsessed with birds.

When I was a kid, she rescued and raised an injured baby starling. When it was ready, she even taught it to fly by tossing it up in the air, higher and higher over time. After it was healed and she let it go, it would come back to the house to visit every once in awhile. Until one day, the bird gave itself a long bath in a mud puddle to wash away the human scent and then moved on to his new life.

A few years later she rescued a homing pigeon. She kept it in a box up high on my brother's dresser. One morning she checked in on him and let out a shriek. My cat had jumped onto the dresser and climbed into the box. Upon closer inspection, my mother relaxed. The cat was curled up into a circle, with the bird napping in the middle.

One day my mom found a mockingbird in a tree at eye level by the front porch stoop. It was too afraid to move even though we were close enough to touch it. She put some shredded cheese in the tree. The bird stayed around for about 10 years, coming back each spring, eventually with a mate, to eat the shredded cheese my mother left on the back deck.

She even befriended a huge crow and a red hawk who repeatedly visited the deck for shredded cheese.

She named all of these birds, and when she saw them flying around, she'd call their names. It was actually quite embarrassing at the time, but now I find it charming.

But, back to bluejays. My mother eventually decided to welcome the bluejays to the deck. To keep them away from the shredded cheese, she would dump a few handfuls of peanuts on a table on the other side of the deck. About 5 minutes later, there would be up to 7 bluejays at a time on the deck, taking turns hopping down onto the table. When a bluejay got its turn on the table, it would grab a peanut with its beak, and shake it, trying to guess the size of the nut inside the shell. The bird would finally make a decision and fly off with the nut. Then another bluejay would hop onto the table and repeat the selection process.

After several months, a neighbor complained to my mother that a bluejay had dropped its peanut in her yard. Her dog had swallowed it, and the shell caused problems inside the dog, requiring a vet intervention. After that, my mom spent several minutes each day shelling peanuts before placing them on the table on the deck. The bluejays were thrilled; it was a quicker and easier meal for them.

I think OP Brian may starting painting blue jays if we keep this up! lol

Blue Jays are part of the corvid family and can imitate human speech.

I'd love to own one of Brian's paintings, but I'm on a print budget. Congratulations to the poster who bought "Determination," it is one of my favorites!

Fun fact about blue jays:

They're not really blue. Their feathers contain some sort of crystal that reflects the color blue.

One of my favorites - Brian Nash.

I like that one, too, R10. My cat looks like Skittles. But, my cat is annoying the hell out of me running back and forth, meowing...I would never let him get near a drum set!

Yes I love that suggestion about illustrating for a children's book....do we know any publishers?

We have some fine writers and MANY wealthy people. Somebody start a collaboration!

Related to the bird posts above; I’ve really enjoyed having a bird feeder during this lockdown. My partner has always kept it but I’d never paid it much attention. Lately, whenever I walk by the window I check it.. I’ve identified every species (Including blue jays) and it’s really quite satisfying to learn about them and anticipate seeing something new. It offers a connection to nature even in a city.

I propose Brian Nash's first illustrated children's book title:

[bold]Skittles Goes to London!

Here's my cat enjoying some birdwatching from my apartment window. I put some birdseed on the ledge outside the window.

R16, what kind of bird is that? What a coincidence, there are two of them that hang all day outside on our kitchen windowsill. We think they’re watching their nest.

It looks like a Mourning Dove

Yes, that's a dove. There are lots of doves around here. They're the main customer when I put out seed.

Then, there's also a flock of about 12 pigeons that live on the block. Their bodies are very similar to doves, except, they're much bigger. And they have beautiful fuchsia and turquoise coloring. See below.

Skittles and the Hamburger is my favorite, but there's another one I have my eye on.

Another title for Brian's first illustrated children's book:

[bold]Skittles Goes to London to See The Queen! ....and discovers he's a DUKE!

R20 - Now that I see it, I may have to take the plunge and get it. I hadn’t seen that one when I had checked on the website.

However, back to the most important topic of the thread.

Sending well wishes your way Brian and hoping you aren’t in any pain today.

This whole iteration of this thread is adorable so far. I love the stories of the bird-loving mom and that painting of Skittles!

Before they knocked down the cute little craftsmen house with its Birds of Paradise aside our building, we used to get hummingbirds all the time. This thread makes me want to get a feeder to get them back.

My robin song is so accurate I can get a whole flock to gather under my window every evening at dusk. And my blue jay cry almost caused one of those ruffians to fly into the pane of glass to get by me.

love the children's book idea too. Or just a book of art by Brian.

Hope everyone is doing okay, or better.

Take care Brian. I am thinking of you today.

OPB here. I’m afraid i need to keep this brief. I have been in the hospital more most of this week, and in incredible pain, and not functioning well. I was barely lucid the morning a friend called an ambulance to take me here. It was needed. I have pneumonia and they are trying to minimize it with antibiotics enough to get me home. Even if they do, it is clear I have less time than i thought I did. And I am touched by how completely my friends have rallied. Wish me luck, gang!

No luck needed Brian. The universe is going to take care of you. Only good thoughts for you. It's been a privilege. We are in this together despite the illusion that we aren't.

Beautifully said, r28, and I think that’s how we all feel.

Thank you for checking in OPB. May you have peace and comfort.

Good thoughts.

May you be pain free and at peace. We love you, Brian.

Oh No Brian, I am so sorry. Hopefully the medication works, also the pain killers. Just try to rest and meditate.

Love, Peacefulness & Light!

Thanks for continuing to think of us Brian. I am blown away by your consideration for others.

Brian, your post tonight prompted me to go back and reread Thread 1. It really is something to see those early posts and the immediacy with which you were encouraged to not give up without a fight. I recognized my original response (R102), in which I shared my experience with tongue cancer and ended with,

[quote]...but you will find there are more people out there than you can ever imagine who want nothing more than to provide as much or as little love and support you need to get through this. Please let them.

You have allowed us to come along on your journey, and I hope you continue to find strength and solace in our love and support for you during this difficult time.

Hugs and Kisses, OPB!

P.S., I have had my eye on one of your paintings as it evokes a silly, but cherished, childhood memory, and am excitedly looking forward to committing to it in the next few weeks (I recently got my stimulus check, and I am also happily starting a new, full-time job on Monday).

I'm told an attitude of intense curiosity will see you through, OPB. Aside from your other feelings, let your curiosity shine with the most strength. And you are surrounded by love.

Hi Brian,

This is 5 day old Nash, who is named for the star. He didn't have the easiest start to life, but he's powering through. Good thoughts for you.

Sending you much love, OPB. Thank you for letting us know how/where you are., and for letting us share this journey with you.

[post redacted because linking to dailymail.co.uk clearly indicates that the poster is either a troll or an idiot (probably both, honestly.) Our advice is that you just ignore this poster but whatever you do, don't click on any link to this putrid rag.]

Sorry for mangled English in my post, at r39. A little upset when I wrote that one....sorry.

Love you, Brian. Thank you for letting us be part of your journey.

Brian, lifting you up with peace and love.

With you Brian, in Australia.

Hope the antibiotics will be effective soon. Sending lots of love.

Much love to you Brian.

Many soft hugs and kisses sent to you. x

Oh Brian, I'm crushed to hear this, but am glad you have friends that truly care for you. I wish there was a way that we could help too. The Balloon Boys give all their love, while I give you many positive and healing vibes.

Brian, love and peace to you and no more pain or worry. <3

I wish you peace, Brian. Thanks so much for the lovely paintings, and for sharing your journey with us.

Sending positive thoughts to you today, OP Brian. Hope the medication is lessening the pain somewhat and you are able to sleep, rest a bit.

Hope you are doing better and the medication/treatment is working.

