Singer Max Bemis comes out as “bi-ish” or “a straight guy who can also like boys”
Max Bemis, lead singer of the rock band Say Anything, just came out in an emotional nine-page letter to fans.
In the missive, Bemis opens up about his mental health struggles and his sexuality, which he describes as “bi-ish or queer or a straight guy who can also like boys.”
“I always talked or joked about it with my friends and found it to be blatantly clear I was,” he writes. “I was bullied for it and called a ‘f*g’ (without irony). This is, sadly, common.”
The 34-year-old rock-and-roller continues, “I’m not special. I even went so far as to tell people I was also attracted to guys repeatedly. They chalked it up to my bipolar sh*t, which was hurtful.”
Bemis describes most of his queer experiences as “limited and remain mostly emotional” and says he’s often felt people don’t take his sexuality seriously because he’s married to a woman.
“So yeah, I’m a queer, Jewish, Christian skeptic pseudo-anarchist with a belief in metaphysics and the application of ‘magical’ stuff. Woof,” he writes
Bemis also talked about Say Anything’s forthcoming album, Oliver Appropriate, which he says is “a critique of ‘new age masculinity” and which will be the band’s final album… probably.
“There will be no full U.S. tour to support the record or in the near future. I am done being a touring musician as my main profession,” Bemis writes. “Say Anything is retiring in the sense that Jay-Z did. It’s not an indefinite hiatus or a breakup because that’s impossible.”
by Anonymous | reply 71 | November 26, 2018 6:45 PM
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Not sure why it didn't post the link. I personally haven't heard of him but thought it was an interesting article. Even if I'm not a fan of people who don't use conventional labels.
Offsite Linkby Anonymous | reply 1 | August 18, 2018 3:36 AM
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It’s called “mostly straight,” or brosexual.
by Anonymous | reply 2 | August 18, 2018 3:36 AM
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He's not cute, so I don't care.
by Anonymous | reply 4 | August 18, 2018 3:40 AM
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All that blather and convoluted language just to basically tell us that he likes cock? OK, Max, you're so special - can we touch you?
by Anonymous | reply 5 | August 18, 2018 3:40 AM
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Fat and ugly. Your services are not required, sir!
[quote]Say Anything is retiring in the sense that Jay-Z did
Oh, honey...
by Anonymous | reply 6 | August 18, 2018 3:43 AM
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I don't know but then again I didn't know Jason Mraz or Panic at the Disco! either.
by Anonymous | reply 8 | August 18, 2018 7:33 AM
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It was all so simple then, when you were gay or straight. But now the young's are too special to have to accept such straightforwardness.
I hope their inner turmoil makes their day-to-day life hell.
by Anonymous | reply 10 | August 18, 2018 7:53 AM
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R4 I disagree. Certainly his looks are variable, and he’s prently a tad too over-upholstered for my liking , but slimmer, like pic below, he’s not too far off my bloke-next-door ideal. Personally, I prefer that slightly carb-faced/Str8-face over ya typical pinched-faced cookie sniffer, sculpted brows fembot.
Offsite Linkby Anonymous | reply 11 | August 18, 2018 10:43 AM
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He looks like a real man with the predator alpha wolf in his eyes (in this case probably due to mental illness, alas)
by Anonymous | reply 13 | August 18, 2018 10:54 AM
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He used to be kinda cute.
Offsite Linkby Anonymous | reply 14 | August 18, 2018 10:56 AM
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He's very cute to those who like men, not fey twinks.
by Anonymous | reply 17 | August 18, 2018 10:59 AM
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Blakey s exy here. But some pics he appears to be deficient in the chin department so probably a pass
Offsite Linkby Anonymous | reply 18 | August 18, 2018 11:00 AM
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[quote] This is a statement about my current status as a dude
He literally opened his 9 page (!!!!!!!!!) letter to come out with this.
by Anonymous | reply 20 | August 18, 2018 11:01 AM
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They would make more sense if they simply stated percentages: "I'm only 60% straight."
by Anonymous | reply 23 | August 18, 2018 11:02 AM
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He bears Marcel Proust on his left arm.
