Help! I’m a Straight Guy Who Just Slept With My Gay Best Friend. Now What?

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You’re bisexual. Just go for it. Heck, I didn’t come out until I was 29.

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[Quote]Heck, I didn’t come out until I was 29.

Similar, r2. I didn't have my first experience with cock until this year, at age 38!

Keep us updated.

Dear Prudence is where people send BS questions in the hope they were get published.

This is somewhat easy. You both were drunk. So meet him and say “ we were both drunk, let’s just say, I didn’t hate it...And you’re my best friend... “. You need to decide if you’re more than friends. You didn’t say, how was it?

And it never occurred to him to just speak to Greg and not the whole fucking world? Run Greg run.

Looks like it'll have to be clarified once again that OP wasn't the one who sent the story in, and that it's a copy & paste.

Now what? Well for starters, quit calling yourself straight. The least you can do is use a different label, since that seems important you.

I've always found 'bisexuals" to be the most homophobic. In this day and age, if you are attracted to a man (men), stop being so fucking weird. Have sex with him. Fuck the spectrum, you're not into pussy. Just stop kidding yourself. By 29 you should know who you are.. You must be from a small city in the midwest. Break free and enjoy your authentic life. Good luck.

The straight guy took advantage of Greg, like they always do.

Bicurious "friends" also need to fuck off and sort their own lives out. Gay men are not a test facility for what your future wife will do.

R13 nailed it.

It would be very awkward if "Greg" found out that his best friend was asking an advice columnist about their sexual exploits instead of talking to him about it directly. That right there would be a friendship breaker for me and the bi dude deserves it if Greg cuts him off. I also hate these advice column questions because you never get a follow up. It'll always be a mystery whether the dude ever got into a relationship with his friend or not.

0/10

Now What? Now stop calling yourself straight.

What’s with all these trolls lately playing on everyone’s emotions. These people are sick. No wonder trolls suck. They make shit up, which in turn devalues everyone’s veracity to their stories.

If true, this will end in tears.

Bicurious men need gay men r13. I don't know why gay men have this hostility inside them. Why not help a guy sort out his attractions and have fun at the same time. IT's win / win!

r20, I agree to an extent, but go to a club and pick up a guy being honest about the situation. Having sex with a close friend is potentially being a user and very hurtful to said friend.

Erroneous Straight Tale.

Now we hit the FF button.

Please describe your anus in vivid detail

Correction: You were a straight guy. You are probably gay or bi but I wouldn't sweat it either way. All you did was fuck.

Sort of R25

If Greg was actually his best friend, then they are kind of at a crossroads.

It could easily become a very intense relationship given that they've spent years as best friends and know all about each other--they're just adding sex/being honest about their feelings.

If they were 19, I'd say he's confusing feeling comfortable with his gay friend with being comfortable with gay sex, but at age 29, that's no longer an excuse.

If the female friends are thinking "when will they figure this out?" and if Greg has been crushing on him hard, then there's not a whole lot to figure out--they are in love.

I suspect that if this is not an EST of Prudence, that he knows damn well he's in love but is scared to admit it.

Big difference between "I got drunk and let a guy blow me" and "I had intimate passionate sex with my best friend."

He never said who was the top!!

The glass of water and aspirin suggests this is not only an EST, but one drafted by a senior citizen.

How much booze was involved.

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First off, who was top and was bottom? Also, how the fuck does a “straight” guy know how to come to a gay website and ask for advice? Can you give us an answer OP? Can you? Why do you have to come on here and lie to us? Are you going to be able to give us an honest answer? Are you OP? Go ahead OP? Tell us why you have to lie. Tell us.

Say goodbye and say hello

Sure was good to see you

But it's time to go

Don't say yes but please don't say no

I don't want to be lonely tonight.

R11 and R13 Just because you are not bisexual it does not mean that other men cannot be bisexual, or that being bisexual is rare, etc. These are the exact same BS claims people have said about gay men for centuries and decades. Let's be honest here, if a hot bisexual or bi-curious man who was your type was flirting with you or wanted sex, you would have your legs in the air or be on your knees for him faster than flies on shit.

Also what about the large number of gay men who just use other gay men, and bisexual men and then move onto the next guy? R13, there are bisexual men who marry other men. I know two bisexual men who have been together for over 20 years and they married each other. By that logic you would not have sex with a gay man who is a first timer because you would be a 'test subject' for what he does with his future husband.

R20 Because these boring old queens on this site are jealous and wish it had happened to them, and they have very outdated viewpoints on sex and relationships that are not in reality at all.

This is the reply given by the advice columnist if you did not click on the link in the OP.

A: I have so much good news for you (You’re doing fine! You do not need to keep apologizing for having sex it sounds like you enjoyed, with a friend you trust and find attractive; your hookup sounded complicated and flustered on a number of fronts but nothing that can’t be ironed out by an in-person conversation), but only one piece of advice: Talk to Greg! Talk to Greg, and only Greg, about this. Not the rest of your friends, not to me, not to trustworthy-looking strangers on the bus who look like they have a lot of wisdom to share. Just Greg.

You are allowed to come out as bisexual in your late 20s. You are allowed to come out as bisexual if you’re only attracted to one of your friends named Greg and haven’t first run a hypothetical attraction test on all the other men in the world. Asking a friend to go out with you is not hurtful. It’s a risk, I suppose, in the sense that asking out anyone is a risk, but it’s not such an inherently risky proposition that you shouldn’t do it. Talk to Greg in person, make it clear that the morning-after work emergency was real and terribly timed and not just an excuse to avoid having a post-sex conversation with him. Tell him that you’re attracted to him, that you care about him, and that you would be interested in going on a date or having sex again or whatever else you’re interested in exploring with him, then ask him how he feels. You don’t need to preface your feelings with speculation about his, like, “I know you probably don’t want to date anyone so soon after your breakup” or “Sarah thinks you’ve been in love with me for years.” He knows that you haven’t dated guys before, so you can let him decide whether that’s a “risk” he cares to run. You don’t have to take yourself out of romantic contention just because he’s the first man you’ve slept with. Good luck having the talk. I hope it goes well, and keep us updated!

R28 Lol

[quote] If true, this will end in tears.

If true, this will end in the "concerned straight guy" creating a Grindr account. As well as disco balls, massage tables, and crystal meth up his ass.

If true this will end in earrings, and caftans for Greg.

Why the need to put a label on it? Maybe you're bi, who knows. Does it matter? What matters is you have feelings for your best friend. Explore those feelings, you have nothing to lose. Love is love.

Dude, you should just chief it out with your bro and then never mention it again. Peace out.