Thinking of you, Brian.

XOXOXOXO

Hi Brian, I'm hoping you're better. Sending positive vibes to you. xoxoxo.

Thanks for the great pics of your cute little balloon boys r52. Adorable.

Hoping the hospital takes great care of you Brian and you can find some relief. Positive vibes to you always. :)

Thank you r53 they're keeping me sane during this weirdo times.

Brian thinking of you on this beautiful rainy day in West Hollywood. I am hoping you are feeling okay.

*these weirdo times

Thinking of you Brian, and wishing you all the best.

Warm thoughts and thinking of you too OP Brian.

Love and hugs to you Brian.

Good thoughts to you, Brian. I hope your pain has been brought under control.

Love you, Brian.

R27, Brian. I hope you are comfortably back at home.

Your assignment for the balance of this season is to inhale all the love here and exhale any and all doubt and fear. Still working on the summer task (probably something involving speedos). In the meantime, Just breathe, love.

One more thing Bri, I had forgotten last time I had posted on your thread: try listening to this when you turn in at night, or anytime really. I know it reeks of "woo", but it can't hurt either. I'm still lighting a candle for you every Friday night.

I hope you’re having excellent care in hospital, Brian. I often think about you here in London. Thinking about you even more now and hope they’ve helped you find some relief. Much love and warm hugs.

Brian, I am sending so much love. Hoping that you are comfortable and able to rest.

May I please ask your help in finding the first iteration of this thread?

I’d like to be a part of it, and I wish to catch up, from the beginning. I’d bet there are others who feel the same way.

Thanks, and I really like your artwork, Brian.

R66, here's the first thread. Will look for part 2.

Part 2

Good Morning, Brian: Hope you are resting now after a tough few days. Sending heaps of love and warm wishes.

Sending positive thoughts and love to you, Brian, from the Colorado Rockies.

I wonder what pleasure it must give you knowing your paintings are hanging in the children's hospital not far from you there at Vanderbilt. There's something a bit magical about this, no?

Please take good care of Brian, all that are helping and aiding him now.

Thinking of Brian today, XOXOXO

Brian, just know we love you. Thank you for allowing us into your life.

XOX that's all.

Fellow posters, sadly it looks as though Brian has passed away.

I found the memorial site (at link) this morning.

I am sobbing like a child.

Thank you.

I had a feeling that had happened... in fact googled obituaries yesterday morning but i guess it hadn’t been posted. RIP just doesn’t seem to be enough... he seemed to be an amazing person with a wonderful character and essence, and I still am at a loss to understand how stuff like this happens to such good people.

Thank you, r74. Godspeed Brian. Thank you for bringing us all together for a brief moment and allowing us into your magical world of love, curiosity and delight.

An article about him from 2014. What an interesting man.

Brian you are one of those shining people and I'll miss knowing you are here. x

Years ago I was in a feed store in a dusty little town on the Colorado plains. Out in the middle of nowhere. As my bf and I passed a revolving rack of greeting cards something caught my eye so I stopped to take a closer look. It was Brian's painting of two dogs in an embrace staring at the night sky on a card That image. I don't know how he did it but Brian had the ability to touch others profoundly.

Thank you for posting that incredible interview with Brian, r70. What strikes me - He was a creative spirit and you can't 'contain' or 'suppress' creative spirits like his. They must seek to fulfill something inside themselves. I am so glad he found his passion - and did so well, incredibly well with it. That's all you can ask for really in this life. Above all, he loved to love. He loved his cats and it broke his heart to be without them. How lucky are we to have shared this brief journey, the last few precious months. Words like - Dignity. Compassion. Humility come to my mind. He cared about us - he posted to keep us to date so we wouldn't worry too much. He thought of us - all of us - and we loved him back. We loved the creative genius in him but we mostly loved the innocence and fun and exuberance (!) he brought to live in his Art.

I am so glad, so grateful he got to see London and visit his favourite haunts. He was even planning a second trip (!) which was incredibly cheeky, wild, fun and just like him! If we can live 1% of Brian's world of love, fun and play we have got the secret to life. I think we know that times are tough for a lot of folks - this is just a reminder of what really matters. Don't want to end this post and I won't likely post again on this thread again.

Thank you to everyone who made Brian's threads incredible, amazing and full of love, caring and insight. I wish you all a good day and a day to be kind to each other. Don't forget to smile though - Brian wouldn't want us to frown, be sad. If he was here reading this, he'd probably tell me "Thanks, so kind, I appreciate it." He was always to us, each one of us, he read all our posts and he always answered.

I think we made a friend for life. What an achievement! What a gift!

It was a nice thing that happened here.

I'm glad Brian was able to know that he inspired it, and that he also drew comfort from it. He made a dent in this world.

This was a kind little hidden corner in the universe that we've all secretly shared for several years together. We can thank Brian and each other for that.

Our little grouping actually felt like one of his bright and happy paintings.

Peace to you all. Good eggs, every one of you. Thank you.

Hard to believe it’s been a few years since he made that first post, asking for advice and not sure if he even wanted treatment.

He put up a good fight and kept on living even once he knew what the outcome would be. I’m hoping his last few days were not too painful, and that he died with happy memories and knowing just how many people he touched.

Gentlemen, you are the best. All of you. What you did here was amazing. Reading these posts makes my heart ache, but at the same time reaffirms my belief in the essential goodness of humanity.

Oh Brian. What a magnificent humble man you were. You will not be forgotten. A fine example to us all. I hope your energy lives on somewhere out there x

So sad - yet there is an element of knowing he was ready for it and peace in knowing he was starting to suffer and it went quickly. So much insight into how fragile life is. I only hope I face it with the same bravery. Reading of his experience and his honesty about the big and small things has been one of the most meaningful online exchanges I’ve ever had. He was able to transform a medium that has been used for so many negative or irrelevant things into something truly touching and educational and inspiring. Well done Brian.

[quote]Gentlemen, you are the best.

As are the ladies. :-)

I'll second (third? fourth?) all the sentiments about OPB, and about the inherent kindness and goodness the posters in these threads have displayed over the past couple of years. I've said it a few times since Brian's original post: this is why I love the DL.

Thanks for everything, Brian. We'll miss you.

Our DL Patron Saint, OPBrian, now looks on us from another dimension.

Respect to OPB! For you have made one heck of a journey. Peace to you now.

He started off as a business man (MBA from Dartmouth) but he was still able to pursue a creative career as the former Director of Retail Marketing at Polo Ralph Lauren. That position would likely oversee the design of the displays (i.e. mannequins and their accessories), window decorations, and signage/artwork. A lot of us probably encountered his work while we were shopping.

Then, he left the rat race to focus on work that was more personally creative and satisfying: music and then painting. And he was able to make money off it. He was lucky to pursue his passion and achieve success at it.

sorry to hear this.

Oh fuck, I was afraid of this. I actually contacted his sister on FB a few days ago because I was getting concerned, but of course, haven't heard from her.

Brian, you were a special man, who brought grace, art, humility, class and the ability to bring out the best from this ragtag assortment of people on Datalounge. I'll have you guys know that in the early days of his diagnosis, he just wanted to occupy his mind, so painted my Balloon Boys for free. To freely give a gift like that shows you how gracious he was and the gift is priceless to me.

Should we try to do a little toast in a gallery to him when all of this blows over?

I did a search for Brian’s name on Facebook, and there are some posts on their from his friends. Check them out—he truly was a special person. It’s really nice that we could see that on DL.

I don’t think I’ve ever commented on these threads but I’ve stuck with them ever since his first post and am so bummed to see this. He was remarkable and the same could be said for all of you. RIP OPB!