Offsite Linkby Anonymous | reply 24 | August 18, 2018 11:05 AM
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He is "queer" because he sometimes has the feels for boys. So now every mastrubatory fantasy is part of your identity. Yeah, it seems like identity politics is really opening doors.
by Anonymous | reply 25 | August 18, 2018 11:05 AM
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I have a thing for Joe Rogan (still just about) so yeah..
by Anonymous | reply 26 | August 18, 2018 11:06 AM
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I'm actually enjoying the letter. This dude I never knew existed till a minute ago says he wrote some famous record where people thought it was about him, but it was rather about a character banging some chick senseless because he was a virgin back then and it was meant as a musical...
Well, the part that really matters
[quote] Again, I wrote it as a character. For the first time since “the Pinocchio record”. It’s basically what I realized to be a literal sequel to …. Is A Real boy in many ways. This record is the story of what would happen to the Real Boy many people thought I was. His band did well but then fell off, hard. He’d be my age, of course, but he’d still be living in Brooklyn, struggling with financial woes, single and strung out. Which leads me to liking guys.
by Anonymous | reply 27 | August 18, 2018 11:06 AM
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[quote] GAY STUFF I have always been bi-ish or queer or a straight guy who can also like boys. I always talked or joked about it with my friends and found it to be blatantly clear I was. I was bullied for it and called a “fag” (without irony). This is, sadly, common. I’m not special. I even went so far as to tell people I was also attracted to guys repeatedly. They chalked it up to my bipolar shit, which was hurtful. They also minimized it because I found true love early in life, and saw that as a negation of my sexuality, or at least a minimization of my right to even identify as bisexual or queer. Because I don’t want to hook up with guys. But I also didn’t hook up with a lot of girls. Iwanted to fall in love with a woman, so I did. I’ve always been somewhat of a monogamist and my queer experiences were limited and remain mostly emotional ones. I don’t feel threatened or scared because I grew up with some amount of privilege in that regard, coming from a supportive, liberal family. So I’m not minimizing how hard that can be for other people. I get that I have it easy.
Ok, I'm done here.
by Anonymous | reply 28 | August 18, 2018 11:07 AM
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This unfamous singer sounds as self-absorbed as Tearful Don Lemmon.
by Anonymous | reply 30 | August 18, 2018 11:10 AM
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[quote] I don’t want to hook up with guys.
All you need to know.
by Anonymous | reply 31 | August 18, 2018 11:10 AM
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This guy is a textbook oppression olympics enrollment form. Errr. I'm straight, but I like dudes, but not really, but I suffered like gays, blah blah blah blah.
And he has the nerve to call himself a Christian punk rocker. That, my dear friends, is why Rock is dead.
by Anonymous | reply 32 | August 18, 2018 11:15 AM
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Major gay voice. Problem solved.
Offsite Linkby Anonymous | reply 33 | August 18, 2018 11:18 AM
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[quote]an emotional nine-page letter
that's the gayest thing I read on the Internet this week
by Anonymous | reply 34 | August 18, 2018 11:24 AM
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So to cliffs note it: I think about peen all the time, but I don't want to be 'a gay' so I won't try it, because once I do I won't be able to go back to vag.
He must be utterly exhausting to be around anything more than casually.
by Anonymous | reply 35 | August 18, 2018 11:36 AM
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That doesn't sound like "gay voice," r33.
by Anonymous | reply 36 | August 18, 2018 11:41 AM
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He writes comic books for Marvel and others. I wonder if any of them contain homo themes? He does look like a sterotypical comic book nerd. Unless they’re all blue-haired non-binary anarcho-communist transbians now
by Anonymous | reply 37 | August 18, 2018 11:50 AM
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R32 doesn’ he identify as Christian Jewishi or something. He refers to the holocaust a lot. This queer Jew Christian bipolar man has known suffering
by Anonymous | reply 38 | August 18, 2018 11:56 AM
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No idea R38 this is literally the first time I've ever heard of this person.
by Anonymous | reply 39 | August 18, 2018 12:00 PM
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He wants to be everything to everyone, bi, queer, straight, Christian, Jewish. Ugh. No one cares THAT much about your inner confusion, whoever you are.
by Anonymous | reply 40 | August 18, 2018 12:08 PM
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What list do you have to have been on to even have noticed this?