One of his Facebook friends:

So Brian asked me to let everyone know when he died that he was dead. Yes, that was how he put it. "Will you let the Facebook people know because that’s probably the quickest and most efficient way, right?" I said yes, but only if I write it now, and you approve of it beforehand. So I did, and of course he made his edits, and this has been sitting in my files for a few months now. It is the hardest post that I have ever written; but only because he was one of the greatest people I have ever known(he would have made me leave that out).

We lost a good one yesterday. A truly good man. A gentle man and a gentleman. A devoted son and brother, a beloved friend, a brilliant artist.

To all who loved him, may you know that up until his very last days Brian Nash did what he loved most: Paint. Until he could no longer hold the brushes, he painted. He put his heart into every canvas; creating images full of light, color, joy, love. Everything he painted, whether it be museum studies of famous artists(with subtle imagery hidden in the homage), advertising spoofs, pop art icons, or everyday household items; all of his art held that certain Nash bent. Animals, food, TV and film, were all subjects to which Brian lent his talent and humor. Commissions of people’s beloved pets, caught in a nuanced way that only the owner could recognize, were his utmost joy to create.

Brian’s paintings danced off the canvas, begging us to join in the fun. And so we did. How could we not? Even the titles captured us and made us laugh. Brian was wicked funny.

But there was so much more to Brian than his art.

Brian held a Master’s Degree from Dartmouth, an Ivy League college(he was damn proud of that as well he should have been). He was an advertising executive for Polo, a true Nashville songwriter(as in he actually had songs published), and he was known to wait a table or two. He loved the theater, books, music and his home town of Boston. Brian was a voracious reader, and could speak intelligently on even the most obscure of subjects. Brian loved his pets. Many knew his dog Rufus and his cat Skittles, who often appeared in his paintings, but he also rescued many a kitty from the streets to give them a forever home.

To paraphrase Hamilton, NOT one of his favorite shows so he would hate this, Brian painted as if he were running out of time. Constantly working, 4 canvasses at once, paint everywhere, yet never did a single painting look “manufactured for sale”. Oftentimes he would say he needed to “sell a painting to make some money”. What would he do with that money? Go to Dollar General and make dozens of kits for homeless people, and then go distribute them. Toothbrushes, water, snacks, whatever he thought could be useful. Then back to painting to repeat the charity(and sometimes pay the bills).

A kinder heart could not be found.

Brian was diagnosed with cancer In the summer of 2018. He was given 3-6 months to live, but he stuck around. He was very matter of fact about it: Death did not scare him. But as long as he was here, he was going to create as much art as he could. It is his beautiful legacy which yes, we can see with our eyes, but more importantly, we can feel, deeply, with our hearts.

Brian was like a brother to me. When he loved, he loved fiercely, and I mean that in both senses of the word. I loved him with all of my heart. I learned so much from him, every.single.day. Brian brought light into the lives of all he knew; whether in talk, paint or his porkpie hats. He was such a gift.

Brian, you outlived your expiration date, but there was never enough time. Xo, R

Good gods, that is devastating. What a beautiful memorial.

This has made me turn down a job offer to go back to my rat race corporate life today. Life is too short to do something you hate. Brian showed you can live a full, creative, fulfilled life. And that the good people are too often taken early. Thanks Brian.

[quote]I'll have you guys know that in the early days of his diagnosis, he just wanted to occupy his mind, so painted my Balloon Boys for free.

I remember when he extended that generous offer to the posters in the first thread, and regret not taking him up on it at the time.

I can only find his FB art page, and I don't see any tributes from his friends. Does he have another FB page?

we will miss you, Brian

That's a wonderful testimony R99, you are inspired. Don't look back too much, although after 30 years some days I still say I'm a recovering law firm slave.

Brian had all his ducks in a row, no doubt about it. A life well lived.

[quote]I don't see any tributes from his friends

Just type Brian's name into the search box on Facebook, then click "posts" (up top, next to "all").

Posts that mention him will then appear, and you can read the tributes.

Thank you r104, "Brian Nash" turned up posts for me. From another friend: Today is a very sad day. I lost my precious friend of 26 years, Brian Nash. He was a lovable curmudgeon, a wit, a critic of the the tiniest details of life. Before there was Seinfeld, there was Brian, who had a well considered opinion on absolutely everything. Brian was super smart, well traveled, witty and urbane. He did everything fast (ask his co-writers), had little patience and didn’t suffer fools. But, he had unending patience and unconditional love for animals. Brian was a man of many talents. He was a successful advertising and marketing exec, he built beautiful furniture and wrote beautiful songs. But, 7 years ago, Brian found his ultimate calling. His paintings were pure joy, with their child-like depictions and brilliant colors, with a wink of his sophisticated and adorable sense of humor. Brian lived life on his own terms and charmed and disarmed one and all. I feel sad for all who have lost him and so blessed to be his close friend and to have had the gift of helping to care for him in these last days. Love you, Doll.

Happy for you, r99. Very best of luck and happiness.

Words fail me. So many mixed emotions here, but most of all, profound appreciation for all of this and for Brian.

R104, I'm not the person who asked but I tried your directions and couldn't find much beyond his art page. Maybe you see the others because are already friends on Facebook?

Ah, the quotation marks did the trick. Thanks R105.

Oh wow, this is so sad. RIP Brian.

NOOOOoooooOOO

I knew his last post was goodbye but I didn't want to acknowledge it as such. May he rest in peace.

Director of Retail Marketing for Polo Ralph Lauren before leaving to focus on songwriting and his art. Our Brian was very accomplished.

This SUCKS.

I love this piece so much. I may spring for it if one of you bitches doesn't beat me to it now that Ive brought it to your attention. I have to get something.

FYI Artfinder has a 15% off sale on at the moment.

Thank you to the poster who shared a link to this thread – and, by default, the preceding threads – with Brian's friend. :-)

These threads served as a sort of online diary for Brian, and I always hoped his friends and family would someday find them so they could read about his feelings, fears, hopes, joys, plans and the like. Perhaps now, his words might bring them a sense of comfort. Or simply add another layer to his richly textured life. I'm glad someone he knew now knows how/where to find them.

Just in case anyone needs it again, or wants to revisit OPB's journey from the beginning, here's a link to the very first thread -- started back in September 2018.

This is such an unfair world.

Eleanor, thank you for the eloquent and sincere words you left on our behalf on Brian's obituary page.

Oh, Brian. Godspeed on your journey. Hugging all of you,

Brian, I will miss you so much. Through your posts you were a gentle, kind friend to this snarky and wounded soul. Thank you for the wonderful art. May you rest in peace.

Words are escaping me, and I am crying. He fought so hard, maybe just for us? His thread, Brian's life, just radiated truth and kindness, the highest level of the human condition. Our struggles, our fears, our capacity to care for others our desires to wax philosophical, and our need for companionship. So much.

He was in so much pain (physical). May you rest in peace, BRIAN. You gave us all LIGHT.

Brian is our Patron Saint of DL. Our guiding Light in our Lives. Immortalized & Beloved

Muriel and DLers, what can you do to save this thread?

Is there any way this thread, and the previous two can be archived with the nasty troll comments removed?

RIP, Brian. You made Datalounge a nicer place and that is a feat few have achieved.

I'm so sad to hear of Brian's death, but I'm so proud to have been a tiny part of his support along with all of you lovely caring people. I'm sure thanks in no small part to you all, he never truly felt alone at the end.. RIP Brian.

NJ mom- xx

RIP OPB. Thanks for your art and posts.

Brian, may you find the light or the Tate Museum.

I'm wishing you luck, Brian, for a fabulous view from the heavens. We still here on earth who lovingly followed your journey on DL will miss you. Thank you for sharing the journey with us.

i don't know what I am going to do without Brian, and the rest of you on this thread. I'm sad.

When my time comes, I'll remember how Brian handled things. He never whined- he was always dignified, matter-of-fact, and frankly fearless. An impressive fellow.

Godspeed, OPB.

Oh dear God. I'm sick to my stomach. May God take and keep that beautiful soul of yours. ( even if you didn't believe in him)

For Brian.

I haven’t been able to find words, but you have all said it so well.

I rarely commented but I have been reading Brian’s threads from the beginning. He seemed like a kindred spirit. He made the world a better place through his paintings, his kindness, and his love for animals; and those of us who knew him through DL have been changed. I love that he sought advice and came here. I hope that when my time comes I am able to recall Brian’s example and face life and death the way he did. Love you always, Brian.

Brian really brought out the best in people here, I'll always remember him for that.

I only briefly read some of the threads on Brian but sad news to hear of his passing.

May we all know we are loved when we go. It seems that Brian was lucky enough to know that.

This is truly sad news, Brian was (and will always be) a wonderful person. I...wish I could write more right now but I’m a bit sad. I will be making a donation to the charity that the family listed on his obituary at R74. It shows that even though you may know what’s coming, it doesn’t lessen the blow.

I know this probably not tasteful at this juncture..But.. I saw the barefooted pic of Brian a poster provided upthread. WOW! Hot ass feet ! NIIIIIICE! I had never seen a pic of him and now I view him TOTALLY different! The world is a dimmer place now without you Brian. And us 'footies' are missing the hell outta what could have been. God Rest! You deserve it!

R136, thank you for making me take a 2nd look at that post and clicking on the link. Here's a photo of Brian (OP) for those who may have missed it. Handsome man!

I watched my mom live through / die from cancer and now, Brian. I am not scared to die, but am scared of the time leading up to it, if that makes sense. I feel less scared, now. Appreciate Brian and anybody else who can talk about what it's like to go through life with cancer.

Here is the charity of Brian's if you feel inclined to donate:

Thank you for the link. Just made a little donation for Brian.

I wonder if any of his friends know about our Brian threads here. Who knows, they might find it interesting or comforting to read what he was saying here as he went through everything.

He made us better people. RIP

Thanks also for the link, R39, I donated, too. I hope they get a big pile of donations in tribute to Brian Nash.

I purchased a painting of Brian's. Well that is half truth. I had purchased it and the offer was accepted. There was a poster that decided they didn't like my comments and decided they were going to review my comments and make his opinion of me known. That painting meant the world to me, but that poster just ruined that painting for me with their comments about me. There is a point when being a bitch is not acceptable. If he thought he was going to win brownie points he didn't. I cancelled my order because I could not look at the painting with the same joy I had when I first saw it. I really hope you are different people in your lives than you are here. Next time you are talking to your friends show them your pointless bitchery.

R143 How did the poster know anything about your painting purchase or associate your comments to someone(or anyone) buying a painting of Brian's? I doubt Brian would have cared either way and would have avoided judgment.

I posted about buying the painting and what it meant to me. Brian was upset about the back and forth I had with the other poster. Please don't assume you know what Brian would care or not care about R144. You don't know him and neither do I. I would not assume to post what he would think about something.

everyone post your paintings that you have, or know of, by Brian.

His death is hitting me so hard. He was my dear friend and I meet him on DL, only through Dl.

Back and forth with the other poster over the painting is different. I thought you meant another DL'r had mentioned your comments here about topics he didn't agree with. That's why I asked how did the guy know it was you ( meaning from DL) Now that you have made that clear, I can see where Brian would be agitated with you two going off over a piece of his work but not judging you regarding comments on topics on DL. That's what I meant by him not caring. I was trying to give you the benefit of doubt. Don't get all self righteous.

Go fuck yourself R147. It wasn't a "back and forth...over the painting."

r148, is it really necessary to sully this thread like that?

R143, Brian never posted anything negative about you. Another poster called you out about something, and the back and forth between you and that other poster got very nasty, derailing an otherwise calm and collaborative discussion. Brian gently asked everyone for peace...without pointing a finger at either one of you two. And you wanted to punish Brian by reneging on the deal? And now you're bragging (?) about that? Sick. So fucking sick.

Please stop

I’m going to keep it real for a bit because I guess I feel a little guilty, a lot sad, and mostly just lost.

I started reading these threads from Brian about a year ago. I assumed that it was just a prank, maybe a desperate attention seeker, or at worst, some guy trying to get “suckers” to buy his artwork using the “I’m sick” card.

Nevertheless, I read the threads from time to time and eventually, I would even seek them out to get an update on OPB. Still, I thought he might be pulling off some kind of con job, but I was intrigued. There also seemed to be a lot of genuine concern for him from others, which was refreshing. There is a lot of snark and evil on DL- which I often contribute to and quite enjoy! Sometimes a change of pace is good, however.

Now, I just feel sad. OPB was a real person, going through a really horrible experience. He handled it so gracefully, so humorously. He cared deeply for his pets and I felt actual sorrow for him when he was trying to deal with sending his pets to his sister’s house just a few weeks/months ago. Maybe that’s what I’ll miss the most about someone I never saw, the connection to humanity he gave me.

Seeing his picture today was also another confirmation moment for me. The vain side of me immediately said “cute daddy type”, lol. After that initial thought, I saw happiness and peace in his gentle face. I saw a man who only a few short years later would be in a place that none of us truly ever want to be, yet we will all face as part of the price for being born. This was a man who knew and gave passion. A man who cared and was cared about. OPB was a man who let creativity and adventure bring more to his life than many of us will ever allow to happen.

Thank you, OPB. I’m truly sorry that it took me a long time to believe that your particular brand of humanity could exist on earth, purely and without an ulterior motive. I hope that now, in whatever form of afterlife is out there, you are at peace and able to take comfort In your creative nature.

Reading his memorial is humbling. He was obviously a man of wit, taste, and kindness. What we saw here in the early days of his threads was a glimpse into his suffering. There were days and nights where he seemed to think he was totally alone. But then it became clear he was not alone and I have to recognize that the love and support he had was there because he earned it. So, in the midst of a problem, I think I am going to ask myself: what would OPB do?

R150, I'm the one who called them out, but I only posted once and then left it alone. I wasn't in a back-and-forth with them. In fact, I un-watched this thread so I wouldn't be tempted to say anything else and derail the thread even more. That's why I missed the news about Brian until just now.

This is bad enough, don't drag me personally into some feud that I wasn't part of. I only asked them to please start another thread about their own pets and not hijack Brian's.

Please stop r154. Take this elsewhere. Thank you.

His family knows of Datalounge. (Someone asked upthread.) One of the first posts on his obit page mentioned it. The other things I've read seem to indicate the family is comforted that he had an online community who cared for him.

I also support request to "archive" or make this thread searchable, not deleted. Thank you Muriel. Thank you also for supporting this thread. Much appreciated.

[quote]I wonder if any of his friends know about our Brian threads here. Who knows, they might find it interesting or comforting to read what he was saying here as he went through everything.

They know. One of our regular posters shared a link to this thread with one of his friends.

This thread (with a few obvious post exceptions) shows all that can be good about social media. OPB was obviously a member and poster before his diagnosis, I’m so glad he found comfort and support here.

I never commented, but I also followed OPB's threads over the past couple years, and like all of you, was incredibly affected by his dignity and grace. This would be sad if it happened to anyone, but he seemed like such a gentle, unique soul, that it feels all the more painful and unfair. I'm actually taking this quite hard. I think I'm still in the denial, anger, depression stages of grief. It's hard to believe his last post was really his final message, though going back and reading some of the replies, many of you sensed it and basically said goodbye. Even his last words here ("Wish me luck, gang!") had a note of cheerfulness in the face terrible finality. What a shining example he was. I can only hope to be as brave when my time comes.