by Anonymous | reply 41 | August 18, 2018 12:09 PM
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Sounds like he's a guy married to a woman and wants cock but for whatever reason doesn't go out and get any (probably because he's either terrified or maybe, just maybe he's a married guy who actually honors his marriage vows). He probably masturbates thinking about guys, or while watching gay porn. No biggie. Lots of "straight" men do that on the sly.
by Anonymous | reply 43 | August 18, 2018 12:12 PM
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Queerty hails him as “popular singer” but seems more like an emo also-ran who never made it across this side of the Atlantic. Anyone keeping score on these emo types coming out? Isn’t that My Chemical Whatever dude* a tranny adjacent?
by Anonymous | reply 45 | August 18, 2018 4:13 PM
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He's was cute and fuckable when he was thinner.
by Anonymous | reply 46 | August 18, 2018 4:44 PM
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I bet that fat whore has hooked up with men before though he's lying about it in that letter.
Mraz also tried to say at first that he was bi, but had never been with a guy. Only later did he admit that not only he has been with men but was also having sex with them while dating his wife.
There's a weird culture in Hollywood where guys downplay their homosexual experiences even after admitting they're not at all straight.
Didn't Colton Haynes also try to say he was a virgin when he came out as gay?
by Anonymous | reply 47 | August 18, 2018 5:33 PM
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Mraz is such a complete wanker he makes this guy seem less so.
by Anonymous | reply 48 | August 18, 2018 9:02 PM
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Dude is 34, way to old for this teenage nonsense.
by Anonymous | reply 49 | August 18, 2018 9:15 PM
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Y’all are so old and bittter
by Anonymous | reply 50 | August 18, 2018 9:38 PM
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Just admit you're gay. Sheesh. These people who try and to parse every word and definition to describe their sexuality are so tedious. You're gay. Bi-ish, my ass.
by Anonymous | reply 51 | August 19, 2018 12:08 AM
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He'd be gay if he hadn't met the love of his life first
by Anonymous | reply 52 | August 19, 2018 12:11 AM
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He scares me. If I had to spend a day with him I'm sure he would put me on edge all the time.
by Anonymous | reply 54 | August 19, 2018 12:16 AM
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These people who spend their whole life trying to define their “unique” sexuality are a bore. No one else is that that invested that you’re a part time straight guy with a hint of gay and pansexual rating of 34%
by Anonymous | reply 55 | August 19, 2018 11:54 AM
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^ Honestly, only on DL could Beamish be a recognized element in conversation.
by Anonymous | reply 58 | November 26, 2018 1:14 PM
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Nine pages to say you like having it off wit girls AND boys?
Okay.
by Anonymous | reply 59 | November 26, 2018 1:16 PM
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"bi-ish or queer or a straight guy who can also like boys.”
How did Millennials (and younger) develop this horror of saying "gay"?
The word will eventually disappear form the English language.
by Anonymous | reply 60 | November 26, 2018 1:17 PM
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Miss the days when it was just Straight, gay (or lesbian) or bisexual.
by Anonymous | reply 61 | November 26, 2018 3:33 PM
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[quote] But some pics he appears to be deficient in the chin department so probably a pass
What a horrible thing to say.
by Anonymous | reply 62 | November 26, 2018 3:44 PM
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I like his look, and don't really care what words he uses to describe himself. Some individuals do struggle, or keep things private. Basically I see him as a straight leaning, but most of the time bi bloke.
by Anonymous | reply 63 | November 26, 2018 4:45 PM
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[quote]How did Millennials (and younger) develop this horror of saying "gay"?
Because they grew up with their peers saying "that's so gay!" or "GAYYYYY!" all throughout high school.
by Anonymous | reply 66 | November 26, 2018 5:30 PM
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I think he's really cute, esp. when he was younger and thin.
by Anonymous | reply 67 | November 26, 2018 5:47 PM
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Coming soon to your local Grindr.
by Anonymous | reply 68 | November 26, 2018 5:48 PM
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I have always loved Max. He is so hot when he has meat on his bones. I love his music. Met him twice. His wife is talentless trash. Yoko style.
by Anonymous | reply 69 | November 26, 2018 6:05 PM
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Physically, he's just my type. But, God, that personality and the bending over in a pretzel to come out as... something, I guess... is SO insufferable.
by Anonymous | reply 70 | November 26, 2018 6:43 PM
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