Anyway, I'm feeling low and dejected right now, but I don't think he would want that, so I'm going to try to lift my spirits. Maybe look at his lively paintings, which are full of color and happiness. He left behind a beautiful legacy, and touched many of our lives. Also, with all the fear and uncertainty in the world right now, I like to believe he's in a better place. I will never forget you, Brian! Rest in peace.

The invaluable insight into the process of being diagnosed with cancer, going through treatment and facing death will always be with me. His ability to pragmatically deal with such a terrifying process gives me hope when my turn comes. I’ve seen many of my family members go through it and know I have the gene. Brian’s brave, thoughtful, and honest approach is how I would like to think cancer can be approached. Thanks Brian.

MURIEL- Please archive the Tongue Cancer threads- they show a spark of humanity in the hissing den of earrings and caftans. You should be a little proud that this was accomplished.

I just noticed thread three is not documented above. I’m reading it now and feeling nostalgic.

He didn’t mention DL in his approved death notice.

Don’t blame him.

Could his cancer have been from HPV/oral?

I know his first thread said it was rare and he didn’t smoke.

R164 Someone asked him this and he said it wasn’t.

Hey r160 - Sorry to hear you're taking it hard. I am as well - teary, sad, and no ones - I'm kind of alone this this except for DLers here on this thread. What I did yesterday was I have a personal diary/calendar and I copied (feeling bad/guilty about this....) his Skittles paintings. Huge cat lover and my cat, Harry is identical to Skittles in looks and personality. He is also a Little Diablo! Anyway, my calendar is festooned with a beautiful array of Brian's bright, cheerful sketches and I look at them all every day whenever I open my calendar. I did it on the spur of the moment on Tuesday, and finished it on Wednesday. For a few hours, I immersed myself in his drawings/paintings and smiled, laughed, cried as I watched Skittles (one of Skittles in the garden is my favourite) so lovingly painted in each and every masterpiece. I guess in retrospect, it was kind of therapeutic. But anyway, this calendar I will look at and treasure for rest of my life. It is my deeply personal reminder of how the goodness and kindness of one soul can transform a person, a life, an outlook.

My background is in architecture so I guess I am more visual in orientation so these paintings speak to me in ways words do not. I also see Brian's humour, his essence in each painting. Our dear OP Brian left a greater legacy than he ever imagined or hoped for or even dreamed. It's funny that we're affected in similar ways - a lot of us here. I find that rather comforting in a small way.

I don't know what to suggest to lessen your sorrow or angst, but that is how I am dealing with his passing. I have also bookmarked all the threads. Actually his absence is haunting - I miss the goodness, the humility (as others have commented). I also miss the sheer force of his intellect. Wow. What an intellect that man had. Incredible curiosity. Maybe these threads are good for us to help us grieve, talk to each other, help each other, comfort each other. I don't know. If I had a magic wand I'd make your sadness disappear. But you know, if that sadness goes, so does our memory of his gentle soul. Didn't the Queen (I know I know) says that Pain is the price you pay for loving? or something like that.

^^^ NO ONE knows....(meant to say)

Thanks, R166. That sounds like a lovely tribute. I think some people wouldn't understand feeling this kind of grief over someone they've never met. It's a comfort knowing many of us are united here in our shared sorrow. I tried reading over the previous threads again, but it's almost too hard right now. Even looking at his paintings made me feel sad. I hope that will lessen in time, and I can eventually think of our worthy OPB with smiles instead of tears.

I noticed that Brian's paintings have been taken down from the websites where they were sold. Not a surprise, given the circumstances, but I do wonder if he left any instructions for the future sale of his art.

I would think unsold paintings now belong to his family/next of kin. Unless he specified something else to be done with them.

Sigh....will miss all the people that Brian brought together on this little sunny oasis. Hugs for you all. If I do go to a gallery to toast Brian, I will let you know.

R170 I loved seeing pics of your balloon boys and edvard’s noble bird. And Brian’s paintings most of all.

[quote]Wish me luck, gang!

His last words on here are haunting.

R172- Yes, I was just looking at his last post here... I thought the same thing. Brian knew that his time to move on was coming... And it was haunting, but very light and very hopeful.

I started that 2nd thread for Brian, and I had to be really careful because Brian made it very clear he was an atheist.

I wanted to spew all of my new age beliefs all the time to "make him feel better"..

And now, all I hope for him, is that his soul is HAPPY. And I pray that he was wrong! I hope he was greeted by the universe's kindest beings and that he was FLOORED by how loved he is and how much wonder and joy awaits him in his future lifetimes..

It was a privilege to meet his acquaintance here. And I hope to meet him somewhere, somehow- down the road-

I´m sorry to hear about his passing. RIP.

R173, thank you for your restraint & respect. I'm serious. We all have different beliefs & different ways of dealing with serious illnesses (our own illnesses).

I just hope he was pain free in his last days. He was in a lot of pain when he posted in those last weeks.

R176, it seems like Brian was in a hospital when he died. I'm guessing he had the choice to use a morphine drip.

Whatever happens to OPB's remaining paintings I'd wager an animal charity(s) will benefit from the eventual sales.

R175, Absolutely. One thing I am is pretty private in my beliefs-

However, I hope my friend Brian was simply AMAZED at how wrong he was. No one disappears. Energy transforms.

Brian, my friend- there would make me nothing happier than to say that you were wrong , brother!!!!!

Ironically, Brian knows that truth now. I do not.

Just saw R176.. Me too... He clearly knew that he was in trouble in that last post. And within a week, he was gone.

Much love to you Brian!!!!! You taught me so much!!!!! Rest in POWER and show us the way!!!!!! All is well now, Brian! The future is yours.

Whatever he believed in... God or not, afterlife or not... I have a feeling that Brian is exactly where he is supposed to be right now. He lived his Earthly life to the fullest. Nobody, higher power or here on Earth, could ask anything more of someone.

Lose the exclamation points MARY!!!!

If there is an afterlife, I hope that Brian will send us a message here on DataLounge.

Sorry, Brian.

I think the fact that he didn't post after he was initially admitted to the hospital is a good sign in terms of his comfort. How lovely that he knew he had so many people who cared, but that he could say a lighthearted 'wish me luck gang" as he embarked on the final leg of his journey and we would know what it meant without further explanation.

I take that to mean that he chose the good drugs and went out peacefully knowing that he was loved, and that he had changed people for the better.

-NJ mom.

NJ Mom, I could not say it better. And I have nothing left to say. Bon Voyage, Brian. It was a privilege. And I do wish you luck, for eternity. XOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOOXO

There is an afterlife. Brian is living on in my heart, and the hearts of many DLers, who were honored to have meet him here. He fought so hard for life, and in this time, I meet him. Like many of us, we met and enjoyed knowing OP Brian via his DL threads.

This is a very special thread OP Brian (Brian Nash) created here for us all. I hope these can be saved. I am so sorry for his family and friends. They must be grieving, what a terrible loss. I am grieving too. Brian was my friend.

Love you Brian! XOXOXOXO

R177, respectfully asking why you think he was still in the hospital? He was so hoping to go home...

R187, Just guessing, based on the time line, the fact that he had a serious illness with further complications. IMO, people think they want to be at home when they die, but if you’re in pain, you want that morphine drip. There’s also the going to the bathroom, which can be hard towards the end. I would prefer a hospital in certain cases.

He was in the hospital. He was near death and wasn’t going to be discharged in the condition he was in.

I believe He died at home, not in the hospital. His friends who posted on Facebook made a point of stressing they helped him go home.

Another post from a friend. He came home,.

Brian has spoken to me of Robin through the years, but, somehow, I’d never met her until this past week when three of his Nashville best girlfriends rushed over to his apartment when he sent out an SOS for help. I knew that Brian loved Robin and, I instantly could see why. Brian was in the hospital for 5 days and then he came home. I tag teamed with Robin, taking care of him until his sister, Brenda, could get here from Boston. Robin was profoundly selfless in her care of him and I don’t know how Brian or I would have made it through the last week without her - and, it was so important to Brian that he be home in his magical loft for his last days. I’ve written my own tribute to Brian on my Facebook page, but this is my tribute to Robin and her incredible friendship to my incredible friend, Brian. He loved you so much, Robin. And, now, I do, too. ❤️

R188, it seems like he did make it home, according to a friend of his (read it on Facebook). Yay, Brian!

He has good friends and family. So glad he was able to be in his space with loved ones.

R191 I hope this is real. His last post from the hospital said he was “in incredible pain and not functioning well.” Was his pain under control when he went home?

Here's a tribute someone write about Brian.

Brian was able to go home for three days and nights and his sister was with him along with some friends. He went to hospice the day he passed, with two sweet nurses holding his hands. (I'm guessing family/friends weren't permitted.) I asked one of his friends and got permission to pass this info along. I asked how cats were doing, but they haven't said yet. So glad he had good people with him.

Thank you for sharing, r196.

Please go fuck yourself R155.

I've been away camping the last few days, and only realised Brian didn't make it until now. I'm sad, but so willing to believe he's with Rufus and Skittles right now.

Brian was so brave in fighting his battle for life, and so generous to share every step along the way. I'm trying to be positive, yet still very sad he couldn't stay here a little while longer.

Brian's paintings seem to be still available at Singulart.com

Such very sad news. My thoughts with his family and many friends.

I like the one depicting the Charles River alongside the Standells' LP "Dirty Water." haha Brian.

So glad he had good friends and family with him. And that he enjoyed his trip to England. Thanks to all of you who had great advice on where to stay and what to see.

I kept hoping he'd get better. It seemed so injust that a sweet guy like him would die, a treatment had to be found somehow... Even if my head knew it might happen one of these days, my heart was not ready for it.

And now I'm going to spam this thread with my favourite OPB paintings.

Here is "Van Go"

Four Liberty

New York City Skyline

London Snow Globe

I love April. Where's that chorus sheep?

A post on FB from Brian's sister. This goes under the heading "What Brian taught me"

"The cancer Brian suffered began as tongue cancer. It's absolutely vital that when we get dental checkups the dentist examine all the soft tissue in our mouths and our lymph nodes as well."

I looked at the obituary on Brian's memorial page again, and it seems to have been updated with this mention about his art:

"His work will continue to be sold through the soon to be established Brian Nash Foundation, which will donate a portion of the proceeds of every sale of his artwork to the causes he held so dear."

I’m going to just shout out MURIEL one more time in the hopes that all OPB threads get archived. I may disagree with Muriel on actually a rare occasion, but I don’t think she will miss this. But, regardless, it’s not a good reason not to make sure our pleas show up when she searches for her own mentions.

Write to Muriel webmaster@datalounge.com

Just wanted to pass on a little news about Brian's cats. His sister said they were both out of hiding and doing okay. I miss all the sweet posts here.

I'm very glad to hear it! Thank you.

Was thinking about Skittles yesterday in fact and wondering how she is faring in Boston, thanks r213. Such great news and Brian would be absolutely beside himself with joy to know this.

Thank you for the news, R213.

Thanks for the update, r213.

So glad to hear that Brain's cats are doing well w/ his sister.

This website blog is done by Brian's friend Robin. She was with him and his sister right up until he went into hospice. (The hospice couldn't let them stay with him.) She's posted something entitled "Lower the Rainbow Flag to Half-Mast" today.

Thanks, R219

Another post br Brian's friend. She talks a little about him.

Has she indicated when Brian's artwork will become available?

Is there a collection or suggested donations to someplace for his memory?

R222, I will let you know her answer. (I asked.)

Yes, the Crossroad Campus where he used to volunteer and maybe got Skittles from:

I received a nice personal (handwritten) note from Crossroads to thank me for my donation. They really loved Brian.

How much did you donate?

I beg your pardon? Why do you need to know?

It's nice to see that his friend loved him very much.

Brian's friend still has to inventory his paintings. If you're interested in something she will look to see if it's still available.

Brian's remaining body of work. I believe the website has been updated.

God, what are these threads about? Did you all get oral HPV from your prodigious cocksucking?

I'm not reading them.

Huh, Brian's sister finally got back to me on FB earlier this week. I guess she's starting to wrap up his life. Thank you for the update, r231.

R232, Brian's family had a history of oral cancer, and he sadly succumbed to it 2 years after diagnosis and part of his tongue removed. He was by all accounts, a very sweet and talented man, not looking for handouts or sympathy. You really should read his threads.

Go away R232. These threads were months and even years of people caring about another human being. A spot of light in darkntimes, a rarity in this world. since you are a cretin and not actually human, you wouldn't understand. We don't mind that you don't read them.

I sure wish Brian was still around. The universe is cold. But, lots of people here provided warmth.

We're still here, r235. I was so happy to see a posting on this thread yesterday. This thread was such a beacon of hope, a bright spot, a highlight in a huge way for many of us. Would love to hear how Skittles is doing. And Lala. LIttle sweethearts.

I was happy to see a post here too! I've been feeling pretty hopeless about life this week and it's so nice to see this group pop back up. Sending you all love and kindness.

This was his sister's message to me:

Hi MrE, thank you for writing. Brian told me about your group, he got a lot of comfort from being in touch. Stay well. XO

I just asked her about Skittles and Lala. Will update you when she does.

His bravery and insight were inspiring. Made me less afraid of facing death - hoping I could handle it with the strength and grace and acceptance he did.

Hang in there r237. These are challenging times, there's no question. Very tough. Tough emotionally and physically and the "news" just seems to keep comin'. This is going to sound very horrid but I was thinking last week that maybe Brian left at a good time (if there is such a thing). For over a year (time flies), we were kind of in our own little "bubble" - a safe and protected DL bubble with only Brian and a few of us and we were endlessly fascinated with his trip to London, a possible second trip in the Spring, the sale of his exquisite paintings, his beloved pets Skittles and Lala. This thread is an incredible testament to the goodwill and generosity of spirit of all those who cared to post and engage in lighthearted banter and sometimes serious conservation with Brian. My greatest consolation is that if only one of us - for a brief moment - gave Brian a second of merriment or comfort, then I consider this thread Mission Accomplished.

Thank you, very much r238 - Looking forward with great anticipation to Skittles and Lala News!

^^^ conversation.

I posted in the previous threads but lost track...I'm so sad to find out he's gone but glad to know he's no longer suffering...

I'm hope Brian is happy and pain free where he is now and painting to his heart's desire somewhere...

I wish everyone in this thread the best of health and peace...

I hope Brian got a howl out of this one post. It was very brief. I'd have to go back and find it but someone posted a joke about a gay loving his mulatto "pussy" meaning: Cat (the joke was he originally used the word "pussy"). It was the way the poster had written it and it was just a howler. Had to post this. Happy memories....

Hi, everyone. I was going to post a few times recently asking if anyone else still had this thread bookmarked in case anyone came back. Happy to see more posts here. And I sometimes think the same thing about Brian, R236. I know the gift of life is not to be sniffed at, of course, but right now, he is not missing anything that terrific. Not to say that things won't get better at some point; however, a few more months of life in these circumstances would have been harder for him.

I cannot believe he is gone. OP Brian's death really got to me. Hopefully, we can use the energy that Brian developed in this thread to help others. Life can be scary and we need each other.

Stay safe!

So glad to see this thread re-animated. I felt sad when it went quiet after his death, but as a lurker rather than a poster, didn’t feel I should be the one to do it.

He was a truly lovely person. I wish I had known him in real life.

I do hope his kitties are settled. That was his main concern I think towards the end.

R246, his sister told me a while ago they had settled and were comfortable now in her home.

Question for Brian's fans - maybe we could keep this thread going with general advice and humanity? I think Brian would be pleased. We could change the name for another thread, but try to keep the (mostly) good vibe from this one?

That's a great idea, r247. We can keep this thread as a safe little corner in the DL world where folks can come and post whatever is on their minds relating to spirit of this thread. It'll keep us together and connected and also most importantly, keep lines open for news updates from the "bosses" Skittles Nash and Lala Nash. :))

r247, excellent idea. Should we call it something innocuous, to deter the riffraff?

How about this title? "Fishing Tips for Beginners: How to Catch Wild Salmon" ?

Hmmm. we'll get jokes about fish...if Erna is still around.

Ugh, I forgot, I really did forget about fish implications, r251. Oh well, something stupid like that anyway. Buying tennis rackets or something like that.

Good idea. How about "The Compleat Angler"? Same spirit, doesn't use the word "fish," and people might assume it's a boring thread about the book.

Works for me, r253. Zzzzzzz :))

I think we need a Brian homage... how about Life With Brian?

Don't you mean "without?"

R256, I said "with" to keep him as our center... without sounds lonely. But it was just a suggestion.

Great idea to keep the thread going. The Brian Thread?

I recently started posting on DL again after defecting to Reddit for the past few years.

This thread saddens me because I brought some of Brian Nash's work based off his DL posts, and contributed to a Kickstarter campaign when he was starting an apparel company. I hope he is at peace...he was always so kind in our limited correspondence.

I like Life of Brian...

"LIfe of Brian"? Don't think we have many Monty Python fans here.

Just musing here. What stood out for me was how genuine he clearly was. So often, ‘very nice’ people come across as insincere or shallow. He was neither. Just true to himself I think. I will always think of him when in Bloomsbury, where he stayed on his last trip.

Anyway, why don’t we keep posting here till someone comes up with a suitable sounding thread title?

I think it was because he was so humble, and genuinely interested in what other people said.

Yes 264, agreed.

I follow Brian's art ig, but I haven't been able to follow this thread. It saddens me to learn of his passing. But, I do believe he's in a much better place now.

Bet Brian didn't know or couldn't conceive of the possible notion that the moment he decided to post on DL seeking advice for himself, he actually brought a whole bunch of nice folks together interested in knowing more about himself and staying in touch with each other.

Glad to hear Brian's cats are okay. What an ordeal that Brian had to go through to get his cats to his sisters? Poor sweet cats too. Remember, he wanted to go to London again? Hopefully, his new haunt is the Tate, when he is not with his cats.

Maybe: Brian at the Tate.

Please let's keep this thread going.

Oh I really like « Brian at the Tate » R 268 :)

I agree, I do like, "Brian at the Tate" too!

Brian at the Tate.

R 268 - would you be ok to start our new thread when this one fills up?

What about The legacy of Brian.

Brian at the Tate. If you all like it, it must be.

Brian loved the Tate, and was an anglophile. He loved London. He really wanted to go back. Brian was planning a trip to London, when covid shut everything down.

He also was part of the other amazing thread about the adopted cat at Christmas. Can anyone post that thread here?

Brian LOVED his cats, of course he did.

Not in love with the "Brian at the Tate" name. First of all, I'm not well-traveled, so I had no clue at first what the Tate was. Second of all it says nothing to honor Brian's very real quest for advice. Also, newbies won't have any idea what the intent of the post is. I'd like something a little bit more down to earth and friendly.

OPBrian, the Patron Saint of DL cats.

R275, the idea was to have a generic, obscure thread title so mean people and trolls wouldn't be overly intrigued by it.

Funny post by Brian's best friend, the woman who is the caretaker for his art. She got a note from a gallery asking Brian to make another edition of something that had been sold. Here's her answer to the gallery. She starts:

"Before anyone says anything, I promise this would make Brian laugh.

Dear Brian Nash, I hope you’re doing well! One of our collectors is interested in your work “Silly Rabbit”. Since this work has already been sold, would it be possible to create a similar work made to order?

Dear Gallery that represents my works,

I am still dead and therefore will be unable to create future works. You speak with my Curator, Robin Cohn, often, so I would think you would know how dead I still am. She even spoke with you on Thursday about changing the status on one of your documents from “artist is alive” to “artist is deceased”; something she has been asking you to do for 3 months. Thanks for finally getting to that. It was haunting me.

As far as paintings go however, might I suggest “Lucky Charms” as an alternative? It’s along the same cereal genre and, imhdo, magically wonderful. I am sorry to say that I have no more “trix” up my sleeve, as I have no sleeves.

As far as future correspondence goes, you might want to update your computer automatic response feature.

Good luck from the artist in the stars, B"

It feels good that this thread was bumped. Thanks, r278.

Bump this thread. BC love this Thread

Aww Brian has good friends indeed. Thanks for the update.

Brian’s best friend does us all good by following up the inquiry with humor.

Thanks from me, too, for bumping this thread, feels good.

Where can we buy Brian's work?

R283, here

Thanks, R278. Was just thinking about Brian yesterday... It's so nice to have this thread updated.

Agreed! Nice to hear from everyone. I wish we had asked him more about his time at Ralph Lauren. I bet he had some stories!

Does anyone know roughly what prices his art sells at? No prices are listed on his website.

I think the larger ones are a few thousand each, R286.

And LOL to his friend's reply to the gallery -- hilarious!

Hope everyone is keeping well.

There was one of us that was going to buy one of his paintings (was it of Skittles?) before Brian died...did that every go through?

R286, his friend doesn't know any Ralph Lauren stories, I'm afraid. Those of you who are interested in pricing, she says there is a tab with prices on the site, and they're hoping to have a new site soon. She says things are selling, so if you're interested time may not be on your side. Not trying to shill, just wishing I could spare the money to get one myself.

Good to see this thread again. That email was priceless! We never did decide a title for the next one, did we?

Somehow I remembered Brian mentioning that he voted during the primaries, and it made me wish he could have been alive to see Trump lose the election. I hope he's smiling about this somewhere.

Brian!

Brian would be celebrating, for sure!

OP Brian, patron saint of DL animals, will certainly be smiling now that the White House will have dogs living there again (Champ and Major).

You guys are welcome to MARY! me all you want but I think about Brian everyday. He was a good, kind hearted guy and shouldn't have been taken so soon.

Seeing this thread bumped up always make me smile. I do think of Brian often too, R295. He's the kind of person who stays in your head.

He provided reality and grounding in a period of chaos. He helped put things in perspective when we were all feeling like life was miserable. Yet here he was facing death and not wallowing in self-pity, bitterness or regret. Treasuring what he could. His ability to face death clear-eyed and honestly - while still caring about this earth and those on it - was a much needed reminder of the grace of humanity when all we could see was the evil and horror.

Just wanted to let you know that I copied the last few days' worth of posts to send to Brian's best friend (the one handling his art work sales now) and his sister. Haven't heart back from his sister yet, but his friend was so thrilled to hear that people were thinking of him still. Thanks for putting a smile on all our faces.

Hello Brian, hello friends. Just feeling a little melancholy. Pet your furry friends, look at some art, eat some delicious food. Let's hope the new year will be a better one.

Cute kitty, Happy New Year

Brian my old dog is very ill tonight. I am sad and disturbed watching her try to cope. That’s all. Just needed to tell someone else. We all know how much you loved your kitties. You really looked out for them despite how wretched you felt. Oh I just remembered you also lost your dog in the midst of your treatment. I just lost my other elderly dog a few weeks ago. My husband and I cry all the time. He’s exhausted. Thanks for listening.

Thinking of you this morning, Brian, as the sun rises on a world with your energy, art, compassion and love of life still so strong within in. RIP. You earned it.

I didn’t realize that OPB was Brian Nash and this thread has really moved me. A few years ago, probably the same year he was diagnosed, he posted on here that he was starting a sleepwear company with the pajamas made in the USA. I bought a few sets - they are such quality, soft, rich cotton. I’m literally wearing a pair of the bottoms now as I read this thread. I can’t find a photo of his pajama designs, except for this Kickstarter link.

What a handsome, kind and talented man. He sounds like he was a wonderful friend to have, and he rescued cats, which makes him tops in my book. RIP, OP Brian. The world, and the DL,. are darker without you.

Correction - Brian started the pagans company two years before his diagnosis.

PAJAMA not pagan.

I’m so sorry r301. How are things with her now?

Thank you R301. We took to her to the vet a few hours later. They ran some tests and discovered she was bleeding internally and her heart murmur was in overdrive. Her lungs were filling up. She couldn’t rest, she was exhausted. We decided to put her to sleep. What a year.

Sorry, I meant R306. Brain not working well

If only we could all be put to sleep so peacefully instead of suffering agonizing painful deaths. An incredibly kind gift. No more suffering - all that is left is for those who remain to make peace with the fact of death.

Happy New Year, everyone. Today is a day that I'm sure that Brian would have reveled in. I saw a post by the person who is managing Brian's remaining art for sale. She says: "Google likes it when businesses get reviews, so anyone who loves Brian's art, please leave a review on our website. We are trying to make the world a happier place with "art for the child at heart". Thank you." I believe any proceeds from his remaining work are going to nonprofits in his name. I will post the website below, but for some reason it doesn't post it's briannash dot net

Happy New Year, Brian.

I was thinking of Brian recently. I was really down about everything in my life and going a little crazy from nearly a year sheltering by myself when I thought of our Brian and how he fought for every day and how he found meaning and joy in every last minute he was given here in this life. Then I gave myself a kick up the butt for wallowing in self pity and losing hope and felt the need to come here to let Brian know that he is often in my thoughts and always in my heart. I hope you're sleeping in peace Brian and that everyone on the thread is doing well.

[R312} You are good people, and we need you here.

I hope Brian's cats and his family are doing well. Anyone know?

R314, I asked about his cats. The answer: "The cats are living with his sister and doing GREAT in Boston"

R12

Does your cat charm the birds? Mine would do this funny “voice”: kind of screechy/chirpy sound. It was so adorable.

All, I’ve been hesitant to read any of the past few threads because Brian’s original post broke my heart and I was afraid of learning the worst. I was so moved by everyone’s support and love here on the threads, though, and felt honored to be a tiny part of the first thread. So...I see that Brian lost his battle and I guess I will go back in time and piece together the story. Thank you to everyone who lifted him and continue to keep his work and spirit alive. ❤️

R195 He had such a sweet face.

I have to say that I would love to purchase one of Brian's paintings on his site. I particularly love the Christmas Sweater one.

Needless to say, that my financial future is no longer promising, but a big hope of mine, is a year from now, that I may have that painting above a fireplace or a window or somewhere....

So happy that you are free, OPB!

Hi Brian, the world is still a right old mess. My 16 year old black cat, Bosch sends his purrs to you and Skittles in the ether.

Miss you, Brian. Sent a donation to your favorite animal shelter in honor of you and Skittles.

Brian- I sure do hope where you are is 1000 times better than where I am right now.

And if this place is better than it appears and I am being an ungrateful, I apologize.

You would think a thread like yours would make one appreciate life more- it does for awhile- but then life happens and you forget.. that a story like yours was supposed to make you appreciate what you have.

But you are remembered fondly. Especially how admirably and bravely you handled such a challenge.

You exuded kindness and true class and I have a feeling those traits will be yours eternally.

r322, Mr. Bosch is sending some purrs and headbutts your way.

LOL I love Mr. Bosch!!!!

Great name too.

To be fair, r324, he came with the name already (after Hieronymus), as I like to get rescues. Here he is in formal garb:

He’s very handsome R325!

Hugs to R322. It can almost always be said with truth, “This too shall pass.”

Brian's threads have made me realize that there are so, so many people on Datalounge whom I would love to know in real life. It's not just all pointless bitchery on here. Those of us on these threads share a common bond, and I like to think it's one of kindness and compassion.

Mr. Bosch is stunning!

What a lovely cat.

I wish every last one of us on this thread could get together for a party in Brian's memory.

R327- Very true- I am seen this first hand and many people here are extremely kind.

I like to be sarcastic and make stupid and mean comments, but ultimately I want to be kind and I have found that generally to be the case here.

And people here give some excellent advice and have great insights.

Brian was clearly a gem.

Kisses to everyone!

My life has been blessed with a Carolina-type dog who has filled me with joy and love. Her name is Ruby. She doesn’t enjoy storms or rain on the roof. But she gives the most incredible hugs.

Glad to hear that, R330. Share a pic?

A message from Brian's friend and trustee of his art:

"Hello all! I have a favor to ask of you- I am trying to put together a “book” of stories about Brian, combined with his art. I would like for each of you to write a short story about your relationship with Brian, and how it relates to the art of his that you own. I think that collectively, the stories will show the broad impact that Brian’s art had on a wide swath of people. The stories will also provide insight as to who he was to each of us individually, yet weaving us together through his art. Please also list the pieces of his art that mean the most to you, accompanied by a photo of each work. I know this is homework and I only want those of you who wish to participate to do so. The more input I can get, the more we can all learn about our friend, and the impact he had on each of us through his brilliant art. With this collection, I hope to begin to create the legacy of Brian Nash Art. Please send it to: robinecohn@gmail.com, and spread the word to those who aren't part of FB. Please ask them if they would be willing to participate as well. Thank you. Thank you so much. Robin robinecohn@gmail.com"

Thank you r332, Should we have someone summarize his impact on DL? I do have my own story with him, outside of DL, but DL is the place where I met him.

Robin has my story (how I found his thread and interacted with him) but maybe someone could do the whole datalounge experience? if no one wants to take that on, I'm sure individual stories would be wonderful. Please don't just place them here, send to Robin at her address above.

Thought of Brian today and wanted to touch base with those who contributed here. Every time I stop to feed a feral cat I think of Brian.

I know some of you might be a able to afford this (from Brian's estate) original post from Facebook, So you can see the pics. FANTASTIC NEWS! I have FOUR, brand new-to-the-market, Brian Nash Art DOG and CAT paintings for sale! The proceeds will benefit the non-profit to which Brian donated them, Crossroads Pets- Shop & Adopt. Because these are being sold to raise money for the new location(where 38 more at-risk youth will be housed), and for the pet adoption facet, we are hoping these will cause a bidding WAR! But for now, "Louie Louie...Oh, Oh, We Need a Home, ya ya ya ya ya" is a 12" x12" offered for $500; "He Went That-a-Way"(Dog) is 18" x 24" $1500, "I'm Right Here Silly Dog"(Cat) is 18" x 24" $1500(and they look FABULOUS when hung together, just sayin'); and "The Brady Bunch Plus 3" is 18" x 24" for $1500. Please contact me at robinecohn@gmail.com if you are interested in purchasing

Miss you, Brian.

Analingus provides some relief.

Article written by Brian's sister, about how their niece vets online acquaintances.